Kei te menemene koe i waho, engari kei te mamae i roto? Me ako tātou mō (Te Pouri o te Ataata)!

He hoa tōu, he mema o te whānau, he tangata rānei e mōhiotia ana e koe e menemene tonu ana, e katakata ana, ā, e āhua harikoa ana. Tērā pea ka whakaaro tātou kāore he raruraru i roto i tōna ao, kei te pai ngā mea katoa. Engari i mōhio koe kei muri i taua menemene ataahua, tera pea he nui te pouri, te mokemoke, me te ahotea? I tēnei rā ka kōrero tātou mō tētahi kaupapa nui. Koia te 'Te Ataata i te Pouri'.

He aha rawa te 'Pouri Ataata'?

Ki te tirohia e koe ngā pukapuka mana e whakarōpū ana i ngā mate hinengaro, kāore koe e kite i tētahi āhuatanga e kīia nei ko te 'pōuri menemene'. Nā te mea ehara i te kupu hauora mana. Heoi, ka whakamahia e ngā tohunga hauora hinengaro te kupu hei whakaahua i tētahi rōpū tāngata motuhake. Ko ēnei te hunga e whakaatu ana i te harikoa i waho, ahakoa kei te pāngia rātou e te pouri i roto.

Hei whakarāpopototanga, ka tino pouri koe, ka takoto kau hoki tō roto, engari ka mea atu koe ki ētahi atu, "Kei te pai ahau." Kāore koe e āhua ana kei roto koe i tētahi raruraru. Ka haere koe ki te mahi, ka mahi i ngā mahi o te whare, ka kata, ka kōrero ki ngā hoa. I ētahi wā ka kiia tēnei ko te 'tino pouri mahi-nui'. Ko te tikanga o tēnei ka mahi noa koe i ō mahi o ia rā, kia kore ai tō whānau me ō hoa e mōhio kei te hiahia āwhina koe. I ētahi wā, kāore pea koe e mōhio ko tēnei pakanga i roto i tō hinengaro he tohu o te pouri.

Ko wai te mea e tino pāngia ana e tēnei āhuatanga?

Nā te mea ehara te 'pōuri menemene' i te mate tūturu, kāore anō kia nui ngā rangahau mōna. Heoi, e ai ki ngā tākuta, ko ēnei tohu te mea tino kitea i roto i ēnei tāngata e whai ake nei:

• Ko te hunga i roto i ngā ahurea e whakamataku ana, e whakama ana hoki te kōrero mō ngā take hauora hinengaro: Ahakoa i roto i tō tātou hapori, ki te mea koe "Kei te pouri ahau," ka wehi koe kei kiia koe he "porangi." Koia te take e huna ai e te tini o te tangata tō rātou pouri.
• Te hunga e hiahia ana kia tino tika: Ko te hunga e whakaaro ana, "Kāore e taea e au te mahi he," "Me kaha tonu ahau," ā, kāore e hiahia ki te whakaatu i ō rātou ngoikoretanga.
• Ko te hunga e ora angitu ana, ko te hunga kei a rātou te mahi pai, he oranga whānau, he mātauranga, ā, kāore he tohu ngoikore o waho.
• Ko te hunga e pāngia ana e te pouri ngawari, pouri taurite rānei, kua roa nei e pāngia ana: E kiia ana tēnei āhuatanga e te hauora ko te "Mate Pouri Mau tonu".

I te nuinga o te wā, ka pāngia te tangata e te pouri, ahakoa te pakeke, te ira tangata rānei. Heoi, he nui ake te mōrearea o ētahi rōpū. Hei tauira:

• Ngā wāhine
• Ngā tāngata nō te hapori LGBTQI+
• Mena kua pāngia koe, tētahi rānei o tō whānau e te pouri i mua
• Ngā tāngata e pāngia ana e ngā raruraru nui, ngā whara, me ngā taumata ahotea teitei i roto i ō rātou oranga
• Ngā tāngata e pāngia ana e ngā mate kino pēnei i te mate huka, te mate pukupuku, me te mate manawa.

He aha aua tohu huna?

Mena kei a koe te 'pōuri ataata', tera pea ka pāngia koe e ngā tohu noa o te pōuri. Ko te rerekētanga ko te huna e koe i ētahi atu. Me titiro tātou ki ēnei tohu.

Ko te mea nui, kāore koe e hiahia kia pāngia e ēnei tohu katoa. Mēnā he maha o ēnei e pāngia ai tō oranga mō ngā wiki e rua neke atu, ahakoa kāore e kitea e ētahi atu, tera pea kei te pouri koe.

He aha te tūponotanga o te huna i tēnei mea?

Ina huna e koe tō pouri, tērā pea kāore te hunga e karapoti ana i a koe e mōhio ana kei te hiahia āwhina koe. Ka taea e tēnei te whakaroa i te maimoatanga e hiahiatia ana e koe. Anei ētahi mea ka pā mai ina kore koe e whiwhi maimoatanga:

• Te pikinga ake o te mōrearea o te waranga ki te waipiro, ki ētahi atu raau taero rānei.
• Ngā huringa rerekē o te taumaha tinana.
• Te pikinga ake o te mōrearea o te mate tinana.
• Te whara i a koe anō, hei tauira, te tapahi i a koe anō.

Ko te mea tino mōrearea mō tēnei katoa ko te whakanui ake i te mōrearea o ngā whakaaro whakamomori nā te pouri. Nā te mea he nui te kaha e hiahiatia ana hei menemene me te mahi. Ina ngaro taua kaha, he nui te tūponotanga o te whakatau mōrearea.

Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe, kei te whakaaro rānei tētahi atu e mōhio ana koe ki te whakamomori, kaua e mahi ko koe anake. Rapua he āwhina tonu.

• Kōrero ki tō tākuta whānau.
• Haere ki te Tari Ohotata (ETU) o te hōhipera tata rawa atu.
• Waea atu ki ngā Hoa o Sri Lanka (Waea: 0112692909). Kei te rite rātou ki te whakarongo ki a koe.
• Mēnā ka nui rawa te horomanga, waea atu ki te National Poison Information Centre (0112686143) kei te Hōhipera ā-Motu o Colombo i taua wā tonu.

Me pēhea koe e tino mōhio ai mēnā he mate tēnei?

Ki te whakapae koe kei te pouri koe, ko te mahi tuatahi me mahi e koe ko te toro atu ki tō tākuta whānau. Ka pātai atu ia ki a koe, ā, ka whakamātauria pea ētahi whakamātautau toto hei tirotiro i ētahi atu take tinana, pērā i te raruraru tairoi. Kātahi, ki te tika, ka tukuna koe e ia ki tētahi tohunga hauora hinengaro, pērā i te tohunga hinengaro.

I reira, ka tukuna atu pea e rātou he raupapa pātai hei ako atu mō ō whakaaro, ō kare ā-roto, me ō whanonga. Whai muri i te tirotiro i ēnei mea katoa, ka whakatauhia e rātou te momo mate kei a koe, e ai ki te pukapuka whakarōpū hauora hinengaro mana, te Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5). Ko taua tātaritanga he Mate Pouri Nui, he Mate Pouri Tonu rānei.

He aha ngā maimoatanga mō tēnei?

Ko te rongo pai, he mate ka taea te rongoā i te 'pōuri ataata'. E rua ngā kōwhiringa maimoatanga matua:

1. Ngā rongoā:Ko te momo rongoā e whakamahia whānuitia ana ko ngā aukati tango serotonin whiriwhiri (SSRI). Ka mahi ēnei mā te whakataurite i te mahi a ngā matū neurotransmitter i roto i te roro, pērā i te serotonin. Tērā pea ka roa te wā ki te kimi i te rongoā tika māu.

2. Hinengaro Whakaora: Ka kiia hoki tēnei ko te 'tohutohu'. I konei, ka kōrero koe ki tētahi tohunga ngaio mō ō raruraru, ka āwhina i a rātou ki te whakarerekē i ā rātou tauira whakaaro, ka āwhina hoki i a rātou ki te ako i ngā huarahi hou hei whakatau i ō rātou raruraru. Ko te Whakaora Whanoke Hinengaro tētahi tikanga rongonui e whakamahia ana mō tēnei.

Ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi māu ake (Āwhina-ā-koe)

Haunga te maimoatanga, he maha ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi hei whakapai ake i tō oranga hinengaro:

• Korikori tinana: Ahakoa te hikoi mō te 30 meneti i te rā, ka nui te painga.
• Whakaritea tō moe: Whakamātauria te haere ki te moenga me te ara ake i te wā kotahi.
• Kai i ngā kai hauora: Kai i ngā kai i te wā tika, kai i ngā kai whai kiko.
• Kōrero ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe: Kōrerohia ō whakaaro ki tētahi hoa, ki tētahi mema rānei o te whānau.
• Me noho tawhiti atu i te waipiro me ngā raau taero.

Me pēhea e taea ai e koe te āwhina i tō hoa mēnā kei roto ia i tēnei āhuatanga?

He uaua pea te kite i tētahi tangata e pāngia ana e te 'pōuri ataata'. Heoi, tera pea ka kite koe i ngā huringa ngawari pēnei i ēnei:

• Ngā panonitanga o ngā tauira moe (he nui rawa, he iti rawa rānei te moe).
• Ngā huringa o te hiahia kai.
• Kāore i te tere te whakautu mai ki ngā waea me ngā karere pērā i mua.
• Ngā amuamu maha mō te mamae o te upoko me te mamae o te tinana, kāore he take.

Ki te whakapae koe i tētahi pērā, anei ngā huarahi hei āwhina i a koe:

• Kōrero ki te tangata: "Kua kite ahau kāore koe i rite ki tō mua, he aha te hē?" Pātai atu me te aroha.
• Whakamāramahia ehara te pouri i te mea hei whakama, engari he mate ka taea te rongoā.
• Me toro atu ki te tākuta. Ka taea e koe te haere tahi me ia mēnā e hiahia ana koe.
• Noho tonu ki taua tangata. He kaha nui anō hoki te kī "Kei a koe ahau".