I ni chu engtin nge a kal? Hun engemaw chen chu chawlhsan la, vawiinah i thil tawnte ngaihtuah rawh. I theih chuan pen leh lehkha la la, thil thleng hriatreng tlak tlemte ziak rawh. I thuziah kha han en teh ang.
Chuti a nih chuan, i ngaihtuahna chu eng nge ni? I ni chu hun ṭha tam zawkin a khat em? “Vawiin chu a ropui hle mai!Ka pi chuan chawhmeh atan pittu tui tak a siam a, sikulah ṭhiante nen hun kan hmang a, English hunlai chu a nuam hle!” A nih loh leh, i rilru chuan thil kalsualte chu a ngaihtuah ber em? Like, “Ka pi chaw siam hian min ti tlai a, bus ka tlai a, ka thiante chuan chawhmeh ei laiin TV show boring tak tak an sawi fo bawk. Plus, English kan nei bawk!Thawhlehni hi ka duh lo tak zet!” Hêng thilthlengte i hrilhfiah dân hian awmzia pawimawh tak a keng tel a ni.
Optimism leh Pessimism tih hian eng nge kan sawi tum?
A awlsam zawngin sawi ila, optimism leh pessimism hi khawvel hriat dan leh ngaihtuah dan hrang hrang pahnih a ni. Anni hi a bulpui berah chuan rilru hrang hrang an ni .
Optimist chuan thil êng lam a zawng fo thin. Thil \ha tak tak an beisei a, thilthlengte chu a \ha zawka nghawng thei tur thiamna leh agency an nei tih an ring bawk. An thiltih danah hian, “Hei hi ka tuar thei,” tih ngaihdan hnuaia awm a ni.
Kawng lehlamah chuan, mi mal, tlin lohnate ngaihtuah duh emaw, engkim chu a ṭha lo zawnga en duh emaw chu “pessimist” kan tihte hi an ni. Beiseina nei mi chuan thil a kal sual dawn tih a lo thlir lawk fo va, hlawhchhamna emaw, harsatna emaw a ngaihtuah fo thin. “Hei hi a hlawhtling lo mai mai” tih ngaihtuahna nghet tak chuan an rilru a luah khat fo thin.
Mahse, tumah hi beiseina nei leh beidawng tak tak an awm reng reng lo tih hriat a pawimawh. Spectrum-ah hian khawi emaw laiah kan tlu vek a ni. Thu lawmawm ber chu, beidawnna lam hawia innghat mah la, chutah chuan i awm reng a ngai lo! Kan ngaihdan thlak danglam leh beiseina nei zawk kan nei thei vek a ni. Zir theih thiamna a ni.
Engvângin nge beiseina nei taka ngaihtuahna chu i tân a hlâwkpui êm êm?
Researcher leh scientist-te chuan kum tam tak chhung chu mimal beisei nei tak takte an zirchiang tawh a. An thil hmuhchhuah ang chuan, beiseina nei reng chuan hlim taka awm rengin , nunah hlawhtlinna i nei a, hrisel zawka awm reng turin a pui che a ni.
Thil beisei awm tak ngaihtuahnain a hlawknate hi han ngaihtuah teh:
- Mental Hrisel : Optimism hian shield angin hna a thawk a , chu chuan depression ang chi condition lakah a venghim thei che a ni . Chutiang dinhmunah chuan duhthusam i nei a nih pawhin, beiseina ṭha tak chu invênhimna pawimawh tak a ni thei a ni.
- Stress Resilience: Ngaihtuahna ṭha tak chuan nun nawrna, a nih loh leh lungkhamna tuar thei tûrin chakna a pe che a ni. Buaina a lo chhuah chuan, i rilru chuan hlauhthawn ai chuan, thil awmdan thlir dan dang a zawng zawk thin.
- Dam rei: Mak i ti mai thei a, mahse zirchianna chuan beiseina neia ngaihtuahna chuan dam rei zawk pawh a pui thei tih a tarlang. Nun hrisel, hlim tak neih theihna tur hmanraw ropui tak a ni.
- It’s a Learnable Skill: A tha ber chu, i ngaihtuahna chu historically pessimistic ni mahse, optimism hi i zir theih leh i inzir theih tur thil a ni.
“Optimism hi ngaihtuahna mai a ni lo va, nun hrisel neihna kawngkhar a ni.”
Optimist leh pessimist-te chuan thilthlengte chu engtin nge an ngaih?
Optimism hi a tha lam hmuh emaw, thil tha beisei emaw chauh a ni lo. Thil thleng tawhte kan process dan leh kan hrilhfiah dan chungchang a ni.
Hetiang hian ngaihtuah teh: Thil tha a lo thlen hian, beiseina neitute chuan anmahni thawhrimna leh thiamna vang niin an sawi. An chakna chu anmahni taksa peng nghet, nghet tak angin an hmu a. He hlawhtlinna hian thil \ha zawk chhuah theihna kawng a hawn theih dan tur pawh an ngaihtuah bawk. Entîr nân, exam i pass chuan beiseina nei mi pakhat chuan, “Ka thawhrim vângin ka pass a ni. Heng thilte hi ka tihlawhtling thei a, hei hian a hnuah hna ṭha tak ka hmu thei ang,” tiin a ngaihtuah mai thei.
Conversely, thil a kal loh chuan ruahmanna angin , reaction a danglam thin. Optimist te hian anmahni an dem lo. Setback hi hun eng emaw chen atan an ngai . Thil engemaw a kalsual chuan, beiseina nei chuan mimal hlawhchhamna pianpui aiin dinhmun bik nen a thlunzawm zawk a ni. Heng setbacks te hi an internalize loh avangin pessimist te aiin beidawnna atanga bouncing back an thiam zawk hle.
He entîrna hi han ngaihtuah teh: Nimal leh Supun-a te hian school basketball team-ah an inhmachhawn ve ve a. An pahnih hian cut an siam lo. An pahnih hian an beidawng a, mahse an thiltih dan erawh a inang lo.
Nimal hi beiseina nei tak a ni. Heti hian a ngaihtuah: “Tryout-ah hian mi thiam tak tak an awm nual a, spot tlemte chauh a awm bawk. Practice nasa tak ka nei a, ka khel tha hlein ka hria! Coach hian feedback tha tak min pe a, tun season-ah hian a sawi area hrang hrangah hna ka thawk ang a, game tin ka en ang. Chu chuan nakkumah chance tha zawk min pe dawn a ni,” tiin a ngaihtuah.
Chu chu i hmu em? Nimal hian a mimal hlutna ni lovin, dinhmun bik a ngaihtuah zawk a ni. Hei hi dinhmun nghet takah a ngai lo. Nakkumah team siam a beisei a, a tih dan tur pawh a ruahman fel tawh.
Supun hian beidawnna lam a hawi thin. Ani chuan heti hian a ngaihtuah: “Ka thleng thei lo hi thil mak a ni lo—tryout-ah khan player chhe ber ka ni a, coach pawhin min duh lo mai thei. Ka tan chuan engmah a kal dik ngai lo. Player tha ka ni lo tih hi ka pawm mai tur a ni,” tiin a ngaihtuah a ni. Nimal ang lo takin Supun hian setback hi mimal takin a la a ni. Amah leh amah a mawhpuh a, pawn lam thiltihtheihna (coach, nunna) te chuan a chungah hna an thawk niin a hria. Chu aia pawi zawk chu he event pakhat chauh hian a athletic theihna zawng zawng chu zawhna a siam tir a ni.
Tunah chuan, min hrilh teh: tu nge rei zawk beidawng reng mai thei? Tute nge training leh tum leh duh zawk? Tin, tute nge bânsan mai mai a rinawm? A chhanna chu a chiang a ni lawm ni?
Engtin nge optimistic thinking hian i resilience a siam ?
Optimistic thinking chuan thilthleng lungchhiatthlak tak takte chu hun eng emaw chen atana thil thleng angin min entîr a, chu chuan kan hneh thei tih rinna min pe a ni. Hei hian beidawng lovin beih nawn leh tura kan tumruhna a tichak zawk a ni. Kan thil tum leh duhthusamte a nung reng a, kan tumruhna a tichak bawk. Chuvângin, mi mal beisei nei tak takte chuan an dinhmun chu thunun thei zâwk niin an hria a, mahni inngaihhlutna pawh a sang hle tih a chiang hle. Mahni inrintawkna dik tak an nei a ni.
Kawng lehlamah chuan, beidawng taka ngaihtuahna chuan beidawnna leh hnawlnate chu mimal anga ngaih tûrin min chêttîr a ni. Event passing aiin permanent fixture angin a lang zawk. Ngaihtuahna (pessimistic outlook) chuan dinhmun pakhata thil ṭha lote chu a tichak a, thil ṭha eng pawh chu a khuh bo fo ṭhîn. Beisei ang taka thil a kal loh chuan he rilru put hmang hian tuar harsa tak a siam a ni.
Optimism hi rose rawng glass hmanga engkim hmuh mai mai a ni em? (Realistic Optimism) tih a ni.
Ni lo, chu chu a awmzia a ni lo. Optimistic nihna hian engkim hi rose rawng glasses hmanga en emaw, nun hi thawnthu ang maia inlan emaw a ni lo. Optimist te hian nun harsatna hi an ngaihthah lo va, engkim hi a famkim angin an inlan hek lo. Chu ai chuan eng dinhmunah pawh thil \ha hriat chhuah leh thil siam \hatna tura hma an lak theihte hriat chian chu an ngaih pawimawh ber a ni.
Optimists possess true confidence , chu chu inbuatsaihna atanga lo chhuak a ni. Exam harsa tak pass tur chuan taima taka zir a ngai tih an hrethiam a, chutiang bawkin basketball team siam tur chuan inpekna neia practice a ngai tih an hriat ang bawkin.
A awlsam zawngin sawi ila, beiseina hi thiltih lam hawi a ni. Positive thinking leh grounded realism inkara balance hrisel tak zawn chungchang a ni.
Pessimism touch hi a ngai tak tak em?
Ngaihtuahna beidawng tak chuan a tikhawtlai thei che a—chu rilru put hmang chu i thlak danglam thei tih hriat a pawimawh bawk—chu chuan ngaihtuahna ṭha lo zawng zawng chu i tihbo vek a ngai tihna erawh a ni lo.
A châng chuan, “Eng nge dik lo?” thubuai pakhat dik taka kan hriat theih nân min ṭanpui a ni. Hlauhawm lo awm thei ngaihtuah hian a ṭul lo taka chhiatna lakah a humhim thei tak zet che a ni.
Hetiang hian han ngaihtuah teh: I unaupa chuan khawi emaw laiah a khalh laiin text a rawn thawn che a. I negative, cautionary instinct chuan heti hian a vaukhân che a ni: “Hei hi a him lo!” Chutah chuan a himna tur chauh ni lovin, i himna tur atan pawh chawlhsan turin i ngen a ni. Hetih lai hian ngaihtuahna beidawng tak (“Driving laiin a text a nih chuan accident kan tawk thei”) leh beiseina nei tak thiltih (“Hei hi tihtawp tumin thil ka tih theih a awm tih ka hria.”) i inzawm khawm a ni.
Engmah kal dik lo ang maia hmun harsa tak tak kan paltlang vek a ni. I beidawng hunah, i rilru put hmang pawm a, thil dik lo sawiho chu a ṭangkai hle. I rintlak mi nêna inbiakna chuan i rilru phurrit chu a tiziaawm thei a, thil awm thei beiseiawm tak takte chu i ngaihtuah leh theih nân a ṭanpui thei bawk che a ni. A pawimawh ber chu buaina ngeiah hian inkhung tlat loh hi a ni. Hei hi i enkawl chuan ngaihtuahna tha lo pawh hian hmalam panna tur catalyst a ni thei.
Engtin nge beiseina nei lehzual i nih theih ang?
I pianphungah ngaihtuahna beidawng zawk lam i hawi tih i hmuh chuan, thil ṭha hmu chhuak tûrin i inzirtîr thei a ni. I tih theih tur tlemte chu hetiang hi a ni:
- Thil \hate chu hrethiam la, ngaihlu rawh. Ni tin tawp lamah minute 10 chhung hun hmang la, i lawmthu sawina thil tlemte chu ngaihtuah la, hriatchhuah rawh. Journal-ah ziak la, i phone emaw tablet emaw-ah motivational app hmang rawh. Thil tê tê pawh hi a pawimawh a ni—tûn laia mi pakhatin a nuihzat che ang hian.
- I rilru chu thil \ha lo chhuahnaah i nghawng thei tih ring turin zirtir rawh. Hlawhtlinna nei tûra i tih theih tûr thiltih chiang takte chu mahni inhriattîr chu practice rawh. Entîr nân: “Ka lehkha zir chuan grade ṭha tak ka hmu thei a ni.” “Practice ka tih chuan concert-ah hian ka perform tha hle ang.” “Chu volunteer group ka zawm chuan ṭhian thar ka hmu ang.”
- Thil a kal sual hunah mahni in dem suh. Thil ruahman angin a kal loh chuan i chhungril monologue kha ngaithla rawh. “Maths ka thiam loh vangin test ka fail” tih ngaihtuah ai chuan, “Ka lehkha zir tawk loh vangin ka fail a, chutiang chu ka thlen leh tawh lo ang,” tih hi tum zawk ang che. “Ka hlut loh avângin min kalsan” tih ngaihtuah ai chuan: “He inṭhenna hian a na chhan chu ka hrethiam a, mahse ka ṭhiante nêna hun kan hman hian ka rilru a hahdam ang,” tiin.
- Thil a kal dik chuan nangmah ngeiin credit pe rawh. Results tha tak i neih theih nan eng nge i tih kha han ngaihtuah teh. I inbuatsaih tha em? Inpekna nen i training em? I chaknate leh hlawhtlinna tura a puih dante hre rawh. “Hei hi ka ti a ni!”
- Hmasawnna chu hun eng emaw chen chauh a ni tih inhriat nawn tir rawh. Thil engemaw a kal dik loh chuan, chu chu a liam dâwn tih inhriat nawntîr la—chu chu a thlen theih nân ruahmanna siam rawh. Entîr nân: “Ka exam result chu ka beisei ang kha a ni lo va, mahse ka zir nasa lehzual thei a, exam pawh ka la leh thei bawk.”
- Mi dangte’n anmahni chungchâng an sawi dân chu en rawh. I ṭhiante leh chhungte chu beiseina nei emaw, beidawng emaw an ni em? Entirnan, i pa chuan, “Hot dog ka hal a, chutiang khawpa chaw siamtu hlauhawm tak chu ka ni!” a nih loh leh, “Ui-in squirrel a rawn um lai enin ka ngaihtuahna a buai avangin hot dog-te chu ka hal a ni!”
Heng tih dante hi i nunah telh tum ang che. A tir lamah chuan harsa i ti mai thei a, mahse practice i neih chuan a danglamna chu i hmu tan ang.
Take-Home Thuchah chu a ni
I hmuh angin optimism hi rilru put hmang zir theih a ni. Hei hian pessimism hi i unlearn theih thil a ni tihna a ni bawk !
Hetiang kalphung hian hun a duh a, chuvangin beidawng suh. Hêng ngaihtuahna kawng hnih hi i hriat chian chhoh zêl chuan, beiseina neih theihna tûr kawng tam zâwk i hmu chhuak ang. Mahni inhrilh tawn zel ang che, “Ka beisei phak lehzual thei a, ka practice zel ang!”
Step tenau apiang hi a pawimawh tih hre reng ang che. I ngaihdan thlak danglam tura i theihtawp chhuah apiang hian hlimna, hlawhtlinna, leh hriselna nun chu a hnaih tir che a ni . Chuvangin, he zinkawng beiseiawm tak hi vawiin hian kan tan dawn em ni? Hei hi i nei ta!
