Ese ufite ibibazo mu buzima bwawe bw'imibonano mpuzabitsina? Reka tuvuge ku muvuzi w'imibonano mpuzabitsina!

Imibonano mpuzabitsina ni ikintu cy'ingenzi cyane mu buzima bwacu. Ariko rimwe na rimwe, ibibazo bitandukanye bishobora kuvuka muri urwo rwego. Iyo ibyo bibaye, bamwe bababara batabibwiye umuntu uwo ari we wese kubera isoni n'ubwoba. Ariko se wari uzi ko hari abahanga bashobora gufasha muri ibi bintu? Abo ni bo tugiye kuvugaho uyu munsi, `Abavuzi b'Imibonano mpuzabitsina`.

Uyu Muganga w'Imibonano mpuzabitsina ni nde?

Mu magambo make, `Umuvuzi w’Imibonano mpuzabitsina` ni inzobere mu by’ubuzima ufite uruhushya, usobanukiwe inzitizi zo mu mutwe no mu byiyumvo zigira ingaruka ku buzima bwawe bw’imibonano mpuzabitsina, akagufasha kuzishakamo ibisubizo. Tekereza nawe, rimwe na rimwe ntidushobora gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina cyangwa ngo dutakaze inyungu zacu bitewe n’ubwoba, guhangayika, cyangwa ibintu bibi twahuye na byo mbere. Ibyo ni byo aba bantu bafasha.

"Umuganga w'Imibonano mpuzabitsina" ashobora kuba umukozi ushinzwe imibereho myiza y'abaturage, umuganga rusange, cyangwa ndetse n'umuhanga mu by'imitekerereze. Ariko ikiruta byose, bagomba kugira amahugurwa yihariye ku buzima bw'imibonano mpuzabitsina n'ibibazo by'imibonano mpuzabitsina. Ntibashobora guha umuntu uwo ari we wese iyi nama gusa. Bakorana n'abantu ku giti cyabo cyangwa abashakanye kugira ngo babafashe gukemura ibibazo by'imibonano mpuzabitsina, urugero nko gutinya imibonano mpuzabitsina ( guhangayika mu mikorere) cyangwa ibibazo mu mibanire ya bugufi (ibibazo by'imibonano mpuzabitsina).

Umuganga w’imibonano mpuzabitsina akora iki?

Noneho reka turebe icyo `umuvuzi w’imibonano mpuzabitsina` akora.

Bifasha mu kuvura ibibazo bitandukanye by’imibonano mpuzabitsina, cyane cyane ibiterwa n’ibintu byo mu mutwe cyangwa ibiterwa n’ibintu byo mu mutwe. Bifasha kandi mu bibazo bijyanye n’ubuzima bw’imibonano mpuzabitsina n’imibanire y’abantu. Ibi byose bikorwa mu buryo bwo gushyigikirana, butarimo gucira abandi urubanza, mu bwubahane kandi mu mutekano.

Ariko hari ikintu cy'ingenzi cyane ugomba kwibuka. Abavuzi b'imibonano mpuzabitsina ntibavura indwara z'umubiri zigira ingaruka ku mibonano mpuzabitsina. Urugero, ntibashobora kuvura testosterone nkeya . Rero, niba ufite ikibazo mu mibonano mpuzabitsina yawe, ugomba kubanza kureba muganga w'umuryango wawe, umuganga w'abagore (niba uri umugore) cyangwa umuganga w'inkari (niba uri umugabo) kugira ngo bamenye niba hari impamvu y'umubiri.Niba nta mpamvu ifatika ihari, cyangwa niba hari ingaruka zo mu mutwe hamwe n'impamvu ifatika, hakenewe ubufasha bw'umuvuzi w'imibonano mpuzabitsina.

Abavuzi b'imibonano mpuzabitsina bakoresha uburyo butandukanye bwo kuvura bwagaragaje ubuhanga mu kunoza ubuzima bw'abantu mu mibonano mpuzabitsina. Akenshi bakoresha ikintu cyitwa psychotherapy. Muri make, ubu buryo ni ubuvuzi bwo kuvuga. Bukubiyemo kuvuga ku byiyumvo byawe, ibitekerezo byawe, n'imyitwarire yawe, kubyumva, no kugerageza guhindura ibikenewe. Hari ubwoko butandukanye bw'ubuvuzi bwo kuvura bukoreshwa mu mibonano mpuzabitsina :

• Ubuvuzi bw'imyitwarire mu bwenge (CBT)
• Ubuvuzi bushingiye ku marangamutima
• Ibikorwa bishingiye ku bwenge
• Uburyo bwo gushyikirana hagati y'abashakanye

Ikindi kintu ni uko, `Abavuzi b'Imibonano mpuzabitsina` barinda cyane ubuzima bwawe bwite n'ibanga ryawe. Mu by'ukuri, ni kimwe mu bigize amategeko agenga imyitwarire yabo. Abavuzi barenga ku ibanga ry'abarwayi bashobora gutakaza uruhushya rwabo rw'umwuga.

Ni iki wagakwiye kubonana n'umuganga w'imibonano mpuzabitsina?

Imibonano mpuzabitsina (si imibonano mpuzabitsina gusa, ahubwo no kwikinisha) ni uburambe bugoye burimo ibintu bitatu: amarangamutima, ubwenge, n'umubiri. Niba ufite icyifuzo cyo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina, imikorere myiza y'imibonano mpuzabitsina ni ingenzi mu mibereho yawe. Ifitanye isano n'imibereho myiza y'umubiri n'iy'ubwenge, ndetse no kunyurwa n'imibanire yawe.

Abakora mu by'ubuzima n'abashinzwe imibonano mpuzabitsina bagabanya ibikorwa by'imibonano mpuzabitsina mu byiciro bine by'ingenzi. Ibi byitwa uruziga rw'imibonano mpuzabitsina:

• Icyifuzo/Libido: Ibi bivuze icyifuzo cyo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina, icyifuzo cyo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina.
• Gukanguka/Gushyuha: Umubiri witeguye gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina.
• Urugendo rw'umubiri: Impanuka y'ibyishimo mu mibonano mpuzabitsina.
• Umuti: Uburyo bwo kuruhuka butuma umubiri usubira ku murongo.

Ibibazo by'imibonano mpuzabitsina bishobora kuvuka mu cyiciro icyo ari cyo cyose cy'uru rugendo. Kumenya uko witwara mu bwenge no mu mubiri muri buri cyiciro ntibishobora kongera ubunararibonye bwawe mu mibonano mpuzabitsina gusa, ahubwo binagufasha kumenya impamvu zitera imikorere mibi mu mibonano mpuzabitsina.

"Umuganga w'Imibonano mpuzabitsina" ashobora gufasha mu bijyanye n'imitekerereze n'amarangamutima bifitanye isano n'ibibazo bitandukanye by'imibonano mpuzabitsina. Dore ingero nke:

• Kubura ubushake bw'imibonano mpuzabitsina.
• Kubura irari ry'imibonano mpuzabitsina.
• Kugorwa no kugera ku ndunduro (anorgasmia).
• Kubabara mu gihe cy'imibonano mpuzabitsina (dyspareunia). Urugero, ububabare buterwa no gufungana mu gitsina (vaginismus).
• Kugorwa no kugira cyangwa gukomeza guhagarara (imikorere mibi y'imibonano mpuzabitsina).
• Gusohora imburagihe, gutinda gusohora, cyangwa ibindi bibazo byo gusohora.

Uretse ibi, `Umuvuzi w'Imibonano mpuzabitsina` ashobora kugufasha mu zindi ngorane nyinshi:

• Gutanga inyigisho zikwiye ku bijyanye n'imibonano mpuzabitsina no gukuraho imyumvire itari yo.
• Guhura n'ihohoterwa rishingiye ku gitsina cyangwa ihungabana rishingiye ku gitsina.
• Kumva ufite impungenge, ubwoba, cyangwa isoni zijyanye n'imibonano mpuzabitsina.
• Ibibazo biterwa n'imyumvire y'umuco, iy'amadini n'imibereho ku bijyanye n'imibonano mpuzabitsina.
• Kunoza uburyo bwo kuganira hagati yawe n'umukunzi wawe ku bijyanye n'imibonano mpuzabitsina n'ubucuti .
• Irari ry'imibonano mpuzabitsina ritajyanye n'abafatanyabikorwa.
• Ibibazo by'imibanire biterwa n'ingorane mu mibonano mpuzabitsina.
• Isura mbi y'umubiri n'uburyo bigira ingaruka ku mibonano mpuzabitsina.
• Kubaho neza n'indwara zandurira mu mibonano mpuzabitsina (STIs).
• Indwara y'imibonano mpuzabitsina ikabije cyangwa ubusinzi mu mibonano mpuzabitsina.
• Ubusinzi bw'amashusho y'urukozasoni.

Ni iki kibaho mu gihe cyo kuvura imibonano mpuzabitsina?

Noneho reka turebe uko bigenda mu gihe cyo "Gutanga Ubuvuzi bw'Imibonano mpuzabitsina", ni ukuvuga iyo ugiye kureba umuvuzi.

Muri ibi biganiro, wowe n'umuganga wawe w'imibonano mpuzabitsina mukorana kugira ngo mumenye kandi muhindure ibitekerezo n'imyitwarire bibangamira ubuzima bwawe bw'imibonano mpuzabitsina. Ushobora guhura n'umuganga wawe wenyine, cyangwa ushobora kujyana n'umukunzi wawe/umukobwa wawe, umugabo/umugore wawe, cyangwa uwo mukorana imibonano mpuzabitsina.

Umuganga wawe ashobora kukubaza ibibazo bijyanye n'ibintu nk'ibi:

• Ku bijyanye n'ubuzima bwawe n'imibonano mpuzabitsina .
• Ku bijyanye n'inyigisho z'imibonano mpuzabitsina wahawe.
• Imyizerere yawe n'imyitwarire yawe ku bijyanye n'imibonano mpuzabitsina .
• Ni ibihe bibazo byihariye by'imibonano mpuzabitsina ufite?

Nibyo koko kuvuga ku mibonano mpuzabitsina rimwe na rimwe bishobora kuba ingorabahizi kandi biteye isoni. Abavuzi b'imibonano mpuzabitsina barabizi neza. Niyo mpamvu bagerageza uko bashoboye kose kugira ngo bashyireho ikirere aho ushobora kuvugana mu bwisanzure kandi nta bwoba.

Wibuke ko kubera ko ubuvuzi bwo mu mutwe ari ukuvuga gusa, ugomba kugira uruhare rugaragara muri iki gikorwa. Icyiringiro n'umubano hagati yawe n'umuvuzi wawe ni ingenzi kugira ngo ubu buvuzi bugende neza.

Umuganga wawe w’imibonano mpuzabitsina ashobora kuguha 'umukoro wo mu rugo'.Ushobora kandi gutanga. Ni ukuvuga ibikorwa n'imyitozo ushobora gukorera mu rugo, mu buryo burinda ubuzima bwawe bwite. Ibi bishobora kuba ibintu nka "igerageza", urugero, "gukina inshingano". Cyangwa bishobora kuba imyitozo ukora wenyine cyangwa uri kumwe n'umukunzi wawe kugira ngo wubake icyizere n'ubucuti.

Ikintu kimwe ugomba kumenya neza hano ni uko mu gihe cy'amahugurwa ya 'Sex Therapy', nta gukoranaho cyangwa gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina bizaba hagati yawe n'umuvuzi. Ibyo ntibishoboka. Niba wumva utanyuzwe n'uburyo ubwo aribwo bwose bwo kuvura, menya neza ko wabibwiye umuvuzi wawe. Cyangwa, ufite uburenganzira bwo guhagarika kumusura no gutanga ikirego kuri byo.

Ni irihe tandukaniro riri hagati y'umuganga w'imibonano mpuzabitsina n'umujyanama mu by'imibonano mpuzabitsina?

Ushobora kuba warumvise amagambo abiri `Umuvuzi w’Imibonano mpuzabitsina` na `Umujyanama mu by’Imibonano mpuzabitsina`. Aba bombi ni abantu bahawe amahugurwa menshi mu bijyanye n’imibonano mpuzabitsina. Mu bihugu nka Leta Zunze Ubumwe za Amerika, aba bantu bombi bagomba kuba bafite icyemezo cy’umuryango witwa `Ishyirahamwe ry’Abanyamerika ry’Abarezi, Abajyanama n’Abavuzi mu by’Imibonano mpuzabitsina (AASECT). Muri Sri Lanka, bagomba kuba bafite ibyangombwa byemewe kuri ibi.

Itandukaniro riri mu buryo aba bombi bakemura ibibazo by'imibonano mpuzabitsina.

• Umuganga w’imibonano mpuzabitsina: Bakoresha uburyo bwo kuvura indwara z’imitekerereze, cyangwa uburyo bwo kuvuga, kugira ngo bafashe mu bibazo by’imibonano mpuzabitsina. Ibi bibazo bishobora kuba byoroshye cyangwa bigoye. Bagera ku muzi w’ikibazo bagashaka impamvu zo mu mutwe no mu byiyumvo.
• Umujyanama mu by'imibonano mpuzabitsina: Bafata ingamba zishingiye ku bikorwa runaka. Batanga inyigisho ku bibazo by'igihe gito, bigisha uburyo butandukanye, kandi akenshi bibanda ku gutanga ubumenyi no gutanga inama zifatika.

Nigute waba umuvuzi w'imibonano mpuzabitsina?

Kuba `Umuvuzi w'Imibonano mpuzabitsina` ntabwo byoroshye. Bisaba uburezi n'amahugurwa akomeye. Inzira rusange ni nk'iyi (ibi bishobora gutandukana gato bitewe n'igihugu):

• Impamyabumenyi y'icyiciro cya kabiri cya kaminuza: Impamyabumenyi y'ibanze yakuye muri kaminuza.
• Impamyabumenyi y'ikirenga cyangwa impamyabumenyi y'ikirenga: Impamyabumenyi y'ikirenga cyangwa impamyabumenyi y'ikirenga mu ishami rijyanye nabyo, nko mu mitekerereze y'abantu cyangwa mu mibereho myiza y'abaturage. Byongeye kandi, uzakenera kuba ufite uburambe mu by'ubuvuzi.
• Amahugurwa yihariye: Amahugurwa mu bijyanye n'ubuvuzi bw'imitekerereze n'imibanire y'abantu ni itegeko. Nanone, ugomba kurangiza amasaha menshi y'amasomo ajyanye n'inyigisho z'imibonano mpuzabitsina (urugero, amasaha agera kuri 90).
• Uruhushya: Ugomba kubona uruhushya rukwiye rwo gukora ubuvuzi bw'imibonano mpuzabitsina mu gihugu cyangwa leta bireba.

Urabona ko ibi birenze inama gusa, ahubwo ni urwego rwimbitse kandi rw’umwuga. Ubusanzwe bifata nibura imyaka icyenda kugira ngo umuntu abe `Umuvuzi w’Imibonano mpuzabitsina` wemewe. Ibi birimo byose kuva ku mpamyabumenyi y’ibanze, impamyabumenyi y’icyiciro cya kabiri cya kaminuza, n’amahugurwa y’ubuvuzi. Ibi rero bigaragaza uburyo aba bantu bitanze muri uru rwego.

Ni ubuhe butumwa twifuza kujyana muri iyi nkuru?

Kuvuga ku mibonano mpuzabitsina n'ibibazo by'imibonano mpuzabitsina rimwe na rimwe bishobora kugorana, bigatera isoni, cyangwa bigatera ubwoba. Ibyo ni ibisanzwe. Ariko ibuka ko utari wenyine.

`Umuvuzi w'Imibonano mpuzabitsina` ni umuntu ushobora kugufasha gusobanukirwa izi mbogamizi z'imibonano mpuzabitsina, kuzitsinda, no kubaho ubuzima bwuzuye kandi bufite ubuzima bwiza.

Ni inzobere muri uru rwego. Bafite ubumenyi buhagije ku bushakashatsi buheruka ndetse n'uburyo bwiza bwo kuvura bushobora kugufasha.

Bityo rero, niba ufite ikibazo icyo ari cyo cyose kijyanye n'ubuzima bwawe bw'imibonano mpuzabitsina, ntukiguhishe ngo ugire icyo ubabara, ariko ntutinye gushaka ubufasha ku 'Muganga w'Imibonano mpuzabitsina' wujuje ibisabwa. Ni ubufasha bukomeye ushobora kwikorera.

Umuganga w'imibonano mpuzabitsina , ibibazo by'imibonano mpuzabitsina, ubuzima bwo mu mutwe, ubujyanama mu by'imibonano mpuzabitsina, indwara zo mu mutwe, ibibazo by'imibonano mpuzabitsina, ibibazo by'imibanire