Natin nɔ de we at pas fɔ wach yu wɛf we yu lɛk de tray tranga wan fɔ bia wit di pen we i de fil we i de bɔn pikin, we de briŋ yu pikin kam na di wɔl. "Oh mai God, if onli a kin du somtin fo ease dis pen ..." Yu go probabli tink wan tausin taims. Dis nɔto jɔs yu filin, bɔt ɔl man na di wɔl de fil am rayt naw. Bɔt instead fɔ wach we yu nɔ ebul fɔ du natin, fɔ tru, bɔku tin dɛn de we yu kin du fɔ sɔpɔt am ɛn mek dis waka izi. Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt dat tide.
Bi "Lɔv", nɔto "Kɔch".
Bɔku tɛm wi kin tink bɔt di wok we di man kin du we i de bɔn pikin lɛk "kɔch." Lɛk spɔt kɔch we de gi instrɔkshɔn lɛk, "Okay, naw brith... jɔs smɔl mɔ... push!" Bɔt fɔ bɔn pikin nɔto rili spɔt. Yu wɛf nɔ nid kɔch da tɛm de, i nid in man we lɛk am, we na in bɛst padi, fɔ de nia am.
Imajin, if yu nɔ ɛva fil ivin smɔl kramp we yu de gɛt we yu de gɛt mɔnt, aw yu go rili ɔndastand aw pɔsin we de sɔfa pas ɔl di ɔda pen na di wɔl de fil? I rili at fɔ du. So i impɔtant fɔ sɔpɔt dɛn pas fɔ advays dɛn.
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, fɔ bɔn pikin na fɔ mek lɔv. Hol in an. Ɔg am. Tɛl wetin i de du. Mek i bi wan rili prayvet, lɔv tɛm fɔ una tu. If i pɔsibul, layt kandul we gɛt sɛnt, put sɔm myuzik we go mek i fil fayn, gi am sɔntin we i lɛk fɔ it. Bi in lɔvman, nɔto "kɔch."
5 we fɔ sɔpɔt yu wɛf we yu de bɔn pikin
Okay, so lɛ wi si wetin yu go ebul fɔ du dis impɔtant tɛm.
1. Bi Rɛdi
Na nɔmal tin fɔ fil se yu de fred ɛn nɔ ebul fɔ du ɛnitin we yu de fes sɔntin lɛk dis fɔ di fɔs tɛm. Bɔt if yu ɔndastand gud gud wan bɔt di we aw dɛn de bɔn pikin ɛn wetin kin apin we dɛn de bɔn pikin, yu nɔ go fred bad bad wan.
Dat min se, i rili impɔtant fɔ go na klas fɔ bɔn pikin ɛn rid buk dɛn bɔt am we yu gɛt bɛlɛ. Buk dɛn de we dɛn rayt fɔ papa dɛn mɔ. Dɔn bak, tɔk to yu wɛf bɔt dis. Tɔk bɔt tin dɛn bifo tɛm, lɛk wetin i de ɛkspɛkt, aw i de tink bɔt aw fɔ mɛn di pen , ɛn ɔda tin dɛn.
Aks yu dɔktɔ wetin go apin if yu gɛt fɔ du sizarian ɔ if ɔda prɔblɛm de. Fɔ no bɔt tin dɛn lɛk "Wetin na mi wok na dis kayn tin? Dɛn go aks mi fɔ kɔmɔt?" kin ɛp fɔ mek yu nɔ fred we yu nɔ nid.
2. Gi Kɔmfɔt Mɛzhɔ
We yu fil se yu gɛt sɔntin we yu fɔ du, di we aw yu nɔ ebul fɔ du natin nɔ de igen. Yu kin gi am sɔm wata, gi am smɔl snek if i want am, put sɔm myuzik, gi am masaj, ɔ ɛp am fɔ muf go na difrɛn pozishɔn. Bɔku tɛm, we yu ɛp am fɔ was wit ɔt, dat kin ɛp fɔ mek i nɔ fil pen. Smɔl tin dɛn lɛk dis go mek i fil se i rili strɔng.
3. Nɔ Tray fɔ Fiks Am
Dis na di prɔblɛm we bɔku man dɛn gɛt. Dis na wetin wi de kol "di guy tin." Wi kin tray fɔ kɔntrol ɔltin, fɔ sɔlv prɔblɛm dɛn. We di pɔsin we wi lɛk de fil pen, na nɔmal tin fɔ want fɔ "fiks" am.
Bɔt mɛmba se fɔ bɔn pikin nɔto "tin we brok." Natin nɔ de we yu go du fɔ fiks am. Na natura l prɔses. Di bɛst tin we yu go du na fɔ lisin to wetin i gɛt fɔ tɔk. If i se, "A de fil bad," se, "Yɛs, a ɔndastand, ɔni." I nɔ want sɔlv dɛn. I jɔs want fɔ yɛri se, "A de ya fɔ yu, a gladi fɔ wetin yu de du, yu strɔng so, a lɛk yu, ɛn a nɔ de go ɛnisay."
4. Bi In Advoketi
Pan ɔl we yu nɔ go ɔndastand di pen we pɔsin kin fil we i bɔn pikin, yu sabi yu wɛf pas ɛni ɔda pɔsin we de na di rum. So, wen she no fit tok fo imsef, yu shud bi im vois.
Fɔ ɛgzampul, if i se, "A fil lɛk fɔ push rayt naw," ɛn di nɔs se, "I nɔ rich tɛm yet," yu kin se wit rɛspɛkt se, "Dɔkta/Nɔs, mi wɛf se i want fɔ push." Nɔ fred fɔ go bifo pas di lɔ dɛn na di ɔspitul, aks kwɛstyɔn, ɛn aks fɔ sɔntin. Sɔntɛnde, yu wan luk kin sev in layf. Wan papa bin stɔp in wɛf fɔ gi am wan alɛji shot we i si am.
5. Nɔ Tek Am Pɔsin
Yu wɛf kin ignore yu bikɔs ɔf di pen, i kin biev lɛk se i nɔ want fɔ de nia yu, ɛn ivin tɔk bad. Nɔ tek ɛni wan pan am fɔ yusɛf. No bi am, na di pen we de tok. Yu nɔ want fɔ vɛks ɛn kɔmɔt de. I nɔ mata wetin, i nid yu. Sɔntɛm ɔl wetin i nid na fɔ mek yu ol in an ɛn de nia am ɛn nɔ tɔk natin. Yu fɔ de wit yu at ɛn lɛk yu na di gift we pas ɔl di ɔda gift dɛn we i go gi.
| Di wok we di man de du | Wetin fɔ du? |
|---|---|
| Fɔ pripia | Rid buk dɛn bɔt bɔn pikin, go na klas. Tɔk to yu wɛf bɔt wetin i de op fɔ. |
| Fɔ gi pɔsin fridɔm | Gi wata, it. Fɔ gi masaj. Mek dɛn lisin to myuzik. Fɔ ɛp dɛn fɔ chenj dɛn pozishɔn. |
| Nɔto fɔ bi "Fixer". | Bifo yu gi sɔlvishɔn, lisin to am. Ɛnkɔrej am bay we yu se, “A de wit yu.” |
| Bikɔs na in vɔys | We i nɔ izi fɔ tɔk, tɔk fɔ am to di wan dɛn we de wok na di dɔktɔ. Prɛzɛnt wetin i aks fɔ. |
| Nɔto fɔ tek am fɔ yusɛf | Nɔ mek di pen kam to yu at wit wetin i de tɔk ɔ du. Stay nia am, ɛn nɔ shek. |
Udat na "doula"?
Yu nɔ go dɔn yɛri bɔt di wɔd "doula." Na Grik wɔd we min "uman ɛlda." Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, doula na pɔsin we dɛn tren fɔ gi mama sɔpɔt pan filin ɛn bɔdi we i de bɔn pikin. Dɛn nɔ de gi mɛrɛsin lɛk dɔktɔ ɔ midwayv, bɔt dɛn de gi sɔpɔt to di mama ɛn in man ɔl di tɛm we dɛn de bɔn am.
Ivin sayɛns stɔdi dɛn dɔn sho se we yu gɛt di sɔpɔt fɔ wan doula , .
- di tεm we i tek fכ bכn pikin de sכt bay lεk 25%.
- di nכmba fכ rikwest fכ tin dεm lεk epidural fכ ridyus pen dεn dכn rεdכks bay 60%.
- Di chans fɔ mek dɛn yuz sizarian sɛkshɔn de ridyus bay 50%.
Dis na bikɔs di fred ɛn wɔri we mama kin fil we i de in wan kin mek i gɛt mɔ ɔmon dɛn we de mek i strɛs lɛk epinephrine ɛn norepinephrine. dis כmon dεm kin mek di uterin kכntrikshכn wik כ stכp. Bɔt we pɔsin de fɔ sɔpɔt di mama, di kɔnfidɛns ɛn kol at we i kin fil kin mek i izi fɔ bɔn pikin.
We di man gɛt doula, dat kin mek di man fil fayn bak. Bikɔs den di man nɔ nid fɔ bi "Kɔch". Pan ɔl we di doula de tɔk bɔt di we dɛn we di mama nid fɔ ɛp di mama, di man kin ol in wɛf we i lɛk in an, gi am lɔv, ɛn de nia am. Pan ɔl we dis kɔnsɛpt nɔ rili pɔpul yet na Sri Lanka, i rili kɔmɔn na ɔda kɔntri dɛn.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Nɔto yu wɛf nɔmɔ, yusɛf fɔ rɛdi gud gud wan fɔ bɔn pikin. Yu fɔ no bɔt dis.
- Yu rol nɔto fɔ bi "kɔch", bɔt fɔ bi "ɛlpa" we gɛt lɔv.
- Lisin to am pas fɔ luk fɔ sɔlv. Fɔ de nia am na in trɛnk we pas ɔl.
- If i nɔ ebul fɔ tɔk bikɔs ɔf pen, bi in vɔys ɛn tɔk to di mɛdikal wokman dɛm.
- Nɔ mek di pen ambɔg wetin i de tɔk ɛn du. Yu kolat na yu maynd na di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl to am. Na yu rispɔnsibiliti fɔ mek dis bi di bɛst de fɔ una ɔl tu.
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