Nkhaniyi ndi yovuta, koma ndi nkhani yofunika kukambirana. Mimba ndi imodzi mwa nthawi zabwino kwambiri m'miyoyo ya akazi ambiri. Koma kwa akazi ena, nthawi ino si yosangalatsa monga momwe amaganizira. M'malo mwake, angamve mantha, nkhawa, ndi ululu panthawi yonseyi. Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu za izi chingakhale chochitika chomvetsa chisoni chomwe adakumana nacho ali mwana kapena wachinyamata, monga nkhanza zogonana.
Pamene thupi lanu likusintha panthawi ya mimba, mahomoni amasintha, ndipo mukukonzekera kubereka, zinthu zakale zomwe munakumbukira zingabwererenso. Zili ngati kutsegulanso bala lakale. Koma chofunika kwambiri chomwe muyenera kudziwa ndichakuti simuyenera kukumana ndi vutoli nokha ndipo pali njira zothanirana nalo.
Momwe mithunzi yakuda yakale imakhudzira masiku ano
Zochitika zoopsa ngati zimenezi ali mwana zingakhudze moyo wonse wa mkazi, makamaka momwe amalandirira chithandizo chamankhwala. Madokotala a za mimba ndi akazi omwe amafufuza izi amanena kuti akazi ena omwe adakumanapo ndi zoterezi amaopa ngakhale kupita kwa dokotala wa akazi. Izi zili choncho chifukwa zinthu monga kuyezetsa nyini zimawakumbutsa za zomwe zidawachitikira kale.
Azimayi ena amamva ngati alibe mphamvu pa nthawi ya mayesowa, ngati kuti sakudziwa chilichonse. Ndi njira yawo yoyesera 'kulekanitsa' maganizo awo nthawi yomweyo. Kwa ena, chochitika chakale chimawabwerera ngati filimu. Timachitcha kuti "kubwerera m'mbuyo." Panthawiyo, amatha kulira mwadzidzidzi, kuchita mantha, kapena kuchita zachiwawa.
Chifukwa cha zochitikazi, akazi ena amaopa kukhala paubwenzi ndi amuna, ngakhale kukwatiwa. Ngakhale atakhala pabanja losangalala, akhoza kukhala osafuna kapena kuopa kugonana. Amachita manyazi komanso kunyansidwa ndi matupi awoawo.
Kodi mimba ndiye vuto lalikulu?
Tangoganizirani momwe zingakhalire ngati munthu amene wakumanapo ndi izi atakhala ndi pakati. Pamene mimba ikukula ndipo mahomoni akusintha, zikumbukiro zakale zimayamba kukuvutitsani tsiku ndi tsiku. Mungamve ngati mulibe mphamvu, mungamve kupsinjika maganizo, ndipo mungamve kuti ndinu osatetezeka. Anthu ena safuna kuti ena aone kuti ali ndi pakati, choncho amayesa kubisa izi povala zovala zazikulu komanso zomasuka.
Ngakhale kugonana ndi amuna awo kungakhale kovuta kwambiri panthawiyi. Kumva ngati munthu wina 'akukula' m'mimba ndikugonana kungakhale kovuta kwa iwo. Zoonadi, nthawi zina malingaliro amenewa amakhala ofala kwa amayi apakati omwe sanachitiridwepo nkhanza. Koma kwa munthu amene adakumana ndi zoopsa m'mbuyomu, malingaliro amenewa ndi ovuta kwambiri kuwapirira.
Kunena zoona, vutoli limatchedwa Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Izi zimatha kubwereranso panthawi ya mimba.
Matendawa (PTSD) angayambitse akazi ena nseru ndi kusanza kwambiri panthawi ya mimba. Angayambitsenso kuti chiberekero chiyambe kugwira ntchito milungu kapena miyezi isanafike tsiku lobadwa (kubereka msanga).
Mantha amenewa satha munthu akabereka. Amayi omwe akumana ndi zoterezi nthawi zambiri amateteza ana awo aakazi mopitirira muyeso, ndipo ngati ali ndi mwana wamwamuna, amakayikira mwana wawoyo ndi amuna awo mosafunikira.
| Malingaliro ndi Zizindikiro Zomwe Zingatheke | Momwe Mungapezere Thandizo |
|---|---|
| Kuopa kwambiri kuyesedwa ndi dokotala, makamaka kuyezetsa nyini. | Uzani dokotala wanu pasadakhale za zomwe mudakumana nazo kale kuti akumvetseni ndikukuthandizani kuti mukhale omasuka. |
| Kukumbukira zochitika zakale ndi nkhawa yaikulu. | Ndikofunikira kwambiri kukumana ndi katswiri wodalirika wa zamaganizo/uphungu ndikukambirana za psychotherapy. |
| Kumva ngati mwana ali m'mimba mwake ali kutali ndi iye, kumva ngati thupi lake silili la mwanayo. | Lembani malingaliro anu mu dayale. Fotokozani izi kwa mwamuna wanu ndipo mupemphe thandizo. |
| Kuopa kwambiri ululu wobereka, kuopa kukankhira mwana panthawi yobereka. | Khazikitsani mtima wanu pochita masewera olimbitsa thupi osinkhasinkha komanso kupuma. Lankhulani ndi dokotala wanu za mantha anu musanabereke. |
Ulendo wopeza machiritso ndi chitonthozo
Izi zingakuchititseni mantha. Koma nkhani yabwino ndi yakuti mimba si nthawi yokhala ndi mantha ndi zokumbukira zowawa izi. Pali njira zambiri zochiritsira mabala amtima awa ndikupeza mtendere wamumtima.
Uzani dokotala wanu zoona: Ichi ndiye chinthu chofunika kwambiri. Uzani dokotala wanu wa ana za mbiri yanu yakale. Izi ziwathandiza kumvetsetsani. Adzakufotokozerani mayeso musanachite, apemphe chilolezo chanu, ndipo adzachita mwanjira yomwe ingakusangalatseni.
Funani uphungu: Kulankhula ndi mlangizi wophunzitsidwa bwino kungakuthandizeni kuchepetsa nkhawa zanu. Ndikofunikira kwambiri ngati mutha kupeza mautumikiwa nthawi yonse yomwe muli ndi pakati .
Lankhulani ndi mnzanu: Izi zitha kukhala zovuta. Koma ndikofunikira kwambiri kuuza mwamuna wanu za momwe mukumvera komanso zomwe mumaopa. Ngakhale zingakhale zovuta kuti alankhule za izi poyamba, akakumvetsani, adzakuthandizani kwambiri. Izi zidzalimbitsa ubale wanu ndi inu awiri.
Magulu Othandizira: Kulankhula ndi akazi ena omwe adakumanapo ndi zomwezi kungakuthandizeni kumva ngati simuli nokha.
Musaiwale, kutenga mimba kungakhalenso mwayi wochiritsa mabala akale. Thupi lanu kupanga moyo watsopano ndi chozizwitsa. Mukakumana ndi chozizwitsa chimenecho, mudzayamba kudzikuza ndi kukonda thupi lanu.
Mwachitsanzo, mwana wanu akakuyang'anani ndikumwetulira pamene mukuyamwitsa, ndipo mwana akasiya kulira mukamugwira, mudzazindikira mphamvu ndi chikondi cha thupi lanu. Kumva kumeneko kudzakuthandizani pang'onopang'ono kuchotsa mithunzi yakale yakuda. Mwina simungathe kuiwala zakale, koma mutha kukhala nazo, olimba komanso onyada.
Uthenga Wopita Nawo Kunyumba
- Ngati mukumva kuvutika maganizo panthawi ya mimba chifukwa cha vuto linalake la m'mbuyomu, si vuto lanu .
- Si inu nokha amene mukukumana ndi vutoli. Pali akazi ambiri padziko lonse lapansi omwe akumanapo ndi zofanana. Simuli nokha .
- Palibe manyazi kufunafuna thandizo pa izi. Ndi sitepe yamphamvu yomwe mukuchita nokha.
- Ndikofunikira kulankhula ndi dokotala wanu ndi mnzanu za momwe mumamvera komanso zomwe mwakumana nazo m'mbuyomu. Iwo adzakuthandizani.
- Mungathe kuchira ku vutoli kudzera mu zinthu monga uphungu, kusinkhasinkha, ndi magulu othandizira.
- Mungagwiritse ntchito mimba ndi umayi ngati mwayi wamtengo wapatali wochiritsa mabala akale ndikuyang'ana thupi lanu monyadira komanso mwachikondi.
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