Kodi n'kovuta kuti mnzanu amene ali ndi ADHD akumvetseni? (ADHD mu Ubale)

Ngati muli ndi ADHD ( attention deficit hyperactivity disorder), mungamve kuti mnzanu nthawi zina amakhumudwa ndi khalidwe lanu. Koma simungadziwe chomwe chikumuvutitsa kapena choti muchitepo. Ngakhale kuti ubale uliwonse ndi wosiyana, pali zifukwa zina zomwe zimayambitsa mavuto nthawi zambiri. Mwachitsanzo, kusokonezeka kwanu, kuiwala, komanso kuchita zinthu mopupuluma kungayambitse kusamvana pakati panu. Tiyeni tidziwe komwe mavutowa amayambira ndikulankhula za njira zochepetsera kupsinjika maganizo.

Pamene chisokonezo chikhala vuto

Polankhula za kukhala ndi munthu amene ali ndi ADHD, mayi wina dzina lake Christine anati: “Ndili munthu wokonzekera zinthu, munthu wochita zinthu mwadongosolo. Nthawi zonse ndimaganizira zomwe zichitike pambuyo pake.” Mwamuna wake, Max, ali ndi ADHD.

Max ndi wosiyana kwambiri ndi zimenezo. Ngakhale kuti sakusamala za chisokonezo, Christine amaona kuti ndi vuto lalikulu. Iye anati, "Mwamuna wanga wakhala m'malo osokonezeka moyo wake wonse. Koma kwa ine, kuona chisokonezo kumandipangitsa kumva kupsinjika maganizo kwambiri."

Malinga ndi Sharon Saleen, katswiri wa zamaganizo yemwe ndi katswiri wa ADHD, izi zimachitika kawirikawiri. "Anthu okwatirana omwe ali ndi ADHD nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi malingaliro otsutsana pankhani ya dongosolo ndi dongosolo. Izi zitha kukhala zokhumudwitsa kwa onse awiri."

Mumachita chiyani pa izi?

Pamodzi, lembani mndandanda wa zinthu zomwe nonse mumaziona kuti ndi zovuta kapena zovutitsa maganizo (zoyambitsa). Sankhani zosavuta zoti muyambe nazo ntchito. Kenako pezani njira yozikonzera. Izi zitha kukhala kulemba mitundu, kapena kuyika zinthu m'mabokosi osiyana motsatira zilembo za alfabeti. Chofunika ndikupeza njira yomwe nonse awiri mukugwirizana.

Mavuto okhudzana ndi kugawana ntchito zapakhomo

Teri, yemwe amakhala ndi William, yemwe ali ndi ADHD , anati: "Nthawi zina ndimamva ngati ndine ndekha amene ndiyenera kutenga maudindo onse apakhomo ndikupanga dongosolo la chilichonse."

Popeza William sakusamala za ntchito zapakhomo, Terry amatenga udindo ndikuchita chilichonse. Iye akuti ngati sangachite, palibe chomwe chingachitike. "Ndiyenera kuyang'anira chilichonse ndikugawa ntchito."

Izi ndi zomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri mu maubwenzi a ADHD, akutero Chad Perman, mlangizi wa mabanja ndi mabanja. "Mnzanu wosakhala wa ADHD nthawi zambiri amachita ntchito zambiri zapakhomo komanso kusamalira ana chifukwa amakhala okonzekera bwino, odalirika, komanso okhoza kumaliza ntchitozo panthawi yoyenera."

Izi zitha kukhala ubale wa "kholo ndi mwana " pakapita nthawi. Ngakhale mnzanuyo atakhala "kholo lodalirika," inu mosadziwa mungakhale "mwana wosadalirika." Izi zitha kukhala zokhumudwitsa kwambiri kwa nonse awiri.

Mumachita chiyani pa izi?

Khalani pansi pamodzi ndi kukambirana. Gwirizanani ntchito zinazake zomwe mudzachita. Ikani zikumbutso pafoni yanu kuti musaiwale kuzichita. Komanso, uzani mnzanuyo mukamaliza ntchito. Izi zichepetsa kupanikizika pa iye.

Ukaiwala chinthu chofunikira...

Kuiwala kungayambitse mavuto ambiri paubwenzi. Monga momwe Teri akunenera, "Nthawi zina ndimatuma William kusitolo kukatenga zinthu ziwiri. Zimamutengera nthawi yayitali kuti akafike kumeneko, ndipo pamapeto pake amabwerera ndi chinthu chimodzi chokha."

Amaseka ndi kuiwala zinthu zazing'ono ngati zimenezo. Koma amanenanso kuti, "Sindiseka ndikaganizira ngati mphaka angaiwale kumudyetsa kapena galu angatha madzi ine ndili kutali."

Ngakhale Max amadziwa kuti kuiwala kwake ndi vuto. "Nthawi zina ndimalonjeza kuti ndidzatumiza kalata kwa mkazi wanga kenako n’kuiwala kuichita pa nthawi yake. Nthawi zina ndimaiwala kotheratu."

Akalephera kukwaniritsa lonjezo, amadzimvera chisoni. "Ayenera kundikhulupirira. N'zovuta kukhala ndi munthu amene simungamukhulupirire. Ziyenera kuti zimapweteka kwambiri mukakayikira chikhulupiriro cha mnzanu."

Mumachita chiyani pa izi?

Pangani mndandanda wa zochita. Ulembeni mzere mukamaliza ntchito. Ikani zikumbutso ndi zidziwitso pafoni yanu. Ngati n'kotheka, lembani pa bolodi loyera pakhoma pomwe mnzanuyo angawone.

Ngati mnzanu sakumvanso kukondedwa

Mukaiwala zinthu zofunika kwa mnzanu, mukapanda kusamala zosowa zawo, angamve ngati simukuwasamala. "Izi zimachitika kawirikawiri m'maubwenzi ndi ADHD," akutero Ned Hallowell, MD, katswiri wa ADHD. Ngakhale chifukwa chake chingakhale cha mitsempha, munthu winayo angaone ngati kusowa chikondi.

Izi ndi zomwe zimachitikira Theri pamene William anataya chidwi chake chonse akakhala naye. "Nthawi zina amayenda mofulumira kwambiri. Amaiwala komwe ndili chifukwa chidwi chake chili kwina."

"Ngati tipita ku phwando, amandiiwala kotheratu akakumana ndi anzake. Sadziwa ngakhale ngati ndikufuna chakumwa kapena ngati ndili m'gulu la anthu." Amadziwa kuti William sachita zinthuzi dala. Koma amaona ngati William samusamala.

William akuti, "Pepani kwambiri kuti akumva choncho, chifukwa si cholinga changa." Chomwe chikuchitika ndichakuti ubongo wake uli ndi zinthu zambiri nthawi imodzi, ndipo akuchita zinthu mwachangu kwambiri, ndipo akusowa zina.

Mumachita chiyani pa izi?

William ndi Terry akunena kuti zimathandiza kukambirana modekha, popanda kuimbana mlandu. "Ndiye tingathe kugwira ntchito limodzi kuti tipeze yankho la vutoli." Ngati muli ndi ADHD, mutha kuchita zinthu zoganizira bwino. Izi zingakuthandizeni kukhalabe ndi nthawi yomwe ilipo.

Mukawerenga mwadzidzidzi zomwe zimabwera m'maganizo mwanu

ADHD ingakhudzenso momwe mumalankhulirana ndi mnzanu. Munganene chilichonse chomwe chimabwera m'maganizo, kuvutika kumvetsera zokambirana, kapena kusokoneza mwadzidzidzi munthu winayo akamalankhula.

"Mnzanu wopanda ADHD amaona kuti zinthuzi ndi zoyipa kwambiri, zosasamala, komanso zopweteka.""Ndi momwe zilili," akutero mlangizi Parman.

"Mabanja ambiri omwe ali ndi ADHD amavutika ndi mkwiyo waukulu wamaganizo ndi mikangano yamphamvu," akutero Sharon Saleen.

Mumachita chiyani pa izi?

Ganizirani musanalankhule. Mukakwiya kwambiri, pumulani. Khazikani mtima pansi, kenako bwererani pamodzi ndikukambirana za vutoli.

Kaya vuto ndi liti, yesetsani kumvetsera mwachidwi kamodzi pa sabata. Kambiranani za mavuto omwe mukukumana nawo pamodzi ndikupeza mayankho. Yang'anani mkhalidwewo m'njira yabwino nthawi iliyonse yomwe mungathe. Pumulani pamene maganizo akukwera. Yang'anani pa makhalidwe abwino omwe nonse muli nawo komanso zinthu zomwe mumagwirizana. Kumbukirani, iyi si nkhondo yomwe nonse muyenera kulimbana nokha, ndi chinthu chomwe nonse muyenera kuthana nacho limodzi. Ngati mukufuna upangiri wowonjezera pa izi, lankhulani ndi dokotala wanu kapena mlangizi woyenerera.