Kodi mukulimbana ndi kukakamizidwa ndi anzanu? Tiyeni tikambirane za izi!

Kodi anzanu, mwachitsanzo anzanu akusukulu, amakukakamizani kuchita zinthu zina? Nthawi zina zingakhale zabwino, koma nthawi zina angakulimbikitseninso kuchita zinthu zolakwika. Kotero lero tikambirana za 'kukakamizidwa' kumeneku kapena chikoka, ndi momwe tingathanirane nako bwino. Iyi ndi nkhani yofunika osati kwa ana aang'ono okha, komanso kwa inu, ana aang'ono, komanso kwa makolo anu.

Kodi Kukakamizidwa ndi Anzanu N'chiyani?

Mwachidule, 'Anzanu' ndi anthu ena a msinkhu wanu. Izi zikutanthauza kuti anthu amakonda anzanu akusukulu, anzanu akusukulu, kapena anansi anu a msinkhu wanu. Chifukwa chake, anthu awa akaganiza kuti muyenera kuchita zinthu mwanjira inayake, kapena kuyesa kukukakamizani kuchita zinazake, ndicho chimene timachitcha kuti kukakamizidwa ndi anzawo .

Nthawi zina, ngakhale anzanu sakukukhudzani mwachindunji, mungafune kukhala ngati iwo. N'zachibadwa kumva ngati tonse tiyenera kukhala ofanana. Chifukwa ndani akufuna kukhala paokha, sichoncho? Tonsefe timafuna kukhala m'gulu la anzathu, kugwira nawo ntchito limodzi. Ndi chibadwa cha anthu.

Palibe cholakwika ndi kukonda zomwe anzanu ndi anzanu akusukulu amakonda, ndikuchita zomwe amachita, koma pokhapokha ngati mukuona kuti zinthuzo ndi zoyenera kwa inu . Koma, chinthu chabwino kwambiri pa zonsezi ndikukhala nokha. Nthawi zina sizili kanthu ngati zimakupangitsani kukhala osiyana ndi ena. Kudziwika kwanu, njira yanu, ndiye chinthu chofunikira. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kupanga chinthu chanu kuposa kutsanzira.

Kodi anzanu amakukhudzani bwanji?

Mabwenzi amatha kusonkhezerana wina ndi mnzake mwa kungocheza limodzi. Mumaphunzira zinthu kuchokera kwa iwo, ndipo iwonso amaphunzira zinthu kuchokera kwa inu. N'zachibadwa kumvetsera ndi kuphunzira kuchokera kwa anthu ena a msinkhu wanu. Taganizirani izi, mumakhala nthawi yambiri tsiku lanu ndi anzanu. Choncho khalidwe lawo, makambirano awo, kavalidwe kawo, zomwe amakonda ndi zomwe sakonda zimakukhudzani popanda inu kudziwa.

Anzanu angakukhudzeni m'njira zambiri. Mwachitsanzo, mungaone mafashoni aposachedwa omwe anzanu akusukulu akuvala, ngati iwowo, ndikuyamba kuvala nokha. Mofananamo, anzanu angaone zomwe mukuchita ndikuyamba kuchita zinthu zomwezo. Izi zimachitika mbali zonse ziwiri.

Palinso zinthu zabwino zomwe zingatipangitse kuchita zinthu zina.

Mabwenzi si oipa okha. Palinso zinthu zabwino zomwe zingawakhudze . Taganizirani izi motere. Mwina mnzanu m'kalasi mwanu la sayansi angakuphunzitseni njira yokumbukira mosavuta mapulaneti a dongosolo la dzuwa. Zimenezo zimakuthandizani kwambiri ndi maphunziro anu. Kapena, mukuona mnzanu m'gulu lanu la cricket akusewera mwanzeru, kulemekeza ena, ndi kuvomereza kugonjetsedwa, ndipo mumayesetsa kukhala ngati mnzanuyo. Zimenezo zimapanganso khalidwe lanu.

Komanso, ganizirani izi, mwina mungauze anzanu za buku labwino lomwe mwangowerenga kumene, ndipo nawonso adzalimbikitsidwa kuliwerenga. Kenako aliyense adzakulitsa chidziwitso chawo. Zinthu ngati izi ndi zabwino, eti? Ngati muwona mnzanu akudzuka m'mawa kwambiri ndikuphunzira, mungafune kuchita chimodzimodzi. Kapena mwina anzanu akusukulu akukumana ndikusonkhanitsa ndalama zothandizira mwana wosauka. Izi zimatchedwa Kupanikizika Kwabwino kwa Anzanu .

Koma pangakhalenso zinthu zoipa.

Komabe, abwenzi amathanso kusokonezana m'njira yoipa. Angayese kukukakamizani kuti muchite chinthu chomwe akudziwa kuti ndi cholakwika . Izi ndi zomwe nthawi zambiri timaganiza tikamaganizira za kukakamizidwa ndi anzathu.

Mwachitsanzo, taganizirani kuti ana ena kusukulu akuyesera kukupangitsani kuti musiye kalasi limodzi nawo. Munganene kuti, "Musapite ku kalasi ya mbiri yakale lero, tiyeni tikaonere filimu." Kapena, winawake mu timu yanu ya mpira akuyesera kukukakamizani kuti muchitire nkhanza wosewera wina ndikukuwuzani kuti musamupatse ulemu. Munganene zinthu monga, "Ayenera kuphunzitsidwa phunziro."

Nthawi ina, mwana wa m'mudzi mwanu akukuitanani kuti mugule chinachake ku shopu. Akuyesera kukukakamizani mwa kunena kuti, 'Ndi chinthu chaching'ono, palibe amene adzachione.' Tangoganizirani, mnzanu wapamtima akukuitanani kuti musute ndudu, nati, 'Tiyeni tiyesere kwakanthawi, palibe amene adzadziwa, izi ndi zosangalatsa.'

Mukutani?

Kodi mudzagonjera ku mphamvu imeneyo ndikugwirizana nawo? Kapena mudzachoka chifukwa mukudziwa kuti ndi yolakwika?

Nthawi zina zimakhala zosavuta kudziwa chomwe chili choyenera, koma zimakhala zovuta kuchita . Kuganizira zinthu izi pasadakhale kungakuthandizeni kukonzekera kuchita chinthu choyenera. Komanso, mukachita chinthu choyenera, mungakhale chitsanzo chabwino kwa anzanu.

N’chifukwa chiyani ana ena amagonja mosavuta ku zinthu zimenezi?

Ana ena amagonjera kukakamizidwa ndi anzawo chifukwa chofuna kusangalatsa ena, kapena chifukwa amaganiza kuti zidzakhala zosavuta kuti agwirizane ndi gululo ndi kulowa nawo. Ena amaopa kuti ngati atakana izi, ena adzawasiya, kuwaseka, kapena kuwachotsa m'gululo. Izi ndi zomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri, makamaka ali aang'ono.

Ena amagonja ku chidwi. Mwina akufuna kuyesa chinthu chatsopano chomwe ena akuchita. Pali ena amene amaganiza kuti, 'Aliyense akuchita izi, ndiye bwanji ine sindingathe? Nanga chingachitike n'chiyani ndikayesa pang'ono?' kenako nkumachita ngakhale akudziwa kuti n'zolakwika.

Chinanso n’chakuti nthawi zina ana omwe sadzidalira, omwe alibe mphamvu zoyimira maganizo awoawo, amagonja mosavuta ku zisonkhezero zotere. Amakhala ndi maganizo ofooka monga, 'O, tiyeni tichite chifukwa chakuti akunena zimenezo'. Akamalephera kumvetsa kufunika kwawo , amakhala ndi mwayi wogonja mwachangu ku maganizo a ena. Akataya kumvetsetsa kwawo kuti ndi ndani komanso zomwe sangathe kuchita, ayenera kukumana ndi vutoli.

Ndiye munganene bwanji kuti 'ayi' ku zinthu zimenezi?

Chabwino, tsopano tiyeni tiwone momwe tingakanire kukakamizidwa ndi anzanu osafunikira ndikukhala otetezeka ku izi. Kukumbukira izi kudzakuthandizani kwambiri. Izi si malangizo okha, ndi zinthu zomwe mungagwiritse ntchito.

1. Dziwani bwino chomwe chili choyenera

Choyamba, mvetsetsani chomwe chili chabwino ndi chomwe chili choipa malinga ndi chikumbumtima chanu . Dzifunseni kuti, ‘Kodi izi ndi zoyeneradi kuchita? Kodi zingandivulaze ine kapena ena?’ Nthawi zambiri, mukudziwa kale yankho. Ngati mukudziwa m'chikumbumtima chanu kuti pali cholakwika, muyenera kukhala ndi mphamvu zoti musachite. Mukadziwa chomwe chili chabwino, zimakhala zosavuta kuti muyime molimba mtima pa lingaliro limenelo. Kaya wina anganene chiyani, muyenera kuganiza kuti, ‘Ayi, sindingathe kuchita izi, izi ndi zolakwika, ndipo makolo anga adzandimvera chisoni.’

2. Pezani mnzanu woti akhale nanu.

Kukhala ndi mnzanu m'modzi kapena kuposerapo amene ali wokonzeka kukuthandizani kunena kuti 'ayi' ndi mphamvu yaikulu. Izi zichepetsa kwambiri mphamvu ya kukakamizidwa ndi anzanu . Tangoganizirani, pamene gulu la anthu likuyesera kukukakamizani kuti muchite chinthu cholakwika, kodi zingakhale bwino bwanji ngati mnzanu atakhala pafupi nanu nati 'ayi, sitichita zimenezo, si chinthu chabwino'? Ndibwino kwambiri kukhala ndi anzanu omwe amakuthandizani ndikukuchirikizani pamene simukufuna kuchita chinachake. Mabwenzi ngati amenewo ndi mabwenzi enieni.

3. Thandizani mnzanu

Mwina mukuona mnzanu amene akuvutika kukana 'ayi' ku mtundu uwu wa chikoka. Mwina iyeyo akuchita mantha. Ndiye mutha kuthandiza mnzanuyo. Nenani kuti, 'Ndili nanu - tiyeni tizipita.' Kapena, nenani kuti, 'Tisachite izi, izi si zabwino.' Mukanena zimenezo, mnzanuyo adzamvanso kuti ndi wamphamvu kwambiri. Mukathandiza wina, inunso mudzakhala olimba mtima.

4. Tulukani kumeneko.

Ngati mukukumana ndi mavuto amtunduwu mukakhala nokha, pali zinthu zina zomwe mungachite. Ngati mukudziwa kuti anzanu ena amakukakamizani nthawi zonse kuti muchite zinthu zolakwika, mutha kuwapewa . Ngati akukulimbikitsani kuti muchite chinthu cholakwika, nenani kuti, 'Ayi, m'bale/mlongo/m'bale, sindingathe, ndili ndi zinthu zina zoti ndichite' ndikuchokapo. Simuyenera kupereka chifukwa chake. Ingonenani 'ayi' ndikuchoka. Chabwino kwambiri, khalani ndi anzanu ena ndi anzanu akusukulu omwe angakupatseni kampani yabwino, kulemekeza malingaliro anu, ndikukulimbikitsani kuchita zinthu zabwino.

5. Funsani uphungu kwa munthu wamkulu

Nthawi zina mavuto amenewa angakhale ovuta kuwapirira. Mungamve ngati muli pangozi. Zikatero, funsani uphungu kwa munthu wamkulu amene mumamudalira. Lankhulani ndi amayi anu, abambo anu, mchimwene wanu, mlongo wanu, mphunzitsi wanu, kapena mlangizi wanu kusukulu.Zidzakupangitsani kumva bwino kwambiri. Zidzakuthandizaninso kukonzekera nthawi ina mukadzakumana ndi vuto lofananalo. Popeza ali ndi chidziwitso chochuluka pa moyo kuposa inu, angakupatseni upangiri wabwino, ngakhale pazinthu zina za moyo zomwe simukuzidziwa. Lankhulani momasuka popanda mantha.

Kukakamizidwa ndi Anzanu Abwino

Monga tanenera kale, chikoka cha anzawo nthawi zonse sichinthu choipa. Ndipotu, chingagwiritsidwe ntchito mwamphamvu kwambiri pazinthu zabwino. Mwachitsanzo, mabwenzi amatha kukopa ana ena kuti akhale okoma mtima, achilungamo, komanso aubwenzi. Tangoganizirani, wina mkalasi mwanu amathandiza mwana watsopano, ndipo enawo akuona ndikuyamba kuthandiza mwana ameneyo. Kodi zimenezo n’zabwino bwanji? Kapena, kalasi yonse imabwera pamodzi ndikuchita pulojekiti yokongoletsa munda wa sukulu. Aliyense amagwirizana nawo pa ntchito yabwino yomwe munthu m'modzi kapena awiri amayambitsa.

Ndipotu, ana akasonkhana pamodzi ngati gulu, amatha kulimbikitsana kuti achite zoyenera! Nthawi zina, ngakhale zinthu zabwino zomwe mukuganiza kuti simungathe kuchita nokha zimatha kuchitika mukakumana ndi anzanu. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukumva ulesi pokonzekera mayeso, ndipo gulu la anzanu likukambirana pagulu, mungafune kutenga nawo mbali, eti? Ndicho chisonkhezero chabwino. Chifukwa chake, mutha kukhala chisonkhezero chabwino kwa anzanu.

Zinthu zofunika kwambiri zomwe muyenera kukumbukira (Uthenga Wopita Nawo Kunyumba)

Kotero, izi (Kukakamizidwa ndi anzawo) kapena chikoka cha anzathu ndi chinthu chomwe chimakhudza miyoyo yathu yonse mpaka pamlingo wina. Chofunika kwambiri ndikuzindikira zikoka izi ndikuzilimbana nazo mwanzeru. Kumbukirani zinthu izi.

• Khalani inu nokha: M'malo moyesa kukhala ngati ena, khalani moyo wanu, wokhulupirika kwa inu nokha. Pamenepo ndi pomwe phindu lanu lili.
• Sankhani chinthu choyenera: Mvetserani mtima wanu. Ngati mukuona kuti pali vuto, khalani olimba mtima kuti musachite zimenezo.
• Musaope kunena 'ayi': Kunena 'ayi' pa chinthu cholakwika si chizindikiro cha kufooka, ndi chinthu chomwe chimasonyeza mphamvu zanu, kukhazikika kwa khalidwe lanu.
• Dzizungulireni ndi anzanu abwino: Dzizungulireni ndi anzanu omwe amakuthandizani ndi zinthu zabwino, amalemekeza malingaliro anu, ndipo amakulimbikitsani.
• Pemphani thandizo: Mukakumana ndi vuto lomwe simungathe kuthana nalo nokha, musazengereze kupempha thandizo kwa munthu wamkulu wodalirika.

Pomaliza pake, inu ndi amene mumapanga zisankho m'moyo wanu. Mupeze mphamvu zosankha chinthu choyenera, kudzikhulupirira nokha, ndikukhala osangalala, osagonja ku kukakamizidwa ndi anzanu! Mutha kuchita zimenezo!

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