Me pēhea te whakamahi i te kōrero whakaora hei whakakore i te pouri?

I ētahi wā ka tino pōuri koe, ka mokemoke, ka kore e taea e koe te mahi i tetahi mea? Koinei te mea e kīia nei e tātou ko te pouri. He tokomaha te hunga e whakaaro ana ko te rongoā anake te otinga. Engari i mōhio koe he tino whai hua te kōrero, e mōhiotia ana ko te kōrero whakaora, ko te hinengaro hinengaro rānei, mō tēnei mate? Ka taea e tēnei te āwhina i a koe ki te ako mō tō pouri me te kimi huarahi hei whakahaere i ō tohu.

Mena he iti noa iho te pouri o tō tinana, tera pea ka ranea tēnei kōrero whakaora hei āwhina i a koe kia pai ake tō wairua. Engari, ki te nui ake te pouri o tō tinana, tera pea ka whai hua koe mā te tango rongoā hei tāpiri atu ki ēnei maimoatanga. Āe, kia kite tātou me pēhea te tīmata.

He aha ngā maimoatanga kōrero pai rawa atu mō te pouri?

He maha ngā momo kōrero whakaora. Ko ngā tikanga matua e rua e whakamahia whānuitia ana mō te pouri ko te whakaora hinengaro-whanonga me te whakaora whanaungatanga.

• Te Whakaora Hinengaro-Whanoke (CBT): Ki te kī māmā noa, ka āwhina i a koe ki te tautuhi i te pānga o ō tauira whakaaro kino ki tō wairua, me te huri i aua whakaaro me ngā whanonga ki ngā mea pai. Hei tauira, ki te whakaaro pinepine koe, "Kāore e taea e au te mahi i tetahi mea tika," ka āwhina tēnei tikanga i a koe ki te tautuhi i te pānga o taua whakaaro ki tō pouri me tō pōuri, te huri i taua whakaaro, me te whakaaro pai ake.

• Te Whakaora Tangata: Ko te arotahi matua tēnei ki te āhua o tō whanaungatanga ki ētahi atu tāngata. Ko te tikanga o tēnei ko te titiro ki ō whanaungatanga whaiaro - ō whanaungatanga ki te whānau, ki ngā hoa, me te hoa rangatira - me te āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau i ngā raruraru me te hanga i ngā huringa pai.

Kua kitea te tino whai huatanga o ēnei maimoatanga e rua mō te rongoā i te pouri. Ka taea e tō tākuta, e tō kaiwhakaora hinengaro rānei te āwhina i a koe ki te whiriwhiri i te tikanga e tino pai ana mōu.

He aha te momo tohunga me toro atu ahau mō tēnei?

He maha ngā momo tohunga hauora hinengaro e whakarato ana i te rongoā kōrero. Mā ēnei mōhiohio koe e āwhina ki te whiriwhiri i te mea tika māu.

Ahakoa te momo kaiwhakaora hinengaro ka kitea e koe, ko te mea nui ko te kimi i tētahi tangata e pai ana ki a koe, he tangata ka taea e koe te kōrero māhorahora, me te kore e mataku .

Me pēhea te kimi i tētahi kaiwhakaora pai?

Mena kei te hiahia āwhina koe ki te kimi i tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro pai, ngana ki ēnei whakaaro:

• Pātai atu ki te whānau me ngā hoa: Pātai atu ki tētahi mema o te whānau, ki tētahi hoa rānei e whakawhirinaki ana koe. Tērā pea ka taea e rātou te tūtohu i tētahi tangata e mōhiotia ana e rātou he pai.
• Pātai atu ki tō tākuta whānau: Ka taea e tō tākuta te whakarato i ngā mōhiotanga me ngā tohutoro ki ngā tohunga hauora hinengaro pai i tō rohe.
• Pātai atu ki tētahi kaiārahi whakapono: Ka taea hoki e tētahi kaiārahi whakapono, pērā i tō tohunga temepara, tō tohunga hāhi rānei, te tuku tohutohu mō tēnei.
• Ngā kaupapa āwhina a te whare wānanga:Mena kei te mahi koe mā tētahi kamupene nui, tera pea ka taea e koe te tiki āwhina mā tētahi Kaupapa Āwhina Kaimahi (EAP) e whakahaerehia ana e tō whakahaere.
• Pātai atu ki tō kamupene inihua: Mena he inihua hauora tāu, ka taea e koe te tono ki tō kamupene inihua mō tētahi rārangi o ngā kaiwhakaora hinengaro i roto i tā rātou whatunga.

Me whakarite he wā ki te kite i tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro.

Kia mōhio koe ki ētahi ingoa, kōrero ki te iti rawa kia rua ngā tāngata, ka kōrero ki a rātou mō tō āhuatanga. Kaua e wehi ki te pātai atu ki a rātou mō ō rātou wheako ki te pouri me ā rātou whiringa maimoatanga. Ki te pai koe ki te kōrero, whakaritea he wā hui. Engari kia mahara, kāore koe e hiahia ki te pai ki te tangata tuatahi e kōrero ana koe, e tūtaki rānei koe.

He aha ngā mea hei tumanakohia i te wā o te wā whakaora?

I tō wā tuatahi, kia rite ki te kōrero ki tō kaiwhakaora hinengaro mō tō pouri me te take e rapu āwhina ana koe. He mea āwhina pea te whakaaro ki ngā mea e tumanakohia ana e koe mai i tēnei maimoatanga. Hei tauira, kei te rapu huarahi koe hei whakapai ake i ō whanaungatanga whaiaro? Kei te rapu rānei koe i ngā whāinga hei hanga huringa i roto i tō ao? Ko te mea nui ko te pono ki tō kaiwhakaora hinengaro mō tō pouri me ngā mea e tumanakohia ana e koe mai i te maimoatanga.

I muri i te whakarongo ki tō āhuatanga, ka tūtohu te kaiwhakaora hinengaro i tētahi mahere maimoatanga e tika ana māu. Ka waihangahia hoki e rātou tētahi mahere maimoatanga e hāngai ana ki a koe. Ki te whakaaro te kaiwhakaora hinengaro ka whai hua koe i te rongoā, ka tukuna pea koe e rātou ki tētahi tohunga hinengaro, ki tō tākuta whānau rānei.

Ka pai ake rānei ahau a mua tata nei?

E kore te kōrero whakaora e whakaora wawe i a koe, engari i roto i te wā ka kite koe i ngā whakapainga. Tērā pea ka tīmata koe ki te whakaaro kei te ngāwari haere ō whanaungatanga, kei te pai haere rānei tō wairua whānui. Tērā pea kei te mārama ake koe ki ō ake kare ā-roto me ō mahi.

Ki te kore koe e pai ake, kōrero ki tō kaiwhakaora hinengaro mō tēnei mea. Tērā pea ka taea e ia te whakamātau i tētahi atu huarahi maimoatanga, te tuku rānei i a koe ki tētahi atu momo maimoatanga. Tērā pea ka whai hua koe ki te kite i tētahi atu kaiwhakaora hinengaro. Me kite pea koe i te neke atu i te kotahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro kia kitea ai te maimoatanga tika māu.

Ehara i te mea ngāwari te whakaora i ngā wā katoa. I ētahi wā ka mamae te kōrero mō ngā take uaua. Engari ki te u tonu koe ki tēnā, ka taea e te whakaora kōrero te noho hei wheako tino whai hua, he wheako ngahau hoki. Ka taea hoki e ia te hoatu ki a koe ngā taputapu e hiahiatia ana e koe hei wikitoria i tō pouri.