Yu pikin de du bad to insɛf? Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt fɔ du bad to wisɛf!

Wi ɔl dɔn yɛri se sɔm yɔŋ pikin dɛn lɛk yu bɔy pikin kin du bad to dɛnsɛf sɔntɛnde. Sɔntɛm dɛn kin kɔt dɛnsɛf wit reza bled, nɛf, ɔ siza. As mama ɔ papa, wi kin ɔndastand se yu kin fil bɔku fred ɛn wɔri we yu yɛri dis. "Wetin mek wi pikin go du dis?" Yu go de wɔnda. Dis nɔto tɔpik we wi fɔ tek am layt. E kin bi siriɔs , ɛn e kin bi sayn bak fɔ dip pwɛl hat na di pikin. So, mek wi tok abaut dis fo likl mo ditel tide, fo we we yu go andastan, okay?

Wetin na dis fɔ du bad to yusɛf?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, fɔ du bad to insɛf, ɔ lɛk aw dɔktɔ dɛn kin kɔl am, ``Self-Harm'', na we pɔsin du bad to in yon bɔdi bay wilful. Wi kin yɛri bɔku tɛm bɔt aw pɔsin kin kɔt insɛf, bɔt nɔto dis wangren we. Sɔm yɔŋ pipul dɛn:

• Dɛn kin bɔn dɛnsɛf.
• Dɛn de snɛf lawd wan.
• Dɛn bin de bit dɛnsɛf, ɛn dɛn bin de bang dɛn ed sɔnsay.
• Fɔ pul di ia.
• Dɛn kin pinch di skin tayt tayt wan.
• Dɛn kin chuk di skin wit tin dɛn we shap lɛk nidul, ɛn sɔntɛnde dɛn kin put tin dɛn ɔnda di skin.

Bɔku tɛm dɛn tin ya kin bigin we dɛn yɔŋ . Sɔm pipul dɛn kin kɔntinyu fɔ du dis abit te dɛn big. Pan ɔl we i nɔ kin apin so ɔltɛm, sɔm famili dɛn kin gɛt istri fɔ du bad to dɛnsɛf.

Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na dat, bɔku shem ɛn sikrit de we gɛt fɔ du wit dɛn tin ya. Bɔku tɛm, dɛn pikin ya kin ayd di bad bad tin dɛn we dɛn dɔn du. If ɛnibɔdi si dɛn, dɛn go kam wit wan lay lay ɛkskyuz afta di ɔda wan. Bɔt sɔm pikin dɛn de we, we nɔ de ayd di bad tin dɛn we dɛn dɔn wund, kin tray fɔ mek ɔda pipul dɛn pe atɛnshɔn to dɛn.

Bɔku tɛm, tin dɛn lɛk fɔ kɔt yusɛf kin bigin lɛk sɔntin we yu want fɔ du wantɛm wantɛm . Dat min se, as sɔntin we yu de du we i kam pan yu. Bɔt, lɛk aw bɔku yɔŋ pipul dɛn kin tɔk, we yu dɔn bigin, yu kin fil fɔ du am ɔltɛm, ɛn i nɔ kin izi fɔ lɛ yu stɔp. Bikɔs dɛn kin fil lɛk se dɛn de gɛt sɔm kayn rilif fɔ sɔm tɛm frɔm di pen ɛn prɛshɔn we dɛn nɔ go ebul fɔ bia wit da tɛm de. Bikɔs ɔf dis, i kin bi abit we kin mek dɛn want fɔ du am mɔ ɛn mɔ.

As tɛm de go, fɔ du bad to insɛf kin bi abit we di pikin kin yuz fɔ bia wit di strɛs ɛn filin dɛn we i kin gɛt ɛvride. Sɔm se dɛn "adikt" to am. Sɔm kin want fɔ stɔp, bɔt dɛn nɔ no aw fɔ du am , ɔ dɛn kin fil lɛk se dɛn nɔ ebul. Ɔda wan dɛn nɔ kin want fɔ stɔp.

Wetin mek yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin du bad to dɛnsɛf?

I at fɔ sho jɔs wan rizin fɔ dis. Ɛni pikin kin gɛt difrɛn rizin dɛn. Lɛ wi luk di men tin dɛn we kin afɛkt dis.

1. Fɔ fil bad pasmak

Yɔŋ pikin dɛn we kin wund dɛnsɛf bɔku tɛm kin gɛt prɔblɛm wit rili strɔng filin.Dɛn kin fil se dis na di wangren we fɔ sho ɔ rɔnawe pan dɛn kayn bad bad filin ya we dɛn de fil. Imajin di pen we pɔsin kin fil we dɛn nɔ gri wit am, di sɔri we pɔsin kin fil we i nɔ gɛt wanwɔd, ɔ di dip sɔri we pɔsin kin fil we i lɔs pɔsin we yu lɛk – dɛn tin ya kin rili bad fɔ sɔm yɔŋ pikin dɛn.

Bɔku tɛm dɛn pikin ya kin de sɔfa wit dip pen ɛn prɔblɛm we dɛn nɔ kin tɔk bɔt. Di prɛshɔn fɔ du ɔltin pafɛkt wan , di prɛshɔn fɔ rich gol dɛn we nɔ pɔsibul fɔ dɛnsɛf ɔ ɔda pipul dɛn, kin mek sɔm pikin dɛn fil pen we dɛn nɔ go ebul fɔ bia. Sɔm kin rili fil bad fɔ di bad bad wɔd dɛn we ɔda pipul dɛn dɔn tɔk to dɛn, bikɔs dɛn de trit dɛn bad, bikɔs dɛn fil se dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ du natin, dɛn nɔ gɛt wan yus, ɛn dɛn nɔ lɛk dɛn.

2. Trauma ɛn imɔshɔnal numbness

Sɔm yɔŋ pipul dɛn kin dɔn gɛt sɔm kayn bad bad trauma . Na tεm lεk dis, dεn kin gεt wan stet we dεn kכl ``Dissociation.'' Simply put, i min stet fכ bi witout filin, stet fכ de sכmtεm detached frכm rialiti. Fɔ dɛn pipul ya, fɔ kɔt dɛnsɛf na we fɔ tɛst if dɛn kin stil "fil" di pen. Ɔda pipul dɛn se dis kin ɛp dɛn fɔ "wek" frɔm da stet de we dɛn nɔ gɛt filin.

3. Fɔ pen we pɔsin nɔ de si, pen we pɔsin kin si

Di pen na di at, dat na di pen na di maynd, wi nɔ kin ebul fɔ tɔch, wi nɔ kin si. I at fɔ tɔk bɔt am, fɔ tɔk bɔt am. I nɔ kin izi bak fɔ gɛt fridɔm fɔ am. Bɔt di pen we pɔsin kin fil we i de fil bad, wi kin si am . Sɔm pikin dɛn kin fil se dis pen we dɛn kin fil na dɛn bɔdi bɛtɛ pas da pen we nɔ kin izi fɔ dɛn at.

Dɛn pikin ya se we dɛn kɔt ɔ wund dɛnsɛf, dɛn kin fil se dɛn dɔn ebul fɔ kɔntrol dɛnsɛf ɛn dɛn kin fil fri bikɔs dɛn kin si ustɛm di pen de kɔmɔt. I tan lɛk se dɛn de sho di pen we de insay dɛn at we dɛn gɛt, sɔntɛm dɛn nɔ tɔk, we dɛn nɔ gri, we dɛn nɔ wɛl. Ɛn bikɔs na sɔntin we dɛn kin du dɛnsɛf, da pen de de insay dɛn kɔntrol.

4. Fɔ gɛt rilif wantɛm wantɛm

Bɔku yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin ripɔt se dɛn kin fil fri kwik kwik wan we dɛn kɔt ɔ wund dɛnsɛf. Dis kin kɔmɔn pan di we aw pipul dɛn de biev we dɛn de kɔmpɛl. Sɔm pipul dɛn biliv se di kemikal dɛm we di bɔdi de pul insay dis tɛm, we dɛn kɔl ɛndɔfin (dɛn kin kɔl am bak "fil-gud ɔmon" ɛn we kin kɔmɔt we yu de du ɛksɛsayz ɛn injuri), kin mek dis rilif.

Ɔda pipul dɛn biliv se dis rilif de kɔmɔt frɔm di bad bad pen we dɛn de fil na dɛn bɔdi ɛn di dramatik we aw dɛn de si blɔd, we de pul dɛn maynd pan di pen we dɛn de fil. Sɔm pikin dɛn kin se dɛn nɔ kin fil pen we dɛn kɔt dɛn, bɔt di wund dɛn we dɛn kin si "de sho" di pen we dɛn kin gɛt insay, na dat kin gi dɛn rilif.

5. Fɔ fil lɛk "adikshɔn".

I izi fɔ mek yu gɛt adikshɔn fɔ kɔt yusɛf, mɔ we i kam pan abit dɛn.. Pan ɔl we i kin mek i nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ prɔblɛm fɔ sɔm tɛm, di mɔ we pɔsin de kɔt, na di mɔ i kin want fɔ du am. Jɔs lɛk ɔda kɔmpalsiv bihayvya, di bren de divɛlɔp wan asosieshɔn bitwin di bad tin we i de du to insɛf ɛn di rilif fɔ sɔm tɛm frɔm di bad filin.

Ɛnitɛm we di strɛs de bɔku, di bren nid da rilif de. So di pikin kin tɛmpt fɔ du bad to insɛf bak. So dis kin bi pawaful abit we nɔ pɔsibul fɔ stɔp. We di strɛs kin bɔku, i kin fil se i nɔ go ebul fɔ bia fɔ lɛ i nɔ want fɔ kɔt ɔ fɔ mek i fil bad.

6. Ɔda tin dɛn we kin apin to pɔsin in maynd

Bɔrku tɛm, fɔ du bad to insɛf kin gɛt fɔ du wit, ɔr kin bi pat pan ɔda mɛntɛl hεlth sik . Sɔm yɔŋ pipul dɛn kin gɛt prɔblɛm bak wit ɔda tin dɛn we dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ kɔntrol, we dɛn kin tink bɔt, ɔ we dɛn kin biev.

• Sɔm pipul dɛn kin gɛt prɔblɛm fɔ kɔntrol di kayn we aw dɛn kin fil we dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ bia we dɛn kin gɛt prɔblɛm dɛn lɛk pwɛl hat ɔr bipolar disorder .
• Fɔ ɔda pipul dɛm, rilayshɔnship kin fil tranga ɛn klos bikɔs ɔf di prɔblɛm wit in pasɔnaliti, bɔt dɛn kin nɔ stebul bak. Fɔ dɛn pikin ya, padi biznɛs we bin rili fayn trade kin mek dɛn at pwɛl wantɛm wantɛm, ɛn mek dɛn fil bad, vɛks, ɔ pwɛl at we dɛn nɔ go ebul fɔ bia.
• Sɔm yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin sɔfa wit di kayn we aw dɛn de biev we kin mek dɛn lɛk fɔ du tin dɛn we de mek dɛn gɛt prɔblɛm ɛn tin dɛn we kin mek dɛn gladi we de mek dɛn fil bad bɔt dɛnsɛf.
• Sɔm pipul dɛn kin want fɔ du dramatik tin dɛn fɔ mek dɛn no se dɛn lɛk dɛn ɛn dɛn de kia fɔ dɛn.
• Fɔ ɔda pipul dɛm, Post -Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) kin dɔn afɛkt dɛn ebul fɔ dil wit dɛn filin.
• Ɔ dɛn kin gɛt prɔblɛm wit rɔm ɔ drɔgs.

7. Prɛshɔn we di kɔmpin dɛn de mek

Sɔm yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin bigin fɔ du bad to dɛnsɛf bikɔs dɛn kin si ɔda pɔsin de du am. Di prɛshɔn we dɛn kɔmpin dɛn we de na grup kin gɛt bak kin bi wan tin we kin mek dɛn du dat. Sɔm pikin dɛn kin du dɛn tin ya apat frɔm dɛn grup ɛn dɛn kin fos ɔda pipul dɛn fɔ du di sem tin. Dɔn sɔm pikin dɛn kin yuz dɛn tin ya fɔ mek dɛn tan lɛk se dɛn "kul" ɔ "bold", fɔ fit wit di grup, ɔ fɔ mek ɔda pipul dɛn nɔ buli dɛn.

Ɛni wan pan dɛn tin ya kin bi rizin we mek yɔŋ pikin kin du bad to insɛf. Bɔt ɛni pikin gɛt in yon filin ɛn ɛkspiriɛns dɛn we difrɛn . Sɔm pipul dɛn nɔ kin ivin ebul fɔ ɛksplen wetin mek dɛn de du am.

Ilɛk wetin na di rizin, fɔ du bad to yusɛf nɔto fayn we fɔ bia wit ɛni bad bad filin ɔ strɛs.

Yu tink se dis na fɔ tray fɔ kil insɛf?

Dis na big tin we bɔku mama ɛn papa dɛn kin fred. Bɔt, bɔku tɛm, fɔ du bad to yusɛf nɔto fɔ tray fɔ kil yusɛf.Yu kin du am fɔ mek yu nɔ gɛt pen ɛn prɛshɔn we yu nɔ go ebul fɔ bia na yu at fɔ sɔm tɛm.

Bɔt wi nɔ fɔ tek di denja we de ya smɔl . Risk de fɔ mek yu gɛt bɔku blɔd, yu go gɛt wund infɛkshɔn, ɔ ɔda siriɔs wɛlbɔdi prɔblɛm dɛn. Sɔntɛnde, ivin bad tin kin apin we pɔsin nɔ bin want. So, ilɛksɛf dis nɔto fɔ tray fɔ kil insɛf, i kin rili denja .

Aw fɔ no am? Aw fɔ ɛp?

Sɔm yɔŋ pikin dɛn go mek pipul dɛn pe atɛnshɔn to di bad tin we dɛn de du. Ɔ dɛn go no we dɛn go to dɔktɔ fɔ wan injury. Bɔt bɔku pikin dɛn kin du dɛn tin ya sikrit wan fɔ lɔng tɛm bifo ɛni ɔda pɔsin no . Sɔm go dɔn tɛl pɔrsin bɔt am – ɔr bikɔs dɛn nid ɛp ɛn want fɔ stɔp, ɔr bikɔs dɛn want pɔrsin fɔ ɔndastand dɛn pen.

I nid fɔ gɛt bɔku maynd ɛn kɔnfidɛns fɔ tɛl pɔsin bɔt dis. Bɔku pikin dɛn kin fred fɔ tɛl ɔda pipul dɛn bikɔs dɛn tink se dɛn nɔ go ɔndastand dɛn, vɛks, disapɔynt, shɔk, ɔ jɔj. Sɔm pikin dɛn kin tɛl dɛn padi dɛn, bɔt dɛn kin aks dɛn fɔ lɛ dɛn nɔ tɛl ɛnibɔdi. Dis kin bi big lod ɛn wɔri fɔ da padi de bak.

We pɔsin aks bɔt dɛn kɔt ya, pikin dɛn kin biev difrɛn we dɛn. I dipen pan di pikin ɛn aw dɛn aks dɛn bɔt am.

• Sɔm pipul dɛn kin lay ɛn se da kayn tin de nɔ de.
• Ivin if sɔm pipul dɛn gri wit am, dɛn kin se i nɔto big prɔblɛm .
• Sɔm kin vɛks, vɛks, ɛn nɔ gri fɔ ɛp dɛn .
• Bɔt sɔm pikin dɛn de we kin fil fri we dɛn fil se sɔmbɔdi no bɔt dis, de luk fɔ dɛn, ɛn de tray fɔ ɛp dɛn.

As mama ɔ papa, if yu sɔprayz ɔ kam fɔ no se yu pikin de du sɔntin lɛk dis, i impɔtant fɔ tɔk to yu pikin bɔt am di we we yu go tink gud wan bɔt am ɛn we yu de du gud to yu . Nɔ aks di pikin, lisin to di pikin. Mek di pikin no se yu de fɔ ɛp dɛn.

Yu tink se dɛn go ebul fɔ stɔp dis abit?

Ilɛksɛf sɔmbɔdi no ɔ tray fɔ ɛp, sɔm yɔŋ pipul dɛn kin jɔs tray fɔ stɔp afta dɛn dɔn de du bad to dɛnsɛf fɔ lɔng tɛm. If di pikin we de du bad to insɛf na pat pan ɔda mental wɛlbɔdi prɔblɛm, di pikin rili nid pɔsin we sabi du in wok . Sɔntɛnde, dɛn kɔt ya ɔ ɔda sayn dɛn kin mek dɛn admit di pikin na ɔspitul ɔ klinik fɔ mɛntɛl hεlth. Sɔm pikin dɛn kin nid fɔ go na ɔspitul pas wan tɛm, te dɛn rɛdi fɔ gɛt ɛp fɔ dis ɔ ɔda tin.

Bɔt sɔm yɔŋ wan dɛn kin fɛn we fɔ stɔp fɔ du bad to dɛnsɛf. Dis kin apin if dɛn gɛt strɔng rizin fɔ stɔp, if dɛn gɛt di sɔpɔt we dɛn nid, ɔ if dɛn fɛn we fɔ mek dɛn nɔ gɛt di strɔng tin we go mek dɛn du bad to dɛnsɛf. Fɔ lɛ dɛn stɔp, dɛn nid fɔ lan nyu we dɛn fɔ bia wit prɔblɛm dɛn ɛn nyu we fɔ kɔntrol di we aw dɛn de fil we nɔ izi fɔ dɛn.Yu nid fɔ fɛn am. Dis kin tek tɛm, ɛn bɔku tɛm i kin nid fɔ gɛt ɛp frɔm pɔsin we sabi bɔt mental wɛlbɔdi biznɛs .

I rili at fɔ mek yɔŋ pikin dɛn stɔp fɔ du bad to dɛnsɛf lɛk fɔ kɔt dɛnsɛf. Sɔntɛm dɛn nɔ go ebul fɔ du am di fɔs tɛm. Sɔm kin stɔp fɔ sɔm tɛm ɛn bigin bak. I nid fɔ gɛt maynd, maynd, trɛnk, ɛn sɔpɔt fɔ ɔndastand ɛn lɛk ɔda pipul dɛn fɔ lɛf dis pawaful abit.

Fɔ dɔn, sɔm impɔtant tin dɛn

Frɔm wetin a dɔn tɔk bɔt, yu go dɔn gɛt sɔm tin dɛn fɔ no bɔt di tin we de apin to pɔsin we de du bad to dɛnsɛf we de apin to yɔŋ pikin dɛn. Na sɔm impɔtant tin dɛn we yu fɔ mɛmba:

• Dis na fɔ kray fɔ ɛp: Fɔ du bad to insɛf na sayn fɔ sho se pikin de fil bad bad wan. I nɔ de sho se yu wik, bɔt na we fɔ dil wit pen we yu nɔ go ebul fɔ bia.
• Sɔntɛm nɔto fɔ kil yusɛf, bɔt i denja: Pan ɔl we dis nɔto sɔntin we yu de du fɔ kil yusɛf, i kin mek yu gɛt siriɔs injury, infɛkshɔn, ɛn ɔda wɛlbɔdi prɔblɛm dɛn. So nɔ tek am layt.
• Nɔ kip am sikrit: If yu kam fɔ no se yu pikin, ɔ pikin we yu sabi, de du sɔntin lɛk dis, nɔ kip am sikrit. Tɛl big pɔsin we yu kin abop pan, ticha, ɔ dɔktɔ.
• Prɔfɛshɔnal ɛp impɔtant: Di ɛp fɔ pɔrsin wae sabi bɔt mɛntɛl hεlth (kɔnsul, tɛrapi) rili impɔtant fɔ ɔvakom dis sityueshɔn. Rif to am.
• Yu lɔv ɛn sɔpɔt rili impɔtant: Trit yu pikin wit lɔv, nɔ fɔ blem am ɔ jɔj am. Mek yu pikin no se yu de fɔ dɛn ɛn yu de ɛp dɛn. Peshɛnt ɛn ɔndastand.

A op se dis infɔmeshɔn go ɛp yu. Tek kia ɔf yu pikin, lisin to am, ɛn nɔ shem fɔ gi am di ɛp we i nid.

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