Yu tink se i at fɔ mek yusɛf aks fɔ padi? (Apology) Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt dis impɔtant tin!

Wi ɔl dɔn du bad to pɔsin sɔm tɛm na wi layf, nɔto so? Sɔntɛnde, wi kin du am we wi nɔ ivin no. Ɔ, wi kin rigrɛt sɔntin we wi tɔk ɔ du we wi nɔ bin want. We yu no se wetin yu de tɔk ɔ du tin dɔn mek pɔsin nɔ trɔst am ɔ i dɔn mek i fil bad, di bɛst tin we yu fɔ du na fɔ beg am fɔ padi. Dis kin tan lɛk smɔl tin, bɔt i rili impɔtant fɔ mek wi gɛt gladi at ɛn fɔ mek wi gɛt gud padi biznɛs.

Ustɛm rili wi nid fɔ beg fɔ padi?

Okay, naw mek wi luk wen wi shud definitely apologize. Dis na sɔm tin dɛn we kin apin. When things like this happen, it's best to apologize without delay.

• If yu du pɔsin bad, provok am, provok am, ala pan am, ɔ nɔ rɛspɛkt am . Imajin se yu jɔs tɔk sɔntin to yu padi ɛn mek dɛn fil bad. Ɔ, yu bin de ala pan dɛn we yu vɛks. Dɔn yu nid fɔ beg fɔ padi.
• If yu aksidɛntli lɔs ɔ brok pɔsin in tin . Sɔntɛm yu lɛnt pen frɔm yu padi ɛn yu lɔs am. Ɔ, yu kin drɔp sɔntin we gɛt valyu na dɛn an ɛn brok am. Ivin if i nɔ bi bay wilful, i stil impɔtant fɔ se, "Sɔri, a lɔs/brɔk am."
• If yu nɔ de du tin tret ɔ yu de rud . Sɔntɛnde, we wi strɛs ɔ gɛt ɔda prɔblɛm, wi kin tɔk to ɔda pipul dɛn we wi nɔ nid ɔ trit dɛn di rayt we. Leta wi kam fɔ no se i nɔ bin fayn. Dɔn wi nid fɔ beg fɔ padi.
• If yu no se yu du sɔntin we nɔ rayt . Fɔ ɛgzampul, if yu lay, yu de tɔk lay lay tin bɔt pɔsin, yu tɔk sɔntin we go mek yu fil bad bɔt pɔsin na di Intanɛt, ɔ yu mekɔp yu maynd fɔ pwɛl lɔ ɔ prɔmis. Dɛn tin ya kin mek bɔku pipul dɛn at pwɛl.
• If yu nɔ du sɔntin we yu fɔ du, sɔntin we yu gri fɔ du . Fɔ ɛgzampul, if yu nɔ kip prɔmis we yu mek, ɔ if yu nɔ kam na os di tɛm we dɛn tɛl yu (kɔfyu).

Insai taim laik dis, to se "A sorry" kin mek big difrens. I de sho se yu tek di wok.

Yu tink se wi rili nid fɔ beg fɔ padi? Wetin mek sɔntɛnde i nɔ kin izi fɔ wi?

I nɔ izi fɔ admit sɔntin we wi dɔn du we wi nɔ rili proud fɔ, nɔto so? Ivin if wi no rialize am. Sɔntɛnde wi kin tink se, "O, lɛ wi mek lɛk se i nɔ apin," "Nɔto mi fɔlt," ɔ "Di ɔda pɔsin go dɔn fɔgɛt." Bɔt fɔ tɔk tru, fɔ aks fɔ padi na di bɛst tin fɔ du ɔltɛm . Wetin mek i rili at fɔ aks fɔ padi? Wan pan di men rizin na wi `(Ego)`, ɔ prayz, ɔ prawd . Admit se "I was wrong" kin fil laik smol dent fo wi `(Ego)`. Sɔm pipul dɛn kin tink se we pɔsin aks fɔ padi fɔ padi, dat kin mek i tan lɛk se dɛn nɔ impɔtant ɛn dɛn wik. Bɔt dat na kɔmplit mistek. Infakt, i nid fɔ gɛt bɔku trɛnk ɛn ɔmbul fɔ gri se yu mek mistek ɛn aks fɔ padi.Yɛs. Wan ɔda rizin na bikɔs sɔntɛnde wi kin fred se di ɔda pɔsin nɔ go fɔgiv wi, ɔ di prɔblɛm go wɔs. Wi kin gɛt fred lɛk, "If a aks fɔ padi, dɛn go du mi mɔ bad?" "Wi padi biznɛs go dɔn?" Bɔt if yu ayd di blem bikɔs ɔf da fred de, dat go jɔs mek di tin wɔs. Dɔn bak, if wi bin dɔn gɛt bad ɛkspiriɛns we wi bin de aks fɔ padi fɔ padi biznɛs trade, dat kin afɛkt bak.

Wetin kin apin we yu aks fɔ padi? Wetin na di bɛnifit dɛn we wi kin gɛt?

We yu se "A sɔri" frɔm yu at, i kin du wɔndaful tin dɛn. Na sɔm pan di bɛnifit dɛn we i go briŋ to yu ɛn ɔda pipul dɛn:

• I de ɛp fɔ mek gud padi biznɛs ɛn padi biznɛs wit yu fambul dɛn kɔntinyu fɔ de: We yu aks fɔ padi, yu de sho se yu rɛspɛkt di ɔda pɔsin in filin ɛn yu valyu dɛn padi biznɛs. Dis kin ɛp fɔ mek pipul dɛn gɛt trɔst bak . Lɛk fɔ pat pan glas we dɔn brok, i kin sev di rileshɔnship, ilɛksɛf i nɔ di sem lɛk aw i bin de bifo.
• Yu pruv yusɛf fɔ bi ɔnɛs, ɔmbul, ɛn rispɔnsibul: Fɔ admit yu mistek dɛn de sho yu ``Integrity'' , dat na, yu ɔnɛs ɛn moral trɛnk. Dis kin mek ɔda pipul dɛn rɛspɛkt yu mɔ ɛn mɔ.
• Yu kin gɛt big pis na yu maynd: Fɔ ol sɔntin we nɔ rayt na ebi ebi lod, nɔto so? I tan lɛk se yu de es ston. We yu aks fɔ padi, da lod de kin layt. Yu ɛn di ɔda pɔsin kin fil se yu gɛt pis na yu maynd . Dis kin rili fayn fɔ yu `( Mental Health )` (Mental Health) . Rigrɛt kin stɔp, ɛn yu kin slip fayn.
• Fɔ bi gud ɛgzampul: We ɔda pipul dɛn de wach aw yu de beg fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi fɔ padi. Yu go bi gud ɛgzampul, mɔ fɔ di wan dɛn we yɔŋ pas yu, we na yu pikin dɛn.
• I kin izi fɔ sɔlv prɔblɛm dɛn : If yu ebul fɔ aks fɔ padi ɛn sɔlv smɔl prɔblɛm bifo i bi big prɔblɛm, dat kin mek yu nɔ gɛt big big cham-mɔt ɛn vɛks. Ɔ smɔl spak kin bi big faya.

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, fɔ aks fɔ padi nɔ min se yu "lɔs." I min se yu valyu yu rileshɔnship, di ɔda pɔsin in filin, pas yu ``(Ego)''. Dat na big big abit we mɔtalman gɛt.

Aw ɛksaktɔli yu kin beg fɔ padi biznɛs di we we go tɔch yu at?

Okay, so wi no se fɔ aks fɔ padi impɔtant. Bɔt aw yu kin du am di rayt we? Fɔ jɔs se "A sɔri" kin nɔ go du, mɔ if na big mistek. Gud, at apɔlɔji fɔ go sɔntin lɛk dis: 1. Ɛksprɛs tru tru rigrɛt fɔ wetin yu du: Tɔk klia wan se, "A sɔri fɔ wetin a du/se." Ilɛksɛf na bay wilful, gri se yu mek mistek.

• Example: "Nimal, a sorry se a ala pan yu da de de. A no se i go mɔs dɔn ambɔg yu filin. A sɔri."

2. Tek rispɔnsibiliti, nɔ mek ɛkskyuz:If yu se tins laik, "A du dat bikos yu du dat," i no fil laik se na apology. Yu nid fɔ tek ɔl di rispɔnsibiliti fɔ wetin yu du.

• Bad ɛgzampul: "A sɔri, bɔt duya tray nɔ fɔ vɛks." Nɔ tɔk tin dɛn lɛk dis! Dis go jɔs bigin fɔ fɛt ɔda fɛt.
• Wan gud ɛgzampul: "A no se a nɔ fɔ dɔn tɔk dat. No rizin nɔ de fɔ am. Na mi fɔlt ɔltogɛda."

3. Sho se yu ɔndastand aw yu akshɔn afɛkt di ɔda pɔsin: We yu tɔk sɔntin lɛk, "A no se wetin a du fɔ dɔn ambɔg yu bad bad wan/kɔz yu lɔs" de sho se yu ɔndastand aw dɛn de fil. Dɛn kɔl dis ``Empathy`` ɔ sɔri-at (fɔ fil di pen we ɔda pipul dɛn de fil lɛk yu yon) .

• Example: "A ɔndastand se yu fɔ dɔn rili fil bad wit mi jok. A rili nɔ bin min am. A sɔri."

4. Mek prɔmis to yusɛf se yu go mek shɔ se sɔntin lɛk dat nɔ apin igen (if i pɔsibul): We yu se, "A nɔ go ɛva du/se dat igen" de sho se yu dɔn lan lɛsin frɔm di tin we apin. Dɔn bak, yu fɔ tray fɔ du da prɔmis de.

• Example: "A go tek tɛm mɔ we a de tɔk to yu frɔm naw. A prɔmis se i nɔ go apin igen."

5. Kip yu apɔlɔji shɔt ɛn simpul: Nɔ bit rawnd di bush, jɔs kam stret to di pɔynt. No nid fɔ ɛksplen ɔ sermon fɔ lɔng tɛm bɔt aw di mistek apin. Fɔ ɔnɛs na di men tin.

Nɔ mek dɛn mistek ya we yu de aks fɔ padi!

• "A sɔri if yu fil da we de": Dis min se yu nɔ admit se yu bin rɔng, se di ɔda pɔsin de tink tumɔs bɔt am, ɔ se dɛn de tu sɛnsitiv.
• Ekskyuz we stat wit "Bɔt...": "A sɔri, bɔt yu mek a vɛks." Dis nɔto apɔlɔji, na akɔdin.
• Trying to force an apology: After apologizing, give the other person time to accept it. Nɔ fos dɛn fɔ se, "Okay, lɛf da vɛks de naw."
• Jɔs fɔ se "sɔri" witout sincerity: If nɔto frɔm di at, di ɔda pɔsin go fil am. Luk dɛn na dɛn yay ɛn tɔk am wit ɔl yu at.

Fɔ aks fɔ padi fɔ padi biznɛs kin mek ɔltin fayn wantɛm wantɛm?

Dis rili dipen pan di tin we apin, aw di bad tin tranga, ɛn di rilayshɔn bitwin yu ɛn di ɔda pɔsin . Sɔntɛnde, ɔl wetin yu fɔ du na fɔ se, "A sɔri," ɛn di ɔda pɔsin go fɔgiv yu, ɛn na dat di tin dɔn. Dis kin apin mɔ wit smɔl ɔfens. Bɔt sɔntɛnde, i kin tek sɔm tɛm fɔ lɛ pɔsin ebul fɔ pul in at, vɛks, ɔ pwɛl at . Dat na nɔmal tin. I kin tek tɛm fɔ wɛl frɔm big ɔfens ɔ we pɔsin nɔ trɔst am. Sɔntɛm yu go nid fɔ gi dɛn sɔm tɛm. Mek dɛn de wit di we aw dɛn de fil. If yu rili beg fɔ padi, yu go gladi we yu tray fɔ mek tin rayt.

Sɔntɛnde, ivin afta wi dɔn beg fɔ padi biznɛs, di padi biznɛs nɔ go gɛt di glori we i bin gɛt trade. Ɛspɛshali if dɛn dɔn pwɛl di trɔst siriɔs wan. Bɔt if yu aks fɔ padi fɔ padi, dat kin mek di tin nɔ go wɔs. I kin mek yu gɛt sɔm kolat bak na yu maynd.

What do you do if someone apologizes to you?

When someone apologizes to you, you may be ready to forgive them right away and forget about the incident. Dat na gud tin. I kin ɛp bak fɔ mek yu lod izi. Bɔt sɔntɛnde, yu nɔ kin fil fɔ bi padi wit da pɔsin de igen . Dat na nɔmal tin. Ɛspɛshali if yu bin fil bad bad wan, ɔ if da pɔsin de dɔn du yu bad bɔku tɛm. Imajin if sɔmbɔdi du yu bad bɔku tɛm, aks fɔ padi fɔ padi, dɔn du di sem tin bak. Sɔntɛm yu nɔ go want fɔ spɛn tɛm wit da pɔsin de igen. Na dat yu disayd, ɛn natin nɔ bad wit dat. Yu gɛt di rayt fɔ protɛkt yusɛf. We pɔsin fɔgiv yu, ɔ yu gri fɔ lɛ pɔsin fɔgiv yu, i nɔ min se yu gri wit wetin i du. Dɔn bak, no lɔ nɔ de fɔ se yu fɔ bi padi wit dɛn jɔs bikɔs pɔsin aks fɔ padi. Yu kin gri fɔ lɛ dɛn fɔgiv yu. Bɔt na yu fɔ disayd if yu fɔ go bifo. Fɔ fɔgiv na fɔ lɛf fɔ lod ɛn fɔ gɛt kɔrej pan yusɛf, nɔto fɔ jɔstify di ɔda pɔsin in bad tin. Sɔntɛnde, ivin afta yu dɔn fɔgiv, i kin fayn fɔ mek yu maynd nɔ de nia da pɔsin de.

So, wetin na di impɔtant tin dɛn we wi nid fɔ mɛmba frɔm dis stori?

Frɔm wetin wi dɔn tɔk bɔt, yu go si aw i impɔtant fɔ aks fɔ padi. Lɛ wi mɛmba dɛn tin ya bak:

• Fɔ aks fɔ padi nɔto sayn fɔ wikɛd, na sayn fɔ trɛnk ɛn mɔtalman: i tek big at ɛn ɔmbul fɔ admit yu mistek ɛn aks fɔ padi.
• Fɔ beg fɔ padi fɔ padi biznɛs wit ɔl wi at, dat kin mek wi padi biznɛs tayt: Fɔ aks fɔ padi fɔ padi biznɛs rili impɔtant fɔ mek wi nɔ gɛt wanwɔd bak, fɔ mek wi nɔ gɛt padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn, ɛn fɔ mek wi gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit wi famili.
• Nɔ mek ɛkskyuz, tek rispɔnsibiliti: Tek ful rispɔnsibiliti fɔ wetin yu du. Apɔlɔji witout di wɔd "bɔt."
• Ɔndastand aw di ɔda pɔsin de fil (Show Empathy ): Tink bɔt aw di tin dɛn we yu de du de afɛkt am, ɛn tɛl am dat.
• Peshɛnt afta yu dɔn aks fɔ padi: Fɔgiv di ɔda pɔsin, gi am tɛm fɔ prosɛs aw i de fil, ɛn nɔ fos am.
• Fɔ fɔgiv yu kin mek yu fil se yu gɛt pis bak: i tan lɛk se yu lɛf lod. I de ɛp yu fɔ du am fɔ yusɛf.

Fɔ aks fɔ padi ɛn fɔgiv kin fayn fɔ wi maynd wɛlbɔdi ɛn bak fɔ wi padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn.Dis na tu tin dɛn we rili impɔtant. We yu praktis dɛn tin ya, dat go ɛp yu ɛn di wan dɛn we de arawnd yu fɔ gɛt gladi at ɛn gɛt wɛlbɔdi. So, nɔ fred fɔ aks fɔ padi we yu mek mistek, ɛn tray fɔ tek am frɔm yu at we pɔsin aks fɔ padi.

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