Ese wumva umuntu ukunda, ni ukuvuga uwo mwashakanye, yahindutse gato? Ese ntamwenyura nk'uko yabikoraga mbere? Ese ibintu byose bisa nkaho birambirana kandi bitagushimishije? Kubona ikintu nk'iki bishobora gutuma wumva ufite ibibazo byinshi n'agahinda. Wenda arwaye indwara yo mu mutwe yitwa depression. Iki ni ikintu kigoye cyane kuri wowe ndetse no kuri we. Reka turebe uko twabyumva neza kandi tukakorohereza uru rugendo mwembi.
Ni ibihe bimenyetso bisanzwe by'indwara yo kwiheba?
Kwiheba si agahinda gasanzwe gusa, ni indwara ikomeye kandi ikomeye cyane. Uwo mwashakanye ashobora kugaragara nk'ubabaye kandi arambiwe inyuma. Hari igihe ashobora kugaragara nk'aho ameze neza inyuma, nta gihindutse. Menya rero ibi bimenyetso.
| Ibiranga | Gusobanura mu buryo bworoshye... |
|---|---|
| Gutakaza ubushake mu kintu icyo ari cyo cyose | Ibintu nakundaga cyane, nko kwishimisha, kumarana nawe igihe, ubu nta kintu na kimwe mfite gishishikaje cyangwa icyifuzo mfite. |
| Kumva ubabaye cyangwa ufite icyaha igihe cyose | Guhora numva mfite agahinda nta mpamvu runaka. Gutekereza ko byose ari ikosa rye. |
| Ibibazo byo gusinzira | Ushobora kuba udashobora gusinzira nijoro (kubura ibitotsi), cyangwa wumva usinziriye umunsi wose, usinziriye birenze ibyo ukwiye gusinzira. |
| Impinduka z'umubiri | Kubura amahoro bituma bidashoboka kuguma ahantu hamwe, cyangwa se mu buryo bunyuranye na byo, ni ukuvuga kuvuga, gutekereza, ndetse no kugenda, bishobora kubaho kenshi. |
| Ibitekerezo ku buzima | (Ibi ni ingenzi cyane) Iyo ibintu bikomeye, ibitekerezo byo kwiyahura no kwiyahura bishobora kuvuka. Ushobora kuvuga ibintu nk'ibi ngo "Iyaba ntari narigeze mvuka." |
Icyitonderwa: Niba umukunzi wawe avuze ibyo kwiyangiza cyangwa atanze igitekerezo nk'icyo, ntukifate nk'aho ari ikintu cyoroshye . Mujyane ako kanya ku bitaro biri hafi yawe cyangwa ushake inama kwa muganga.
Ibintu ugomba kumenya mu gihe ukundana n'umuntu ufite ikibazo cy'ihungabana
Kubana n'umuntu ufite ikibazo cyo kwiheba rimwe na rimwe bishobora kuba ikibazo gikomeye, ariko iyo ugisobanukiwe neza , ushobora kugitsinda.
Wenda ntuzi ko afite agahinda.
Kwiheba si ukuryama mu buriri no kurira gusa nk'uko byerekanwa kuri televiziyo no muri filime. Hari abantu bamwenyura bakitwara nk'abantu bishimye inyuma, ariko imbere baba bafite agahinda kenshi. Ibi kandi tubyita 'kwiheba kumwenyura'. Aba bantu bajya ku kazi, bakaganira n'inshuti, ariko byose babikora bahisha amarangamutima yabo nyayo.
Tekereza nawe, niba umukunzi wawe agerageza kuba wenyine igihe kinini, ntabwo ari ukubera ko akurambiwe, ahubwo ni ukubera ko ahanganye n'ibiri mu mutima we wenyine.
Ushobora kumva waranze.
Kwiheba bishobora gutuma atakaza imbaraga n'ubushake mu kintu icyo ari cyo cyose. Ashobora kubura ubushake bwo gusohokana nawe, kuganira nawe, cyangwa gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina. Ibi si amakosa yawe. Ariko muri iki gihe, ushobora kumva ubabaye cyane kandi uri wenyine.
Hari ibintu bibiri ushobora gukora mu gihe nk'iki.
1. Ntugakosore umukunzi wawe.
Ihungabana ni ikibazo kigoye. Ntushobora 'gukemura' ubwawe. Aho kugerageza kubashakira imiti no gusesengura amarangamutima yabo yose, ikintu cyiza wakora ni ukubamenyesha ko uri hafi yabo uko byagenda kose. Ubatege amatwi igihe bakeneye kuvugana. Bafashe kubona umuganga niba abikeneye.
2. Ntugahagarike ubuzima bwawe.
Nugerageza kuririra umukunzi wawe kuko ababaye, mwembi muzaba muhagaze ahantu hamwe. Tekereza no ku buzima bwawe bwo mu mutwe. Ntukirengagize ibitotsi byawe, ibyo urya, imyitozo ngororamubiri, n'ibyo ukunda. Niwaba ukomeye gusa, uzabasha kumufasha.
Ese ibi byaba ari ukwiheba gukabije kw'imitsi?
Indwara yo kwiheba ikomeye n'indwara yo kwiheba cyane ni ibintu bibiri bitandukanye. Niba umukunzi wawe afite indwara yo kwiheba cyane, imyitwarire ye izaba itandukanye.
- Uguhindagurika kw'amarangamutima: Ashobora kuba afite agahinda kenshi mu gihe kimwe (igihe cyo kwiheba), ikindi gihe akaba afite ibyishimo byinshi, afite imbaraga, kandi adatuje (igihe cyo kubabara). Ibi byiciro byombi birasimburana.
- Impinduka mu gufata ibyemezo: Muri izi mpinduka zombi mu marangamutima, umuntu ashobora gufata ibyemezo bitari bisanzwe. Urugero, ashobora gukoresha amafaranga nabi iyo yumva yasinze.
- Ingaruka ku mibanire: Ushobora gusa n'ushishikajwe cyane n'imibanire iyo ufite imbaraga, ariko ugatakaza burundu ubushake iyo ubabaye.
Kubera ko uburyo bwo kuvura izi ndwara zombi butandukanye, ni ngombwa kubonana na muganga kugira ngo amenye neza indwara.
Ese kuvurwa bishobora gufasha?
Yego rwose. Niba urimo gutekereza ku hazaza hamwe n'umukunzi wawe, ni ngombwa cyane ko mwembi mubona ubufasha bw'inzobere.
- Ubuvuzi bw'umuntu ku giti cye: Uwo mwashakanye ashobora kujya kwivuza wenyine kugira ngo yige guhangana n'iyi ndwara no kubaho nayo. Ushobora kandi kujya kwivuza wenyine kugira ngo wige uburyo bwo kwita ku buzima bwo mu mutwe bwawe no kumushyigikira.
- Ubuvuzi bw'Abashakanye: Mu gushaka inama hamwe, mwembi muhabwa inama z'inzobere ku buryo mwakomeza umubano wanyu no kuganira neza nubwo hari iki kibazo.
Niba uri ingenzi ku mukunzi wawe, ntukemere ko gusuzuma indwara yo kwiheba biguca intege. Urugendo rushobora kutagenda neza buri gihe. Ariko iyo wihanganye, wumvikana kandi uganira neza, ubwo bwoko bw'imibanire bushobora kugira icyo bugeraho kandi bukaba bwiza nk'ubundi bwose bwiza.
Ubutumwa bwo kujyana mu rugo
- Kwiheba si agahinda gusa, ni indwara nyayo isaba kuvurwa.
- Aho kugerageza "gukosora" uwo mwashakanye, mushyigikire mu rukundo no mu bwumvikane. Mutege amatwi.
- Ubuzima bwawe bwo mu mutwe nabwo ni ingenzi. Ntukirengagize ibyo ukunda, siporo, n'ibintu bikuzanira ibyishimo.
- Mu bwitonzi mubashishikarize gushaka ubufasha bw'inzobere. Niba bibaye ngombwa, mubafashe kujya kwa muganga.
- Menya ibimenyetso by'umuburo byo kwiyangiza. Nubona ikintu, hita ufata ingamba.
- Iyo ushyigikiwe kandi ukumva neza, ndetse n'imibanire n'umuntu uhanganye n'ikibazo cyo kwiheba ishobora kuba ikomeye kandi ikagira icyo igeraho.
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