Uko umwaka mushya wegereza, ese ujya utekereza ibintu nk'ibi, "Sinashoboye kubona amafaranga menshi nk'uko nabyifuzaga...", "Nagerageje kugabanya ibiro kuri iyi nshuro, ariko sinashoboye...", "Sinabonye urwego nifuzaga rwo kuzamurwa mu ntera, nagerageje kubona akazi gashya, ariko na byo ntibyagenze neza...", "Sinshobora kunoza..." Ese ujya wishinja ko watekereje ibintu nk'ibi? Mu by'ukuri, nubwo hari abantu bategerezanyije amatsiko gutegura ibirori no gufata ibyemezo by'umwaka mushya uko umwaka ugenda urangira, abandi bareba inyuma umwaka ushize bakicuza ibintu batashoboye kugeraho. Ibi ni ibisanzwe cyane.
Niba usanzwe ufite ikibazo cyo kwiheba, cyane cyane muri iki gihe cy'umwaka, gutekereza ku mwaka ushize muri ubu buryo bishobora gutuma ibintu birushaho kuba bibi. None rero uyu munsi, reka tuganire ku mpamvu tubona ko twinenga cyane uko umwaka mushya wegereza, n'uburyo bwo gutsinda 'ibiheri by'ububabare' kuri iyi nshuro.
Kuki twifata gutya mu mpera z'umwaka?
Mu magambo make, ni ibisanzwe gusubiza amaso inyuma mu mwaka ushize no gutekereza ku byo twakoze. Nk’uko abahanga mu by’imitekerereze y’abantu babivuga, ntabwo bitangaje ko tubikora muri iyi minsi. Tekereza gusa, waba ufunguye televiziyo, radiyo, cyangwa ujya kuri interineti, hari gahunda nka 'Umwaka w’Isuzuma' cyangwa "Ibikorwa by’Umwaka" ahantu hose. Rero iyo itangazamakuru ritwibutsa kenshi ibyabaye mu mwaka wose, natwe twibuka umwaka washize mu buzima bwacu.
Hanyuma ikiganiro kivuga ku "myifatire y'umwaka mushya" kiratangira. Iyo tuvuga ku myifatire mishya, nta kabuza dutekereza ku ntege nke zacu. Iyo dutekereje ku bintu nka "Ndashaka kugabanya ibiro," "Ndashaka kugabanya uburakari," "Ndashaka gukora cyane," twibanda ku ntege nke zacu.
Uretse ibi byose, wenda ibihe byawe by'iminsi mikuru (nk'umunsi w'abasazi bo muri Mata cyangwa Noheli) ntibyari bishimishije nkuko wabyifuzaga. Hari n'abantu biyicira urubanza. Niba usanzwe ufite stress cyangwa wihebye, ushobora kwibanda ku ntege nke zawe no gutekereza ko uri umuntu wananiwe mu bihe nk'ibi, aho kureba ibyo wagezeho.
Isano iri hagati y'akamenyero ko 'gutekereza' n'aka gahinda
Niba urushaho kwiheba bitewe no guhora utekereza ku mwaka ushize kandi ukumva ubabaye, ushobora no kugira ingeso yo mu mutwe yitwa 'Rumination' .
Mu magambo make, gutekereza cyane ni ugutekereza kenshi ku kibazo kimwe cyangwa ikintu kimwe, ukagihangayikishwa, ugatangira gutekereza ibintu byinshi utabonye igisubizo. Ni nk'inka irimo gushyuha, itekereza ikintu kimwe inshuro nyinshi. Ubushakashatsi bwagaragaje ko iyi ngeso ikunze kugaragara mu bagore kurusha abagabo.
Ubushakashatsi ku bantu bafite akamenyero ko "gutekereza" bwagaragaje ibintu nk'ibi:
- Aba bantu bakunze gukoresha uburyo bubi iyo bahuye n'ibibazo. Nanone bishinja ibyaha bitari ngombwa kandi bagatekereza ku hazaza mu buryo butari bwiza.
- Gutekereza no kwiheba birajyana.
- Ni ngombwa kumenya aho ugomba guhagarika uru ruhererekane rw'ibitekerezo. Buri wese atekereza kimwe ku rugero runaka. Ariko niba ubonye ko gutekereza muri ubu buryo ntacyo bikemura, kandi bigatuma wumva ubabaye cyane, ariko ntushobora kubihagarika, niho ikibazo kiri.
- Kwiheba bishobora gutuma iki kibazo cyo "kwibwira" kirushaho kuba kibi. Iyo ufashwe n'iki kibazo mu gihe usanzwe wumva ufite agahinda, uzibuka gusa ibintu bibi cyane by'ikibazo.
Kumva umeze nk'uruvange rw'uburozi. Kimwe gigaburira ikindi. Inzira irahujwe cyane ku buryo rimwe na rimwe bigorana kumenya icyatangiye mbere.
Ni gute nacika kuri uru ruhererekane rw'ibitekerezo bibabaje?
Niba usanze urimo gutekereza muri ibi bitekerezo mu mpera z'umwaka, dore inama zimwe na zimwe zitangwa n'impuguke zagufasha kuva muri icyo kibazo.
| Ingamba | Icyo ukwiye gukora |
|---|---|
| Tegura mbere y'igihe (Tegereza) | Niba ibi warigeze guhura nabyo mbere, ntutegereze ko uyu mwaka urangira kugira ngo ubigabanuke, ahubwo tegura gahunda mbere y'igihe. Tekereza uti: "Kuri iyi nshuro sinzareka ibyo bitekerezo binyigarurire." |
| Aho kuvuga ngo "Kuki ari njye?" tekereza uti "Kuki ibi byabayeho?" | Iyo ibitekerezo bibabaje bije, aho kwibanda ku ntege nke zawe, tekereza impamvu ibintu utashoboraga gukora byabaye uko byagenze. Iga kuri byo hanyuma ukomeze. Gutekereza uti "Kuki ibi bingeraho?" bizagutera agahinda kenshi. |
| Hindura ujya mu bikorwa | Aho kumva ubabaye, ibaze uti: "Ni ikihe kintu gito cyane nshobora gukora kugira ngo nhindure iki kibazo?" Tangira gukora utwo tuntu duto. |
| Irinde kwiyangaza. | Iyo ugeze muri uru ruhererekane rw'ibitekerezo bibi, haguruka ugende gutembera, ujye muri siporo, cyangwa uganire n'inshuti yawe. Ugomba gutangira kumva umeze neza mu minota 10 nyuma y'imyitozo ngororamubiri. Biragoye gutekereza ku bintu bibabaje no gukora imyitozo icyarimwe. |
| Gira icyo uvuga ku buryo busobanutse neza. | Niba urimo gushyiraho icyemezo cy'Umwaka Mushya, aho gutekereza cyane nka "Ngiye kuba umuntu mwiza muri uyu mwaka," shyiraho intego nto kandi zihariye. Urugero: Aho kuvuga ngo "Ngiye kureka gutonganya abana banjye" cyangwa "Ngiye kugabanya ibiro 20," tekereza ku kintu gito, gishobora gukorwa nka "Ngiye kuzana imbuto mu rugo umunsi ibiro bizatanga amadonati." |
| Ongera utekereze ku byo witeze | Reba niba ibyo witeze ari ukuri. Niba bidashoboka, ntibivuze ko ugomba kureka intego. Ahubwo, gabanya iyo ntego nini mo intambwe nto. Hanyuma ushobora kuyigeraho byoroshye. |
Niba, nubwo wakurikije izi nama, ugifite ikibazo cyo kugenzura ibyo byiyumvo bibabaje, ntugahangayike wenyine. Ni ngombwa cyane kubonana na muganga w'umuryango wawe ukaganira kuri ibi. Ashobora gusobanukirwa uko ibintu bimeze, kandi nibiba ngombwa, akakohereza kwa muganga w'indwara zo mu mutwe cyangwa umujyanama. Wibuke ko, nk'uko tubona muganga iyo turwaye, atari bibi gushaka ubufasha bw'inzobere iyo twumva twihebye.
Ubutumwa bwo kujyana mu rugo
- Uko umwaka mushya wegereza, ni ibisanzwe gutekereza ku mwaka ushize. Ariko, kwibanda kuri ibyo bitekerezo no kwishinja icyaha ni bibi.
- 'Kurota' ni ingeso mbi yo mu mutwe yo guhora utekereza ku kibazo kimwe nta gisubizo ubonye kandi ukumva ubabaye. Menya ibi hanyuma ugerageze kubyikuramo.
- Uburyo bubiri bwiza bwo guca uru ruhererekane rw'ibitekerezo bibabaje ni ugukora no kurangaza.
- Aho gushyiraho intego nini kandi zidashoboka zo mu mwaka mushya, shyiraho intego nto, zihariye kandi zishobora kugerwaho.
- Niba ibyo byiyumvo bikomeye cyane ku buryo udashobora kubigenzura, ntugakomereke wenyine, ahubwo shaka inama za muganga.
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