Ka haere koe ki te mahi i ia rā. Ka noho tahi koe me ō hoa me tō whānau i ngā mutunga wiki. Engari, kāore koe e mahi i ēnei mea katoa me te hihiri nui, engari nā te mea me mahi noa koe? Kāore koe e harikoa ana mō tetahi mea? Kei te tumanako koe ki te takoto ki te moenga i te mutunga o te rā, ka moe? He mōhio koe ki tēnei kōrero? Tērā pea kei te pāngia koe e te pouri, pērā i te pouri, engari kei te mahi tonu koe i ō mahi o ia rā me te kore e whakaatu i waho?
He aha tēnei āhuatanga e āhua 'pai' ana engari e mamae ana ki te wairua?
Ki te whakarapopototanga, koinei te mea e kiia nei e tātou ko te "Pouri Mahi-Nui". Ko tōna tikanga ahakoa he tohu pouri kei te tangata, ka taea e ia te haere tonu i roto i tōna oranga o ia rā me te kore ora. Me te mea kei te mahi noa koe pērā i te karetao, kāore he hiahia, he harikoa rānei.
I te nuinga o te wā, ka uaua ki te tangata e pāngia ana e te pouri nui te ara ake i te moenga. Ka wehe atu rātou i te hapori me ngā hoa. Tērā pea ka tīmata rātou ki te whakaaro mō te mate. Engari kāore tēnei āhuatanga e puta i te pō kotahi.
He tokomaha te hunga e mahi ana, e whānau ana, e pupuri ana i ngā hoa mō te wā roa me te pouri. Engari i tētahi wā, ka kore e taea te whakamanawanui. Nō reira, me pēhea koe e mōhio ai mēnā kei a koe ngā tohu o te pouri? Ko te mea tuatahi, ko te mea nui ko te kōrero ki tō tākuta mō tēnei mea, me te tiki i ngā tohutohu me te maimoatanga e tika ana.
He aha ngā tohu noa o te pouri?
Ehara i te mea he kare ā-pōuri noa iho te pouri. Ka pāngia hoki tātou e te tinana. Tirohia te tūtohi i raro nei kia kite ai mēnā kei a koe ētahi o ēnei tohu.
| Momo tohu | Whakaahuatanga |
|---|---|
| Ngā raruraru moe | Te kore e taea te moe i te pō, te nui rawa rānei o te moe. |
| Mamae tinana | Ngā mea pēnei i te mamae o te upoko me te mamae o te tuara e puta mai ana kāore he take motuhake. |
| ngoikore | Te ngenge tonu, te mangere ahakoa te mahi i ngā mahi nohinohi. |
| Te uaua ki te arotahi | He uaua ki te arotahi i tō hinengaro ki tētahi mea, pērā i te mahi, te pānui pukapuka rānei. |
| Ngā kare ā-roto hara | Te whakaaro koretake, me te pouri tonu mō ngā hapa. |
| Te ngaronga o te hiahia ki ngā mahi whakangahau o mua | Ko ngā mea i tino pārekareka ki ahau i mua (hei tauira, te mātaki kiriata, te whakarongo waiata, te tūtaki ki ngā hoa) kua ngaro atu ināianei. |
| Ngā huringa o te kai | Te ngaro ohorere o te hiahia kai, te kai nui rānei. |
Ki tō whakaaro ka pai ake tēnei āhuatanga māna ake?
He ngāwari te wareware i ēnei kare ā-roto, me te whakaaro, "Ka memeha haere tēnei pouri i roto i te wā." Engari ehara i te mea koinei te āhua. Ki te kore koe e aro ki tēnei āhuatanga, tera pea ka kino haere, kaua e pai ake.
Ko te taahiraa tuatahi ko te whakaae ki ngā mea e pā ana ki a koe. Kātahi ka mahi i ngā mahi matatau hei wikitoria i tēnei āhuatanga.
Ko te whakaaro o ētahi kāore he mea e taea e rātou te mahi mōna, me noho noa rātou me taua mea. He whakaaro hē tēnā. He maha ngā huarahi hei āwhina.
Nā, he aha te mea ka taea te mahi?
Āe, ko te mahi e whai ake nei ko te tāpiri i tētahi huringa iti ki tō momo noho. Ngāna ki te whakarerekē i tō mahinga o ia rā.
He pono, he uaua ki te mahi i ēnei mea ina pouri koe. He aha te ngāwari ake o te noho noa i runga i te tūru me te mātaki pouaka whakaata i te rā katoa i te haere ki waho ki te whakakorikori tinana? Engari me akiaki koe i a koe anō.
Whakaarohia te hainatanga me tētahi hoa ki te haere ki te whare takaro tinana. Kātahi ka rongo koe i te herenga ki te haere. Ā, i muri i tō mahi i taua tikanga hou, hoatu he utu iti ki a koe anō. Mahia tetahi mea e pai ana ki a koe.
Kia hoki anō ki te ao. Tērā pea ka taea e koe te tīmata anō ki te mahi i tētahi mea i arohaina e koe i tō tamarikitanga. Mā tēnei koe e āwhina ki te whakaora i tō ao.
Kia auaha koe. Whakaarohia ngā mea i pai ki a koe te mahi i ngā wā rerekē o tō koiora. Kāore tēnei āhuatanga i puta i te pō kotahi, nō reira ka roa te wā e hoki ai koe ki te āhua noa. Me manawanui koe ki tēnei.
Kaua e mahi noa i te 'whakaari' engari me rapu āwhina.
Ahakoa he nui te āwhina o ngā panonitanga o te momo noho me ngā mahi whakangahau hou, i ētahi wā kāore e ranea. He otinga kaha anō hoki te rongoā me te tohutohu.
Mena kei te haere koe ki te toro atu ki te tākuta, engari kei te kino haere tō āhua i ia rā, i ia rā, he tohu pai tēnā me whakaaro koe ki te rongoā. Kōrerohia tēnei ki tō tākuta me te kore e manukanuka.
He mea tino nui te whiwhi tautoko.
Tērā pea kei te tango rongoā koe, engari ki te mea kei te māuiui tonu koe, ki te whakaaro rānei koe kāore i te rawaka tāu mahere maimoatanga o nāianei, kōrero ki tō tākuta mō tēnā. Kaua e mataku, kaua hoki e whakama.
I ētahi wā, me te rongoā, ka hiahiatia pea ētahi atu maimoatanga. Anei ētahi atu huarahi hei āwhina i a koe ki te wikitoria i tēnei āhuatanga:
- Hono atu ki tētahi rōpū tautoko me te hunga kua pāngia e ngā wheako ōrite. He puna nui te kaha ki te kōrero ki te hunga e pāngia ana e ngā raruraru ōrite ki a koe.
- Whakapaua te wā ki ō hoa, kaua e noho mokemoke. Kōrerohia ō kare ā-roto ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe.
- Tuhia ō kare ā-roto ki roto i tētahi rātaka. Mā tēnei ka māmā ake te mārama ki te panonitanga o ō kare ā-roto, ā, ka whakamārama atu ki tō tākuta.
- Kia kaha te tinana. Ki te kore koe e hiahia ki te haere ki te whare takaro tinana, haere ki te hikoi i te pāka, ki te whai rānei i tētahi akomanga yoga. Ina whakakorikori tinana tātou, ka tukuna e ō tātou tinana ngā matū e kiia nei ko ngā endorphins, ā, koinei te mea e hari ai tātou.
Ina pōuri koe, kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakaari kei te pai koe. Kaua e mamae ko koe anake. Mā te kōrero pono ki tō tākuta mō ō kare ā-roto me ō mahi o ia rā ka nui te āwhina i a koe kia pai ake te āhua i te wā roa.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- Ahakoa kei te pouri koe, ka taea tonu te āhua noa i waho. Ka kiia tēnei ko te "high-functioning depression".
- Kaua e warewarehia ngā tohu pēnei i te raruraru moe, te mamae o te tinana, me te ngaro o te hiahia ki te mahi.
- E kore tēnei āhuatanga e pai ake i a ia anō. Ki te kore koe e aro atu, ka kino haere pea.
- Mā ngā whakarerekētanga o te āhua noho, te whakakori tinana, me ngā mahi whakangahau ka taea te whakaora.
- Ko te mea nui ko te rapu āwhina ngaio. Kōrerohia tēnei ki tō tākuta me te kore e māharahara.Rapua he tohutohu, he rongoā rānei.
- Kāore koe i te mokemoke. Whakapā atu ki ngā rōpū tautoko, ki ngā hoa, me te whānau mō te āwhina.
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