Te Moemoeā mō ngā Māhanga me te Hangarau IVF: Te Wheako Tuturu a te Whaea (IVF - In Vitro Fertilization)

He moemoeā ataahua te whānau māhanga mō te tini. Ko wai kāore e pai ki te kite i ngā pēpi ōrite e rua, e mau ana i ngā kākahu ōrite, e takaro tahi ana? Engari he maha ngā wā kāore tātou e whakaaro ki te ao tūturu o tēnei moemoeā, te utu e hiahiatia ana, me ngā patunga tapu e tika ana kia mahia mōna. I tēnei rā kei te kōrero tātou mō tētahi whaea ko Leslie tōna ingoa, i pāngia e tēnei momo wheako. He mea nui rawa tana kōrero ki te tini o te tangata i roto i tō tātou whenua, inā koa ko te hunga e pāngia ana e te kore tamariki, ā, e whakaaro ana ki ngā tikanga pēnei i te `(IVF)`.

Te kōrero a Leslie: Mai i te pouri o te kore tamariki ki te harikoa o ngā māhanga

He whaea a Leslie, 33 tau te pakeke. Kua whai tama tāne rāua ko tana tāne, ko Heath, e rima tau te pakeke. I hapu maori ia, kāore he maimoatanga motuhake. Engari i pā mai he wero nui ki a Leslie i te whānautanga o tētahi tamaiti. He maha āna haputanga ectopic , he tino morearea. Nā tēnei, i tohutohu ngā tākuta ki a Leslie rāua ko Heath kia kaua e ngana ki te whānau tamariki maori anō.

Nō reira, i te hiahia nui ki te whānau anō he tamaiti, ka whakatau rātou ki te tahuri ki te IVF. He māmā noa iho, ko te IVF - In Vitro Fertilization he tikanga e honoa ai te hua manu o te whaea me te parāoa o te pāpā ki waho o te tinana i roto i te taiwhanga hei hanga i tētahi kukune, kātahi ka whakatōkia ki roto i te kōpū o te whaea. Koinei te wā whakamutunga i a rātou kia whānau anō he tamariki.

Te Utu me ngā Kare ā-roto: Te Kōwhiri i te Maimoatanga IVF

E $22,000 te moni i pau i a Leslie rāua ko Heath mō tēnei maimoatanga , arā, he rau mano tāra te moni o tō tātou whenua. He moni nui tēnei. Koia rāua i whakaaro ai, kaua e whakapau nui, engari me whānau māhanga rāua mēnā ka taea. E ai ki a Leslie, "Kāore māua i haere ki te tākuta me te kī atu e hiahia ana māua ki ngā māhanga. I mea māua, 'Kāore e taea e māua te whānau tamariki, me āwhina mai koe, koinei anake te huarahi e taea ai e māua. Nō reira, he pai ake mēnā he māhanga tā māua.'" Nā te mea he rite tonu te utu ahakoa kotahi, e rua rānei ā māua tamariki. Nō reira, mēnā koinei te whai wāhitanga whakamutunga, i whakaaro rāua he pai ake te whakaoti i te whānau.

He tino pārekareka te kōrero nei e kōrerotia ana e ia.

E whakaatu ana tēnei kāore e taea te ine i te uara o te tamaiti ki te moni. Kāore ngā mātua e whakaroa ki te tuku patunga tapu mōna.

Ngā tohutohu a te tākuta me ngā whakataunga nui

I mua i te maimoatanga IVF, i whakarite te tākuta o Leslie kia tae atu rātou ki te ratonga tohutohu mō te whānautanga. He taahiraa tino nui tēnei nā te mea i roto i tēnei tukanga, he maha ngā take kāore i whakaarohia i mua i a rātou. Hei tauira, me aha rātou ki ngā kukune e toe ana i muri i te maimoatanga, ko wai te rangatira o ngā kukune mēnā ka wehe te tokorua, me pēhea te whakatau i te wero o te whānau māhanga i te mea kotahi tā rāua tamaiti.

I te tīmatanga, i hiahia a Leslie kia toru ngā kukune i whakatōkia ki roto i tōna kōpū. Ko te take o tēnei he whakamahi i te moni i pau i a ia. I tumanako ia kia angitu te kotahi, ā, ki te taea, kia rua. Engari kāore tana tākuta i tautoko i tēnei. I mea ia, "Kāore rawa." E whakaatu ana tēnei i te kawenga o ngā tākuta. Ko tā rātou whāinga matua ehara i te whānau māhanga, engari he āwhina i te whānau mai o tētahi pēpi hauora ki te ao.

I te mutunga, ka whakatau rātou ki te whakawhiti i ngā kukune e rua. Waimarie, i angitu ngā mea e rua!

Māhanga: Moemoeā kua tutuki, ā, he mooni uaua

Kei te ora pai ngā tamāhine māhanga a Leslie, a Bella rāua ko Maddie, i tēnei rā. Engari kāore i ngāwari te haputanga mō Leslie. E ono wiki ia e takoto ana i runga i te moenga. E whakaahua ana ia i te tau tuatahi i muri i te whānautanga o āna tamariki he "tino uaua rawa atu." Ko tētahi take mō tēnā he rua noa iho ngā tau o tana tama matamua, a Garrett, i taua wā.

I te haerenga atu o Leslie me āna tamariki, he tokomaha ka haere mai ki a ia, ka mea, "Āe, e hiahia ana ahau kia whānau māhanga anō hoki." Me i kata ia ki a ia anō i taua wā.

Ko tā tātou e mārama ai i tēnei kōrero, he rerekē te āhua o te ao tūturu i te āhua ataahua o waho. Engari he kōrero tino ataahua tā Leslie i te mutunga. "Ahakoa te uaua o taua tau tuatahi, he pai te utu. He aha te uaua o tētahi tau, o ngā tau e rua rānei i te wā roa ? Ka pā mai anō tētahi atu tau, e rua rānei, he uaua, i a rātou e tamariki ana."

Mā te kōrero a Leslie e mārama ai ki a tātou ehara te IVF i te maimoatanga hauora noa iho, engari he haerenga uaua e uru ana te moni, ngā kare ā-roto, ngā tumanako, me ngā wero maha.