Nu leh pa te hi an fate thih hmaa thi tur a ni tih hi kan ngaihtuah vek a, kan sawi bawk. Mahse nun hi kan ngaihtuah angin "a kal tur" angin a kal ngai lo. A châng chuan, beisei loh takin, nu leh pate chuan anmahni fa ngei boralna tuar theih loh hrehawmna chu an hmachhawn a ngai . Thumal hmanga sawifiah theih loh pawi tak a ni.
Fa boralna lungngaihna chu eng nge ni?
Naupang boral avanga lungngaih hi zinkawng thui tak, harsa tak a ni. Lungngaihna stage hrang hrangte chu i hre tawh ngei ang. Mahse thudik tak chu, heng stage te hi a awm fo laiin, mi zawng zawng hian an lungngaih dan inang vek lo. Naupang lungngaih lai hian a danglam bik hle.
Chûng chhân lêtna tlemte chauh i tawng mai thei. Heng stage te hi a lo chhuak thei a ni. Stage tinah mi tinin hun an hman zat hi a inang lo hle. A châng chuan stage khat chu i tawng leh fo thei bawk.
Lungngaihna stage panga sawi fo thinte chu:
1. Hnialna
2. Thinrimna
3. Inremna (bargaining) tih
4. Lungngaihna
5. Hmuh theihna
Tunah chuan heng stage tinte hi chipchiar deuhin han sawi ila.
1. Hnialna
Hei hi lungngaihna hmasa ber a ni fo thin. A nihna takah chuan i thluak hian overwhelming shock atanga a humhimna che a ni. "Ni lo, chutiang chu a thleng lo," tih ngaihtuah emaw, i rilru put hmang chu hre lo anga inlan emaw a huam a ni.
| I chhungril lama i rilru put hmang | Pawn lam a lan dan |
|---|---|
| Hriat lohna (numbness ang chi) . | Hnathawh hun sawn a ni |
| Buaina, ngaihtuahna seng thei lo | Thil skip |
| Shock lian tak a ni | Thil theihnghilh |
| Engkim "shut down" ang maia inhriatna. | Thil danga inhmang a, ngaihtuahna tihdanglam |
| - . | Midang hnena "Ka tha" tih hrilh. |
2. Thinrimna
He thinurna hi tu chungah pawh, eng chungah pawh a ni thei. Nangmah emaw, Pathian emaw, doctor-te emaw, he thihna thlentu nia i hriat tu pawh chungah emaw a ni thei. A châng chuan he thinurna hi a dik thei a ni. Mahse thinrimna chuan i tanpui tur mipuite chu a hnaih tir mai ang.
| I chhungril lama i rilru put hmang | Pawn lam a lan dan |
|---|---|
| Thinrimna nasa tak, thinrimna | Nuihzatthlak takin thu a sawi |
| Huatna, thinrimna | Thil tha lo ngaihtuah fo thin |
| Dawhtheihna tlakchhamna | Thinrim reng reng |
| A zahthlak hle mai | Aggressive nih emaw, insualnaah emaw luh |
| Thunun theih loh anga inhriatna | Zu emaw ruihhlo emaw hman tam |
Hetiang hun lai hian, heng rilru natna nasa tak takte hi enkawl dan tha ber chu exercise lak te, midangte nena inzawmna siam te, leh therapy zawn te hi a ni.
3. Inremna (bargaining) tih
Hei hi Pathian nena inremna siamna lam a ni ngai lo. Vawi tam tak chu, hei hi i hmachhawn tur lungngaihna bulpui ber zawn tum hun a ni. "Engvangin nge hetiang hi kan chungah a lo thlen?" "Eng thil sual vangin nge he hremna hi ka hmuh?" Tin , a chhan i zawn laiin inthiam lohna nasa tak i nei thei bawk. "Chutih lai chuan chutiang chu ti ta ila..." tih leh "Hetiang hi ti ila..." tih ang chi ngaihtuahna te hian i rilru a luah khat thei a ni.
4. Lungngaihna
Hetiang dinhmunah hian thilthleng chakna famkim, hlohna hrehawmna, beidawnna leh lungngaihna nasa tak chu i hre tan tak zet a ni. Hei hi lungngaihna pangngai aiin a thuk zawk.
Lungngaihna avanga lungngaihna leh clinical depression hi thil hrang hrang pahnih a ni tih hre reng ang che. Mahse, lungngaihna avanga lungngaihna chu a na thei hle a, clinical depression-ah a kal thei a ni. I tuar thei lo a nih chuan doctor pan ngei ngei tur a ni.
Hetiang dinhmunah hian a lan chhuah dan tlangpui thenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni:
- Tap fo thin
- Mut inthlak danglam (mut loh leh mut tam lutuk) .
- Ei leh in lama inthlak danglamna (anorexia emaw ei tam lutuk emaw) .
- Khawtlang inpawhna lama ngaihvenna hloh
- Eng thil pawha motivation hloh
- Ruihhlo emaw zu emaw hman tam
5. Hmuh theihna
Hei hi i rilruin a tawpah he hlohna hi a process theihna tur leh a kal zel theihna tur stage a ni. Emotion dang (lungngaihna, thinrimna) i la nei thei a, mahse tun dinhmunah chuan thutlukna chi khat, inremna i siam ta a ni.
A pawm tih hian lungngaihna i nei lo tihna a ni lo va, i fa i theihnghilh tihna a ni lo. Thil tak tak chu i do tawh lo va, i pumpelh tawh lo va, chu chu i nunpui tan tihna a ni.
Engtin nge lungngaihna i hmachhawn?
Lungngaihna kawng dik pakhat mah a awm lo. Naupang boral hi a pawi hle a, chuvangin i lungngaihna zinkawng chu eng ang nge a nih dawn tih tumahin an sawi lawk thei lo. Mahse, lungngaihna hmachhawn dan ṭhenkhat chu a dang aiin a hrisel zawk a ni.
Thil hrisel lo tih loh tur
- Zu in tam lutuk emaw ruihhlo hman tam lutuk.
- Zu rui chunga lirthei khalh.
- Sum hman dan thunun loh (compulsive spending).
- Mipat hmeichhiatna lama nungchang hlauhawm tak.
- Mi dangte thunun tum emaw, mi tihduhdah emaw.
- Hoarding a ni.
- Mahni intihhlum leh mahni intihhlum tumna.Heng ngaihtuahnate hi i neih chuan doctor hmu nghal la, damdawi in Emergency Treatment Unit (ETU)-ah admit nghal rawh.
Lungngaihna hrisel taka hmachhawn dan tur tips
- I rilru natna zawng zawng chu i hriat theih nan phal rawh. Chu rilru natna chu inhnial mah se, "Hetiang hian ka inhriat duh lo" tia i ngaihtuah pawhin, chutiang zawng zawng chu ni rawh se. Chu chu a kalphung pakhat a ni.
- Journal siam rawh. I rilru put hmang ziak chhuah chu hriatthiamna leh chhuahtîrna kawngah ṭanpuitu lian tak a ni thei a ni.
- I lungngaihnaah hian hun bituk siam suh. "Tunah hian he thil hi ka paltlang a ngai" tih hi in nawr luih suh. Dam nan hun a duh a ni.
- I fa thi tawh hriatreng dan tur zawng rawh. Entîr nân, naupang piancham-a thilpêk pêk emaw, an duhzâwng thil tih emaw ang chi hnam dân i siam thei a ni.
- I support system kha hmang rawh. Chu chu i chhungte, i ṭhiante, sakhaw pawl emaw, lungngaihna thlawptu pawl emaw tihna a ni. He phurrit hi nangmah chauhin phur tum suh.
- Professional tanpuina zawng rawh. Hêng hmanraw hrisêl tak takte hian a ṭanpui lo va, hrisel lo taka hmachhawn dân i hman ang maia i inhriat chuan, lungngaihna damdawi zawn chu ngaihtuah rawh . Lungngaihna lama specialist counselor emaw psychiatrist emaw thiam tak hmuh a pawimawh.
Fa a chan hnua nun
"Hun hian hliam zawng zawng a tidam vek" tih thufing a awm a, mahse lungngaihna chungchangah chuan chu chu a dik vek lo. Eng ang pawhin hloh chu "pawm" mah la, i fa hloh hrehawmna nen chuan i nung reng ang. A chang chuan lungngaihna te, hlohna hrehawmna te, beidawnna te i nei ang.
Mahse, hun chuan i lungngaihna a tidam ang. I dam tan chuan natna chu a na lo ang a, a na lo ang. Nunphung tharah i insiamrem ang. I nun hian hma a sawn zel ang. Chutih lai chuan i fa hriatrengna chu i thinlungah hmun bik ah a awm reng ang.
Take-Home Thuchah a ni
- Naupang boral avanga lungngaihna hi mimal leh mimal zinkawng a ni hle. Chu chu hmachhawn dan "dik" leh "dik lo" a awm lo.
- Lungngaihna stage hrang hrangte hi thupek ruat sa a ni lo. Anni hi chhanna hmuh chhuah tlangpui mai an ni.
- I rilru natna zawng zawng (lungngaihna, thinrimna, sualna) chu rorelna tel lovin i hriat theih nan phalsak rawh.
- A tul chuan chhungte, ṭhiante leh ṭanpuitu pawlte hnen aṭangin ṭanpuina zawng rawh. Mahni chauhin hrehawm tuar suh.
- I lungngaihna i tuar harsa emaw, mahni intihchhiat tumna i neih emaw chuan i doctor emaw, rilru lam hriselna lama counselor emaw hnenah professional tanpuina zawng nghal rawh.
- Hmangaihna nena i fa hriat reng hi damna kawnga thil mawi tak a ni thei.
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