Ngaba unengxaki ngobomi bakho besondo? Masithethe ngogqirha wezesondo!

Isondo yinto ebaluleke kakhulu ebomini bethu. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, imiba eyahlukeneyo kunye neengxaki zinokuvela kule meko. Xa oko kusenzeka, abanye abantu bayabandezeleka ngaphandle kokuxelela mntu ngenxa yeentloni noloyiko. Kodwa ubusazi na ukuba kukho iingcali ezinokunceda ngezi zinto? Abo ngabo siza kuthetha ngabo namhlanje, 'iingcali zesondo'.

Ngubani lo Mphilisi Wezesondo?

Ngamafutshane, 'iNgcali yezeSondo ' yingcali yezempilo enelayisenisi eqondayo imiqobo yengqondo neyeemvakalelo echaphazela ubomi bakho besondo kwaye ikunceda ufumane izisombululo kuyo. Cinga ngayo, ngamanye amaxesha asinakwenza isondo okanye siphelelwe ngumdla ngenxa yoloyiko, ixhala, okanye amava angathandekiyo angaphambili. Yiloo nto aba bantu banceda ngayo.

"Ingcali yezonyango ngesondo" ingaba ngumsebenzi wentlalontle, ingcali jikelele, okanye kwanengcali yezengqondo. Kodwa okona kubaluleke kakhulu, kufuneka babe noqeqesho olukhethekileyo kwimpilo yesondo kunye neengxaki zesondo. Abanakukwazi ukunika nabani na eli cebiso . Basebenza nabantu okanye izibini ukubanceda basombulule iingxaki zesondo, umzekelo, ukoyika ukulala ngesondo ( uxinzelelo lokusebenza) okanye iingxaki kubudlelwane obusondeleyo (imiba yobudlelwane obusondeleyo).

Yintoni eyenziwa yingcali yezesondo?

Ngoku makhe sibone ukuba yintoni kanye kanye eyenziwa yi-'sex therapist'.

Zinceda ekunyangeni iingxaki ezahlukeneyo zesondo, ingakumbi ezo zibangelwa zizinto zengqondo okanye eziphenjelelwa zizinto zengqondo. Zikwanceda nakwiingxaki ezinxulumene nobomi besondo kunye nobudlelwane. Konke oku kwenziwa kwindawo exhasayo, engenakugweba, enentlonipho, nekhuselekileyo.

Kodwa nantsi into ebaluleke kakhulu ekufuneka uyikhumbule. Iingcali zesondo azinyangi iimeko zomzimba ezichaphazela ubulili. Umzekelo, azinakunyanga i-testosterone ephantsi . Ngoko ke, ukuba uneengxaki ngomsebenzi wakho wobulili, kufuneka uqale ubone ugqirha wosapho lwakho, ugqirha wezifo zabesifazane (ukuba ungumfazi) okanye ugqirha womchamo (ukuba uyindoda) ukuze kuchongwe ukuba kukho unobangela womzimba.Ukuba akukho sizathu somzimba, okanye ukuba kukho isiphumo sengqondo kunye nesizathu somzimba, kufuneka uncedo lwe-'Sex Therapist'.

Iingcali zonyango lwesondo zisebenzisa iindlela ezininzi zonyango eziqinisekisiweyo ngokwesayensi ukuphucula ubomi besondo babantu. Badla ngokusebenzisa into ebizwa ngokuba yi-psychotherapy. Ngamafutshane, oku kunyango lokuthetha. Kubandakanya ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho, iingcinga zakho, kunye nokuziphatha kwakho, ukuziqonda, kunye nokuzama ukwenza utshintsho olufunekayo. Kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zonyango lwengqondo olusetyenziswa kunyango lwesondo :

• Unyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo (i-CBT)
• Unyango olusekelwe kwiimvakalelo
• Ukungenelela okusekelwe kwingqondo
• Iindlela zokunxibelelana kwezibini

Enye into kukuba, 'iingcali zonyango lwezesondo' zikhusela kakhulu ubumfihlo bakho kunye nobumfihlo bakho. Enyanisweni, yinxalenye yemigaqo yabo yokuziphatha yobungcali. Iingcali zonyango eziphula ubumfihlo bezigulana zinokulahlekelwa yilayisenisi yazo yobungcali.

Yintoni omele uye kuyo kugqirha wezesondo?

Isenzo sokwabelana ngesondo (kungekuko nje ukulalana, kodwa kunye nendlela yangaphandle kunye nokuphulula amalungu esini) ngamava anzima aquka zonke ezi nkalo zintathu: iimvakalelo, ingqondo, kunye nomzimba. Ukuba unqwenela ukulala ngesondo, umsebenzi osempilweni wesondo yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yomgangatho wobomi bakho. Inxulunyaniswa nokuphila kakuhle ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwengqondo, kunye nolwaneliseko lobudlelwane.

Abasebenzi bezempilo kunye nabafundisi-ntsapho ngezesondo bahlula imisebenzi yesondo ibe ngamanqanaba amane aphambili. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-sex response cycle:

• Umnqweno/I-Libido: Oku kuthetha umnqweno wokwenza isondo, umnqweno wokwenza isondo.
• Ukuvusa/Uvuyo: Ukulungela komzimba ukwenza isondo.
• I-Orgasm: Incopho yokwaneliseka ngokwesondo.
• Isisombululo: Inkqubo apho ukuvuka kuncipha khona kwaye umzimba ubuyela esiqhelweni.

Iingxaki zesondo zinokuvela nakweyiphi na inqanaba lale nkqubo. Ukwazi indlela osabela ngayo engqondweni nasemzimbeni kwinqanaba ngalinye akunakuphucula amava akho ngokwesondo kuphela, kodwa kunokukunceda uchonge izizathu zokungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo.

"Ingcali yoNyango lwezeSondo" inokunceda ngemiba yengqondo neyeemvakalelo ezinxulumene nokungasebenzi kakuhle kwezesondo. Nazi imizekelo embalwa:

• Ukungabikho komnqweno wesondo.
• Ukungavuseleli ngokwesondo.
• Ubunzima bokufikelela kwi-orgasm (i-anorgasmia).
• Intlungu ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo (i-dyspareunia). Umzekelo, intlungu ebangelwa kukuxinana kwelungu lobufazi (i-vaginismus).
• Ubunzima bokufumana okanye ukugcina ukuma (ukungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-erectile).
• Ukuphuma komoya ngaphambi kwexesha, ukuphuma komoya emva kwexesha elide, okanye ezinye iingxaki zokuphuma komoya.

Ukongeza koku, `iNgcali yezeSondo` inokukunceda ngeminye imingeni emininzi:

• Ukubonelela ngemfundo echanekileyo ngesondo kunye nokususa iingcamango eziphosakeleyo.
• Ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo okanye ukwenzakala ngokwesondo.
• Iimvakalelo zokuxhalaba, uloyiko, okanye iintloni ezinxulumene nesondo.
• Iingxaki ezibangelwa ziimbono zenkcubeko, zonqulo nezentlalo malunga nesondo.
• Phucula unxibelelwano phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho malunga nesondo kunye nokusondelelana .
• Umnqweno wesondo ongalinganiyo phakathi kwamaqabane.
• Iingxaki zobudlelwane ezibangelwa ziingxaki zesondo.
• Imbonakalo embi yomzimba kunye nendlela echaphazela ngayo isini.
• Ukuphila ngempumelelo nezifo ezidluliselwa ngesondo (ii-STI).
• Ingxaki ye-hypersexual okanye umlutha wesondo.
• Umlutha wobukrelekrele.

Kwenzeka ntoni ngexesha leseshoni yonyango lwesondo?

Kulungile, ngoku masibone ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ngexesha leseshoni 'yoNyango lwezeSondo', oko kukuthi, xa uya kumbona ugqirha wezonyango.

Ngeli xesha leeseshoni, wena kunye nogqirha wakho wezesondo nisebenzisana ukuchonga nokutshintsha iingcinga kunye nokuziphatha okuphazamisa ubomi bakho besondo. Ungadibana nogqirha wakho wengqondo wedwa, okanye ungahamba nesoka lakho/intombi yakho, umyeni/umfazi, okanye iqabane lakho lesondo.

Ugqirha wakho angakubuza imibuzo malunga nezinto ezifana nezi:

• Malunga nempilo yakho kunye nemvelaphi yakho yesondo .
• Malunga nemfundo yesondo oyifumeneyo.
• Iinkolelo zakho kunye nesimo sakho sengqondo malunga nesondo .
• Ziziphi iingxaki zesondo onazo?

Liyinyaniso elokuba ukuthetha ngesondo ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima kwaye kube neentloni. Iingcali zesondo ziyakwazi oku kakuhle. Yiyo loo nto bezama konke okusemandleni abo ukudala imeko apho unokuthetha khona ngokukhululekileyo ngaphandle koloyiko.

Khumbula, ekubeni unyango lwengqondo luthetha ngokuthetha, kufuneka ube yinxalenye esebenzayo kule nkqubo. Ukuthembana nolwalamano phakathi kwakho nogqirha wakho kubalulekile ukuze olu nyango luphumelele.

'Ingcali yakho yezesondo' ingakunika 'umsebenzi wesikolo'.Unganika. Oko kukuthi, imisebenzi kunye nemithambo onokuyenza ekhaya, ngendlela ekhusela ubumfihlo bakho. Ezi zinokuba zizinto ezifana "nokuvavanya"`, umzekelo, "ukudlala indima". Okanye zinokuba yimithambo oyenzayo wedwa okanye neqabane lakho ukwakha ukuthembana kunye nolwalamano olusondeleyo.

Into enye ekufuneka uyazi apha kukuba ngexesha leeseshoni ze-'Sex Therapy', akuyi kubakho kuthintana ngokomzimba okanye izenzo zesondo phakathi kwakho nogqirha wengqondo. Oko akunakwenzeka. Ukuba uziva ungakhululekanga nangayiphi na into yonyango, qiniseka ukuba uxelele ugqirha wakho wengqondo. Okanye, unelungelo lokuyeka ukuya kuye kwaye ufake isikhalazo ngayo.

Yintoni umahluko phakathi kweNgcali yezeSondo kunye noMcebisi ngezeSondo?

Usenokuba ukhe weva ngamagama amabini athi `iNgcali yezeSondo` kunye `uMcebisi ngezeSondo`. Bobabini aba ngabantu abafumene uqeqesho olubanzi kwizeSondo. Kumazwe afana ne-United States, bobabini aba bantu kufuneka baqinisekiswe yintlangano ebizwa ngokuba yi-`American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). ESri Lanka, kufuneka babe neemfaneleko ezivunyiweyo zoku.

Umahluko ukho kwindlela aba babini abajongana ngayo nemiba yesondo.

• Ingcali yoNyango lwezeSondo: Basebenzisa unyango lwengqondo, okanye unyango lokuthetha, ukunceda kwiingxaki zesondo. Ezi ngxaki zinokuba lula okanye zibe nzima. Bafikelela kwiingcambu zengxaki baze bajonge izizathu zengqondo nezeemvakalelo.
• Umcebisi ngezesondo: Basebenzisa indlela ethile esekelwe kwisenzo. Bafundisa ngeengxaki zexesha elifutshane, bafundisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo, kwaye badla ngokugxila ekudluliseleni ulwazi nasekunikeni iingcebiso ezisebenzayo.

Ungaba njani ngugqirha wezesondo?

Ukuba yi-'Sex Therapist' akulula. Kufuna imfundo noqeqesho olubalulekileyo. Indlela eqhelekileyo ifana nale (oku kunokwahluka kancinci ngokwamazwe ngamazwe):

• Isidanga seBachelor: Isidanga esisisiseko esivela eyunivesithi.
• Isidanga seMasters okanye isidanga sobuGqirha: Isidanga seMasters okanye sobuGqirha kwicandelo elinxulumene noko, njengesayikholoji okanye umsebenzi wentlalo. Ukongeza, kuya kufuneka ube namava eklinikhi.
• Uqeqesho olukhethekileyo: Uqeqesho kwi-psychotherapy luyimfuneko. Kwakhona, kufuneka ugqibe iiyure ezininzi zezifundo ezinxulumene nemfundo yesondo (umz., malunga neeyure ezingama-90).
• Ilayisenisi: Kufuneka ufumane ilayisenisi efanelekileyo yokwenza unyango lwesondo kwilizwe okanye kwilizwe elifanelekileyo.

Ungabona koku ukuba oku kungaphezulu nje kwengcebiso, linqanaba elinzulu nelingobungcali. Ngokuqhelekileyo kuthatha ubuncinane iminyaka elithoba ukuba yi-'Sex Therapist' eqinisekisiweyo. Oku kuquka yonke into ukususela kwisidanga esisisiseko, isidanga se-postgraduate, kunye noqeqesho lweklinikhi. Ngoko ke oku kubonisa indlela aba bantu abazinikele ngayo kweli candelo.

Sithini isigidimi esifuna ukusithatha sibuyele ekhaya kweli bali?

Ukuthetha ngesondo kunye neengxaki zesondo ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima, kuhlazise, ​​okanye koyike. Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo. Kodwa khumbula, awuwedwa.

`Ingcali yoNyango lwezeSondo` ngumntu onokukunceda uqonde ezi ntlobo zemiqobo yesondo, uyoyise, kwaye uphile ubomi obupheleleyo nobunempilo.

Baziingcali kweli candelo. Banolwazi oluhle ngophando lwamva nje kunye neendlela zonyango ezilungileyo ezinokukunceda.

Ngoko ke, ukuba uneengxaki ezinxulumene nobomi bakho besondo, musa ukuzigcina wedwa uze ubandezeleke, kodwa ungoyiki ukufuna uncedo kwi-'Sex Therapist' efanelekile. Luncedo olukhulu onokulwenza.

Ingcali yezesondo , iingxaki zesondo, impilo yengqondo, ingcebiso ngesondo, unyango lwengqondo, ukungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo, iingxaki zobudlelwane