Kua whakaaro koe, "Ka tau tēnei ki ahau?" i ia wā e hiahia ana koe ki te mau i te kākahu tino ataahua i roto i tō rūma kakahu? Tērā pea kei te pouri koe, kei te whakaaro kāore i te rawaka, mō te rahi, mō te āhua rānei o ō ū. He mea noa tēnei mō te tini o ngā wāhine. Ki ētahi tāngata ko te pokanga whakanui ū ( whakatō ū ) he otinga. Nō reira, he aha rawa tēnei? He aha tōna pānga ki tō oranga? Me kōrero noa tātou mō tēnei, me te mea kei te kōrero tātou ki tētahi hoa.
Te rerekētanga i waenga i ngā tumanakohanga me te mooni
Ko te pokanga whakanui ū, e mōhiotia whānuitia ana ko te "Whakanui Uma", tētahi o ngā pokanga whakapaipai rongonui o te ao i ēnei rā. He maha ngā wāhine e whiriwhiri ana ki te whai i tēnei tikanga hei whakapai ake i tō rātou whakaaro nui ki a rātou anō me te āhua o te tinana . Kua whakaatuhia e ētahi rangahau ka piki ake te whakaaro nui ki a rātou anō me te pai o te moepuku o ngā wāhine i muri i tēnei pokanga.
Heoi anō, he taha anō kei roto i te moni. Ehara i te mea he mea noa iho tēnei hei ātaahua. He pokanga nui tēnei. Nō reira, he mea nui kia kōrero koe ki tētahi tākuta i mua i te pokanga, kia mārama ai koe ki tō hauora hinengaro me tō hauora tinana. Nā te mea, kua kitea e ētahi rangahau ko ngā wāhine he raruraru hinengaro, he waranga waipiro rānei i mua i te pokanga, ka tūpono pea ki te whakamomori i muri i ngā tau maha o te pokanga. Nō reira, he whakatau tēnei me tino whakaaroarohia.
'Te Whakaahua Tinana' me te Pokanga Uma
Kāore ētahi wāhine taitamariki e puta he ū . I roto i te reo hauora, ko te micromastia te ingoa o tēnei mate. He papatahi ō rātou ū. Ka pā nui tēnei ki a rātou i te taha hinengaro. Tērā pea ka whakaaro rātou kāore rātou i te āhua rite ki te wahine.
Ko tētahi atu raruraru o ētahi wāhine taitamariki ko ngā ū kore taurite . Ko te tikanga he rerekē te rahi, te āhua rānei o ngā ū e rua. Tērā pea he nui ake, he iti iho rānei tētahi i tētahi. Nā tēnei ka whakama te nuinga o ngā wāhine nā te mea ka nui ake te āhua ahakoa he kākahu ō rātou.
He maha ngā wā ka whakaaro ēnei wāhine he hapa tō rātou tinana. He take whakaaro nui ake tēnei ki a rātou anō, kaua ki te whakaaro kāore tētahi wāhanga o ō rātou tinana i te noa. E hiahia ana rātou kia noa taua wāhanga.
I muri i tēnei pokanga, ka piki ake tō rātou whakapono ki a rātou anō ina whakaaro rātou, "Ināianei kua tae ahau ki te ara e hiahia ana ahau." He mea nui anō hoki ki a rātou te kaha ki te haere ki te toa kakahu me te whiriwhiri i tētahi kākahu me te kore e mataku.
Ngā huringa i muri i te whānautanga tamariki me te 'Mommy Makeover'
Ko tētahi atu wāhanga ko ngā whaea kua rerekē te āhua o ō rātou tinana i muri i te whānautanga o ā rātou tamariki. Whakaarohia te āhua o te ngākau ina heke ngā ū i mua i te whānautanga o ā rātou tamariki, ā, ka ngaro te āhua i muri i te whāngai ū. Mō ētahi whaea, ahakoa ka hoki te toenga o ō rātou tinana ki tōna āhua taketake, kāore ō rātou ū e hoki. Nō reira, kei reira ētahi e whakamahi ana i tēnei pokanga me te whakaaro "E hiahia ana ahau kia hoki mai tōku tinana tawhito."
He rerekē te hinengaro o ēnei tāngata i ngā wāhine taitamariki i whakahuatia ake nei. Kāore he raruraru o te āhua o te tinana. E harikoa ana rātou ki ō rātou tinana. Ko tā rātou anake he hoki ki te āhua hauora, ki te āhua noa i mua i te whānautanga tamariki.
Ngā Momo Whakatō
E rua ngā momo matua e whakamahia pinepinetia ana:
- Ngā whakatō tote : Ka whakakīia ēnei ki te wai tote parakore.
- Ngā Whakatō Hikohiko: Ka whakakīia ēnei ki te kirikiri hikohiko. He tokomaha te hunga e kī ana he rite tonu te āhua ki te ū tūturu.
Mā tō tākuta koe e āwhina ki te whiriwhiri i te momo e tino pai ana mō tō momo tinana, te rahi o tō uma, me te āhua e hiahiatia ana.
Ngā mea pono me mōhio koe i mua i te pokanga
Koinei te wāhanga tino nui. Ki te whakaaro koe ki tēnei pokanga , me mārama koe ki ēnei mea. Ki te kore, tera pea ka pouri koe i muri mai.
| Ngā mea e tika ana kia mōhio koe | Whakaahuatanga |
|---|---|
| Te Utu Pūtea | I te mea he pokanga whakapaipai tēnei , kāore i te nuinga o te wā e hipokina ana e te inihua hauora . Me utu e koe te utu katoa o te pokanga. |
| Ngā Pokanga Arotake | Kāore ngā mea i whakatōkia e mau tonu. Ka pakaru, ka memeha rānei i roto i te wā.Waihoki, ki te puta he raruraru i muri i te pokanga, me mahi pea ētahi atu pokanga hei whakatika i aua raruraru. Kāore tētahi o ēnei e hipokina ana e te inihua. |
| Te roanga o te ora | I roto i ngā tau 10-15, me whakakapi he mea tāpiri, ko te tikanga me tumanako koe kia kotahi anō te pokanga i roto i tō oranga. |
| Ngā Huringa i te Wā | Ka pakeke haere tō tinana, ka rerekē tō taumaha, ka whānau tamariki. Nā ēnei mea katoa, ka rerekē ō ū tūturu. Engari kāore ngā tākai ū hou e rerekē. Nō reira, ko te mea i ātaahua i te 22 o ōu tau, tērā pea kāore e rite te āhua i te 42 o ōu tau . |
Ko tētahi mea e whakanuia ana e ngā tākuta, "He kaupapa roa tēnei... he haerenga mō te wā katoa." Nō reira kaua e hohoro te whakatau i tēnei.
He tika rawa tēnei whakatau māu?
Ka whakarite tonu te taote pokanga pai kia mahia tēnei pokanga māu ake. Mena kei te mahia tēnei pokanga mō ngā take pēnei i te "mō taku hoa tāne hou" me te "hei whakaora i taku marena," ehara i te whakatau tika. Waihoki, kāore e tika kia mahia ēnei whakatau i te wā o tētahi huringa nui o te ao, pēnei i te whakarere, te matenga rānei o tētahi mema o te whānau.
E kore tēnei pokanga e whakarerekē i tō ao, e kore e whiwhi mahi hou māu, ā, e kore hoki e ātaahua ake ai koe ki ngā tāne . Engari ka taea e ia te whakapai ake i tō whakaaro mōu anō.
Ngā raruraru hinengaro me ngā tumanakohanga teka
E whakaaro ana ētahi wāhine he "tāpiripiri" tēnei pokanga mō ō rātou raruraru hinengaro hōhonu. E tumanako ana rātou ka rerekē te āhua o te tinana, tae atu ki tō rātou oranga katoa. Ahakoa ka pai ake te ahua o ēnei tāngata mō tētahi wā i muri i te pokanga, kāore e whakatau i ngā raruraru hōhonu o ō rātou ngākau.
Tērā pea kei a koe te 'Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD)'Kua rongo pea koe i te BDD. He mate hinengaro tēnei. I tēnei wā, ka aro nui koe ki ō ake ngoikoretanga tinana, ā, ka manukanuka koe mō aua ngoikoretanga. Ka ngana tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro mohio ki te mārama ki tō āhua hinengaro mā te whakanoho i a koe ki mua i te whakaata, ka pātai atu ki a koe, "He aha tāu e kite nei?" Mena kei a koe ngā tohu o tētahi āhuatanga pēnei i te BDD, ko te mea tuatahi e hiahiatia ana e koe ko te āwhina a tētahi tohunga hinengaro.
Waihoki, e kore rawa te tākuta pai e whakaae ki ō tono koretake. Hei tauira, ki te tono koe ki tētahi he 5'1" te roa kia whai 'D-cup', he mea koretake, he mea koretake hoki mō tōna tinana. Ka whakakahoretia e ngā tākuta pai ngā tūroro e tono ana i aua tono nā te mea he tohu pea tēnei o tētahi raruraru hinengaro.
Mena kei a koe tētahi āhuatanga pēnei i te pouri, kōrero pono ki tō tākuta mō taua mea. Ahakoa kua pai ake tō āhua mō tētahi wā i muri i te pokanga, tera pea ka ara ake anō aua āhuatanga hinengaro i muri mai.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- He whakatau māu ake , māu ake hoki te pokanga whakanui ū. Kaua e mahi i tēnei hei whakamanawareka i tētahi atu, hei whakaora rānei i tētahi whanaungatanga.
- He pokanga nui tēnei, nō reira he mea tino nui kia whiriwhiria he taote pokanga kirihou whai wheako, whai tohu hoki.
- Kia mārama ki ngā utu o te pokanga, te āheinga o ngā pokanga anō a meake nei, me te roa o te ora o ngā tāpiringa .
- Mena he raruraru hauora hinengaro āu (hei tauira, te pouri, te BDD), kōrero pono ki tō tākuta i mua i te pokanga.
- Tērā pea ka āwhina tēnei pokanga i a koe kia māia ake ki tō āhua, engari kia mārama koe ki te mooni kāore e whakatau i ngā raruraru kē atu o tō koiora.
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