I fa chu sikulah ‘set’ nen an inhmu em? He thil (Clique) tih hi han sawi ila!

Chibai! I fa a lo upat deuh deuh chuan ṭhian neih chu an tân thil hlu tak a lo ni ta a ni lawm ni? Chhungkaw piah lama kal a, mahni ṭhian siam hi an hmasawnna atan a pawimawh hle a, chu chu mimal zalen anga an thanlen theih nan a pawimawh hle a ni. Heng inṭhianṭhatnate hian nakin lawkah inlaichinna ṭha, rintlak tak siamna kawngah nasa takin a pui dawn a ni. Mahse a chang chuan, he ‘set of friends’ hi a danglam deuhin a lo thang lian thei a, a chang chuan harsatna thlen thei zawngin a lo thang lian thei bawk. Chu chu vawiinah hian kan sawi dawn a ni, a bik takin, `(Clique)` group hrang hrangte. Hlau suh, he thu hi kan hriatthiam theih vek tur, awlsam takin sawi ila.

Ṭhian pawl leh ``clique'' hi eng nge an danglamna?

Okay, a hmasa berah chuan ṭhian pawl pakhat chauh inkhawm leh ``clique'' kan tih hi a danglamna hi chiang takin han sawi ila. Hei hi dik taka kan hriatthiam chuan naupangte tanpui a awlsam zawk ang.

A tlangpuiin, ṭhiante chu an duhzâwng thil inang vek avângin an inkhâwm ṭhîn . Game inang khel pawl, class khata naupang, veng khata awm, chhungkaw inzawmna nei pawl angin han ngaihtuah teh. Hetiang ṭhian pawl chi hrang hranga awmte hian chu pawl pawn lama mi dangte nena inbiakna, inkhelh leh inpawh tawnna zalenna an nei a ni . Chutianga an tih avangin ostracized emaw, group atanga hnawhchhuah emaw an ni lo. Engkim tih dun tur a ni tih dan a awm lo. A pangngaiin a hrisel hle bawk.

Mahse, he `(Clique)` hi a danglam deuh a, tight-knit tak, tight-knit group tlem a ni . Anmahni dan leh nungchang an nei tlangpui. Heng dan thenkhat hi chiang taka sawi a ni a, thenkhat chu chiang taka sawi a ni bawk. Thil tam tak an ti dun a. Mahse hetah hian buaina ber chu he `(Clique)` chi hi chu in tanpui tawnna chungchangah hian hlutna inang, ngaihdan tha, leh rinna inang lo takah a innghat lo tih hi a ni. A tam zawkah chuan an thil tum ber chu an `(Status)` leh `(Popularity)` humhalh hi a ni. Entirnan, `(Clique)`-a mite chuan midang aiin ``a chungnung zawk'' an ti thei a, a nih loh leh an `(Clique)` chu midang aiin ``a lian zawk'' tih lantir an tum fo thei bawk. Chu chu an inkarah inelna a awm reng thei tihna a ni.

Engvangin nge kan fate hian hetiang hian `(Clique)` hi an zawm duh?

Tunah chuan, ‘Engvangin nge leiah hian naupangte hian hetiang hmun hrual, buaina neia kal hi an duh?’ tih hi i ngaihtuah mai thei. Chutiang a nih chhan pakhat chauh a awm lo, engemaw zat a awm. Chu chu han thlir ila.

• Mi lar nih duhna: Naupang thenkhat tan chuan ‘popular’ nih, ‘cool’ nih hi an tan a pawimawh ber a ni. Chuvangin, heng ‘cliques’ te hi an tan chuan khawtlang dinhmun, chu chu sikula mi dangte zinga pawm theihna hmun angin an ngai a ni. ‘Chutiang pawla ka awm chuan mi zawng zawngin min zah ang’ tiin an ngaihtuah thin.
• Mahni chauha awm hlauhna:Naupang dang thenkhat chuan he thil hi an zawm a, a chhan chu chhuahsan, mahni chauha awm leh bo an hlauh vang a ni. ‘Aw, group-ah hian tel ve ila a tha ang, chuti lo chuan keimah chauh ka awm ang’ tiin an ngaihtuah thin. Hei hi a bik takin naupang rilru na deuhte tan chuan hriat theih a ni.
• Thunun duhna emaw, zui duhna: Mi dangte thunun duh te, an duhzawng tihluih duhna te, mi dangte’n an thusawi ngaithla tir duhtu naupang thenkhat an awm. Chutiang naupang tan chuan he `(Clique)` hi hmun tha (a tha emaw, a chhe emaw) a ni. Chungte chu ``Hruaitu`` -in a thunun tlangpui. Group chhunga awm tur leh chhuak tur chu hruaitu a ni. Kawng lehlamah chuan hei hi naupang, dan zawm duh, midang thusawi ngaithla duh, leh mahni thu tlûkna siam hlau deuhte tân pawh a ṭhain a lang thei bawk. A chhan chu, chutah chuan ``eng nge tih tur'' tih chiang takin an hrilh a ni.

Mahse, thil mak tak chu, a chang chuan naupang ngilnei tak tak, mi lar tak tak, leh thiam tak tak te pawh hi he `(Clique)` atang hian paih chhuah an ni emaw, group-ah hian an pawm lo emaw a ni. A chhan chu naupang mizia leh mahni inrintawkna hi hruaitu tan chuan hlauhawm tak a ni thei a ni. Hruaitu chuan, ‘He naupang hi ka thusawi ngaithlatu a ni lo, kei aiin a langsar zawk ang’ tiin a ngaihtuah mai thei. A bik takin naupang chu amah chauh pawh ni se lar a nih chuan hetiang hi a thleng tam zawk. A châng chuan, hruaitu chuan naupang ṭhiante chu `(Clique)` zawm turin a bia a, mahse naupang lar tak chu pawm a ni lo. Hei pawh hi dinhmun lungchhiatthlak tak a ni.

Engvangin nge midangte hian `(Clique)` hruaitu thusawi hi an ngaihthlak?

Awle, tunah chuan he `(Clique)` member dangte hian hruaitu thusawi zawng zawng an ngaihthlak chhan hi han en ila. Inṭhianṭhatna avanga an tih, hruaitu hmangaihna avanga an tih tak tak a ni em? Nge a chhan dang a awm em?

A tam zawkah chuan `(Clique)` member-te hian hruaitu dan dik tak an zawm thin. ‘A hma ni angin kan inchei a ngai’, ‘A hnu ni khatah kan inbel a ngai’, ‘A hnu ni khatah mi kan biak lo’, ‘Hetiang thil chi hrang hrang chauh kan ti’, etc. Heng `(Clique)` te hian dan tam tak an nei tlangpui a, chiang taka sawi emaw, sawi loh emaw pawh nise Tin, chu dan dik tak zawm tur chuan `(Pressure)` a tam hle bawk. ‘Hetiang hi kan tih vek chuan nangmah chauh hi i danglam thei lo’ tih ngaihdan a siam a ni.

Dik tak chuan member tam zawk chu hruaitu bulah an inkhawm thin a, ṭhian nihna dik tak avang ni lovin, pawl chhunga an hmun humhim an duh vang a ni.

`(clique)`-a naupangte hian, 'He pawlah hian ka la lar dawn em?', 'Thil dik lo ka tih chuan, thil dik lo ka sawi a, incheina dik lo ka inbel a nih chuan, pawl chuan min kalsan dawn em ni?' Hei hi stress nasa tak thlentu tak a ni . Naupang chu a hlauthawng a, a ringhlel reng bawk.

Engtikah nge `(Cliques)` avang hian harsatna a lo awm thin?

Naupang tam tak tan chuan kum sawm leh kum sawm leh pariat inkar hun hi ‘preteen’ leh ‘teenage’ an ti a.Tu nge i nih, khawtlang nunah engtin nge i in fit duh, engtin nge i langsar duh, tu nge i nih tih hriat tumna hun a ni. Chuvangin, hetiang kum naupangte hian a chang chuan mahni inrintawk lohna an neih a, midangte hnen atanga pawm an beisei a, naupang ‘cool’, ‘pop’ te nen hian inhmukhawm duh hi thil pangngai tak a ni. Chutiang kum chuan a awm dan chu a ni mai.

Mahse, heng ``cliques'' te hian hun rei tak chhung harsatna a thlen thei a, rilru lam leh nungchang lamah pawh , a bik takin hetiang thil thlengah hian:

• Naupangte chu thil dik lo emaw, anmahni rilru put hmang nena inmil lo emaw tih tura thlem an nih hian, hruaitu tihlawm nan emaw, pawla tel ve turin emaw an thlem hian. Entîr nân, mi dang tihbuai emaw, dawt sawi emaw ang chi thilte.
• When children are pushed around , they spend a lot of money on new clothes , phone thar ber an lei a, midang an nuihzat a , thuthang an thehdarh (an hmaiah direct emaw social media kaltlangin online emaw pawh nise).
• Naupangte chu rukruk, hna bawlhhlawh thawh, a nih loh leh mi dangte thil tihchhiat ang chi thil hlauhawm tak tak tih tir an nih hian . ‘Kan ti vek a, nang pawhin i ti ve tur a ni’ tih ang chi thil ti tura nawr an nih hian.
• Chu pawl chu antisocial clique emaw gang emaw a nih chuan, taksa rihna tihtlem ang chi dan hrisel lo tak tak siam, emaw, hmel, chak lohna, hnam, emaw sakhaw emaw avanga mi dangte tihbuai emaw, vau emaw a nih chuan.
• Naupangin pawl pakhatin nasa taka hnawl, hnawhchhuah leh inhlat taka a inhriat hian, chu chuan naupangte inngaihhlutna nasa takin a tichhe thei a ni.

Ngaihtuah teh, heng ``(Cliques)`` te hi a nasa ber tihna a ni a, chu chu harsatna a nasa ber tihna a ni a, chu chu naupang chu pawl ruk, sarih, emaw pariat (Middle school) a nih lai a ni. Mahse, a chang chuan heng ``(Clique)`` harsatna te hi kum li emaw kum nga emaw atang pawhin a intan thei thin. Chuvang chuan naupan lai atanga hriat chian a tha.

Engtin nge nu leh pa kan nih angin kan ṭanpui theih?

Okay, tunah chuan i fain heng ṭhiante nena a buai lai hian, hrehawm a tawrh pawh a ni mai thei, `(Cliques), nangmahni, chu chu keini, nu leh pa angin anmahni thlawp turin thil tam tak a awm a ni. Eng nge an nih i en ang u. Hengte hi thil awlsam tak, hmantlak tak tak a ni.

• I thil tawnte sawi rawh: I fa hnenah sikula i thil tawn te, pawl i hmachhawn dan te, leh i thiante nena in inrem lohna te sawipui rawh. Chûng thilte chungchânga i rilru put hmang leh i hmachhawn dân chu hrilh rawh. Chu chuan i fate chu hêng thilte hi an chunga thleng mai mai a ni lo tih a hriatthiam theih nân a ṭanpui ang.
• Hruaitu lam hi hriatthiam tum ang che: I fate chu ``(clique)'' hruaitu ni mah se, midang ang bawkin an ni thei tih hrilhfiah rawh , midangte lar leh pawm an nih theih nan an lungkham thei a ni . Hruaitu chuan an inrintawk lohna thup nan chutiang chuan a che mai thei tih hrilh rawh.
• Lehkhabu leh movie \ha tak takte inhriattir rawh: I fain ṭhian nihna leh pawl chungchânga a inzawm theih tûr lehkhabu leh movie zawng rawh. Entirnan, Judy Bloom-i lehkhabu ‘Blubber’ ang chi lehkhabu emaw, ‘Mean Girls’ ang chi movie emaw. .
• Extracurricular activities-ah fuih rawh: I fa chu sikul chhuahsan thei thila tel turin fuih rawh . Thil chi hrang hrang, art class, music class, sports, martial arts, language class, environmental club, volunteer work, etc. Hengte hian i fate chu sikul pawnah, an ngaihven inang, kum hrang hrang, leh sikul hrang hrang atanga lo kal, ṭhian siam theihna hun remchang a pe a ni. Tichuan school clique chu an khawvel awmchhun a ni dawn lo.
• Ṭhian ṭha tak leh rilru put hmang zirtîr rawh: I fa chu ṭhian hrisel, ṭha tak nei tûrin fuih rawh . Heng ``cliques''-ah hian inhnamhnawih lutuk lo turin zirtir rawh. Mi dangte rilru put hmang hrethiam tûr leh anmahni tâna thil dik ti tûrin zirtîr la, mipui hnung zui reng reng lo tûrin zirtîr rawh . "Midang zawng zawng an zuang lut lai hian tuikhuah chhungah kan zuang lut ngai lo," tih mai maiin zirtir rawh.

I fa hnenah heng ``cliques'' te hi a inthlak rang thei hle tih i hrilhfiah thei a, tunlaia pawl awm hi naktuk hian a bo mai thei tih i hrilhfiah thei a, chuvangin ṭhian tha, rinawm leh hriatthiamna nei tak neih hi a pawimawh tak zet a ni Mi zawng zawng lar leh duh tak tak nih theihna thuruk lian ber chu midangte nena inhmelhriat duh ang chi nih hi a ni.

A tawp berah chuan hriat reng tur tlemte (Take-Home Message) .

Chuvangin, tunah chuan he `(Clique)` hian naupang nun a nghawng dan te, harsatna a thlen theih dan te, kan hmachhawn dan tur te hi ngaihtuahna tha tak in neih ka beisei. Naupang tin hian an nunah engtik lai pawhin hetiang thil tawn hi an hmachhawn thin tih hre reng ang che. A pangngai a ni. A pawimawh ber chu i fate nen inhawng taka inbiakna neih a, an thusawi ngaihthlak a, an thlawpna, hmangaihna leh ngaihsakna i nei tih hriattir fo hi a ni.

• Ṭhian nihna hi a pawimawh hle a, mahse ``(Cliques)'' tih nawrna leh dan tul lo tak hnuaiah i intulût a ngai lo.
• I fa chu a dik nia a hriat, mahni chhia leh tha hriatna ang zela ti turin fuih fo ang che.
• Mi dangte chu ngilnei taka cheibâwl tûr te, zah taka enkawl tûr te, mi dangte rilru put hmang hrethiam tûrin zirtîr rawh.
• I fain harsatna a neih chuan, chu chu sawipui tûrin fuih la, ṭanpuina dîl bawk ang che. Hei hi nangmah emaw, zirtîrtu emaw, an rin puitling dang emaw aṭangin a ni thei.

Heng thilte hi ngaihtuah chungin, i fate chu heng khawtlang inpawhna buaithlak tak takte hi hlawhtling taka kalpui turin i pui thei ngei ang. Tichuan, an tân ṭhian hrisêl, hlim tak, leh nghet tak siam chu a awlsam zâwk ang. Nang leh i fate tan vanneihna!

` Naupang inṭhianṭhatna, sikul gang, ṭhiante nawrna, nu leh pa thurawn, pawl, khawtlang nun thiamna