I fa pawh hian mahni chauha awmin a inhria em? He harsatna hi social connection hmanga tanpuina dawn dan tur chu hetiang hi a ni!

Tunlai hian kan fate tan mahni chauha awm hi thil awmze nei tak a ni ta. I fapa emaw, i fanu emaw pawhin a chang chuan chutiang bawk chu a nei ve mai thei, a dik em? Vawiin hian mahni chauhna chu eng nge a nih tak tak tih te, kan fate’n an hriat chhan te, leh khawtlang inzawmnate chu eng nge ni tih te, chumi chinfelna tha ber ni thei tur te, naupang nunah eng ang taka pawimawh nge an nih tih te chipchiar takin kan sawi dawn a ni.

Mahni chauhna hian eng nge a awmzia tak?

Mahni chauhna hi engtik lai pawhin kan hriat vek a ni. A awlsam zawngin, mi dangte bula awm kan duh a, anmahni hnaih kan duh a, an hmangaihna leh ngilneihna dawng kan duh hian mahni chauha awm, mi dangte laka hla tak, leh inhlat takin kan inhria a ni . Ngaihtuah teh, i fa chuan sikula infiamnaah hian naupang dangte chu an tel ve lo a nih chuan engtin nge a ngaih ang? Chu chu he mahni chauhna rilru nena lo awm lungngaihna leh engmah lo chi khat chu a ni.

Naupang tê tê leh naupang tê tête mahni chauha awm theihna dinhmun:

Kan fate hian mahni chauha an inhriat chhan hi a tam thei hle. Entirna tlemte chu hetiang hi a ni:

• Mahni chauha i inhriat a, ṭhian i neih loh hunah emaw, mi dangte’n an chhuahsan ang maia an inhriat hunah emaw: Class-a mi dangte an inkhelh laiin i fa chauh chhuahsan ni ta se, a lungchhiatthlâk hle ang tih han ngaihtuah teh. ‘Tuman min ngaihsak lo, ṭhian ka nei lo’ tiin i ngaihtuah mai thei.
• ‘Hetah hian ka tel lo, ka in fit lo’ tia i inhriat lai hian: A chang chuan naupangte hian an class-ah emaw, an ṭhian pawlah emaw, an chhungte pawhin an tel ve lo ang maiin an inhria. Chutiang hunah chuan mahni chauha awmin an inhria.
• Naupangin anmahni chauhin harsatna an nei nia an ngaih chuan, "He harsatna hi keimah chauhah a thleng a, midang tumahin hetiang hi an tawng ngai lovang, tumahin min hrethiam lo ang," tih ang chi ngaihtuahna te chu naupang chu a inhlat zual sauh sauh a ni.
• Nu leh pa, ṭhian, a nih loh leh unau nêna insual hnua rilru natna: Inhuatna tê tê pawh hian naupangte chu mahni chauha awm leh hla takah a awmtîr thei a ni.
• Hmangaih tak boralna emaw, inthenna emaw pawh ni se: Chhûngkaw member an thih emaw, nu leh pate an inṭhen emaw, an ṭhian ṭha berin sikul dang a pan emaw chuan naupangte chuan mahni chauhna nasa tak an nei thei a ni.

Tunlai hian naupangte hian mahni chauha awm an ti zawk em?

Tunah en teh, tunlai hian naupang tê tê chauh a ni lo, kum tin mite chuan mahni chauha awm an ti nasa zawk tih an sawi. Engvangin nge chu chu? A chhan ber pakhat chu he digital khawvel chak tak hi a ni . Phone, computer leh tablet-a thil engkim tih a nih chuan, hmaichhana inbiakpawhna, mitmenga nuihzatthlak leh a dangte a nih chuan ṭhian nihna , inzawmna, lehA thleng chiah lo. A dik tak chuan, inṭhianṭhatna ṭha leh chhungkaw nena inlaichinna a nghet tur chuan hmaichhana inhmuh leh inbiakna, hun hman dun a pawimawh hle. Chu chu a bo chuan naupang leh tleirawl ṭhenkhat chuan mahni chauha awmin an inhria a. Phone-ah ṭhian za tam tak nei mah se, nun tak takah an rilrua thil awmte sawipui tur an neih loh chuan chu pawh chu mahni chauhna a ni.

Hetianga rei tak mahni chauha awm hi naupang rilru hriselna bakah an taksa hriselna atan pawh a tha lo . An rilru chauh ni lovin, an taksa pum pui a nghawng thei a ni.

Mahse, chanchin lawmawm a awm! He mahni chauhna hi tihziaawm theih dan tur a awm. Chutianga tih theih dan tha ber chu social connection tihpun hi a ni.

Chuti a nih chuan he social connection hi eng nge ni?

A awlsam zawngin, hei hian midangte nena inzawmna, inpawh tawnna leh inzawmna neih a kawk a, chubakah ‘he pawlah hian ka tel ve’ leh ‘heng mite hian min pawm’ tih hriatna neih a ni bawk . Hei hi mihring mamawh bulpui a ni a, ei leh in leh mut ang bawkin. Chaw kan hmuh loh laia riltam a lo awm ang bawkin, a hmaa ka sawi tawh ang khan mahni chauhna rilru hlim lo tak hi he khawtlang inzawmna hi kan neih loh hian a thleng thin.

Chuti a nih chuan, naupangin hetiang social connection tha tak a neih hian eng nge thleng thin?

• Mahni chauha inhriatna chu nasa takin a tlahniam a ni. Mahni chauh an inhriat reng reng lo.
• Mahni chauha an inhriat thut pawhin an tan chuan tuar a awlsam zawk. ‘Aw, hei hi rei lo te hnuah a pawi tawh ang, biak tur ka nei’ tiin an inhnem thei a ni.
• Mahni chauha an inhriat lai pawhin an dam thuai thei a, an hlim leh thei bawk. Chumi awmzia chu lungngaihna vawn tlat nan hun an hmang tlem zawk tihna a ni.

Engtin nge social connection hian mahni chauhna a tihziaawm?

He social connection hi naupang rilru hriselna bakah an taksa hriselna atan a tha hle. Naupangin social connection tha tak a neih chuan mahni chauha inhriat ai chuan hetiang hi an hre thin:

• An nunah mipuite nen an inhnaih hle niin an inhria. Chumi awmzia chu an nu, an pa, an unau, an thiante, leh an zirtirtu te nen hian inzawmna nghet tak, ṭhian ṭha tak nei ang maiin an inhria tihna a ni.
• Mi dangte chuan hmangaih, ngaihsak, ngaihthlâk, leh hriatthiam nia inhriain an inhria a. Naupangin a nu hnenah harsatna a sawi a, a nu chuan a ngaithla a, "Fapa/fanu, hlau suh, ka awm e," a ti ang tih hi han ngaihtuah teh. Chutiang rilru put hmang chu a ni.
• Anni chu thutiam nei lovin pawm an ni a, an pawlah telh an ni a, an nihna ang chiah hian hlut an ni tih an inhria. ‘Ka dum, ka vun a, ka thau’ tih ang chi thil ngaihtuah ai chuan, ‘Ka awm dan ang hian ka tha a, midangte pawh keimah ang hi ka ni a, ka hlu a ni’ tih ang chi thilte ngaihtuah lovin, ‘Ka awm dan ang hian ka tha a, ka hlu a ni’ tih ang chi hi an inringtawk zawk a ni.
• Thil pakhat ta ang maiin an inhria.Chumi awmzia chu, ‘Hei hi ka chhungte an ni a, hei hi ka thiante pawl an ni a, hei hi ka school cricket team an ni a, hei hi ka khua khawtlang an ni’ tih ang chi feeling i nei tihna a ni. Nangmah chauh ni lo, i telna hmun i nei tih hriat hi a ropui hle.
• An rintlak mi an nei niin an inhria a, an bula an awm lai hian nuam leh hlim takin an inhria. ‘Eng harsatna pawh nei mah ila, ka hrilh theih mi an awm a, min kalsan lo vang’ tih rinna hi rilru chakna nasa tak a ni.
• Anmahni chauh ni lovin, anmahni aia thil lian zawka tel ve angin an inhria. Nature nena inzawmna a ni mai thei. A nih loh leh, thil \ha, khawtlang rawngbawlna, an hmangaih em em-a an inrawlh hian he rilru put hmang hi an nei bawk. ‘He khawvel tan thil pawimawh tak ka ti’ tih ang hian an inhria.

Nu leh pate hian naupangte mahni chauhna tihziaawmna kawngah an pui thei a ni!

Tunah chuan, ‘Chuti a nih chuan engtin nge ka fa hi he mahni chauhna hi hneh turin ka puih theih ang? Engtin nge heng khawtlang inzawmnate hi siam turin ka puih theih ang?’ a ti a. Hemi atan hian nu leh pate tih theih tam tak a awm.

Khawtlang nun thiamna tihhmasawn pui rawh

A pawimawh ber chu naupangte chu heng khawtlang inzawmna siam tura social skills mamawh zirtir hi a ni.

• Mi dangte chu ngilnei leh ṭanpui thei tûrin zirtîr rawh: ‘Ka fapa, chu ṭhianpa chuan vawiinah pencil a rawn ken theihnghilh a nih chuan i pencil dang pe rawh’, ‘In lama i pi hian ṭanpuina tlem a mamawh a nih chuan khawngaihin ti rawh’ tih ang chi thil tenawm tak tak aṭangin i ṭan thei ang. Chûng thilte chuan naupang chu mi dangte pawm tlâka inhriatna a siam ang.
• Thian tha leh hrisel tak siam dan zirtir rawh: Mi zawng zawng nen in inṭhian a ngai lo va, mahse i ṭhian ṭha, i tana ṭha leh hrethiam tur i zawn a pawimawh. Tin, ṭhian ṭha lo, mi tithinur theite laka inthiarfihlim tûrin i zirtîr a ngai bawk.
• I fate chu mi dangte thusawi ngun taka ngaithla turin zirtir la (Active Listening), an ngaihdan chu zahawm tak leh chiang taka sawi chhuak turin zirtir bawk ang che. Hengte hi inlaichinna tha atan chuan a pawimawh hle. I fa chu mi pakhat thusawi laia en a, a thusawi ngaihthlak a pawimawhzia hrethiam tir rawh.
• Team anga hnathawh zir la, midang ngaihdan zah rawh. Heng thiamnate hi school sports team, scout group emaw, group activity dang emaw-a telna hmanga tihhmasawn theih a ni.

I fa nen nitin inzawmna siam rawh.

Tin, nitin i fate nena inbiakna hun zawng la, an bulah hun hmang bawk ang che. Eng ang pawhin buai mah la, ni khatah minute 15-20 chhung chu i fa tan chauh dah la.

Naupang chuan "Mom/Dad hian ka tan hun min siamsak a, ka thusawi a ngaithla a, eng harsatna pawh ka neih pawhin ka tan a awm reng" tih hi a inrintawk a ngai a ni.

Hei hi an chakna ber a ni. I fate nen hun engemaw chen i hmanpui a, chumi nia thil thlengte i sawi dun chuan, an hlimna te, an lungngaihna te, leh harsatna te chu an hrilh duh zawk ang che. Chu chuan i fate chunga thil thlengte, mahni chauha an inhriat leh hriat loh te, eng ang ṭanpuina nge an mamawh tih te hriatthiamna a pe ang che. Thil tenawm tak tak, inkhelh dun te, lehkhabu chhiar te, chaw siamna lama tanpui te pawhin he inzawmna hi a tichak thei a ni.

Chutianga i fate khawtlang inzawmna tihchak chuan vawiinah chauh ni lovin, an hmalam hun zawng zawng atan pawh, an lo puitlin hunah pawh a pui dawn a ni. Chhungkaw inzawmna nghet tak nei naupang chu khawtlang nunah a hlawhtling zawk a ni.

Chuti a nih chuan, kan sawi tawh atang hian eng thil nge hriat reng tur pawimawh ber? (In lama hruai tur thuchah)

• Mahni chauhna hi tu pawhin an hriat theih a ni. Zak suh la, hlau suh la, naupang sualah ngai suh.
• Naupangin mahni chauha an inhriat chhan hi a tam thei hle. Chu chu hre reng la, i fate nungchang inthlak danglamna chu ngaihven rawh.
• Khawtlang inzawmna hi mahni chauhna chinfelna tha ber a ni. Naupang rilru leh taksa hriselna atan a pawimawh hle.
• Nu leh pate chuan an fate khawtlang nun thiamna tihhmasawn leh anmahni nena inzawmna nghet tak siamin he mahni chauhna hi tihziaawmna kawngah an pui thei a ni. I fate zirtirtu hmasa ber leh tha ber i ni.
• Nitin i fate nen inbiakna hun engemaw chen hmang la, an thusawi ngaithla rawh. An hnenah i awm tih hriattir rawh. "Eng pawh ni se, in hnenah ka awm ang," tiin hrilh rawh.

I fa chu mahni chauha awm nia i hriat chuan hmangaihna leh ngilnei takin sawipui rawh. A châng chuan sawi chhuah tûr ṭawngkam an nei lo mai thei a, mahse i ngaihvenna an hmuh hunah an inhawng ang. A tul chuan damdawi lam thurawn , school counselor, emaw, counseling thiam tak emaw zawng hreh suh. Naupang hlimna leh rilru hahdamna hi thil dang zawng aiin a pawimawh zawk!

` Mahni chauhna, Khawtlang Inzawmna, Naupang, Rilru Hriselna, Nu leh Pa, Mahni chauhna, Nu leh Pa nih, Naupang Psychology