Kodi inunso mumavutika ndi maganizo ogonana? Kodi izi ndi zokhudzana ndi chizolowezi chogonana?

Kodi nthawi zina mumamva ngati simungathe kulamulira malingaliro, zilakolako, kapena zochita zina zogonana zomwe zimabwera m'maganizo mwanu, ndipo zinthuzi zikuzungulira m'mutu mwanu, ndipo tsiku lanu lonse, moyo wanu wonse, zimayang'ana pa izo? Ngati izi zikukubweretserani nkhawa zambiri, chisoni, ndi manyazi, ndipo ngati zikusokoneza zochita zanu za tsiku ndi tsiku, ubale ndi banja, ndi ntchito, ndiye lero tikulankhula za nkhani yomwe ingakhale yofunika kwa inunso.

Kodi chizolowezi chogonana ndi chiyani?

Mwachidule, chizolowezi chogonana ndi chilakolako chosalamulirika choganizira za kugonana, zilakolako, kapena zochita. Vutoli lingakupangitseni kupsinjika maganizo ndipo lingawononge thanzi lanu, ubale wanu ndi banja, ntchito, kapena mbali zina za moyo wanu. Anthu ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito mawu oti "chizolowezi chogonana" pofotokoza izi. Komabe, madokotala kapena akatswiri azaumoyo wamaganizo angatchulenso izi kuti "Khalidwe Logonana Lokakamiza", "Khalidwe Logonana Lovuta", "Kugonana Kwambiri", "Matenda Okhudzana ndi Kugonana Kwambiri", "Kukakamizidwa Kugonana", kapena "Kusafuna Kugonana Kwambiri". Nthawi zambiri zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi zinthu zomwe zimapezeka m'moyo wogonana. Izi zikutanthauza zinthu monga maliseche, kuonera zolaula, kugonana pafoni, kugonana pa intaneti, kukhala ndi zibwenzi zogonana zoposa chimodzi. Komabe, ngati malingaliro ndi zochita zanu zogonana zikulowerera moyo wanu wonse, ndiye kuti tikuganiza kuti zitha kukhala chizolowezi chogonana.

Kodi izi zikufanana ndi zizolowezi zina?

Inde, zoonadi. "Kumva ngati munthu woledzera" kuliponso mu izi. Monga momwe munthu woledzera mowa kapena mankhwala osokoneza bongo amamvera chilakolako champhamvu cha zinthu zimenezo, umu ndi momwe zimamvekera pankhani yogonana. N'kosalamulirika, n'kokwiyitsa, n'zosatheka kukhutitsidwa ngakhale mutachita bwanji, zili ngati galimoto yomwe ikuyenda pa `autopilot'. Mukudziwa kuti izi zidzakhala ndi zotsatirapo zoyipa, koma mumachitanso zomwezo mobwerezabwereza. Tangoganizirani, ngati anthu ena amaganizira za kugonana kuyambira nthawi yomwe amadzuka m'mawa mpaka atagona usiku, akuiwala ntchito yawo ndi banja lawo, momwe zimakhalira zovuta.

Kodi vutoli ndi lofala bwanji? Ndani amene amakhudzidwa kwambiri?

Malinga ndi ziwerengero zaku America, vutoli limakhudza pakati pa 3% ndi 10% ya anthu onse. Ndi lofala kwambiri pakati pa anyamata kuposa atsikana. Pa amuna awiri aliwonse omwe ali ndi vuto la hypersexual, mkazi m'modzi mwa asanu amakhudzidwa. Vutoli nthawi zambiri limayamba ali ndi zaka 18. Komabe, anthu ambiri amafuna thandizo la akatswiri ali ndi zaka 37. Izi zikutanthauza kuti amavutika ndi vutoli okha kwa nthawi yayitali.Kuphatikiza apo, zapezeka kuti pafupifupi 88% ya anthu omwe ali ndi vutoli alinso ndi mavuto ena amisala. Ena mwa mavutowa ndi awa:

• Matenda a maganizo, monga matenda a bipolar.
• Matenda Ovutika ndi Nkhawa .
• Anayesapo kudzipha kale.
• Matenda a Umunthu.
• Zizolowezi zina .
• Matenda Oletsa Kugwedezeka.
• Matenda Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder ( OCD ) ndi matenda omwe amadziwika ndi malingaliro ndi zochita zosokoneza.
• Matenda a Kusagwira Ntchito Mopitirira Muyeso ( ADHD ).

Kodi chizolowezi chogonana chimaonedwa ngati matenda amisala?

Padakali mkangano pankhaniyi. Bungwe la American Psychiatric Association linakana lingaliro loti Hypersexual Disorder iphatikizidwe mu Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, kope lachisanu (DSM-5). Iwo anati chifukwa cha izi chinali kusowa kwa umboni wokwanira komanso nkhawa za zotsatirapo zomwe zingachitike chifukwa chotchula kugonana mopitirira muyeso kuti "matenda."

Kodi munthu wotereyu amaganiza ndi kumva zinthu zotani?

Munthu amene ali ndi chizolowezi chogonana angamve ngati:

• Kumva chisoni, manyazi, kapena chisoni.
• Kumva chisoni chifukwa cha khalidwe loledzera, kumva kuti simungathe kulilamulira.
• Kuvutika maganizo , kusungulumwa.
• Mantha, nkhawa.
• Nzosadabwitsa kuti anthu akumva ngati akufuna kudzipha okha.

Tangoganizirani, kodi zingakhale bwanji zopanda phindu ngati mukumva manyazi komanso chisoni ndi chinthu chomwe mukuchita, koma simungathe kuchiletsa?

Kodi zizindikiro za chizolowezi chogonana ndi ziti?

Ngakhale palibe njira yeniyeni yodziwira matenda a hypersexual, pali makhalidwe angapo ofanana omwe angaonekere mwa munthu amene ali ndi vutoli:

• Umaganizira kwambiri za kugonana . Umaganizira za zilakolako zogonana, umachita zinthu zogonana. Izi zimakutengera tsiku lako lonse.
• Mungathe kudziseweretsa maliseche kamodzi kapena kangapo patsiku.
• Nthawi zambiri mumaonera zolaula. Izi zikutanthauza makanema, magazini a akuluakulu, mawebusayiti pa intaneti, ma webcam, ndi zina zotero. Nthawi zambiri mumaseweretsa maliseche mukuonera zolaula.
• Mumathera nthawi yambiri mukukonzekera zochita zogonana. Mumathera nthawi yambiri mukufufuza komwe ndi momwe mungapezere "zosangalatsa" zanu zogonana.
• Mukugwiritsa ntchito mautumiki ogonana nthawi zonse. Izi ndi nkhani yaikulu, chifukwa tsopano munthu akuchita nawo zinthu zanu. Zingakhale zinthu monga kutumizirana mameseji pafoni, kulankhulana kudzera pa malo ochezera pa intaneti, kulipira ndalama zogonana, kupita ku makalabu ovula zovala, kukhala ndi chibwenzi usiku umodzi pafupipafupi, kukhala ndi zibwenzi zambiri.
• Khalidwe lanu limakula kufika pakuchita zachiwerewere mosasamala. Mwina kuchita zachiwerewere kumayenderana ndi machitidwe oopsa monga kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, nkhanza zogonana, kapena "autoerotic absyxiation" (kudzipangitsa kudziletsa kuti mugone ).
• Kuchita chiwerewere chomwe chimatsutsana ndi mfundo zanu, zikhulupiriro zanu zachipembedzo, kapena zomwe anthu amavomereza.
• Nthawi zambiri mumatchula zochitika zotchedwa `(Paraphilia)`. Izi ndi machitidwe ogonana omwe amayambitsa kupsinjika maganizo, kuvulala, kapena ngakhale imfa kwa munthu wina. Mwachitsanzo: `(Exhibitionism)`, `(Voyeurism)`, `(Sadomasochism)`, ndi `(Pedophilia)`.
• Simungathe kuletsa khalidwe logonana ili, ngakhale litakhala ndi zotsatirapo zoipa pa ndalama zanu, maubwenzi anu, thanzi lanu, ndi moyo wanu.

Kodi izi zingayambitse mavuto otani?

Kuledzera kwa kugonana kungayambitse mavuto monga:

• Mumataya ubale wabwinobwino komanso wabwino ndi mnzanu wogonana naye komanso abale anu.
• Popeza simungathe kuyang'ana bwino ntchito yanu, kuonera zolaula kuntchito kungayambitse mavuto kuntchito kwanu ndipo mwina mungatayike ntchito yanu.
• Kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama pa zochitika zogonana kumabweretsa mavuto azachuma.
• Mavuto azaumoyo. Mimba, matenda opatsirana pogonana monga HIV, Hepatitis B ndi C, Syphilis, ndi Gonorrhea zimatha kuchitika.
• Kutembenukira ku kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso.
• Matenda amisala monga kupsinjika maganizo, nkhawa, kuvutika maganizo, ndi maganizo ofuna kudzipha.
• Ngati mukuchita zachiwawa zogonana, mwina mungafunike kupita kundende.
• Kumva katundu wolemera m'maganizo chifukwa cha zinthu monga kudzimva kuti ndi wolakwa, manyazi, ndi kukhumudwa.

Kodi zifukwa za chizolowezi chogonana ndi ziti?

Asayansi sakudziwabe chomwe chimayambitsa izi, koma malingaliro ena amati zitha kuchitika chifukwa cha:

• Kusalinganika kwa mankhwala enaake muubongo wanu.Kuchuluka kwa mankhwala otchedwa ``neurotransmitters'', monga ``Dopamine'', ``Norepinephrine'', ndi ``Serotonin'', omwe amanyamula mauthenga muubongo, kungapangitse chilakolako ndi khalidwe logonana kukhala loipa.
• Matenda kapena kuwonongeka kwa ziwalo za ubongo zomwe zimalamulira khalidwe logonana. Matendawa angayambitsidwenso ndi matenda monga `(Dementia)`, `(Epilepsy)`, `(Bipolar Disorder)`, kapena kuwonongeka kwa ziwalo za ubongo monga `(Frontal lobe)`, `(Amygdala)`, `(Prefrontal cortex)`.
• Ntchito ya ubongo imasintha, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ubongo ukhale ndi njira zatsopano zogwiritsira ntchito zinthu zoledzera.
• Kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, makamaka cocaine, amphetamines, ndi mowa.
• Monga zotsatira zoyipa za mankhwala ena. Chitsanzo ndi mankhwala otchedwa ``Levodopa`` omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito pa matenda a Parkinson.

Kodi mungazindikire bwanji vutoli?

Mukapita kwa dokotala kapena mlangizi wa zaumoyo wamaganizo , adzakufunsani zinthu monga:

• Za thanzi lanu lamakono, matenda omwe alipo, matenda omwe ali m'banja mwanu, ndi mankhwala, mavitamini, ndi mankhwala azitsamba omwe mukumwa.
• Kodi mumagwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena mowa?
• Adzakufunsani za malingaliro anu okhudza kugonana, zilakolako zanu, ndi makhalidwe anu, mphamvu zomwe muli nazo pa iwo, ndi zizindikiro zina zilizonse zokhudzana ndi kugonana.

Dokotala angapemphenso chilolezo kwa achibale anu ndi anzanu kuti akupatseni chidziwitso. Dokotalayo adzayesanso kuchotsa matenda ena, monga bipolar disorder, hyperandrogenism, nkhawa, umunthu, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), ndi Tourette's disorder, chifukwa hypersexual disorder ingakhalenso chizindikiro cha matenda ena. Pakadali pano, palibe njira zomwe anthu amavomerezana zodziwira hypersexual. Komabe, akatswiri azaumoyo wamaganizo omwe amagwira ntchito yoledzera amatha kuzindikira machitidwe ogonana omwe akukhudza moyo wanu ndipo angakupatseni chithandizo choyenera.

Kodi imachiritsidwa bwanji?

Chithandizo cha chizolowezi chogonana, kapena hypersexuality , chimaphatikizapo kuphatikiza mankhwala, psychotherapy, komanso kutenga nawo mbali m'magulu odzithandiza.

Mankhwala

Palibe mankhwala enieni omwe amavomerezedwa kuti munthu azitha kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Komabe, mutha kuyesa mankhwala omwe amakhudza mahomoni ndi mankhwala muubongo omwe amalamulira "zilakolako ndi machitidwe," komanso mankhwala a matenda ofanana. Dokotala wanu adzaganiziranso za matenda ena amisala anu ndikukupatsani mankhwala oyenera kwambiri kwa inu.

• Mankhwala Oletsa Kuvutika Maganizo: Mankhwala omwe ali m'gulu la SSRIs (Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors) amaonedwa kuti ndi mankhwala oyamba a chizolowezi chogonana.
• Mankhwala oletsa mahomoni a amuna (Anti-androgens):Izi zimagwira ntchito poyang'ana mahomoni ogonana a amuna. Ndi othandiza pochepetsa malingaliro olakwika. Mutha kuyesa izi mukakhala ndi khalidwe logonana lopitirira muyeso moti lingakhale loopsa kwa ena.
• Naltrexone (Vivitrol®, Revia®): Mankhwalawa, omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito pochiza mowa ndi opioid, apezekanso kuti ndi othandiza pa chizolowezi cha juga. Angathandizenso pa chizolowezi chogonana.
• Zolimbitsa mtima: Izi zingakuthandizeni ngati muli ndi vuto monga bipolar disorder lomwe limayenderana ndi kusokonezeka maganizo kapena kusafuna kuchita zinthu mopitirira muyeso, ndipo kugonana mopitirira muyeso ndi chizindikiro cha vutoli. Zitsanzo zake ndi lithiamu, valproate (Depakote®), ndi carbamazepine (Tegretol®).
• Mankhwala oletsa nkhawa: Ngati nkhawa ndiyo imayambitsa khalidwe lanu logonana, mutha kuyesa mankhwalawa. Buspirone ndi chitsanzo chimodzi chomwe chingathandize.
• Mankhwala ena: Ngati muli ndi vuto la maganizo kapena kusokonezeka maganizo, mungafunike kuganizira za mankhwala oletsa matenda amisala. Mankhwalawa angathandize kuchepetsa chilakolako chogonana, chilakolako chogonana, komanso kutopa. Ngati muli ndi vuto la Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) (lomwe limagwirizanitsidwa ndi chiopsezo chogonana), mankhwala monga methylphenidate ndi dextroamphetamine angathandize.

Chithandizo cha maganizo

Chithandizo cha maganizo ndi njira yosiyana siyana. Mu izi, mumalankhula ndi mlangizi wa zaumoyo wamaganizo . Iye amakuthandizani kuzindikira ndikuwongolera zinthu zomwe zimayambitsa ndikukulitsa khalidwe lanu logonana. Chithandizochi chimaperekedwa kwa anthu paokha, mabanja, ndi maanja, komanso kwa ena. Chifukwa chizolowezi cha munthu chogonana chimakhudza aliyense.

• Chithandizo cha Maganizo (CBT): Mankhwala amisala awa pang'onopang'ono amalowa m'malo mwa malingaliro ndi machitidwe anu oipa ndi njira zina zochepetsera chilakolako chanu chogonana ndikuthana nacho bwino.
• Chithandizo cha Kuvomereza ndi Kudzipereka (ACT): Ichi chimagwiritsa ntchito njira zovomereza ndi kuganizira. Cholinga chake ndikuthandiza anthu kuvomereza kupsinjika komwe akumva ndikusintha ubale wawo ndi malingaliro amenewo, m'malo mosintha malingaliro awo.
• Kuyankhulana Molimbikitsa: Katswiri wa zamaganizo uyu amakutsogolerani pofufuza nokha za chizolowezi chanu chogonana mogwirizana ndi zolinga zanu ndi makhalidwe anu.

Magulu othandizira odzithandiza okha

Izi zapangidwa motsatira pulogalamu ya masitepe 12 ya Alcoholics Anonymous. Pali magulu angapo, monga Sex Anonymous, Sex Addicts Anonymous, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, ndi Sexual Compulsives Anonymous. Mutha kuyang'ana mawebusayiti a mabungwe awa kuti mupeze nthambi pafupi nanu.

Kodi izi zingapewedwe?

Kaya mungapewe chizolowezi chogonana kapena ayi zimadalira zomwe zimayambitsa. Nthawi zina zimatha kukhala kusalinganika kwa mankhwala muubongo. Kapena, zitha kukhala zotsatirapo zina kapena chizindikiro cha matenda ena. Pali zinthu zambiri zomwe zimapangitsa kuti munthu akhale ndi chizolowezi chogonana. Komabe, ngakhale simungathe kuzilamulira zonse, mutha kulamulira zina mwa zinthu zomwe zingayambitse malingaliro anu, zilakolako zanu, zilakolako zanu, ndi zochita zanu. Izi zikuphatikizapo:

• Dziwani zambiri zokhudza chizolowezi chogonana kapena kugonana mopitirira muyeso. Mwayamba kale kuchitapo kanthu powerenga nkhaniyi!
• Kaonaneni ndi dokotala wanu kapena mlangizi wa zaumoyo wa maganizo . Iwo alipo kuti akuthandizeni, kuyambira pa maphunziro.
• Sinthani zinthu zomwe mukudziwa kuti zikukupangitsani kukonda. Letsani mawebusayiti olaula ndi mawebusayiti ena ogonana pa kompyuta yanu. Pewani misewu yokhala ndi makalabu odula zovala ndipo tsatirani njira ina. Ganizirani zosintha zina zomwe mungachite.
• Pezani thandizo pa nkhani yogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Ngati mugwiritsa ntchito mowa kapena mankhwala osokoneza bongo, mphamvu yanu yoletsa chilakolako chanu chogonana ingachepe. Funsani dokotala wanu kuti akuthandizeni kusiya zinthuzi.
• Konzani bwino matenda ena amisala. Ngati muli ndi matenda ena amisala, monga kuvutika maganizo, nkhawa, kapena matenda a bipolar, onetsetsani kuti mwatsatira malangizo onse a dokotala wanu pothana ndi mavuto amenewo. Ngati mukuona kuti vuto lanu lasintha, konzani nthawi yoti mukakumane ndi dokotala.
• Yang'anani mphamvu zanu pazinthu zabwino. Thupi lanu likayang'ana kwambiri chinthu china, maganizo anu amathanso kusintha ndikuyang'ana kwambiri. Khalani otanganidwa. Sewerani masewera, lowani makalabu, yambani chizolowezi chanu, dziperekani m'mabungwe omwe amathandiza ena, maseŵera olimbitsa thupi, kusinkhasinkha, kuchita yoga, kapena kuyesa njira zina zochepetsera nkhawa.
• Khalani oleza mtima, khalani maso pa zolinga zanu. Kuthana ndi chizolowezi chogonana ndi kudzipereka kwa moyo wonse. Ndi udindo wanu kuyang'ana kwambiri zinthu zofunika kwambiri pa moyo wanu ndikukonza ubale womwe wawonongeka. Mutha kuchita izi. Gulu lanu lonse lazachipatala lili pano kuti likuthandizeni. Aloleni akuthandizeni.

Ndingadziwe bwanji ngati ndili ndi chizolowezi chogonana?

Kodi khalidwe lanu logonana limakupangitsani kumva kuti simuli bwino kapena limakusokonezani ndi zinthu zofunika kwambiri pa moyo wanu? Kodi zinthu zimenezi zimakuchitikirani?

• Kodi simugona chifukwa cha maganizo kapena zochita zogonana?
• Kodi mukuchedwa kuntchito?
• Kodi mukulephera kukwaniritsa maudindo anu?
• Kodi mumanamiza banja lanu kapena mumabisa zinsinsi?
• Kodi mukufunikira kuchita zinthu zogonana mwamphamvu kwambiri kuti mupeze chilakolako chogonana kapena kukhutira ndi kugonana komweko?
• Kodi mumachita zachiwerewere ndi anthu kapena malo omwe simungasankhe chifukwa cha chilakolako chanu chogonana?
• Kodi nthawi zambiri mumakhala mukuonera zolaula?
• Kodi munayamba mwakhalapo ndi mavuto azamalamulo kapena kutayika ndalama chifukwa cha khalidwe lanu logonana?
• Kodi maloto anu, zilakolako zanu, kapena makhalidwe anu ogonana akukutopetsani m'maganizo, m'maganizo, ndi/kapena mwakuthupi?
• Kodi khalidwe lanu la kugonana likutsutsana ndi mfundo zanu za chipembedzo, kapena zikhulupiriro zanu zamakhalidwe abwino?
• Kodi mumadzimva chisoni, chisoni, kukhumudwa, kudzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa, kusungulumwa, kapena maganizo ofuna kudzipha mutachita khalidwe lanu logonana?

Ngati mwayankha kuti "inde" pa funso lililonse mwa awa, ndi bwino kupanga nthawi yokumana ndi dokotala. Angakutumizireni kwa dokotala wa matenda amisala kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo. Ngati muli ndi maganizo ofuna kudzipha, pitani kwa dokotala nthawi yomweyo, kapena imbani 1926 (National Mental Health Helpline).

Kodi pali kugwirizana pakati pa chizolowezi chogonana ndi kuvutika maganizo?

Pakhoza kukhala mgwirizano. Khalidwe loipa la kugonana lingachuluke panthawi ya kukhumudwa komanso kuvutika maganizo. Mankhwala oletsa kuvutika maganizo angayankhenso zizindikiro za kuvutika maganizo.

Mwachidule, zinthu zomwe tiyenera kukumbukira

Ngati zilakolako zanu zogonana ndi zochita zanu zikukuvutitsani maganizo, zikulamulira moyo wanu, ndikuwononga moyo wanu, ntchito, ndi/kapena banja lanu, ino ndi nthawi yoti mulankhule ndi dokotala wanu. Anthu ambiri safuna chithandizo chifukwa cha manyazi kapena kudzimva kuti ndi olakwa. Gulu lanu lazachipatala silikuweruza khalidwe lanu logonana. Alipo kuti akuthandizeni.

Kumbukirani, simuli nokha. Pali anthu ambiri omwe akukumana ndi mavuto ngati awa, ndipo pali njira zambiri zopezera thandizo.

Zotsatira zabwino kwambiri zimabwera chifukwa chogwira ntchito ndi aliyense - banja lanu, mnzanu, gulu lanu lachipatala, ndipo chofunika kwambiri, kukhala woona mtima kwa inu nokha. Pali njira zambiri zochiritsira zomwe zingakuthandizeni. Siyani manyazi ndi mantha anu ndipo pemphani thandizo.

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