Yu kin fred bak fɔ kam nia pɔsin ɛn bigin fɔ gɛt padi biznɛs wit ɔda pɔsin? Mek wi tok abaut Gamophobia!

Sɔntɛnde, yu kin fil dis kayn we? Yu kin jɔs fil fred ɛn nɔ kin fil fayn we pɔsin tray fɔ kam nia yu tumɔs, ɔ we yu rilayshɔnship go tu fa smɔl? Ɔ yu kin shɔk smɔl we yu yɛri se yu padi dɔn ɛngage? If dɛn tin ya kin apin to yu, yu kin de sɔfa wit dis sik we yu nɔ ivin no.

Wetin na Gamophobia?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, Gamophobia na di fred pasmak fɔ kɔmitmɛnt. Dis frayd kin so tranga dat sɔmtɛm, i nɔ kin izi fɔ tink bɔt fɔ mek di wan dɛn we de sɔfa wit dis sik de wit dɛnsɛf fɔ lɔng tɛm. ‘Gamos’ na di Grik wɔd fɔ ‘mared’. ‘Phobos’ min ‘frayd’. So, wen dis tu kam togeda, Gamophobia de fom.

Bɔt sɔm pipul dɛn kin fred fɔ mek dɛn du wetin dɛn dɔn plan fɔ lɔng tɛm, lɛk fɔ pik yunivasiti, wok, ɔ ples fɔ de. Bɔt dis fred difrɛn frɔm gamophobia, we na fɔ fred fɔ padi biznɛs wit pɔsin.

Us kayn tin kin apin to pɔsin we gɛt Gamophobia?

Naw si if yu gɛt ɛni wan pan dɛn sayn ya. Pɔsin we gɛt Gamophobia kin gɛt dɛn tin ya:

• Dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ mek padi biznɛs we go de sote go ɛn we dip. Dɛn kin tray ɔltɛm fɔ mek dɛn kɔntinyu fɔ gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit dɛnsɛf.
• We yu de insay rileshɔnship , yu kin fil bɔku wɔri. Yu de tink ɔltɛm se, ‘Ustɛm dis go brok?’, ‘I go lɛf mi?’
• Ivin we a si maredman ɛn in wɛf we gladi ɛn we dɔn mekɔp mi maynd fɔ du sɔntin , a kin fil wan strenj tin we kin mek a sɔprayz ɛn nɔ kin fil fayn.
• Dɛn kin push pipul dɛn we dɛn de nia, ɔ dɛn kin dɔn padi biznɛs wantɛm wantɛm. Sɔntɛnde, na fɔ natin.

Wetin na Fɔbia?

Wi jɔs tɔk bɔt Gamophobia. So wetin di wod ‘Phobia’ min? Fɔ fred na wan kayn sik wae kin rili kɔmɔn fɔ wɔri . Insay dis, yu kin gɛt pasmak frayd ɔr frayd fɔ tin dɛm wae rili nɔr bad. Gamophobia na wan patikyula sik bak we de mek pɔsin fred . Dat min se yu de fred fɔ wan patikyula tin: mared ɔ padi biznɛs.

Aw kɔmɔn tin na Gamophobia?

I at fɔ tɔk ɛksaktɔli ɔmɔs pipul dɛn gɛt wan patikyula phobia lɛk gamophobia. Bɔrku pipul kin kip dis frayd fɔ dɛnsɛf, ɔr nɔr kin ivin no se dɛn gɛt am. Bɔt sɔm stɔdi dɛn we dɛn dɔn du na Amɛrika sho se wan pan ɛvri 10 big pipul dɛn ɛn wan pan ɛvri 5 yɔŋ pipul dɛn go gɛt dis patikyula fred sɔm tɛm na dɛn layf.

Udat de pan ay risk fɔ gɛt Gamophobia?

Sɔm pipul dɛn kin gɛt dis sik. Fɔ ɛgzampul, pipul dɛm wae gɛt dis maynia sik lɛk Bɔdalayn Pɔrsin Disɔda (BPD) kin avɔyd fɔ gɛt rilayshɔnship bikɔs dɛn kin fred bad bad wan fɔ lɛ dɛn lɛf dɛn ɛn nɔr gri wit dɛn. I nɔ kin izi bak fɔ dɛn fɔ abop pan ɔda pipul dɛn.

Bɔku ɔda tin dɛn de we kin mek pɔsin gɛt dis sik:

• Famili istri: If wan pan yu mama ɛn papa ɔ pɔsin we yu lɛk dɔn gɛt prɔblɛm wit fred ɔ wɔri, yu kin fred bak fɔ di sem tin. Jɔs lɛk aw pikin dɛn kin gɛt sɔm sik dɛn frɔm dɛn mama ɛn papa.
• Jɛnda: Dɛn dɔn si se uman dɛn kin gɛt patikyula fred pas man dɛn.
• Di tin dɛn we kin mek dɛn gɛt jɛnɛtiks: Di fɔs risach dɔn sho se sɔm pipul dɛn gɛt wan chenj na dɛn jɛnɛtiks we kin mek dɛn gɛt mɔ prɔblɛm fɔ wɔri ɔ fɔ fred. Dis min se i kin bi sɔntin we de rɔn na yu jin.

Us ɔda tin dɛn we kin mek pɔsin fred we gɛt fɔ du wit di fred we pɔsin kin fred fɔ du sɔntin?

Bɔrku tɛm, pɔrsin kin gɛt pas wan frayd frayd. Bɔku tɛm, dɛn kayn fred ya kin gɛt sɔntin we fiba. Fɔ ɛgzampul, pɔsin we de fred fɔ kɔmitmɛnt kin gɛt ɔda tin dɛn bak we i kin fred lɛk:

• Philophobia: I min fɔ fred fɔ lɛk pɔsin.
• Pistanthrophobia: Fɔ fred fɔ abop pan ɔda pipul dɛn ɔ fɔ mek pɔsin we yu lɛk du yu bad.
• Genophobia: Fɔ fred fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs ɔ fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit ɔda pɔsin.
• Fɔ fred fɔ lɛ dɛn lɛf yu: Fɔ fred ɔltɛm se sɔmbɔdi go lɛf yu.

Wetin mek a de fred so fɔ kɔmit? Wetin na di rizin dɛn?

Bɔku pipul dɛn kin se na bikɔs dɛn bin de fred fɔ mek dɛn gɛt kɔmitmɛnt, ɔ fɔ mared, bikɔs dɛn bin dɔn gɛt bad bad tin dɛn we bin apin to dɛn trade. Infakt, gamophobia kin bi wan tin we de protɛkt yu we yu maynd dɔn mek fɔ protɛkt yu. Tink bɔt am, if yu nɔ kɔmit fɔ gɛt lɔng tɛm rilayshɔnship, yu nɔ go ivin fil di pen.

Na sɔm ɔda tin dɛn we kin mek pɔsin nɔ lɛk Gamophobia:

• Mama ɛn papa nɔ gɛt wanwɔd: Pikin dɛn we dɔn si dɛn mama ɛn papa de agyu, dɛn de fɛt, ɔ we dɛn de dayvɔs we de mek dɛn fil pen, kin fred fɔ go insay padi biznɛs we go mek dɛn gɛt prɔblɛm as dɛn de gro. Fɔ ɛgzampul, Nilanthi bin de si in mama ɛn papa de fɛt ɔltɛm we i bin smɔl. Afta sɔm tɛm, dɛn bin skata. Naw, ilɛksɛf sɔmbɔdi tray fɔ go nia Nilanthi, i kin fred, ɛn i kin wɔnda se, ‘Mi layf go tan lɛk Mama in layf?’
• Di at pwɛl we bin dɔn de bifo:Big pipul dɛn we dɔn pwɛl bikɔs dɛn brok, dayvɔs, ɔ nɔ fetful to dɛn, kin fred fɔ kam togɛda bak. As tɛm de go, dis tin we pɔsin kin disayd fɔ du kin mek pɔsin fred. Imajin, Kasun bin rili fil bad fɔ di fɔs lɔv we i bin gɛt. Dɔn i disayd se i nɔ go ɛva kam nia ɛnibɔdi da we de igen. Naw na fred fɔ am.
• Fɔ fred fɔ mis (FOMO): Sɔm pipul dɛn kin fred se, "If a kɔmit to dis pɔsin, a go mis fɔ fɛn pɔsin we bɛtɛ?" Na dat mek dɛn nɔ de kɔmit to ɛnibɔdi.
• Di kɔlchɔ ɔ rilijɔn we de afɛkt pipul dɛn: Sɔm kɔlchɔ dɛn kin mek pipul dɛn arenj fɔ mared ɛn dɛn nɔ kin tink bɔt lɔv ɔ filin. If yu nɔr gɛt fɔ pik yu patna, yu kin fred fɔ fulɔp fɔ kɔmit to di rileshɔnship. Dɔn bak, if yu na mɛmba na di LGBTQ+ kɔmyuniti, yu kin fred fɔ mared if yu rilijɔn ɔ kɔlchɔ de agens dis kayn union.

Wetin na di sayn dɛm fɔ Gamophobia?

If yu gɛt gamophobia, yu kin gɛt dis sik dɛn na yu bɔdi we yu de tink bɔt fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit pɔsin:

• Fɔ fil lɛk se yu bɔdi de kol (Chills).
• Diziz ɛn layt ed.
• Fɔ swet pasmak (Hyperhidrosis).
• Di at we de blo. I kin tan lɛk se yu chɛst de bit.
• Vɔmit.
• I nɔ izi fɔ blo (Dyspnea).
• Fɔ shek shek ɔ shek.
• Bɛlɛ we de pwɛl ɔ we nɔ de it fayn (Dyspepsia).

Aw fɔ no di Gamophobia?

Dɔktɔ dɛn kin yuz wan mental wɛlbɔdi ɛvalueshɔn fɔ no if pɔsin nɔ lɛk gamo. No patikyula tɛst nɔ de fɔ am. Yu dɔktɔ go aks yu bɔt yu sik, yu maynd wɛl bɔdi istri, ɛn if yu gɛt ɔda tin dɛn we de mek yu fred. Dɛn kin rifer yu bak to pɔrsin wae sabi bɔt mɛntɛl hεlth wae spɛshal pan frayd frayd ɛn wɔri hat sik.

Aw fɔ lɛf fɔ fred fɔ mek yu gɛt kɔmitmɛnt? Wetin na di tritmɛnt dɛn?

Dis na di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl. We dɛn de fɔ mek wi nɔ fred dis kayn we. Bɔrku pipul dɛn kin si se wan kayn saykotɛrapi wae dɛn kɔl Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) kin ɛp dɛn fɔ lɛf fɔ fred fɔ kɔmit. CBT de wok bay we i de no di ɔndalayn kɔz dɛm fɔ yu frayd fɔ kɔmitmɛnt ɛn chenj dɛn tin dɛm de we yu de tink bɔt. Wan dɔktɔ we de mɛn yu kin ɛp yu fɔ chenj dɛn bad tin ya we yu de tink bɔt to fayn we aw yu de tink bɔt kɔmitmɛnt ɛn mared. Yu kin lan bak aw fɔ tɔk to di wan dɛn we yu lɛk bɔt dis fred.

"Mɛmba se CBT tan lɛk padi we de no di chaotic tinkin patɛns na yu maynd ɛn ɛp yu fɔ ɔganayz dɛn."

Wan ɔda we fɔ trit am na Sistɛmik Desensitayzeshɔn Tɛrapi . Dis na wan kayn tritmɛnt fɔ ɛkspos . Dɛn dɔn sho se i kin ɛp bɔku pipul dɛn fɔ pul sɔm patikyula fred.

Ɛksposhɔn tɛrapi: .

• Dɛn go tich yu fɔ manej yu sik dɛn bay we yu de yuz rilaks tɛknik lɛk fɔ du dip briz ɛn fɔ tink gud wan.
• Smɔl smɔl, smɔl smɔl yu kin gɛt di aidia fɔ mek padi biznɛs. Dat min se dɛn nɔ de aks yu fɔ du big tin wan tɛm, yu bigin wit smɔl smɔl stɛp dɛn.
• Dɛn go gi yu rial wok dɛn fɔ ɛp yu fɔ lɛf fɔ fred fɔ mek yu gɛt tayt padi biznɛs fɔ lɔng tɛm.

Wetin na di prɔblɛm dɛn we kin kam wit Gamophobia?

If yu de fa frɔm di pipul dɛn we yu lɛk ɔltɛm ɛn avɔyd fɔ gɛt padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn, dat kin ambɔg yu bɔdi ɛn maynd. Yu kin gɛt tin dɛn lɛk dɛn tin ya:

• Pwɛl hat ɛn tink bɔt fɔ kil yusɛf.
• Erectile dysfunction (fɔ man dɛn) .
• Wɔri ɛn panik atak.
• Disɔda fɔ yuz sɔbstans. Sɔm pipul dɛn kin tɔn to rɔng rod fɔ rɔnawe pan dis fred.

Ustɛm a fɔ go to dɔktɔ?

If yu gɛt ɛni wan pan dɛn tin ya, yu go mɔs go to dɔktɔ:

• If panik atak apin.
• If yu gɛt pwɛl hat ɔltɛm wae de ambɔg yu ɛvride layf ɔr slip.
• If sayn dɛm de fɔ pwɛl hat ɔr prɔblɛm wit sɔm kayn mɛrɛsin .

Us kwɛstyɔn dɛn a fɔ aks mi dɔktɔ?

We yu go si dɔktɔ, i go fayn fɔ aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn lɛk dɛn wan ya:

• Wetin kin mek a gɛt dis kayn fred?
• Wetin na di bɛst tritmɛnt fɔ mi?
• A fɔ go fɛn saykotɛrapi?
• Aw lɔng a go gɛt fɔ gɛt tritmɛnt?
• A fɔ wɔri bɔt di prɔblɛm dɛn we kin apin?

Fɔ dɔn, mɛmba dis (Take-Home Message) .

Na nɔmal tin fɔ mek wi ɔl gɛt smɔl dawt ɛn shem (dɛn kin kɔl am bak ‘kol fut’) we wi de go insay rileshɔnship. Bɔt fɔ pɔsin we gɛt gamophobia, dis fred kin so tranga dat i kin mek dɛn paralayz. Dis min se di fred de mek dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ kɛr dɛn rilayshɔnship go bifo ɛn mek dip padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn.

If yu dɔn gɛt bad bad tin bifo, gamophobia kin bi we fɔ protɛkt yusɛf fɔ mek yu nɔ go tru di sem pen bak. Bɔt mɛmba se, pɔsin kin ebul fɔ win am. Wan kwalifay thɛrapist kin ɛp yu fɔ lɛf dis frayd. As tɛm de go, yusɛf kin gɛt gladi-at ɛn stebul padi biznɛs. Nɔ ɛva fred fɔ aks fɔ ɛp. Nɔto yu wan de.

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