Aw wi kin ɔndastand ɔda pipul dɛn? (Emotional Intelligence) Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt am.

Wi ɔl want fɔ bi gud ɛn padi wit ɔda pipul dɛn. Bɔt sɔntɛnde wi kin wɔnda se, "Wetin mek i du dat?" ɔ "Wetin i bin tink?" Sɔntɛnde, i nɔ kin izi fɔ ɔndastand gud gud wan wetin ɔda pipul dɛn de tink ɛn fil. Bɔt dis abiliti na sɔntin we wi kin ebul fɔ divɛlɔp. Wi go tɔk bɔt am tide?

Yu go ebul fɔ gɛs wetin ɔda pipul dɛn de fil?

Imajin dis. Yu padi aks yu fɔ go na pati. Leta yu kam fɔ no se i dɔn tɔk to ɔl di ɔda gyal pikin dɛn na yu grup, bɔt nɔto jɔs in padi Pawani. Naw imajin aw Pawani go fil if i kam fɔ no? A. Vɛks B. Sɔri-at C. Hurt D. Filin se dɛn dɔn lɛf am E. Kɔnfyushɔn F. Nɔ fil fayn G. Shem H. Natin. Yu go dɔn fɛn di ansa to dis bay we yu put yusɛf na Pawani in sus ɛn aks yusɛf se, "Aw i go fil if dis apin to mi?" Bɔku tɛm, ɛnibɔdi we gɛt dis kayn tin go gɛt wan ɔ mɔ pan di filin dɛn we dɛn rayt na A to D: fɔ vɛks, fil bad, fil bad, ɛn fil se dɛn dɔn lɛf am . We dɛn dɔn lɛf pɔsin da kayn we de, i nɔ go izi fɔ mek i kɔnfyus, vɛks, ɔ shem, ɔ i nɔ go jɔs ignore am. Dis ebul fɔ tink bifo tɛm bɔt aw ɔda pipul dɛn go fil na pat pan Imɔshɔnal Intɛlijɛns ɔ EQ . Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, EQ na di ebul fɔ ɔndastand wi yone filin ɛn ɔda pipul dɛn filin ɛn ansa dɛn di rayt we. Na sɔntin we wi kin divɛlɔp bay we wi de praktis. We wi ɔndastand wetin ɔda pipul dɛn kin fil, i kin afɛkt di we aw wi de tɔk to dɛn. Lɛ wi tek di sem ɛgzampul frɔm di pati we wi dɔn tɔk bɔt. Imajin se sɔmbɔdi aks yu se, “Yu de go na Rihanna in pati?” Bikɔs yu no se yu nɔ tɔk to am, yu ansa kin difrɛn, nɔto so? Yu kin se (ɔ nɔ se!) sɔntin lɛk: A. “Yɛs, a de go – yu de go?” B. “Yes, a de go. Aw yu fil fɔ se dis? Na tru se Rihanna nɔ tɔk to yu?” C. “Yɛs, ɔlman de go!” D. “A go rili go! I go bi di bɛst pati fɔ di ia!” E. "Yes. A sɔri se a nɔ kɔl yu. A nɔ tink se Rehana du am fɔ mek yu fil bad, a yɛri in mama ɛn papa tɛl am fɔ jɔs tɔk to sɔm pipul dɛn." If yu nɔ bin no se yu nɔ kɔl Pawani, yu bin fɔ dɔn se A, C, ɔ D. Bɔt bikɔs yu no di wan ol stori, yu go tink mɔ bɔt aw Pawani de fil ɛn pik B ɔ E. Yu jɔs ansa C ɛn D if yu no se dɛn dɔn rili invayt di ɔda pɔsin. Dɔn gɛt am?

Mek wi ɔndastand bɔdi langwej.

Sɔntɛnde, frɔm di tin dɛn we pɔsin kin tɔk we i nɔ tɔk amWi kin gɛt bɔku tin dɛn fɔ no bɔt. Fɔ ɔndastand di signal dɛm we ɔda pipul dɛn kin sɛn to wi ɛn tink bɔt dɛm na pat pan `(Emotional Intelligence)` insɛf. Imajin se Pawani kam to yu, i nɔ luk fayn, i luk sɔri. I aks se: "Yu go go na Rehana in pati Satide?" Yu kin no frɔm in imɔshɔnal signal dɛm (i.e. in bɔdi langwej, fes ɛksprɛshɔn ) se i no se yu nɔ tɔk to am. We dis kayn tin apin, ilɛksɛf yu go dɔn ansa A, i go mɔs bi se yu go pik B ɔ E. Bɔt imajin se Pawani de kam to yu rili gladi, ɛn i de smayl. "Oh, a hie se Rehana de du pati dis wikend. Yu de go?" Frɔm in bɔdi langwej, yu kin tink se, "O, i nɔ no, i fɔ dɔn de ɛkspɛkt inviteshɔn." If yu get gud EQ, yu sabi se na Pawani nɔmɔ dɛn nɔ invayt am na di pati. If yu gɛt dat, yu nɔ go fil fɔ tɛl am se, "A de go na di pati." Pan ɔl we Pawani want fɔ kɔntrol di we aw i de fil, yu kin sɔri fɔ am, ɛn yu kin sɔri fɔ am. Yu kin tek tɛm pik wetin yu go tɔk bikɔs yu no se yu ansa go kɔrej am ɔ i go mek i fil bad mɔ.

Aw yu ɔndastand aw ɔda pipul dɛn de biev?

Dis ebul fɔ ɔndastand ɔda pipul dɛm nɔr de ɛp wi fɔ no aw pipul dɛm go fil pan wan patikyula tɛm, bɔt i de ɛp wi bak fɔ ɔndastand aw pipul dɛm go biev . Fɔ ɛgzampul: Na 8 oklɔk mɔnin, yu padi kin smayl, i kin rili lɛk am, ɛn i kin gɛt trɛnk na klas. Bɔt leta aftanun, i de kray, i tan lɛk se i de kam kray. Wetin yu tink se go dɔn apin bitwin dɛn tu tɛm ya? A. I bin gɛt fɛt wit in galfrɛn aftanun, ɛn naw dɛn nɔ de tɔk. B. I pas in mats pepa frɔm di fɔs tɛm. C. I jɔs kam fɔ no se i nɔ mek di fainal fɔ di skul baskɛtbɔl tim. D. In kemistri ticha bin gi am tumɔs homwok. E. I kin bi se i jɔs gɛt bad de. If yu ansa B, yu fɔ rili pul am: Yu ``Imɔshɔnal Intɛlijɛns'' go mɔs tɛl yu se yu padi in riakshɔn nɔ tan lɛk fɔ pas pepa, bɔt i tan lɛk fɔ fel. If yu padi dɔn gɛt bad de, ɔr gɛt bɔku homwok (ansa D ɔ E), dɛn kin fil taya ɛn strɛs – bɔt dɛn nɔ kin sɔri fɔ kray. We yu dɔn pul da ansa de, yu go ebul fɔ no izi wan se yu padi go mɔs fil bad bikɔs ɔf di ansa we se A ɔ C.

Pipul wae gud fɔ ɔndastand ɔda pipul dɛn kin tink bɔt aw di ɔda pɔrsin de fil ("If a tɛl am dis, i go rili fil bad"). Dɛn kin ɔndastand bak aw di ɔda pɔsin kin riak to sɔntin ("O, nɔ wɔnda i vɛks da tɛm de! Na dat apin!"). We wi ɔndastand aw ɔda pipul dɛn de fil, aw dɛn de biev, ɛn aw dɛn de biev, dat kin ɛp wi fɔ gɛt bɛtɛ padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn .

Aw dɛn go ebul fɔ gɛt dis abiliti?

I nɔ kin izi fɔ gɛs ɛn ɔndastand kɔrɛkt wan wetin ɔda pɔsin de fil. Sɔm pipul dɛn sabi dis pas ɔda pipul dɛn, bɔt ɔlman kin ebul fɔ du dis wok fayn fayn wan we i de praktis . Fɔ ɔndastand ɔda pipul dɛn na fɔ wach ɛn lisin gud gud wan.

Lɛ wi bigin wit di we aw wi de wach.

If yu si pɔsin stɔp ɛn fɔdɔm, yu nɔ jɔs tink se, "Oh my!", lɛk se i apin to yu? Wi kin fil wetin ɔda pipul dɛn de fil jɔs bay we wi de wach dɛn. Sayɛnsman dɛn tink se wan bayolojikal rizin de fɔ dis. dεn biliv se wan kayn bren sεl we dεn kכl "mirror neurons" de wok di sem we we wi de du sכmtin εn we wi de wach כda pכsin de du am. Tray dɛn we ya fɔ mek yu ebul fɔ wach fayn fayn tin dɛn:

• Pe atɛnshɔn to pipul dɛn fes ɛn bɔdi langwej. Di nɛks tɛm we yu de na shopin mal, kɔfi shɔp, ɔ na bɔs ɔ tren, tray dis: Luk rawnd ɛn tink bɔt aw pipul dɛn de fil bay aw dɛn de tɔk bɔt dɛn bɔdi, aw dɛn de sho dɛn fes, ɛn di tin dɛn we dɛn de du. Di titi we gɛt di buk dɛn na in lap go mɔs gɛt ɛgzam we de kam. I gɛt kɔnfidɛns – ɔ i strɛs? Wetin yu tink bɔt di pɔsin we in yay lɔk? I tan lɛk se i gɛt pis? Taya? I sɔri fɔ no?
• Rid buk ɛn wach fim dɛn we de sho aw pipul dɛn de fil rial. Pe atɛnshɔn to di filin dɛn we difrɛn pipul dɛn kin fil ɛn di we aw dɛn de biev. Tray fɔ ɔndastand wetin mek dɛn pipul dɛn de fil di we aw dɛn de fil. Bay dɛn filin dɛn de, tɔk wetin wan pɔsin we de insay di stori go du nɛks. Ɔ, si if yu go ebul fɔ ɛksplen wetin mek wan pɔsin we de insay di stori du sɔntin.

Lɛ wi impɔtant bay we wi de lisin.

Pipul dɛn we ɔndastand ɔda pipul dɛn gud gud wan kin bi gud lisin to dɛn . Risach dɔn sho se di mɔ pɔsin de lisin fayn, na di mɔ i kin gɛt kɔnekshɔn wit di pɔsin we de tɔk. Dis kin mek pipul dɛn fil se dɛn gɛt kɔnekshɔn ɛn dɛn kin gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit dɛnsɛf. Bɔku pan wi tink se wi na gud lisin – bikɔs i tan lɛk se fɔ lisin rili simpul ɛn besik. Bɔt bɔku tɛm, wi kin so pe atɛnshɔn pan wetin wi want fɔ tɔk dat wi nɔ kin lisin fayn lɛk aw wi tink se wi de lisin. Na sɔm we dɛn ya fɔ mek yu sabi fɔ lisin gud gud wan:

• Praktis fɔ lisin fayn we yu de tɔk to yu ɛvride. Rili pe atɛnshɔn to wetin di ɔda pɔsin de tɔk. Trenin yusɛf fɔ lisin pas fɔ tɔk.
• Lisin to di stori ɛn bak di filin dɛn.We yu padi tɛl yu sɔntin, tray fɔ imajin aw dɛn go de fil da tɛm de. Se sɔntin lɛk, “O, dat go mɔs dɔn wɔndaful!” ɔ, “Dat go dɔn mek yu vɛks bad bad wan.” Yu go si se yu dɔn kam nia di ɔda pɔsin, ɛn yu de sink. Yu kin ivin ebul fɔ tɔk wetin yu padi go tɔk nɛks.
• Tek tɛm lisin gud gud wan to wetin pɔsin de tɔk. Aks yu padi ɔ fambul bɔt wan spɛshal tɛm na dɛn layf. Fɔ ɛgzampul, aks yu mama ɛn papa bɔt di de we dɛn mared, ɔ aks yu grani ɛn granpa bɔt aw dɛn bin fil we dɛn bɔn dɛn fɔs pikin. Tray fɔ imajin aw da ɛkspiriɛns de go dɔn fil to dɛn. Aks fɔ no mɔ bɔt aw dɛn bin fil ɛn wetin mek dɛn fil da we de.

Aw fɔ muf frɔm ɔndastandin to sɔri-at

We yu dɔn gɛt di sɛns fɔ ɔndastand ɔda pipul dɛn, aw yu go yuz da no de? Lɛk bɔku pipul dɛn, sɔntɛm yu kin yuz am fɔ ɛp ɛn sɔpɔt di pipul dɛn we yu lɛk ɛn bisin bɔt. Dɛn kɔl dis sɔri-at . We wi du gud, dat kin ɛp wi fɔ gɛt bɛtɛ padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn. Tray dɛn tri we ya fɔ mek yu gɛt sɔri-at mɔ:

• Aks ɔda pipul dɛn wetin dɛn nid. If yu padi de go tru prɔblɛm, aks dɛn wetin yu go du fɔ ɛp. If yu padi se, "A nɔ ɔndastand," tink bɔt wetin yu go want if yu de na di sem tin, ɛn tɛl yu fɔ du sɔntin we tan lɛk dis.
• Sho se yu rili bisin bɔt ɔda pipul dɛn. Bi kɔriɔs bɔt di pipul dɛn we yu sabi – bɔt nɔto insay gɔsip ɔ fek we. Na we we go sho se yu want fɔ ɔndastand dɛn smɔl. Fɔ ɛgzampul, aks dɛn wetin dɛn lɛk, wetin dɛn de fil, wetin dɛn de tink, ɛn wetin dɛn de tink.
• Du tin wit gud at. We yu yɛri gɔsip, provok, ɔ mean jok, di fɔs tin we yu fɔ du na fɔ tink se, "Aw a go fil if a bin de na di ɔda say?" Dis go ɛp yu fɔ ɔndastand aw ɔda pipul dɛn de fil ɛn ɛp yu fɔ avɔyd fɔ put an pan dɛn kayn tin ya.

Ivin smɔl akt dɛm fɔ du gud kin ɛp fɔ bil fayn fayn soshal kɔnekshɔn (fɔ ɛgzampul, se "hi" to pɔsin we de in wan na lanch ɛn si aw dat de mek yu fil). Sayɛnsman dɛn no naw se strɔng kɔnekshɔn wit ɔda pipul dɛn kin afɛkt wi wɛlbɔdi, gladi at, ɛn ivin aw lɔng wi de liv .

Fɔ dɔn, mɛmba dis.

So, fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, fɔ ɔndastand ɔda pipul dɛn, we dɛn kɔl ``Imotional Intelligence'', rili impɔtant na wi layf. Dis min se:

• Wi kin gɛt ɛp fɔ ɔndastand aw ɔda pipul dɛn de fil .
• Wi kin ɔndastand aw ɔda pipul dɛn kin biev .
• Dis de mek wi ebul fɔ gɛt bɛtɛ padi biznɛs wit mɔtalman ɛn we strɔng .
• I de ɛnkɔrej wi fɔ sho gud ɛn sɔri fɔ ɔda pipul dɛn.

Dis nɔto sɔntin we pɔsin kin du wan nɛt. Bɔt smɔl smɔl, if yu tek tɛm wach ɛn tek tɛm lisin, yusɛf go ebul fɔ gɛt dis abiliti. If yu du dat, layf go fayn fɔ yu ɛn di wan dɛn we de arawnd yu.

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