He wā anō kei a koe e whakaaro ana kei te mokemoke koe i te ao, kei te taumaha rānei te taumaha o tō ngākau? He pouri pea, he āhua rānei e mōhiotia ana e tātou katoa, he āhuatanga e kiia nei ko te 'Pouri'. Engari kei te mataku koe, kei te whakama hoki ki te kōrero atu ki te tangata tata rawa atu mō tēnei mea, kāore? Ko ngā pātai pēnei i te "He aha tā rātou e whakaaro ai mōku?", "Ka whakaaro rānei rātou koinei tōku ngoikore?" tērā pea ka puta ake ki tō hinengaro. Engari ko te mea pono, ko te kōrero atu ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe mō tēnei mea he taahiraa tino nui i roto i tō haerenga whakaora.
He aha tātou me kōrero ai ki tētahi e tata ana ki a tātou mō tēnei mea?
Ehara te pouri i te ngoikore o te hinengaro. He mate tūturu e tika ana kia rongoātia, pērā i te mate huka, te toto toto tiketike rānei. Engari he tokomaha te hunga e pāngia ana e tēnei mate. Mā te mamae takitahi ka kino ake te mate.
Whakaarohia te ngākau māhaki e pā ana ki a koe ina kōrero koe ki tō hoa pai, ki tō whānau rānei mō tēnei mate. Tērā pea kāore rātou i te mōhio nui ki tēnei mate. Engari mā te kī noa, "Kei a koe ahau" ka tino kaha ai koe. Ka rite ki te mea kua tangohia te haurua o te taumaha i runga i tō hinengaro i taua wā tonu.
Ina hoki, e kī ana ngā tohunga hinengaro ko te kōrero whānui mō tēnei mea ki te iti rawa i te kotahi te tangata e whakawhirinakihia ana e koe he wāhanga nui o te maimoatanga.
Engari i ētahi wā ka mataku tātou kei mārama ō tātou iwi ki tēnei. Tērā pea ētahi mātua e whakaaro ana, "He raruraru hinengaro ēnei, he mate ka taea te whakatau mā te whakaaro ki aua mate." Nō reira, me whakaaro koe ki te tangata e whiriwhiria ana e koe hei kōrero ki a ia mō tēnei mea. Tērā pea ko tō hoa pai, he tuākana, he teina, he hoa rangatira, he whanaunga tata rānei. Ko te mea nui ko taua tangata he tangata e whakarongo ana ki a koe me te kore e whakahē i a koe.
Me pēhea te tīmatanga o tāu kōrero mō tēnei mea?
E mōhio ana mātou ehara tēnei i te mea ngāwari, engari mā ēnei mahi koe e āwhina.
- Kōwhiria he wā pai: Kōwhiria he wā e taea ai e kōrua te kōrero noa, me te kore he mea hei whakararuraru. Kāore e taea e kōrua te kōrero mō tēnei momo mea i a kōrua e kōrero ana i te pouaka whakaata, ā, kei runga waea kōrua.
- Tīmata māmā: Kāore he take mō tētahi kauhau nui. Tīmata māmā me te mea pēnei i te, "Kei te pāngia ahau e tētahi wā uaua i ēnei rā. Me kōrero ahau ki a koe mō tēnei mea."
- Kōrerotia te pono, kaua e huna: Kaua e kīia he "hurihuri noa iho o te wairua." Ki te pāngia koe e te pouri nui, kōrerotia mai. Kia pono ō kare ā-roto, pērā i te "Kāore au e hiahia ki te mahi i ngā mea pēnei i mua," te "Kei te pouri, kei te ngenge tonu ahau."
- Kōrerotia ki a rātou te mea e tumanakohia ana mai i a rātou:Kāore pea koe e hiahia ki te kōrero. Ki te mea koinā, me kī atu. Ka taea e koe te kī, "Kāore pea au e hiahia ki te kōrero mō te wā roa, engari he whakatenatena nui te noho mai ki konei." Tērā pea kei te hiahia koe ki te mātaki i tētahi kiriata whakangā, ki te hikoi rānei. Me tono atu hoki kia haere mai rātou.
Me aha mēnā ka pā mai he āhuatanga ohorere?
He mea tino nui tēnei. Ki te mea kei te hoha koe ki te ao, kaua e huna . Ehara i te ngoikore, engari he wāhanga o tō mate.
Haere tonu ki te Tari Whawhati Tata (ETU) o te hōhipera. Mēnā rānei, tirohia tō tākuta i te wā e taea ai. Mēnā e tika ana, ka taea hoki e koe te waea atu ki te Pokapū Mōhiohio Paitini ā-Motu i te Hōhipera ā-Motu o Colombo mō ētahi tohutohu. He mea utu nui tōu ora. Kāore e roa rawa te tono āwhina.
He aha te tauhohenga a tō iwi?
Ina kōrero koe ki ō whanaunga mō tēnei, ka riri tonu rātou, ka whakahē rānei i tēnei mate "he porangi, he aha rā tēnā?" Nā te mea kāore pea rātou i te mōhio ki tēnei mate. Nō reira, kia rite mō ngā momo tauhohenga.
- "He mea tēnei e whakaarohia ana e koe, kia tere te puta atu": Ki te mea mai tētahi pēnei, ka taea e koe te kī mārire, "Mēnā ka taea e au, ko au te tuatahi ki te tere te puta atu i tēnei. Ka tere tonu taku ora, engari kia manawanui." Ā muri ake nei, ina pai ake koe, ka taea e koe te whakaako i a rātou mō tēnei mate.
- Te tuku tohutohu hē: Ka tuku tohutohu pea ētahi tāngata pēnei i te, "Me haere tāua ki te inu" me te "Me kaha ake koe." Whakamāramahia ki a rātou me te aroha he mea whakapōrearea te waipiro. Me kī atu ki a rātou kāore te "aroha uaua" e whai hua mō tēnei mate, ā, ka kino ake te āhuatanga.
- Homai te tumanako: Mā te kī atu i tētahi mea pēnei i te, "Kua tīmata taku maimoatanga mō tēnei. I kī mai te tākuta ka pai ake a mua," ka āwhina i te whakamama i ō rātou mataku.
Me pēhea te āwhina a tō iwi i a koe?
He maha ngā wā, e hiahia ana ō whanaunga ki te āwhina i a koe, engari kāore rātou e mōhio me pēhea te mahi. Anei ētahi mahi whai hua ka taea e rātou te mahi. Ka taea e koe te kōrero atu i ēnei mea ki a rātou.
| Te Āwhina | He aha te mea ka taea te mahi? |
|---|---|
| Tautoko mahi | Kia tino tangohia e koe tō rongoā i te wā tika. Kawea tāu tamaiti ki te tākuta. Ki te kore e taea e koe te kōrero, kōrero ki te tākuta me tō whakaaetanga, kia mōhio ai koe ki ngā taipitopito. |
| Te aroturuki i ngā huringa | Kia tūpato ki ngā panonitanga o tō whanonga (pai, kino rānei). Mā ēnei mōhiohio koe e āwhina ki te kōrero ki tō tākuta mēnā kei te whai hua te rongoā, kāore rānei. |
| Hei noho tahi me koe. | Ahakoa kāore he kupu, ko te mea nui ko te mōhio kāore koe i te mokemoke. He tino whakamarie te mōhio kei reira tetahi i a koe e pouri ana, e manukanuka ana rānei. |
| Te mōhiotanga mō te mate | Mea atu ki a rātou kia ako i a rātou anō mō te pouri mā te ipurangi, ngā pukapuka, ngā tuhinga pēnei rānei. Kātahi ka taea e rātou te mārama ake ki a koe. |
Hei whakamutunga, kaua e wareware ki te pātai ki te tangata e āwhina ana i a koe, "Kei te pēhea koe?" Ahakoa kei te uaua koe, ko te whakamahara i a koe anō kei te whakaaro koe ki tētahi atu he wāhanga o te haerenga whakaora.
Kāore he kare ā-roto pai ake, haumaru ake rānei i te mōhio kei reira tētahi hei tautoko i a koe.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- Ehara te pouri i te ngoikore nāu, he mate tūturu e tika ana kia rongoātia.
- He mea tino nui te kōrero mō tēnei ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe, ā, ka whakarongo mai ki a koe, i roto i te haerenga whakaora.
- Ki te mea kei te pōuri koe, kaua e huna. Tirohia he tākuta, haere rānei ki te Tari Whawhati Tata (ETU) o te hōhipera i taua wā tonu.
- Kaua e manukanuka mēnā kāore ō whanaunga e mārama ki tēnei i te tīmatanga. Hoatu he wā ki a rātou kia ako.
- Kōrerotia ki a rātou ngā huarahi whai hua hei āwhina i a koe. Kāore koe i te mokemoke.
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