Kodi kuyesetsa kwambiri kuti ukhale wosangalala kumabweretsa chisoni? Tiyeni tikambirane izi! (Chisangalalo Chodabwitsa)

Tonsefe timafuna kukhala osangalala m'moyo, sichoncho? Koma nthawi zina zinthu zomwe timachita zomwe timaganiza kuti zidzatipangitsa kukhala osangalala zimatipangitsa kukhala osasangalala komanso okhumudwa kwambiri. Monga phwando la kubadwa lomwe tinakonzekera kwambiri ndipo linatha kukhala osasangalala monga momwe tinkaganizira, kapena phwando la Chaka Chatsopano lomwe silinayende bwino monga momwe tinkayembekezera. Nchifukwa chiyani zimenezo zimachitika? Lero tikambirana za chinthu chodabwitsa, koma chosazolowereka kwa anthu ambiri. Chimatchedwa Happiness Paradox. Mwachidule, tikamayesetsa kwambiri kukhala osangalala, timatha kuthawa kwambiri.

Kodi chodabwitsa ichi cha chimwemwe n'chiyani?

Masiku ano, chilichonse chomwe chimatizungulira chimatiuza kuti tikhale osangalala. Zithunzi za anzathu omwe akumwetulira pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti , mabuku odzithandiza, nkhani za TED, zonsezi zimatiuza kuti "chimwemwe ndi cholinga chomwe chingatheke." Koma apa ndi pomwe vuto limayambira. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amati ngati mugwira ntchito mwakhama pa cholinga china chilichonse, pang'onopang'ono mudzayandikira cholinga chimenecho. Koma chimwemwe chimagwira ntchito mosiyana. Mukamayesetsa kwambiri kukhala osangalala, mumasowa chimwemwe. Zili ngati mchenga pang'ono m'manja mwanu. Mukakhala pagombe, mutha kumva kuzizira kwa mchenga pamapazi anu. Ndi kumverera kokongola. Koma chimachitika ndi chiyani ngati mutatenga mchenga wochepa ndikuyesera kuugwira mwamphamvu? Mchenga umadutsa m'zala zanu. Mukamayesetsa kwambiri kuugwira, umakhala wopanda kanthu. Chimwemwe ndi chimodzimodzi.

Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani ku ubongo ndi kudziletsa tikamafunafuna chimwemwe?

Kuti afufuze bwino nkhaniyi, akatswiri a zamaganizo Sam Maglio ndi Akyong Kim adachita zoyeserera zosangalatsa kwambiri. Zimene adapeza zinali zodabwitsa kwambiri. Mu chimodzi mwa zoyeserera zawo, adapatsa anthu mbale zingapo za chokoleti. Gulu lina linauzidwa kuti liganizire za chisangalalo chawo. Gulu lina silinachite. Zotsatira zake? Gulu lomwe linauzidwa kuti liganizire za chisangalalo linadya chokoleti chochuluka kuposa ena. Izi zikutanthauza kuti anali ndi kudziletsa pang'ono akamaganizira za chisangalalo. Mu zoyeserera zina, gulu lina linauzidwa kuti lisankhe chinthu chomwe linkaganiza kuti chingawasangalatse. Enawo anauzidwa kuti asankhe chomwe amakonda. Kenako anapatsidwa mndandanda wa ma puzzle kuti athetse. Chodabwitsa n'chakuti, gulu lomwe linkafuna kupeza chisangalalo silinali ndi chidwi chofuna kuthetsa ma puzzle, ndipo linasiya mwachangu.Izi zinapangitsa ofufuza kumvetsetsa kuti tikamayesetsa kukhala ndi chimwemwe, zimatikopa maganizo athu m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Zili ngati kuyesa kuchita zinthu zambiri nthawi imodzi. Izi zimawononga mphamvu zathu zamaganizo. Zotsatira zake n'zakuti timataya mphamvu zofunika kuti tipange zisankho zabwino m'moyo, ndipo timakhala osasangalala kwambiri. Ngakhale kudya chokoleti chimenecho kungawoneke ngati kosangalatsa panthawiyo, pamapeto pake kumabweretsa kutaya kudziletsa ndipo kumatipangitsa kukhala osasangalala kwambiri.

Kuganizira kwambiri za chisangalalo kungakhale ndi zotsatirapo zoipa!

Katswiri wina wa zamaganizo, Iris Maus, waphunzira izi mozama. Malinga ndi iye, kudera nkhawa kwambiri za chisangalalo, kutanthauza kuganiza nthawi zonse kuti, "Kodi ndili wokondwa tsopano?" "Chifukwa chiyani sindili wokondwa?", kuli ngati dontho la poizoni lomwe limawonjezeka pang'onopang'ono m'miyoyo yathu. Tangoganizani, mukucheza ndi anzanu. Koma m'maganizo mwanu, muli funso lakuti, 'Kodi ndikusangalaladi pakali pano?' M'malo mosangalala ndi chisangalalo panthawiyo, mumayamba kuyeza chisangalalo chanu. Chomwe chimachitika ndichakuti mukusowa chisangalalo chenicheni cha nthawiyo yokongola. Mukayeza chilichonse mwanjira iyi, zimangobweretsa kukhumudwa.

Ndiye kodi mungakhale bwanji osangalaladi?

Kodi zonsezi zikutanthauza kuti sitiyenera kuyesetsa kukhala osangalala? Ayi, sichoncho. Chomwe tiyenera kumvetsetsa apa ndichakuti chisangalalo si cholinga, koma ndi chotulukapo . Izi zikutanthauza kuti, chisangalalo chimabwera chokha chifukwa cha zinthu zomwe timachita, momwe timakhalira. Tebulo ili pansipa lingakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa kusiyana kumeneku bwino.

Ndiye kodi timachita chiyani?

Choyamba ndi kusiya kuweruza malingaliro anu. N'zachibadwa kumva chisoni kapena kukwiya. Lolani malingaliro amenewo abwere ndikuyesera kuwamvetsa. Musadziimbe mlandu chifukwa chonena kuti, "N'chifukwa chiyani ndili chonchi?" Chinthu chachiwiri komanso chofunikira kwambiri ndikukhala ndi moyo munthawi ino. Yang'anani kwambiri zomwe mukuchita pano, osadandaula ndi zakale kapena kuda nkhawa kwambiri za mtsogolo. Ngati mukumwa tiyi, sangalalani ndi kukoma ndi fungo la tiyi. Ngati mukusewera ndi mwana, khalanipo nthawi yomweyo ndi mwana ameneyo. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Sam Maglio, yemwe tamutchula kale, adagwiritsa ntchito phunziroli pamoyo wake atatha kafukufukuyu. Anazindikira kuti chimwemwe chake chinali ndi banja lake. Koma anazindikira kuti mdani wamkulu wa nthawi imeneyo anali foni yake yam'manja. Choncho anachita chinthu chosavuta kwambiri. Akafika kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito, ankaika foni yake pansi osaitenga mpaka m'mawa wotsatira. Pasanathe miyezi ingapo, ankamva wosangalala kwambiri kuposa kale lonse. Chimwemwe si chinthu chomwe chingagulidwe ndi ndalama. Chili mkati mwa tonsefe. Kuti tichipeze, tiyenera kusiya kuchitsatira ndikuyamikira zomwe tili nazo panthawiyo. Ngati nthawi zonse mumakhala osasangalala, oda nkhawa, kapena opsinjika maganizo, ndikofunikira kupeza thandizo la akatswiri. Lankhulani ndi dokotala wanu kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo .