Ina kī mai tō tākuta kei te pāngia koe e te pouri, he maha ngā mea ka puta ake ki tō hinengaro. Tērā pea ka rite koe ki te mea kua tangohia he taumaha nui mai i ō pakihiwi. Ko ētahi ka pōuri, ka riri rānei. Ko ētahi ka paku mārie, ka whakaaro, "Āe, e koa ana ahau kua kitea e au te mea e tupu ana." Ahakoa he aha tēnei kare ā-roto, he mea noa. Ko te mea nui ko te mārama kāore koe i te mokemoke i tēnei haerenga. Me kōrero tātou mō tēnei me ētahi atu kōrero .
He aha i tino uaua ai tēnei tātaritanga?
He rerekē te tauhohenga a te tangata ki tēnei tātaritanga. He rite ki ngā taha e rua o te moni kotahi.
Ko te whakamarie i pā ki ētahi
Ki ētahi tāngata, he tino whakamarie tēnei. Whakaarohia te kimi i tētahi whakautu mō tētahi raruraru kāore anō kia kitea he take mō te wā roa. Ka whakaaro koe, "Āe... kua roa ahau e pāngia ana e tēnei mate nā te mea he mate, ehara i te mea nāku." Ina mōhio koe he mate hauora tēnei ka taea te rongoā, ka paku tumanako koe mō te heke mai. He tino whakaaro whaitake tēnei.
Te whakama me te wehi e pā ana ki ētahi
Heoi, he tokomaha te hunga e raru ana ki tēnei tātaritanga. Ka kī tonu i ō rātou hinengaro ngā pātai pēnei i te, "Kei te pouri ahau? He tikanga tēnei kei te ngoikore ahau? He hē kei roto i tōku āhua?".
He rerekē tonu te tirohanga a tō tātou hapori ki ngā take hauora hinengaro. Tērā pea kua rongo koe i ngā kōrero pēnei i te, "He mate hinengaro noa iho," "Whakaarohia kia kaha," me te "Kaua e mangere, engari me mahi i tetahi mea." I ētahi wā, kāore ngā pakeke me ngā mātua i te kāinga e hiahia ki te whakaae ki ēnei hei mate. Tērā pea ka mea rātou, "Kāore i pā mai ēnei mate ki a tātou i tō tātou wā, ā, ki te kaha koe ki te mahi, ki te kaha hoki, ka ora ake." Nō reira, ehara i te mea miharo ka whakama, ka hara, ka mokemoke te tangata ina mōhio rātou he mate hinengaro tō rātou.
Ehara te pouri i te ngoikore, engari he mate hauora!
Ko te mea nui kia maumahara, ehara te pouri i te ngoikore o tō āhua, tō tuakiri, tō hinengaro rānei. He mate hauora katoa .
Hei whakamārama ake, e pā ana tēnei ki ētahi panonitanga o ngā matū roro (ngā neurotransmitters) i roto i tō tātou roro. Pērā i te mate huka me te toto toto tiketike. Nō reira, he mea tino nui kia mōhio tika tātou ki tēnei.
Ka taea e koe te kōrero ki tō tākuta mō tēnei. Me whakanui hoki tō mōhiotanga mā te pānui i ngā paetukutuku e whai kōrero hauora pono ana mō tēnei. Mā tēnei koe e āwhina ki te whakakore i ngā kōrero pakiwaitara me ngā waiaro hē e pā ana ki te hapori. Kia mōhio koe ki tēnei, ka taea e koe te whakamārama i tēnei ki ō whanaunga.
Ko wai taku e tono āwhina ai?
Ehara i te mea pai te noho mokemoke i te wā e whawhai ana ki te pouri. Me whai tautoko kaha tātou, me whai hononga pai ki te tangata. Nō reira, me titiro tātou ki ētahi wāhi ka taea e koe te tono āwhina.
| Ngā huarahi hei whiwhi tautoko | Ngā mea ka riro i a koe, me ngā mea hei mahi |
|---|---|
| Whānau me ngā hoa | He taonga nui te whai whānau me ngā hoa e mārama ana ki tō āhuatanga. Kōrerotia ki a rātou te mea e pā ana ki a koe. Tērā pea ka riri koe, ka pōuri hoki i tō pouri. Ina kōrerotia e koe te take tūturu, ka taea e rātou te mārama ki a koe, ā, ka āwhina i a koe ki tō maimoatanga. |
| Kia motuhake te kōrero ina tono āwhina koe. | Kaua e kī "Me āwhina ahau" i te nuinga o te wā, engari kia tika te kōrero mō tāu e hiahia ana. Hei tauira, me kī atu, "He pai ki te whakarongo noa mai koe ki ahau ina kōrero ahau, kaua e waea mai ki ahau me te pātai mai mō taku āhua." Me tono atu rānei mō ētahi āwhina motuhake, pērā i te, "Kāore au e hiahia ki te tunu kai i ēnei rā, ka taea e koe te taka kai māku mō te rā kotahi, e rua rānei?" |
| Ngā Rōpū Tautoko | He wāhi pai tēnei hei tūtaki ki te hunga kua pāngia e ngā wheako rite ki a koe. He tino harikoa te mōhio kāore koe i te mokemoke. Mā te rongonga i ngā kōrero mō te wikitoria o ētahi atu i tēnei āhuatanga ka taea e koe te hoatu whakaaro hou me te tumanako. |
| Ngā wāhi whakapono me ngā kaiārahi hapori | Mena he tangata whakapono koe, ka taea e koe te rapu whakamarie me te ārahi i tō wāhi whakapono me ōna kaiārahi. Kei ētahi pokapū whakapono anō hoki ngā ratonga tohutohu. |
Heoi, ki te mea ko tō whānau, ko ō hoa rānei te momo tangata e tawai ana, e kore rānei e aro ki aua mea, ka taea e koe te ngana ki te whakaako i a rātou. Heoi, ki te mea ka nui ake tō pouri, he mea whakaaro nui kia kaua e tumanako ki te tautoko nui mai i a rātou, engari me rapu āwhina i tētahi atu wāhi.
Ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi māu ake
Haunga te āwhina i ētahi atu, he maha atu anō ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi māu ake hei tautoko nui i tō haerenga whakaora.
Whakauru atu ki tētahi mea whai tikanga.
Ko te whai wāhi atu ki tētahi mea e whai tikanga ai koe, pērā i te mahi tūao , he mea tino pai mō tō oranga. Mā te āwhina i ētahi atu me te tūtaki ki ngā tāngata hou ka āwhina i te whakaiti i ētahi o ngā tohu o te pouri.
Whakauru atu ki te whakakorikori tinana.
Ko te whakakorikori tinana tētahi o ngā rongoā taiao tino kaha mō te pouri. Mā te hikoi poto, te oma, te haere rānei ki te whare takaro i ia rā, he huarahi pai hei whakarei ake i tō wairua me tō tinana. Ina whakakorikori koe, ka tukuna e tō tinana ngā matū e pai ai te wairua. Waihoki, he wāhi pai te whare takaro, te tīma hākinakina rānei hei hanga hononga pāpori hou.
Mahi tahi me tō tākuta.
Heoi anō, he mea nui kia mau tonu te whakapā atu ki tō tākuta . Pātai atu ki a ia mō ngā maimoatanga e tika ana māu, me ngā huringa e tika ana kia mahia e koe ki tō momo noho.
- Tangohia ō rongoā kua tohua kia rite ki te mea kua tohua, i te wā tika.
- Ki te pāngia koe e ētahi pānga taha, whakamōhio atu ki tō tākuta.
- Kōrerohia marietia ngā huringa o tō āhua hinengaro.
Kia maumahara, he maha ngā take o te pouri. Arā, he maha ngā huarahi rerekē hei rongoā i tēnei. Ka taea e tō tākuta te āwhina i a koe ki te kimi i te rongoā e pai ana mōu.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- Ehara te pouri i te he nāu, ehara hoki i te ngoikore. He mate hauora ka taea te rongoā.
- Ina rongo koe i tēnei, tera pea ka pōuri koe, ka whakama, ka riri, ā, ka marino anō hoki. He mea noa ēnei kare ā-roto katoa.
- Kōrero ki te whānau me ngā hoa e mārama ana ki a koe mō tēnei mea. Pātai atu ki a rātou mō te āwhina e hiahiatia ana e koe.
- He tino āwhina ngā rōpū tautoko, ngā mahi tūao, me te whakakori tinana i a koe i roto i tō haerenga whakaora.
- Ko te mea nui ko te mahi tahi me tō tākuta, me te whai i te maimoatanga kua tohua. Ehara i te mea ko koe anake i tēnei pakanga.
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