Hlim taka nun theihna thuruk? (Positive Psychology) chungchang hi kan sawi dawn em ni?

Hlim taka awm kan duh vek a ni lawm ni? Mahse a chang chuan hlimna hi kan chunga lo thleng, kan thunun theih loh thil niin kan ngai thin. 'Ka dinhmun hi a danglam thei a nih chuan ka hlim lehzual ang!' I rilruin i lo ngaihtuah tawh ngei ang. Mahse, chutiang chuan hlimna hian hna a thawk tak tak em? Research atanga a lan dan chuan mi pakhat hlimna tlemte chauh (10% vel) chu an dinhmun a zirin a innghat a ni. Chuti a nih chuan, kan hlimna tam zawk hi khawi atanga lo chhuak nge? Hemi chungchang hi tlem tal thuk zawkin han sawi ila.

Hlim takin kan piang em? Nge hlimna kan nei thei ang em?

Mi thenkhat chu an piang hlim deuh thin a ni lawm ni? Chu chu, chu mize hlim tak chu an miziaah a tel tihna a ni . Mi nuihzatthlak leh beisei nei reng mi kan hre vek. An hlim em em avang hian an tan hlim a awl hle. Ngaihtuah teh, ṭhian i nei a, eng harsatna pawh lo thleng se, nui chungin a en a, ‘Awle, hei pawh hi i chinfel ang u,’ a ti a. Chutiang mi chu a ni. Chuti a nih chuan, thinrim rang deuh, engkim a dik lohna hmu duh mize neia piangte chu engtin nge an awm? Mihring leh thila tlin lohna chu a tha lam aiin an hmu thei fo thin. An rilru put hmang chu hlimna aiin lungkhamna a ni thei fo. Mahse, a pawimawh ber chu, an duh chuan (tu nge hlim duh lo, a dik em?) chutiang dinhmunah chuan an lo kal thei bawk. Chu chu, hlimna hi eng emaw chen kan tihhmasawn theih leh kan tihhmasawn theih thil a ni tihna a ni.

Hlimna chu kan kutah a awm takzet!

Kan hlimna 50% aia tam chu kan thunun theih tak tak thilah a innghat tih zirchiangtute chuan an hmuchhuak tih i hria em? Hei hi chanchin lawmawm tak a ni tak zet! A chhan chu tu pawhin an duh chuan an hlim zawk thei tihna a ni. Kan hlim zia a tam zawk chu kan ``rilru'' (thil kan thlir dan, kan ngaihtuahna), kan tih dan leh kan nitin nun dan a\angin a innghat a ni. A awlsam zawngin, zing i thawh atanga zan i mut thlengin thil tenawm tak tak i tih leh i ngaihtuah te hian i hlimnaah nghawng lian tak a nei a ni. Hlimna atana thil tul pawimawh ber berte chu eng nge ni tih kan zir hian hlim zawka kan awm theih nan kan hmang thei a ni.

Engvângin nge hlimna hi a pawimawh êm êm?

Hlimna chu rilru hahdamna emaw, nuihzatthlak hmel sen emaw chauh a ni lo. I nun chu nuam i ti tak zet tih hriatna a ni a, chu chu a tha thei ang bera hman duhna a ni bawk. Hlimna hi ‘magic’ ang mai a ni a, chu chuan kan theihna zawng zawngah min vawng reng a, kan theihtawp chhuah turin min pui a ni. Mi hlim tak takte an zirchian huna zirchiangtute thil hmuhchhuah chu hetiang hi a ni:

• Mi hlimte hi an hlawhtling zawk. An hnathawh a\angin result \ha zawk an hmu \hin.
• Mi hlimte hi thil tum tihhlawhtlinna kawngah an thiam hle . An thil tum chu an tihlawhtling thin.
• Mi hlimte hi an hrisel zawk a, natna an tuar tlem zawk.
• Mi hlimte chu an dam rei zawk.
• Mi hlimte hian midang nena inzawmna tha zawk an nei thin . Chhungte leh ṭhiante nen inzawmna nghet zawk an nei a ni.
• Mi hlimte chuan lehkha an zir thiam zawk a, thil thar zir pawh an awlsam zawk.

I hmu em, hlimna hian hlawkna tam tak a nei!

Chuti a nih chuan, nun hlim tak neihna atana thil tulte chu engte nge ni?

Hlimna hi kan nunah a pawimawh em em a, chu chu zirchianna field pum pui a awm a, chu chu positive psychology tih a ni. Hemi lama mithiamte chuan mi hlim zawka siamtu thil pawimawh thenkhat an hmuchhuak a. An chanchin chu pakhat hnu pakhatin kan sawi dawn em ni?

1. Ngaihtuahna \ha tak tak

Lawmna. Lawmna. Hmangaihna. Mak ti. Hlimna. Inkhelh thiamna. Humor a ni. Fuihtu. Lainatna. Ring. Thil siam chhuah thiamna. Duhzawng. Thathona. Hlimawm. Thlamuang takin a awm. Hetiang positive emotion neih hi kan duh vek a ni lawm ni? Pangpar mawi tak kan hmuh lai te, naupang te tak te nuihzatthlak tak tak kan hmuh te, kan thianpa hnen atanga tanpuina kan dawn te kan hlimzia te hi han ngaihtuah teh. Thil tha tih mai bakah hian positive emotion hian kan thluak leh taksa tan thil tha tam tak a ti a ni. They reduce our stress hormones , rilru lam dinhmun, lungkhamna leh lungngaihna te tihziaawmna atan an pui a, kan taksa hriselna a tichak bawk.

Nitin emotion tha tlemte pawh kan tawn hian kan hlimna leh kan damna kawngah nghawng lian tak a nei a ni.

Chuvang chuan positive taka kan inhriat theihna tur thil tih hi a pawimawh em em a ni. Heng rilru put hmangte hi thil awlsam tak tak, naupang emaw, ran vulh emaw nena inkhelh te, pawn lama hmun mawi takah kal te, hla duh ber ngaihthlak te hian a siam thei a ni. Tin, kan rilru natna (negative emotions) enkawl dan tur hriat hi hlimna atan a pawimawh hle bawk. Lungngaihna, thinrimna leh hlauhna ang chi rilru natna harsa tak takte hi nunah a tel ve a ni. Mahse kan hmachhawn dan, kan thunun dan hian danglamna zawng zawng a siam a ni.

2. I chakna leh i ngaihven zawngte

Kan chaknate chu kan thiamna leh tih duh zawngte hi a ni. Chakna kan nei vek a, kan la hmuchhuak lo chauh pawh a ni mai thei. Chakna te chu:

• Kan ngaihven thil - entirnan, music, art, science, thil siam, chaw siam, lehkhabu chhiar.
• Talent kan neih apiang - lemziak, musical instrument tum, infiamna, tawng mawi tak tak ang chi te.
• Kan mizia tha - ngilneihna, nuihzatthlak, midang tanpui, hruaitu nihna ang chi te.

Chakna kan hmuh a, kan practice hian hlimna a pung zel a ni. Chakna kan practice tam poh leh kan thiam zawk a, a tawpah chuan chutiang lama mithiam kan nih thlengin.Ngaihtuah teh, lemziak i ngaina a, i thiam bawk. Lehkha i ziah hian, i zirlai lai emaw, chawlh ni emaw pawh nise, hun engzat nge a liam tih pawh i hre lo, a dik em? Hnathawh tur i ngaihtuah lutuk avangin i chhehvela thil dang zawng zawng chu i theihnghilh vek a ni. Chu chu psychology-in ‘flow’ a tih chu a ni. Hetiang ‘flow’ dinhmun i tawn hian i hlimna tipung turin a pui thei che a ni. Nitin i chakna hman dan tur zawn hi nun hlim tak neih nan a pawimawh hle.

3. Inzawmna tha

Kan nunah mite hi an pawimawh em em a ni. Kan nu leh pate, kan unaute, kan thiante, kan zirtirtute leh a dangte hmangaihna leh \anpuina hi kan ngai pawimawh hle. Inlaichinna \ha hi hlimna, hriselna leh damna \ha ber a ni. Rilru lama thiamna ṭhenkhat neih chuan inlaichînna ṭha siam leh vawng reng tûrin min ṭanpui thei a ni. Kan nunah mipuite kan tanpui a, anni pawhin min puih hian kan chhel zawk a, kan rilru a na zawk a, kan hlawhtling zawk bawk. Inlaichinna tha siam tura min puitu thiamna thenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni:

• Kan rilru put hmang hriatthiam leh a dik taka sawi chhuah zir .
• Mi dangte rilru put hmang hriatthiam nâna lainatna hman.
• ngilneihna lantîr . Thil tha tlemte pawh tih.
• Mi dangte ṭanpuina emaw, ngilneihna emaw avânga lâwmthu sawina lantîr. "Ka lawm e" tih hi tih danah siam rawh.
• Kan rilru put hmang nena inmil leh midangte tana lungawi lohna thlen lo tura kan ngaihdan chiang taka sawi chhuah theihna (assertiveness) tihhmasawn.

4. Nun awmzia leh tum zawng zawng

Kan nun hi nitin hna leh mawhphurhna hrang hrangah a buai thei a. Mi tam tak chu multi-task kan nih avangin hmalam kan pan nghal mai thei a, khawiah nge kan kal leh tur tih kan ngaihtuah a ni mai thei. Mahse tlem tal slow down a, kan thil tih leh kan tih chhan ngaihtuah hian hlimna a siam thei a ni. I thil tih hian nghawng a neih dan ngaihven rawh. He khawtlang leh khawvelah hian engtin nge danglamna i siam theih ang tih ngaihtuah rawh (a lian emaw, a tlem emaw). I tana pawimawh tak takte chu nunpui rawh. I tana thil pawimawh tak tak (midang tanpui, rannung chunga ngilneihna, boruak humhalh ang chi) ngaihtuah turin hun hmang rawh.

Engtin nge khawvel hi hmun tha zawka siam i duh ang? Chu lam hawi zawnga kawhhmuh theitu nitin thiltih tenau eng pawh ngaihtuah rawh. Zing lama savate chaw pek emaw, rannung vakvai tui in tur emaw ang chi thil tenawm tak pawh hian i nun awmzia a pe thei a, i hlimna a tipung thei bawk.

5. Hlawhtlinna

Kan nun chu rilru put hmang \ha tak tak te, inlaichinna \ha te, chakna zir theih te, leh thil tum neia hriatnain a khat chuan thil tihlawhtling turin kan inpeih reng a ni. Tum siam leh tihhlawhtlinKan chakna kan dahna tur thil min pe a ni. Engtin nge danglamna kan siam theih tih min kawhhmuh a ni. Ngaihtuah teh, exam pass theihna tur thiltum i siam a. Chumi atân taima takin zir la, chu thiltum tihhlawhtlinna hlimna chu hre rawh! I tana pawimawh thilte chu ngaihtuah ber rawh. Engpawh tum la, famkimna beisei lovin theihtawp chhuah rawh. Engkim hi a hlawhtling nghal vek dawn lo. A tir lamah thil a kal tha lo a nih chuan beiseina nei tha la, tum leh rawh. Nangmah leh i mumangte ring rawh. I duhthusam tihhlawhtlin nan thil tum tak tak leh action step tenau tak tak siam rawh. Entirnan, lehkhabu lian tak i tih zawh duh chuan ni khata phek tlemte chhiar ang chi thil tum tenau tak tak siam rawh. Hlawhtlinna nuam zawka siam turin i hmangaih mite nen lawmpui rawh.

Chuti a nih chuan, engtin nge kan hlim lehzual theih ang?

Okay, so you can manage your mindset , calm your mind , become more confident , use your strengths, build your self esteem , i thil tih nuam tih te, inlaichinna tha tak nei te, leh hlim zawka awm te. Chu chu ngaihtuah tur tam tak a ni! Vawi khatah i ti vek thei lo. Mahse a te te atang khan i tan thei a, thil pakhat i thlang thei bawk. Eng thil tum pawh thlen theihna kawng tha ber chu thiltih tenau, chiang tak tak atanga tan hi a ni. Entirnan, zing tin minute 10 chhung exercise i duh chuan chuta tang chuan tan la rawh. Heng thilte hi hun engemaw chen i tih hian tih danah a lo chang ta a ni - ngaihtuah lova i tih thin. Chutah chuan nitin nunphung thar siamna kawng i zawh leh tur chu a ni. Tum tenau leh bikte tihhlawhtlinna hian hlimna nasa tak a thlen thei che a ni!

Vawiin atanga hriat reng tur pawimawh ber berte

Chuvangin, tunah chuan hlimna hi thil pek mai mai a ni lo tih i hrethiam ta a, thawhrimna leh hriatna nena kan tihhmasawn tur thil a ni, a dik em?

• Kan hlimna tam tak chu kan kutah a awm a: kan ngaihtuahna, kan thil tih dan leh kan tih dante thlak danglamin kan hlimna kan tipung thei a ni.
• Emotion \ha lo luang chhuak turin phal rawh: Nitin thil tenawm tak tak, hlimna, thlamuanna, leh ngaihvenna thlen thei che ti rawh. Hla mawi tak ngaihthlak emaw, ṭhian nena nuih dun emaw pawh a ni thei.
• I chakna zawng la, hmang rawh: I thiamna leh i duhzawng tihnaah hian lungawina nasa tak a awm a. Midang tanpui hi i chakna a nih chuan ti rawh.
• Inlaichinna \ha hi a hlu hle: chhungte leh \hiante nen hun hmang la, \anpui la, \anpuina la rawh. I inzawmnate chu tichak rawh.
• Nunna awmzia belhchhah: I thil tihte hian khawvel tana thil tha tlem a ti nia i ngaih a, i nun hian tum a nei nia inhriat hi a nuam hle.
• Tlemte atanga tan: Vawi khatah inthlak danglamna lian tak siam tum suh. Thil tih dan pakhat, thiltih pakhat thlang la, zawi zawiin siam\hat rawh.

I hlimna siam chu i kutah a awm tih theihnghilh suh! Tlemte thawhrimna hi a phu tak zet a ni. I chak zawk!

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Hlimna, Hriselna, Positive Psychology, Rilru hriselna, Nun thiamna, Emotion Management, Inlaichinna