Ese nawe ubyumva utyo? Ibyo ukora byose, kuva ku gito kugeza ku kinini, bigomba gukorwa neza 100%. Ese wumva umutwaro uremereye n'umutimanama wawe niba ukoze ikosa rito? Niba ari uko bimeze, ushobora kuba urwaye indwara yo mu mutwe yitwa ' Perfectionism '. Muri make, iyi ni ukwemera gukomeye ko ibyo ukora byose bigomba kuba bitunganye, nta makosa. Gutekereza muri ubu buryo si byiza cyane ku buzima bwawe bwo mu mutwe no ku mubiri.
Wamenya ute niba ufite ubushake bwo gukora ibintu byose neza?
Abenshi muri twe dushobora kuba 'abaharanira gutungana' mu buryo bumwe cyangwa ubundi mu buzima bwacu. Wenda nawe umeze utyo mu guteka, cyangwa wenda uri mu kazi kawe. Ariko niba ushaka ubu 'butungane' mu byo ukora byose, birashoboka cyane ko ugira iyi ndwara. Reka turebe ibintu by'ingenzi biranga.
- Gutinda: Gutinda gutangira igikorwa kubera gutinya ko utazashobora kugirangiza nta makosa.
- Gufata umwanya utari ngombwa: Ufata igihe kinini cyane cyo gukora ikintu kimwe kurusha abandi kuko udafite umwanya wo kugikora 'perf ECT '.
- Gutekereza ku musaruro wa nyuma gusa: Aho kwishimira inzira, ukora gusa utekereza ku musaruro wa nyuma.
- Kutanyurwa: Wumva utararangiza akazi kugeza igihe utekereje uti "Ibi ni byiza cyane ubu."
Igikuru ni uko gushaka ibintu byose uko bikwiye atari indwara. Ariko iyo bitagenzuwe , bishobora kugira ingaruka zikomeye ku buzima bwo mu mutwe wawe.
Ese hari ubwoko bw'ingenzi bwo gushaka ko ibintu byose biba byiza?
Yego, turimo kuvuga ahanini ku bwoko butatu bwo gushaka gutungana. Nubwo hari ibisa hagati yabyo, hari n'ibitandukanye bito. Reka turebe ibyo muri iyi mbonerahamwe.
| Ubwoko bw'ibintu bitunganye | Mu magambo make ... |
|---|---|
| Guharanira gutungana kw'amahame bwite (gushingiye ku mahame y'umuntu ku giti cye) | Ibi ni byiza cyane. Kubera ko wishyiriraho intego zikomeye kandi ukaba ufite ishyaka ryo kuzigeraho. Ibi bituma udacika intege cyangwa ngo ugire stress. Nubwo abandi bavuga bati "Izi ntego ni nini cyane ku buryo utazigeraho," bizagutera imbaraga. |
| Kwinenga no gushaka gutungana | Ibi ni akaga gato. Muri ibi, wumva ufite ubwoba n'intege nke, nk'aho utazigera ubasha kugera ku ntego zawe. Ibi bishobora gutera ibintu nk'indwara zo guhangayika, stress, kwiyagiriza, no kwirinda akazi. |
| Guharanira ko ibintu byose biba byiza (bishingiye ku gitutu kiva muri sosiyete) | Ikiba muri uru rubanza ni uko udasunikwa n’igitutu kiva kuri wowe ubwawe, ahubwo uva hanze, cyo ‘gukora byose neza’. Urugero, mu myuga nk’umuganga cyangwa umunyamategeko, n’ikosa rito cyane ntirishobora gukorwa. Nanone, igitutu kiva ku babyeyi bamwe na bamwe ndetse na sosiyete na byo bishobora kuba impamvu y’ibi. |
Ingaruka zo gushaka gutungana ku buzima
Ubushakashatsi bwagaragaje ko gushaka gutungana bifitanye isano n'ibibazo byinshi by'ubuzima bwo mu mutwe. Reka turebere hamwe izo ngaruka.
- Ibibazo by'ubuzima bwo mu mutwe :
- Kunanirwa cyane (umunaniro wo mu mutwe no ku mubiri uterwa no gukora cyane)
- Guhangayika
- Ihungabana
- Guhangayika
- Ibitekerezo byo kwiyahura
- Ibitekerezo n'ibikorwa bidakenewe ( Indwara yo Kwiheba no Kwishyira mu Bitekerezo - OCD)
- Indwara zo kurya
- Ibibazo bifitanye isano n'ubuzima:
- Kwiyubaha guke
- Gucika intege
- Gusubika akazi
- Ibibazo mu mibanire hagati y'abantu
Kuki dufite iyi 'Perfectionismism'?
Biragoye kumenya impamvu imwe itera ibi. Hari impamvu nyinshi zishobora kubaho. Reka turebe izikuru.
- Gutinya gukabije gutsindwa.
- Gukenera gushimisha ababyeyi cyangwa abasaza.
- Icyifuzo cyo gukundwa no kwemerwa n'abandi.
- Kugira ibindi bibazo by'ubuzima bwo mu mutwe nko guhangayika no kugira OCD.
- Kumva utizeye kandi utishoboye.
- Ibibazo mu mibanire n'ababyeyi mu bwana.
- Kuba umuntu wagaragaje impano yo mu rwego rwo hejuru mu gihe cy'ishuri cyangwa mu rubyiruko.
Ese hari uburyo bwo kuvura kugira ngo umuntu atsinde ubushake bwo gutungana?
Yego rwose. Aho kugerageza gukemura iki kibazo wenyine, ni ngombwa kubonana n'inzobere mu by'ubuzima bwo mu mutwe , nka muganga w'indwara zo mu mutwe cyangwa umujyanama binyuze kuri muganga wawe. Bashobora kugufasha kumenya impamvu nyamukuru y'uburwayi bwawe no gutangira ubuvuzi bukwiye.
Hari uburyo bwinshi bw'ingenzi bwo kuvura bukoreshwa.
Ubuvuzi bushingiye ku mitekerereze n'imyitwarire (CBT)
Ibi bikwigisha ko atari ko ibintu byose bigomba kuba bitunganye 100%. Bikwigisha ko amakosa ari ibisanzwe kandi ko ataguhagarika mu rugendo rwawe.
Ubuvuzi bwa Hypnotherapy
Ibi bifasha kuva mu myumvire yo "gutekereza byose cyangwa ntacyo bitwaye". Ibi bifasha guhindura iyi myumvire ihamye.
Ubuvuzi bw'umuryango
Muri ibi, turareba uburyo ubushake bwo gutungana bwatangiye mu muryango wawe, n'uburyo byakugizeho ingaruka nk'umuntu ku giti cye. Dukorana n'abagize umuryango kugira ngo dushake ibisubizo by'iki kibazo.
Ibintu ushobora kugerageza wenyine
Uretse inama z'abaganga, hari ibintu byinshi ushobora kugerageza kwicungira iki kibazo.
- Andika ibyiza n'ibibi: Andika mu gitabo ibyiza n'ibibi byo kuba umuntu uharanira ibintu byose bitunganye kuri wewe. Nubyumva utyo, reba ibyo bibi hanyuma ufate umwanzuro.
- Shyiraho intego zifatika: Shyiraho intego zifatika ushobora kuzigeraho koko. Ubwo uzareka kurambirwa gukurikirana ibintu bidashoboka.
- Shyiraho igihe ntarengwa: Shyiraho igihe ntarengwa gifatika kuri buri gikorwa kandi ugerageze kugirangiza muri icyo gihe. Ibi bizakurinda gupfusha ubusa igihe cyawe bitari ngombwa ku kintu kimwe.
- Irinde gutinda: Aho gutekereza ku musaruro wa nyuma, gabanyamo ibice by'umurimo hanyuma ukomeze nyuma yo kurangiza igice kimwe. Muri ubwo buryo, uzumva unaniwe cyane.
- Kwakira amakosa: Wibuke ko amakosa atari mabi buri gihe. Mu by'ukuri, ushobora kubigiraho. Aho kuyatekerezaho cyane, wemera ko ari igice cy'ubuzima bwawe.
- Ibande ku bindi bintu: Aho kugerageza gutunganya ikintu kimwe, fata umwanya ukora ibintu bitandukanye bigushimisha kandi bikubereye ingenzi.
Ubutumwa bwo kujyana mu rugo
- Gushaka ibintu byose neza si indwara, ahubwo ni indwara yo mu mutwe ishobora kugira ingaruka mbi ku buzima bwawe bwo mu mutwe mu gihe idakozweho ingamba.
- Amakosa ni kimwe mu bigize ubuzima. Sobanukirwa ko atari ko ibintu byose bigomba kuba bitunganye 100%.
- Niba wumva ufite stress cyangwa uhangayikishijwe n'iki kibazo, ni ngombwa cyane kujya kwa muganga no gusaba inama aho kubabara wenyine.
- Shyiraho intego zifatika, ntugatinde, fata umwanya w'ibintu bigushimisha. Gira ubuntu kuri wowe ubwawe.
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