Unotyawo here kuva pedyo nemumwe munhu wotanga hukama? Ngatitaurei nezveGamophobia!

Dzimwe nguva unonzwa seizvi here? Unongonzwa kutya uye kusagadzikana here kana mumwe munhu akaedza kuswedera pedyo newe zvakanyanya, kana kuti kana hukama hwacho hwanyanya kupfuudzira? Kana kuti unoshamisika here paunonzwa kuti shamwari yako yavimbisana kuroorana? Kana zvinhu izvi zvakajairika kwauri, unogona kunge uchitambura nechirwere ichi usingatombozvizivi.

Chii chinonzi Gamophobia?

Zvichitaurwa zviri nyore, Gamophobia kutya kukuru kwekuzvipira. Kutya uku kwakanyanya zvekuti dzimwe nguva zvinogona kusafungika kuti avo vane chirwere ichi vave muukama hwenguva refu. 'Gamos' izwi rechiGiriki rinoreva 'kuroorana'. 'Phobos' zvinoreva 'kutya'. Saka, kana izvi zviviri zvasangana, Gamophobia inoumbwa.

Zvisinei, vamwe vanhu vanotya kuzvipira kuzvirongwa zvenguva refu, zvakaita sekusarudza yunivhesiti, basa, kana pekugara. Zvisinei, kutya uku kwakasiyana nekutya vanhu vane gamophobia, iyo inova kutya hukama hwevanhu.

Chii chinogona kuitika kumunhu ane Gamophobia?

Tarisa kana uine chimwe chezviratidzo izvi. Munhu ane Gamophobia anogona kusangana nezvinotevera:

• Havakwanisi kuumba hukama hwerudo hwakadzika uye hunogara kwenguva refu. Vanogara vachiedza kuchengetedza hukama hwepamusoro-soro.
• Kana uri muukama , unonzwa kunetseka kukuru. Unogara uchifunga kuti, 'Zvichapera riini?', 'Achandisiya here?'
• Kunyangwe pandinoona vaviri vanofara uye vakazvipira , ndinonzwa kushamisika uye kusagadzikana kusinganzwisisike.
• Vanodzinga vanhu vavari pedyo navo, kana kuti vanongoerekana vagumisa hukama. Dzimwe nguva pasina chikonzero zvachose.

Chii chinonzi Phobia?

Tangotaura nezveGamophobia. Saka izwi rekuti 'Phobia' rinorevei? Phobia rudzi rwechirwere chekuzvidya mwoyo chakajairika. Muizvi, une kutya kwakanyanya kana kutya zvinhu zvisina njodzi. Gamophobia chirwere chekutyawo . Izvi zvinoreva kuti unotya mamiriro ezvinhu chaiwo: kuroorana kana hukama.

Gamophobia yakajairika zvakadii?

Zvakaoma kutaura kuti vangani vanhu vane kutya kwakadai segamophobia. Vanhu vazhinji vanochengeta kutya uku vega, kana kuti havatombozivi kuti vanako. Zvisinei, ongororo muUnited States dzinoratidza kuti mumwe chete pavanhu vakuru gumi uye mumwe pavanhu vashanu vechidiki achasangana nekutya uku pane imwe nguva muhupenyu hwavo.

Ndiani ari panjodzi huru yekuva neGamophobia?

Vamwe vanhu vane mukana mukuru wekuva nechirwere ichi. Semuenzaniso, vanhu vane matambudziko ehunhu akadai seBorderline Personality Disorder (BPD) vanogona kudzivisa hukama nekuda kwekutya kukuru kwekusiyiwa uye kurambwa. Vanogonawo kunetseka kuvimba nevamwe.

Kune zvimwe zvinhu zvakawanda zvinokonzera njodzi:

• Nhoroondo yemhuri: Kana mumwe wevabereki vako kana mumwe munhu waunoda akambova nedambudziko rekutya kana kuzvidya mwoyo, iwe ungave uchityawo chimwe chinhu chimwe chete. Sezvinongoita vana vanogara nhaka zvimwe zvirwere kubva kuvabereki vavo.
• Murume kana Mukadzi: Zvakaonekwa kuti vakadzi vane mukana mukuru wekutya zvakanyanya kupfuura varume.
• Zvikonzero zvemajini: Ongororo yekutanga inoratidza kuti vamwe vanhu vane shanduko yemajini inowedzera njodzi yavo yekuzvidya mwoyo kana kutya. Izvi zvinoreva kuti inogona kunge iri chimwe chinhu chinoitika mumajini ako.

Ndezvipi zvimwe kutya zvine chekuita nekutya kuzvipira?

Kazhinji, munhu anogona kuva nekutya kunopfuura kumwe chete. Kazhinji, kutya uku kune chimwe chinhu chakafanana. Semuenzaniso, munhu anotya kuzvipira anogonawo kuva nezvimwe kutya zvakaita se:

• Philophobia: Zvinoreva kutya rudo.
• Pistanthrophobia: Kutya kuvimba nevamwe kana kurwadziswa nemunhu waunoda.
• Kutya vanhu vane genophobia: Kutya kuita zvepabonde kana kuva pedyo nevanhu.
• Kutya kusiiwa: Kugara uchitya kuti mumwe munhu achakusiya.

Sei ndichitya kuzvipira? Ndezvipi zvikonzero?

Vanhu vazhinji vanoti kutya kwavo kuzvipira, kana kuroorana, kunokonzerwa nezviitiko zvinorwadza zvavakasangana nazvo kare. Kutaura zvazviri, gamophobia ingave mhinduro yekudzivirira iyo pfungwa dzako dzakagadzira kuti dzikudzivirire. Funga nezvazvo, kana usina kuzvipira kuhukama hwenguva refu, hauzombonzwi kurwadziwa.

Heano zvimwe zvikonzero zvinogona kukonzera Gamophobia:

• Kusawirirana kwevabereki: Vana vakaona kupopotedzana kwevabereki vavo, kurwa, kana kurambana kunorwadza vanogona kutya kupinda muhukama hunokonzera matambudziko pavanenge vachikura. Semuenzaniso, Nilanthi akaona vabereki vake vachirwa nguva dzese paaiva mudiki. Pakupedzisira, vakaparadzana. Iye zvino, kunyangwe mumwe munhu akaedza kutaura naNilanthi, anotya, achizvibvunza kuti, 'Hupenyu hwangu huchafanana nehwaAmai here?'
• Kurwadziwa kwemoyo kwakapfuura:Vakuru vakarwadziwa nekurambana, kurambana, kana kusatendeka vanogona kutya kudzokerana. Nekufamba kwenguva, sarudzo iyi inogona kuva kutya. Fungidzira, Kasun akarwadziwa zvikuru nerudo rwake rwekutanga. Ipapo akasarudza kuti aisazomboswedera pedyo nemunhu chero upi zvake zvakare. Iye zvino kutya kwaari.
• Kutya kurasikirwa (FOMO): Vamwe vanhu vanotya kuti, "Kana ndikazvipira kumunhu uyu, ndicharasikirwa here nekuwana mumwe munhu ari nani?" Ndosaka vasingazvipire kune chero ani zvake.
• Tsika kana chitendero: Dzimwe tsika dzinokurudzira kuroorana kwakarongwa pasina hanya nerudo kana manzwiro. Kana usingakwanise kusarudza mumwe wako, ungatya kuzvipira zvizere kuhukama hwacho. Uyewo, kana uri nhengo ye LGBTQ+ , ungatya kuroorana kana chitendero chako kana tsika yako ichipikisa kubatana kwakadaro.

Ndezvipi zviratidzo zveGamophobia?

Kana uine gamophobia, unogona kuona zviratidzo zvemuviri zvakaita seizvi paunofunga nezvekurara nemumwe munhu:

• Kunzwa muviri wako uchitonhora (kutonhora).
• Dzungu uye kusuruvara.
• Kudikitira zvakanyanya (hyperhidrosis).
• Kurova kwemoyo. Zvinoita sekunge chipfuva chako chiri kurova.
• Kusvotwa.
• Kutadza kufema zvakanaka (Dyspnea).
• Kudedera kana kudedera.
• Dumbu rakagumbuka kana kusagadzikana kugaya chikafu (Dyspepsia).

Nzira yekuziva Gamophobia?

Vanachiremba vanoshandisa ongororo yehutano hwepfungwa kuti vaone gamophobia. Hapana bvunzo chaiyo yeizvi. Chiremba wako achakubvunza nezvezviratidzo zvako, nhoroondo yako yehutano hwepfungwa, uye kana uine dzimwe kutya. Vanogona zvakare kukutumira kune nyanzvi yehutano hwepfungwa inyanzvi dzekutya uye matambudziko ekuzvidya mwoyo.

Ungakunda sei kutya kuzvipira? Ndezvipi zvinorapwa?

Ichi ndicho chinhu chakakosha. Kune nzira dzekukunda kutya uku. Vanhu vazhinji vanoona kuti rudzi rwekurapa kwepfungwa runonzi Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) runovabatsira kukunda kutya kwavo kuzvipira. CBT inoshanda nekuona zvikonzero zvekutya kwako kuzvipira uye kuchinja mafungiro iwayo. Nyanzvi yekurapa inogona kukubatsira kushandura mafungiro aya asina kunaka kuita maonero akanaka pamusoro pekuzvipira nekuroorana. Unogona zvakare kudzidza kutaura nevadikanwi vako nezvekutya uku.

"Yeuka, CBT yakafanana neshamwari inoona mafungiro asina kunaka mupfungwa dzako uye inokubatsira kuronga mafungiro ako."

Imwe nzira yekurapa inonzi Systemic Desensitization Therapy . Iyi imhando yekurapa kwekuratidzwa . Yakaratidzwa kuti inobatsira vanhu vazhinji kukunda kutya kwakasiyana.

Kurapa kwekuratidzwa:

• Uchadzidziswa kudzora zviratidzo zvako uchishandisa nzira dzekuzorora dzakadai sekurovedza muviri kufema zvakadzika uye kufungisisa.
• Zvishoma nezvishoma, unotanga kufunga nezvekubatana. Izvi zvinoreva kuti haukumbirwi kuita chinhu chikuru panguva imwe chete, unotanga nematanho madiki.
• Uchapihwa mabasa chaiwo ekukubatsira kukunda kutya kwako kuzvipira kuhukama hwenguva refu.

Ndezvipi zvinetso zvinogona kukonzera Gamophobia?

Kugara uchigara kure nevanhu vaunoda uye kudzivisa hukama kunogona kukanganisa hutano hwako hwemuviri nepfungwa. Unogona kusangana nemamiriro ezvinhu akadai seaya:

• Kuora mwoyo nepfungwa dzekuzviuraya.
• Kusashanda zvakanaka kwenhengo dzesikarudzi (kuvarume)
• Kuzvidya mwoyo uye kurwiswa nekutya.
• Dambudziko rekushandisa zvinodhaka. Vamwe vanhu vanotendeukira kunzira dzisina kunaka kuti vatize kutya uku.

Ndinofanira kuona chiremba rini?

Kana ukasangana nechimwe chezvinhu izvi, edza kuona chiremba:

• Kana paine kurwiswa nekutya.
• Kana uine kuzvidya mwoyo kunoramba kuchikukanganisa muhupenyu hwako hwezuva nezuva kana kurara.
• Kana paine zviratidzo zvekuora mwoyo kana matambudziko ekushandisa zvinodhaka zvisina kunaka .

Mibvunzo ipi yandinofanira kubvunza chiremba wangu?

Paunoenda kunoona chiremba, zvakanaka kubvunza mibvunzo yakaita seiyi:

• Chii chinoita kuti ndive nekutya uku?
• Ndeipi nzira yakanakisisa yekurapa?
• Ndinofanira kutsvaga psychotherapy here?
• Ndichatora nguva yakareba sei ndichirapwa?
• Ndinofanira kunetseka nezvematambudziko here?

Chekupedzisira, yeuka izvi (Mharidzo Yekuenda Kumba)

Zvakajairika kuti tese tive nekusava nechokwadi uye kuzeza zvishoma (zvinozivikanwawo se'cold feet') patinenge tichipinda muukama. Zvisinei, kune munhu ane gamophobia, kutya uku kunogona kuva kwakanyanya zvekuti kunogona kumutadzisa kuita zvinhu. Izvi zvinoreva kuti kutya uku kunomutadzisa kusimudzira hukama uye kuumba hukama hwakadzama nevamwe.

Kana wakamborwadziwa kare, gamophobia ingave nzira yekuzvidzivirira kubva pakurwadziwa kumwe chete zvakare. Asi yeuka, kunogona kukundwa. Nyanzvi yekurapa inogona kukubatsira kukunda kutya uku. Nekufamba kwenguva, iwewo unogona kuva muhukama hunofadza uye hwakagadzikana. Usambofa wakatya kukumbira rubatsiro. Hausi wega.

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