Sɔntɛnde, yu kin fil lɛk dis? "Udat a bi? Wetin bi di minin of dis laif? A rili bisin fo wetin a de du? Wetin go hapun afta a don dai?" If dɛn kwɛstyɔn ya dɔn de rɔn na yu maynd, nɔto yu wangren de. Dis na mental stet wae bɔrku pipul kin gɛt sɔm kayn tɛm na dɛn layf, ɛn wae wi kin kɔl na mɛrɛsin "existential crisis." Nɔto sik, bɔt i kin bi big lod pan wi maynd.
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, wetin na dis prɔblɛm we de apin we pipul dɛn de liv?
Dis kin tan lɛk wɔd we rili dip, bɔt di minin rili simpul. Egzistenshal kraysis na wan sɛt ɔf kwɛshɔn ɛn tin dɛm wae nɔr de fil fayn wae kin kam na wi maynd bɔt wi layf, wi aydentiti, di rizin fɔ layf, ɛn wetin wi go lɛf biɛn afta wi day.
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, ɔl dɛn tin ya de arawnd tu impɔtant kwɛstyɔn dɛn: "Udat a bi?" ɛn "Wetin na di rizin fɔ mi layf?"
Imajin se yu de aks yusɛf kwɛstyɔn dɛn lɛk dɛn wan ya:
- Udat a rili bi?
- Wetin mek dɛn bɔn mi na dis wɔl? Wetin na di minin fɔ mi layf?
- Wetin a go du wit di tɛm we lɛf na mi layf?
- A de liv di we aw a rili want fɔ liv, ɔ di we aw ɔda pipul dɛn want mi fɔ liv?
- Yu tink se di tin dɛn we a dɔn disayd fɔ du na layf rayt?
If yu gɛt ɛni wan pan dɛn kwɛstyɔn ya na yu maynd, dat na nɔmal tin. Bɔt if dɛn kwɛstyɔn ya kɔntinyu fɔ mɔna yu, if dɛn de afɛkt yu ɛvride wok ɛn gladi at, den na de wi nid fɔ tink smɔl mɔ bɔt dis.
Ustɛm tin dɛn lɛk dis kin kam?
Dis kayn krɛse kin apun to ɛnibɔdi pan ɛni ej, bɔt i kin pasmak pan tɛm wae big big chenj na in layf .
- We yu yɔŋ: Dis tin kin apin, mɔ afta yu dɔn gradyuet frɔm sɛkɔndari skul ɛn we yu de disayd bɔt tumara bambay, wit kwɛstyɔn dɛn lɛk "Us kayn pɔsin a want fɔ bi?" ɛn "Us wok a fɔ du?"
- We yu dɔn pas 20 ia: We yu tink bɔt wok, mared, ɛn fɔ setul na layf, yu go de wɔnda se, "A de na di rayt rod?"
- Na midul ej ɛn biyɔn: We yu pikin dɛn gro ɛn kɔmɔt na os, ɔ yu ritaia frɔm yu wok, tink lɛk "Wetin a go du wit di ɔda pat na mi layf?" ɛn "Wetin a dɔn akɔmplit na mi layf?" kin apin.
Di impɔtant tin na dat dis ɛgzistenshal kraysis nɔto sik we dɛn kɔl ``Dipreshɔn`` ɔ ``Ansiety`` sɛf. I nɔto sik we dɔktɔ dɛn no se. Na wan patɛn we wi de tink bɔt. Bɔt dis krɛse kin mek pɔrsin gɛt dis kayn sik wae dɛn kɔl pwɛl hat ɔr wɔri, ɛn pɔrsin wae gɛt dɛn kayn sik kin gɛt dis sik bak.
Wetin kin de mek dis prɔblɛm de?
Bɔku tɛm, dɛn dip kwɛstyɔn ya kin kam wit wan big, bad bad tin we kin apin na layf. Bɔt sɔntɛnde, i kin bi bak bikɔs ɔf sɔntin we kin apin we kin mek pɔsin gladi. Lɛ wi luk di men rizin dɛn.
| Kɔz/Ivint | fɔ ɛgzampul |
|---|---|
| Wan siriɔs sik | We yu kam fɔ no se yu gɛt wan sik we de mek yu layf de pan denja lɛk kansa. |
| We pɔsin we i lɛk day | Di day we mama ɔ papa, patna, pikin, ɔ bɛst padi day. |
| Big chenj dɛn na layf | Lɔs wok, mared, bɔn pikin, muf kɔntri. |
| Fɔ fil se yu dɔn ol | Pikin dɛn we de kɔmɔt na os, ritaia, bɔdi chenj. |
| Wan ɛkspiriɛns we rili mek a fil bad | I tan lɛk big aksidɛnt we jɔs jɔs ebul fɔ rɔnawe pan day. |
Nɔto dis nɔmɔ, bɔt sɔntɛnde dɛn tin ya kin kam na mi maynd we nɔ gɛt ɛni patikyula rizin. Dɔn bak, pwɛl hat, bipolar disorder, ɔr obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) kin apin bak.Pipul wae gɛt dis kayn sik wae de mɛk pɔrsin fil lɛk Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) kin gɛt dis kayn sik wae de kam pan pɔrsin.
Aw yu go no if yusɛf gɛt dis krɛse?
Dis kin difrɛn frɔm wan pɔrsin to ɔda pɔrsin, bɔt sɔm kɔmɔn sayn dɛm de. Lɛ wi sheb dɛn tin ya to tu pat: maynd ɛn bɔdi.
| Kɔmɔn kwaliti dɛm fɔ wan ɛgzistenshal kraysis | |
|---|---|
| Saykolojik simptom dɛm | |
| 1. 1. 1. . | Kɔntinyu fɔ tink bɔt fɔ day wan de, fil fɔ fred am. |
| 2. 2. . | Fɔ fil lɛk se i nɔ gɛt ɛni minin pan ɛvride tin dɛn. |
| 3. 3. . | Ɔltɛm, a kin fil se na in wangren de na di wɔl. |
| 4. 4. . | Nɔ ebul fɔ no udat yu bi, wetin na yu aydentiti. |
| 5. 5. . | Fɔ fil lɛk se yu nɔ go ebul fɔ chenj ɔ kɔntrol yu layf. |
| Di Simptom dɛn na di bɔdi | |
| 1. 1. 1. . | Fɔ fil se yu nɔ de du natin, yu de taya ɔltɛm. |
| 2. 2. . | I nɔ kin want fɔ it ɔ i nɔ kin ebul fɔ kɔntrol di it we i de it. |
| 3. 3. . | Nɔ slip ɔ fɔ slip tumɔs. |
| 4. 4. . | Nɔ ebul fɔ gɛt ɛni gladi at frɔm di tin dɛn we yu bin de ɛnjɔy fɔ du trade. |
Bɔt mɛmba se, dɛn bɔdi ya kin gɛt fɔ du wit tin dɛm lɛk pwɛl hat ɔr wɔri wae kin apun wit dis krɛse sik. If yu gɛt ɛni dawt bɔt dis, di bɛst tin fɔ du na fɔ tɔk to yu dɔktɔ. I kin tɛl yu di rayt tin we yu gɛt bay aw yu de fil ɛn aw yu de tink.
Okay, so aw wi go dil wit dis?
Dis na tin we pɔsin kin du fɔ insɛf, ɛn di we aw ɔlman kin ebul fɔ bia wit di prɔblɛm difrɛn. Bɔt sɔm jɛnɛral advays dɛn de wae kin ɛp yu fɔ pas dis krɛse sik.
- Tɔk to pɔsin we yu biliv: Insay tɛm dɛn lɛk dis, bɔku tɛm wi kin disayd fɔ lɛf wisɛf. Bɔt dat kin jɔs mek di prɔblɛm wɔs. Yu kin tɔk bɔt wetin de na yu maynd, tɔk to yu padi, patna, ɔ mama ɔ papa we yu biliv. If yu tɛl dɛn bɔt yu sityueshɔn, dat go gi yu trɛnk fɔ go to pɔsin we sabi du di wok if nid de.
- Tray fɔ chenj di we aw yu de si tin: I nɔ kin izi, bɔt tray fɔ tink gud wan bɔt layf ɛn di tin dɛn we yu bin dɔn du trade bifo yu tink bɔt bad tin. Bifo yu tink se, “A nɔ bin ebul,” tink se, “A lan lɛsin frɔm da ɛkspiriɛns de.” If yu si se i nɔ izi fɔ du dis fɔ yusɛf, go to pɔsin we de advays yu fɔ ɛp yu.
- Tink gud wan: Fɔ tink gud wan ɛn fɔ praktis fɔ tink gud wan kin ɛp yu fɔ pe atɛnshɔn pan yu maynd ɛn kɔntrol di tin dɛn we yu nɔ want. I go ɛnkɔrej yu fɔ gladi fɔ di smɔl smɔl tin dɛn we yu de du ɛvride.
- Kip wan jɔnal ɔ dayari: We yu rayt wetin yu de tink ɛn fil na pepa, na fayn we fɔ fri yu maynd. Dɔn bak, tray fɔ rayt wetin yu go ebul fɔ tink bɔt fɔ sɔlv di prɔblɛm dɛn we de mɔna yu.
If pan ɔl dis, yu stil gɛt prɔblɛm fɔ pul dɛn tin ya we yu de tink bɔt, nɔ shem. Nɔ sɔfa yu wan.I rili impɔtant fɔ aks fɔ ɛp frɔm wan kwalifay thɛrapist/kɔnsul. Na wan pan di big tin dɛn we yu kin du fɔ yusɛf. Yu famili dɔktɔ kin rifer yu to pɔsin we rayt fɔ yu.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Existential Crisis nɔto sik. Na di we aw pɔsin kin tink bɔt di dip tin dɛn we de apin na layf.
- Dis na nɔmal tin we kin apin to ɛnibɔdi di tɛm we big big chenj dɛn de apin na in layf.
- Pan ɔl we dis difrɛn frɔm pwɛl hat ɔr wɔri, e kin apin togɛda wit dɛn kayn tin ya.
- Yu kin bia wit dis tin bay we yu tɔk to pɔsin we yu abop pan, tink gud wan, tink gud wan, ɛn rayt wan jɔnal.
- If dɛn tin ya de mek yu nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol, nɔ shem fɔ tɔk to yu dɔktɔ ɔ pɔsin we sabi advays yu. I nɔto wikɛd tin, na trɛnk.
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