Kodi mwana wanu wamng'ono amavutika ndi malingaliro? Tiyeni tikambirane za Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)!

Kodi mwana wanu wamng'ono amakwiya msanga pazinthu zazing'ono? Kapena amalira kwambiri akamamva chisoni? Kodi munayamba mwamvapo kuti akuvutika kulamulira malingaliro awo? Izi zitha kukhala zovuta kwambiri kwa iwo komanso kwa inu. Lero tikambirana za mtundu wapadera wa chithandizo chomwe chingathandize nthawi ngati izi. Ndi `(Dialectical Behavior Therapy)` kapena `(DBT)`.

Kodi Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) ndi chiyani?

Mwachidule, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) ndi njira yapadera yolangizira yomwe imathandiza ana aang'ono kuthana ndi mavuto awo, komanso kukonza ubale wawo ndi ena. Ndi mtundu wa chithandizo choyang'ana kwambiri khalidwe. Izi zikutanthauza kuti khalidwe la mwana ndi kaganizidwe kake zimasinthidwa, ndipo mwanayo amaphunzitsidwa maluso ofunikira kuti athe kuthana ndi mavuto ndi zovuta m'moyo.

Taganizirani izi, miyoyo yathu ili ngati galimoto yothamanga kwambiri. Nthawi zina timakwera ndi kutsika. Tiyenera kukhala ndi malingaliro ambiri omwe amabwera ndi kukwera ndi kutsika kumeneku. Maluso awa omwe timapeza kuchokera ku `(DBT)` ali ngati zida m'manja mwathu. Maluso awa amatithandiza kuthana ndi mavuto ndi zowawa zomwe zimabwera m'moyo, osati kutayika m'malingaliro amenewo.

Mawu akuti "dialectic" amatanthauza kupanga mgwirizano pakati pa zinthu ziwiri zomwe zimaoneka ngati zotsutsana. Mu chithandizochi, zinthu ziwirizi ndi "Kuvomereza" ndi "Kusintha." Izi zikutanthauza kuti, ngakhale akuthandiza mwana kumvetsetsa ndikuvomereza momwe akumvera komanso zomwe akukumana nazo, amamuthandizanso kusintha kofunikira kuti achoke mu mkhalidwewo ndikukhala ndi moyo wabwino komanso wachimwemwe. Zinthu ziwirizi zimayendera limodzi.

Kodi kwenikweni chimachitika ndi chiyani ndi `(DBT)`? Kodi ndi maluso ati akuluakulu omwe mwana amapeza?

Chithandizo cha DBT sichigwira ntchito mofanana kwa aliyense, chifukwa mwana aliyense ndi wosiyana. Koma kawirikawiri, chithandizochi chimayang'ana kwambiri pakukulitsa maluso anayi ofunikira. Tiyeni tiwone zomwe zili.

1. Kusamala

Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri. Kusamala kumatanthauza kusamala kwambiri zomwe mukuchita panthawiyo, malingaliro omwe amabwera m'maganizo mwanu, malingaliro omwe muli nawo. Zimatanthauza, popanda kuweruza, "O, ndikumva motere, izi sizabwino," koma kuziona ngati "O... ndikumva motere tsopano, ndili ndi lingaliro ili." Zili ngati kudziyang'ana nokha kuchokera kunja. Izi zimakuthandizani kulamulira malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu, m'malo mongotaya mu malingaliro anu.

Mwachitsanzo, tangoganizani kuti mwana wanu wakwiya mwadzidzidzi. Mukachita zinthu mosamala, m'malo mothawa mkwiyowo, mutha kuona zinthu monga, "Ndakwiya pakali pano, mtima wanga ukugunda mofulumira, manja anga akugwedezeka." Izi zimakuthandizani kulamulira momwe mumayankhira nthawi yomweyo ku malingaliro amenewo.

2. Kulamulira Maganizo

Ana athu aang'ono nthawi zina amamva chisoni, mkwiyo, ndi mantha. Panthawiyo, sangathe kuwaletsa. "Kulamulira Maganizo" kumatanthauza kuwaphunzitsa kumvetsetsa malingaliro ovuta awa, kuwayankha moyenera, kuchepetsa mphamvu zawo, ndikuwonjezera malingaliro abwino akamabuka.

Pa izi, mwana amaphunzira:

• Dziwani bwino momwe mukumvera.
• Mvetsetsani chomwe chinayambitsa malingaliro amenewo.
• Njira zochepetsera zotsatira za malingaliro oipa.
• Momwe mungawonjezere zokumana nazo zabwino pa moyo wanu.

Luso limeneli likakula, mwanayo amatha kulamulira malingaliro ake m'malo mosewera nawo.

3. Kulekerera Mavuto

Moyo nthawi zonse si njira yabwino. Nthawi zina pamakhala nthawi zovuta komanso zopweteka kwambiri. "Kulekerera Mavuto" kumatanthauza kupatsa mwana mphamvu ndi njira zofunika kuti apirire nthawi zovuta komanso zovutitsa, kuti azitha kuzidutsa popanda kusweka mtima ndikupangitsa kuti zinthu ziipireipire.

Apa pali malo otetezeka okhalapo mphepo yamkuntho ikabwera, mpaka itadutsa. Kudzera mu luso limeneli, mwanayo amaphunzira:

• Njira zochepetsera nkhawa yanu nthawi yomweyo.
• Dzisokonezeni nokha nthawi zovuta.
• Njira Zodzitonthoza.
• Landirani momwe zinthu zilili panopa.

Izi sizikutanthauza kuti simuyenera kufunafuna njira yothetsera vutoli. Koma nthawi zina, ngati palibe njira yothetsera vutoli mwachangu, ndikofunikira kwambiri kupirira kupsinjika kumeneko.

4. Kugwira Ntchito Mogwirizana ndi Anthu

Monga anthu, sitikhala tokha. Nthawi zonse timayenera kuchita zinthu ndi anthu ena. Luso la "Interpersonal Effectiveness" limatiphunzitsa momwe tingasungire ubale wabwino ndi ena, momwe tingafotokozere zosowa ndi malingaliro athu momveka bwino komanso molimba popanda kukhala aukali kapena onyoza (Assertiveness), komanso momwe tingathetsere mikangano mwanzeru ikabuka.

Pa izi, mwana amaphunzira:

• Momwe mungapemphere zomwe mukufuna.
• Momwe munganenere "ayi" ku zopempha zosafunikira.
• Fotokozani maganizo anu pamene mukulemekeza maganizo a ena.
• Tetezani malire anu muubwenzi.

Maluso amenewa akakula, mwanayo adzatha kukhala ndi ubale wabwino kwambiri ndi anzake, abale ake, ndi aphunzitsi.

Nazi maluso anayi akuluakulu omwe mwana amapeza kudzera mu DBT:

• Kusamala: Kuvomereza zomwe zikuchitika panthawiyo, malingaliro omwe amabwera m'maganizo, ndi malingaliro omwe mumamva, monga momwe alili, popanda kuweruza.
• Kulamulira Maganizo: Kumvetsetsa ndi kuyankha moyenera ku malingaliro ovuta.
• Kulekerera Mavuto: Kuphunzira kuthana ndi mavuto aakulu popanda kufooka.
• Kuchita Bwino Pakati pa Anthu: Kukulitsa luso lofunsa zomwe mukufuna momveka bwino, kusunga ubale wabwino, ndikuthetsa mikangano.

Kodi chithandizo cha DBT chimathandiza ndani?

Chithandizo cha DBT chapangidwa makamaka kuti chithandize ana aang'ono omwe akuvutika ndi malingaliro amphamvu, amavutika kulamulira malingaliro awo, amaganizira zodzivulaza, kapena amachita zinthu zina zoopsa.

Mfundo ziwiri zazikulu za DBT ndi kupereka chithandizo ndi kutsimikizira kwa mwanayo, ndikuphunzitsa luso lopanga kusintha kofunikira kuti akhale ndi moyo wachimwemwe komanso wathanzi. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, pamene tikulandira mwanayo, tikuti, "Ndikumvetsa kuti mukumva motere, ndi zachilendo," timawatsogolera mwa kunena kuti, "Koma tiyeni tichite izi kuti tichoke mu mkhalidwewu."

Kodi chithandizo cha DBT chimaperekedwa bwanji?

Maluso a DBT amaphunzitsidwa m'njira zingapo zazikulu:

• Magawo a Chithandizo cha Munthu Payekha: Apa, mwana ndi katswiri wa chithandizo amalankhulana okha, kuyang'ana kwambiri mavuto ndi malingaliro a mwanayo, ndikuwathandiza kugwiritsa ntchito luso la DBT pa moyo watsiku ndi tsiku.
• Magulu Othandizira Anthu Okhala ndi Mabanja Ambiri: Apa ndi pomwe gulu la ana ndi makolo awo kapena osamalira amasonkhana pamodzi. Aliyense amaphunzira luso la DBT pamodzi ndipo amaphunzira kuchokera ku zomwe wina ndi mnzake akumana nazo. Izi zitha kuchitika pa intaneti kapena pamasom'pamaso.
• Kuphunzitsa pa Foni: Ngati mwana kapena kholo likukumana ndi nthawi yovuta pakati pa nthawi yopereka uphungu, akhoza kuyimbira katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi kulandira thandizo ndi chitsogozo cha momwe angagwiritsire ntchito luso la DBT panthawiyo.

Maluso onsewa amaphunzitsidwa kuti agwiritsidwe ntchito pa moyo watsiku ndi tsiku. Pamene ana akuphunzira pang'onopang'ono maluso amenewa, adzayamba kulamulira bwino malingaliro awo, kukulitsa ubale wawo ndi ena, komanso kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino pa moyo.

Kodi ndingapeze bwanji chithandizo cha DBT kwa mwana wanga wamng'ono?

Ngati mwana wanu akukumana ndi mavuto aakulu ndipo mukuganiza kuti ali ndi nkhawa kwambiri, kambiranani ndi dokotala wa banja lanu kaye. Iye angakutumizireni kwa katswiri wodziwa bwino za thanzi labwino yemwe waphunzitsidwa za Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Muthanso kufunsa za mautumikiwa kudzera mwa akatswiri a zamaganizo ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo.

Zingatenge nthawi kuti mupeze malo omwe amapereka "(DBT)" ku Sri Lanka, koma ngati mutayesa, simungathe kupeza amodzi. Zipatala zina zachinsinsi ndi malo operekera uphungu angakhale ndi malo amenewa.

Chinthu chofunika kwambiri kukumbukira (Uthenga Wopita Nawo Kunyumba)

Kuphunzitsa mwana wanu wamng'ono kukhala wosamala, wosamala za momwe akumvera, wothana ndi mavuto a moyo, komanso wogwirizana ndi ena kungathandize kwambiri pakusintha moyo wake ndikumuthandiza kukhala munthu woganiza bwino komanso wosangalala.

DBT si matsenga. Zimatengera nthawi, kudzipereka, ndi chithandizo kuchokera kwa mwana wanu. Koma zotsatira zake n'zofunika. Mwana wanu adzaphunzira maluso omwe adzakhalapo kwa moyo wake wonse. Choncho, musataye mtima. Pezani thandizo lomwe mukufuna.

Kumbukirani kuti simuli nokha. Mwana wanu si yekhayo amene akukumana ndi mavuto amenewa. Ndi chitsogozo choyenera ndi chithandizo, mutha kuthana ndi vuto lililonse lovuta.

Achinyamata , Maganizo, Thanzi la Maganizo, DBT, Uphungu, Chithandizo cha Khalidwe, Sri Lanka