Engkim hi beiseina nei takin i hmu em? A nih loh leh beidawng takin? Hemi (Optimism) chungchang hi han sawi ila!

Vawiin engnge i an? He thuziak hi chhiar tawh lo la, vawiin a i chunga thil thleng thenkhat kha han ngaihtuah teh. A theih chuan pen leh lehkha la la, i hriat reng thil thleng bik tlemte ziak rawh. Eng thu nge i ziah tih i en ang u.

Chuti a nih chuan, engtin nge i ngaih? I ni chu thil thain a khat ber em? Thil pakhat, “Vawiin chu ni ropui tak a ni! Ka pi chuan chawhmeh a siam a. Sikul-ah ka thiante nen kan awm dun a, vawiin English period kha a rapthlak hle!” Nge i rilru chu hmun dik lo lamah a vakvai em? Thil pakhat, “Ka pi chuan chawhmeh a siam a, kei chu ka tlai a, bus pawh ka tlai hle. Ka thiante chuan chawhnu lam hun chu TV show boring tak ang chiah kha chhiarin an hmang a. Vawiin chu English a ni! Thursday hi ka duh lo tak zet a ni!”? Hetiang ngaihtuahna hi a awmzia a tam hle.

Optimism leh pessimism chu eng nge ni?

A awlsam zawngin, optimism leh pessimism hi thil thlir dan leh ngaihtuahna kawng hnih a ni. Kan rilru pahnih .

Optimist chuan thil êng lam a hmu fo thin. Engkim a kal tha vek an beisei. Tin, thil tha tihlawhtling thei tura talent leh theihna an nei niin an ngai bawk. "Aw, hei hi ka siam tha thei ang," tih rilru an nei fo thin.

Kawng lehlamah chuan, engkimah dik lohna zawng chhuaktu, engkim dum leh var-a hmu thinte chu “pessimist” kan ti a. Pessimist chuan thil a kal dik lo ang tih a ngaihtuah fo thin a, a nih loh leh thil kal dik lo an ngaihtuah fo thin. “Hei hi a hlawhtling dawn lo,” tih ngaihtuahna an nei fo mai thei.

Mahse hei hi a ni. Kan zingah tumahin beiseina nei reng leh beidawng reng reng kan awm lo. Mahse, heng ngaihtuahna pahnih zinga pakhat lam hi tlem kan hawi deuh vek thin. Thu lawmawm tak chu, beidawng lam hawi deuh pawh ni ila, chutiang chuan i awm reng a ngai lo! Kan thil thlir dan hi tlem kan thlak danglam thei a, tlem chuan beiseina sang zawk kan nei thei bawk. Kan zir theih thil a ni.

Engvangin nge positive taka ngaihtuah hi i tan a tha em em?

Researcher-te, chu chu scientist-te chuan optimist-te hi hun rei tak chhung an zirchiang tawh a ni. Ngaihtuahna ṭha neih hian hlimna , nuna hlawhtling, leh hrisel pawh ni thei tûrin min ṭanpui niin an sawi.

Ngaihtuah teh, thil \ha ngaihtuah hian heng hlawknate hi a pe che a ni:

• Rilru hriselna : Optimism chu depression , chu chu ``( depression``(Depression)`` ang chi dinhmun atanga humhim thei tur shield ang mai a ni. ``(Depression)`` vei hlauhawmna i nei mai thei, mahse thil tha ngaihtuah hian a veng thei a ni.
• Stress Resilience: Beiseina tha tak i neih hian nun nawrna tuar thei turin chakna nasa tak i nei a, chu chu ``Stress.`` Harsatna a lo awm chuan i hlauthawng lo va, kawng dangin i en zawk thin.
• Dam rei: Mak suh, thil \ha ngaihtuah hian mi an dam rei thei a, an dam rei thei tih hmuhchhuah a ni. Chu chu nun hrisel, hlim taka awm theihna tur kawng pawimawh tak a ni tihna a ni.
• Thil \ha nih zir: Heng zawng zawnga a \ha ber chu i ngaihtuahna chu \ha lo lam hawi duh mah se, thil \ha ngaihtuah i zir theih hi a ni. Training theih thil a ni.

“Optimism hi ngaihtuahna mai ni lovin, nun hrisel neihna kawngkhar a ni.”

Optimist leh pessimist-te chuan thilthlengte chu engtin nge an ngaih?

Optimism chu thil tha lam hmuh mai mai a ni lo va, thil tha beisei mai mai a ni lo. Thil thleng tawh ngaihtuah dan, hrilhfiah dan a ni.

Hetiang hian han ngaihtuah teh. When something good happens , optimists te chuan a tha em em theih nan eng nge an tih tih an ngaihtuah thin. An theihna chu anmahni taksa peng nghet, nghet tak angin an hmu a ni. Heng thil \hate hian thil \ha tam zawk neih theihna kawng a hawn dan te pawh an ngaihtuah \hin. Entîr nân, exam an pass ṭhat chuan beiseina nei mi pakhat chuan, “Ka lehkha zir nasat vângin ka pass a ni. Heng thilte hi ka ti thei a, hei hian hna ṭha zâwk ka neih theih nân min ṭanpui ang,” tiin a ngaihtuah mai thei.

Mahse, ruahmanna anga thil a kal loh chuan , a lam dang a awm bawk. Optimist te hian anmahni an dem lo. Setback hi hun eng emaw chen atan an ngai . Thil tihsual a awm chuan, beiseina neitute chuan anmahni theihna ni lovin, dinhmun emaw, thilthleng emaw bik vang niin an sawi. Setback hi mimal tlin lohna anga an hmuh loh avangin, beisei nei lote chuan beidawnna atanga an rawn bounce back thei zawk a, beidawngte aiin.

Entirna tlemte chu hetiang hi a ni. Nimala leh Supunu te pahnih hian school basketball team siam turin tryout an nei ve ve a ni. An pahnih hian team an siam thei lo. An pahnih hian an lungngai hle a, mahse an hmachhawn dan a inang lo.

Nimal hi beiseina nei tak a ni. Heti hian a ngaihtuah: “Trial-ah khan player thiam tak tak an awm nual a, team-ah hmun tlemte chauh a awm bawk. Chuvang chuan ka theih ang tawkin ka practice a, ka khel tha hlein ka hria!Coach hian feedback tha tak min pe a, a thusawi hi ka thawk chhuak ang a, tun season-ah game tin ka en ang. Chumi hnuah chuan nakkumah chance tha zawk ka nei ang.”

Hmu? Nimal hian mimal tlin lohna lam ni lovin, dinhmun bik lam a ngaihtuah zawk a ni. He dinhmun hi a awm reng angah a ngai lo. Nakkumah team siam theih a beisei tlat a, team siam theihna tura a tih tur a ngaihtuah tawh bawk.

Supun hi pessimistic lam hawi deuh a ni. Heti hian a ngaihtuah: “Ka hriatthiam loh hi thil mak a ni lo – trial-ah khan mi chak lo ber ka ni a, coach hian chutiang chuan min duh lo niin a lang. Ka tan chuan engmah a kal dik ngai lovang. Ka pawm a ngai, chutiang chuan player tha ka ni lo.” Nimal ang lo takin Supun hian he setback hi a mimal takin a la a ni. Amah leh amah a mawhpuh a, pawn lam thil (coach, nunna) te hian a chungah hna an thawk niin a ngai. What’s worse, he thil thleng pakhat hian a infiamna lama a theihna chu a ringhlel ta a ni.

Tunah chuan nangmah ngeiin ngaihtuah teh, heng pahnih zingah hian eng nge rei zawk lungawi lohna nei zawk? Tu nge practice tam zawk leh tum leh duh zawk? Tu nge bânsan duh zawk? A chhanna chu a chiang khawp mai, a dik em?

Engtin nge ngaihtuahna tha hian i chhelna a siam ?

Thil \ha ngaihtuah hian thil thleng beidawnthlak tak takte chu hun eng emaw chen atan kan hmu thei a , chu chu kan dam leh thei tihna a ni. Beidawng ai chuan beih nawn leh turin min tichak zawk a ni. Kan thil tum leh duhthusamte rilrua vawng reng theiin, chumi tihlawhtling tura thawhrimna min siamsak a ni. Chuvângin, beiseina nei mite chuan an dinhmun chu an thunun thei zâwk niin an inhria a, mahni inngaihhlutna pawh an nei sâng zâwk bawk . Mahni inngaihhlutna leh inrintawkna tha tak an nei a.

Kawng lehlamah chuan, beidawng taka ngaihtuahna chuan beidawnna leh hnawlnate chu mimal taka la turin min hruai a ni. An nihna tak aiin a awm reng angin a lang bawk. Beidawng taka thlirna kan neih hian dinhmun pakhata thil \ha lo lam kan ngaihtuah \hin a , thil \ha eng pawh chu a khuh bo \hin. Thil ruahman anga a kal loh chuan ngaihtuahna beidawng tak chuan tuar a harsa hle.

Hei hi engkim rosy tones-a hmuh hi optimism a ni em? (Realistic Optimism) tih a ni.

Ni lo, a ni lo. Optimism tih hian engkim hi fairy tale a ni tihna a ni lo va, engkim hi rosy tones-a hmuh a ni lo. Optimist-te hian harsatna an ngaihthah lo va, nunah engkim hi a famkim angin an inlan lo. Thil awmdan pakhata thil tha leh thil tha zawk siam tura an tih theihte chu an ngaihtuah ber thin.

Optimist te hian inrintawkna dik tak an nei . Chu chu an inbuatsaih vang a ni. Exam harsa tak pass tur chuan lehkha an zir nasa a ngai tih an hria. Practice lo chuan basketball team an siam thei lo tih an hria.

A awlsam zawngin sawi ila, beiseina (optimism) chu thiltih chungchang a ni. Thil tha leh ngaihtuahna dik tak inkara inthlauhna hrisel tak zawn hi a ni.

Ngaihtuahna (pessimistic) tlem tal i duh em?

Beidawng taka ngaihtuahna hian min hruai thla thei a – chuvangin rilru tha lo chu tihdanglam theih a ni tih hriat a tha. Mahse chu chuan ngaihtuahna tha lo zawng zawng i thai bo vek a ngai tihna erawh a ni lo.

A châng chuan, “Eng nge dik?” harsatna pakhat finfiah turin min pui thin. Eng thil nge dik lo thei tih ngaihtuah hian a ṭûl lo taka hlauhawmna pumpelh tûrin min ṭanpui thei a ni.

Hetiang hian han ngaihtuah teh. I unaupa chuan i lirthei khalh laiin a text che a. I rilru ṭha lo chuan heti hian a vaukhân che a: “Hei, hei hi a ṭha lo!” Chuvangin, a himna tur leh nangmah ngei pawhin titawp turin i hrilh a ni. Hetiang dinhmunah hian ngaihtuahna tha lo (“Tex ka text a, ka khalh chuan accident ka tawk thei!”) leh thiltih tha (“Hei hi tihtawp nan thil ka ti thei tih ka hria.”) nen i inzawm khawm a ni.

Hun harsa tak tak kan paltlang vek a, a chang chuan. Engmah a kal dik lo ang maiin a lang thei. Kan lungngaih lai hian kan rilru put hmang pawm a, thil dik lo sawipui hi a tha. I rintlak mi nêna thil sawihona chuan i rilru a hahdam thei a, i theihna ṭha tak takte chu a hriat nawntîr thei bawk che a ni. A pawimawh ber chu thil dik lo rut-a inkhung loh hi a ni. Chutianga i tih chuan, ngaihtuahna ṭha lote pawhin hma i sawn theih nân a ṭanpui thei che a ni.

Engtin nge tlem chuan kan beiseina sang zawk kan neih theih ang?

A tam zawkah chuan beidawng tak i nih duh chuan a tha lam hmuh thiamna i nei thei a ni. I tih theih tur thenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni:

• Thil \ha a lo thlen hian chhinchhiah la, ngaihlu rawh. Ni tin tawp lamah minute 10 chhung hun hmang la, chu ni chu ngaihtuah la, i lawmna tur thil tlemte zawng rawh. Journal-ah emaw, i phone emaw tablet emaw-a motivational app-ah emaw ziak rawh. Thil tenawm tak pawh ni se a pawimawh lo, "Vawiin khan mi pakhatin min nuihzat" tih ang chi hi.
• I nunah thil tha i thlen thei tih ring turin i rilru kha zirtir rawh. Hlawhtling tûra i tih theih thil chiang tak takte chu mahni inhriattîr chu practice rawh. Entîr nân: “Ka lehkha zir chuan grade ṭha tak ka hmu thei a ni.” “Ka practice chuan chu show-ah chuan ka ti tha hle ang.” “Chu volunteer program-ah chuan ka kal chuan ṭhian thar ka nei ang.”
• Thil a kal sual hunah mahni in dem suh. Beisei anga thil a kal loh chuan i lu chhunga aw hian eng nge a sawi? "Math test-ah ka fail a, a chhan chu math ka thiam loh vang a ni."Ngaihtuah ai chuan, “Chu test-ah chuan ka fail a, a chhan chu ka lehkha zir nasat tawk loh vang a ni. “Ka hmantlak loh em avangin Anuradha chuan min kalsan” tih ngaihtuah ai chuan, “Tunah chuan inthen chu a hrehawm em em chhan chu ka hrethiam ta a, mahse ka thiante nena hun kan hman hian ka rilru a hahdam leh ta zawk a ni,” tih ngaihtuah ai chuan.
• Thil tha a lo thlen chuan nangmah ngeiin chawimawina pe rawh. Results tha tak i hmuh theih nan eng nge i tih kha han ngaihtuah teh. Exam atan i inbuatsaih tha em? Taima takin i practice em? Eng chakna nge i hman a, engtin nge hlawhtlinna i neih theih nan a puih che tih ngaihtuah rawh. “Hetiang hi ka ti a ni!”
• Hmasawnna chu hun eng emaw chen chauh a ni tih inhriat nawn tir rawh. Thil engemaw a kalsual veleh a liam dawn tih inhriat nawn tir la – chu chu a thlen theih nan ruahmanna siam rawh. Entîr nân: “Ka A-level result chu ka beisei angin a ṭha lo hle a, mahse ka zir belh thei a, exam pawh ka la leh thei bawk.”
• Midangte’n mahni chanchin an sawi dan en rawh. I thiante leh chhungte hi positive nge negative? Entîr nân, i pa chuan, “Hot dog chu ka siam a, chaw siam thiam tak ka ni!” A nih loh leh, “Ui-in squirrel a rawn um lai enin ka ngaihtuahna a tihbuai avangin hot dog-te chu ka siam a ni!”

Heng tih dante hi i nunah zawi zawiin telh tum ang che. A tir lamah chuan harsa i ti mai thei a, mahse rei vak lo hnuah chuan a danglamna chu i hmuchhuak ang.

Chuvangin, take-home message hnuhnung ber chu:

Tunah chuan optimism hi ngaihtuahna zir chhuah a ni tih i hrethiam ta . Chumi awmzia chu pessimism hi kan thlahthlam thei bawk tihna a ni !

Hei hian hun engemaw chen a la ngai thei a, chuvangin beidawng suh. Hêng ngaihtuahna kawng hnih hi i hriat chian chhoh zêl chuan, zawi zawiin beiseina nei thei tûr kawng tam zâwk i hmu ang. Nangmah leh nangmah, "Ka beisei phak zawk thei ang, hei hi ka practice zel ang!"

Step tenau apiang hi a pawimawh tih hre reng ang che. I ngaihtuahna tihdanglam tumin theihtawp i chhuah apiang hian hlimna, hlawhtlinna, leh hrisêlna chu tlem a hnaihtîr che a ni . Chuvangin, vawiin hian he zinkawng tha hi i tan ang u! Tha takin le!