Masifunde ngomjikelo wakho wempendulo ngokwesondo.

Namhlanje siza kuthetha ngesihloko esibalulekileyo kwabaninzi, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kube nzima ukuthetha ngaso. Leyo yiMjikelo yoMpendulo wesondo. Ukuqonda oku kuya kukunceda uziqonde ngcono wena kunye neqabane lakho. Sikwacinga ukuba olu lwazi luya kuba luncedo ekuchongeni naziphi na iingxaki zesondo.

Ithini indlela yokusabela ngokwesondo? Zithini izigaba zayo?

Ngamafutshane, umjikelo wempendulo yesondo lulandelelwano lotshintsho olwenzeka emzimbeni nasengqondweni xa umntu evukile ngokwesondo aze enze isenzo sesondo, nokuba kungexesha lokwabelana ngesondo okanye ukuphulula amalungu esini. Cinga ngayo njengeenxalenye ezidibeneyo zebali. Kukho amanqanaba amane aphambili kulo mjikelo:

• Umnqweno (okwabizwa ngokuba yi-'Desire' okanye 'Libido' ngesiNgesi)
• Ukuvuselela (oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-'Arousal', ngamanye amaxesha kuthiwa yi-'Plateau')
• I-amulet (yile nto ithethwa yi-'Orgasm')
• Ukuzola (oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-'Resolution`)

Kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule apha kukuba la manqanaba awenzeki kuwo wonke umntu ngendlela efanayo, ngaxeshanye. Indlela abafazi namadoda abawafumana ngayo la manqanaba, kunye nexesha elithathwayo ukuwafikelela, zinokuhluka. Umzekelo, akunakwenzeka ukuba bobabini bafikelele kwi-orgasm ngaxeshanye. Kwakhona, ubunzulu obuviwa ngumntu ngamnye, kunye nexesha elithathwayo ukufikelela kwinqanaba ngalinye, ziyahluka kumntu nomntu. Abanye abantu basenokungadluli kwamanye amanqanaba, kwaye oko kuqhelekile.

Kwezinye iintlanganiso zesondo, ezinye zezi zigaba zisenokungabikho, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ulandelelwano lunokuguqulwa. Umzekelo, kwabanye abantu, umnqweno wokusondelana unokuba sisizathu sokwenza isenzo sesondo, kodwa kwabanye usenokungabalulekanga kangako. Ngamanye amaxesha umnqweno unokubakho emva kokuvuka.

Ukuqonda la mahluko kunokukunceda ukuba uqonde ngcono imizimba yomnye nomnye kunye nendlela osabela ngayo. Oku kuya kukunceda uqonde indlela iqabane lakho elivakalelwa ngayo kunye nendlela elisabela ngayo, kwaye kuya kukunceda uphucule amava akho esondo.

Leliphi inqanaba elifutshane lomjikelo wempendulo yesondo?

I-Orgasm ithathwa njengelona nqanaba lifutshane kulo mjikelo wempendulo yesondo.

Zilandelelana njani ezi zigaba?

Ezi zigaba zine zihlala zilandelana: Umnqweno, Ukuvuka, Umzimba, kunye neSigqibo. Nangona kunjalo, kwakhona , ulandelelwano kunye nobude bexesha elithathwayo linokwahluka ukusuka kumntu ukuya komnye, kwanakumntu omnye ukuya komnye.

Inqanaba 1: Isigaba Somnqweno

Eli linqanaba lokuqala lomjikelo wempendulo yesondo. Eli nqanaba lingathatha imizuzu embalwa ukuya kwiiyure ezimbalwa. Ngeli xesha, unokufumana oku kulandelayo:

• Ukuqina kwemisiphaInganda.
• Isantya sentliziyo kunye nesantya sokuphefumla siyanda.
• Ulusu lunokuba bomvu (lunokubonakala njengamabala abomvu esifubeni nasemqolo).
• Iingono zinokuba nzima okanye zime nkqo.
• Ukuhamba kwegazi ukuya kwizitho zangasese kuyanda. Oku kunokubangela ukuba i-clitoris idumbe kwaye isini sibe manzi kubafazi. Kumadoda, kunokubangela ukuqiniswa.
• Ukuba unelungu lobufazi, usenokuqala ukuziva umanzi , okanye amabele akho asenokuziva ezele kwaye emakhulu kancinci.
• Ukuba unepenis, unokubona ukudumba kwamasende , okanye ukuqina kwe-scrotum. Unokubona nokukhupha ulwelo (ulwelo olumhlophe) oluvela kwincam yepenis.

Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ayingomntu wonke amava esondo afanayo. Usenokungazifumani zonke ezi nguqu ngalo lonke ixesha ungena kwi-'Desire Phase'. Oku kungenzeka kuphela ngexesha lokudibana ngokwesondo. Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, ngamanye amaxesha i-'Desire' inokwenzeka emva kwe-'Arousal Phase'.

Isigaba sesi-2: Isigaba sokuVuka (okanye iSigaba sePlateau)

Eli nqanaba liqala ngaphambi kokuba ufikelele kwi-orgasm kwaye liqhubeke ude ufikelele kwincopho yolonwabo lwesondo. Oku kulandelayo kunokwenzeka ngeli nqanaba:

• Utshintsho olwenzeka kwiSigaba seNqweno esikhankanyiweyo ngaphambili luya lusiba nzulu ngakumbi.
• Njengoko ukuhamba kwegazi ukuya kwilungu lobufazi kusanda, liyaqhubeka lidumba , kwaye iindonga zelungu lobufazi zinokutshintsha zibe mnyama.
• I-clitoris inobuthathaka kakhulu (ngamanye amaxesha ide ibe buhlungu xa uyichukumisa).
• Kumadoda , amasende ayanyuka aye kwi-scrotum.
• Ukuphefumla, isantya sentliziyo, kunye noxinzelelo lwegazi ziyaqhubeka nokunyuka.
• Ukuqina kwemisipha kuyanda.
• Ukuqaqamba kwemisipha kusenokubakho nasemilenzeni, ebusweni nasezingalweni.

Ungaqala eli "Phase lokuVuselela" ngaxeshanye neli "Phase lokuNqwenela", okanye ungaqala kamva emva kokuba umnqweno uvele.

Inqanaba lesi-3: Isigaba se-Orgasm

Eli linqanaba eliphezulu lomjikelo wempendulo yesondo, okanye incopho . Xa kuthelekiswa nezinye izigaba, eli lelona lifutshane, lihlala imizuzwana embalwa kuphela. Xa ufumana i-orgasm, unokufumana oku kulandelayo:

• Ngandlela-thile asinakuyilawulaKuvela ukuxinana kwemisipha okanye ukuxakaxa.
• Uxinzelelo lwegazi, isantya sentliziyo, kunye nokuphefumla ziphezulu kakhulu.
• Uxinzelelo lwesondo luphuma ngequbuliso nangokukhawuleza .
• Kwabasetyhini, izihlunu ezikwilungu lobufazi ziyafinyela.
• Kumadoda, ukukhupha isidoda (ukukhululwa kwesidoda kwilungu lobudoda).
• Usenokuba norhawuzelelo olubonakala ngathi ngamabala abomvu emzimbeni wonke (olubizwa ngokuba yi-sex flush).

Isigaba sesi-4: Ukuzola (`Isigaba seSisombululo`)

Ngeli nqanaba, umzimba wakho ubuyela kwisimo sawo esiqhelekileyo kancinci kancinci. Amalungu omzimba avuvukileyo okanye avuvukileyo abuyela kubukhulu bawo bokuqala kunye nemo yawo. Abantu abaninzi banokuziva bediniwe, kunye nokwaneliseka, ngeli xesha.

Abanye abafazi, ukuba bavuselelekile ngokwesondo, banokubuyela kwinqanaba lokufikisa, kwaye banokufikelela kwinqanaba lokufikisa ngaphezu kwesinye.

Nangona kunjalo, amadoda adla ngokufuna ixesha elithile lokuchacha (`ixesha lokungachacha`) emva kokuchacha. Ngeli xesha, awakwazi ukufikelela kwi-orgasm kwakhona. Eli xesha lokuchacha (`ixesha lokungachacha`) lahlukile kumntu ngamnye kwaye linokutshintsha ngokweminyaka.

Masifunde okungakumbi malunga neempendulo zesondo: Eminye imibuzo ebuzwa rhoqo

Xa sithetha ngomjikelo wempendulo yesondo, kukho imibuzo embalwa abanye abantu abanokuba nayo engqondweni kwaye bafuna ukuyibuza. Masiyiqwalasele kancinci loo mibuzo.

Uqala nini ukuziva unomdla wokwabelana ngesondo?

Oku kunzima ukukuqinisekisa ngokuqinisekileyo, kuba njengayo yonke into kumjikelo wempendulo yesondo, ubudala umntu aqala ngabo ukuziva evuselelekile ngokwesondo ('arousal') okanye 'umnqweno' buyahluka kumntu nomntu. Abanye abantu basenokuqala ukuziva bevuselelekile ngokwesondo kancinci ngaphambi kokuba bafikise ebuntwini . Ezinye izifundo zibonisa ukuba abantwana abaphakathi kweminyaka eli-10 neli-13 banokufumana umdla okanye ukuvuseleleka ngokwesondo. Olunye uphando lubonisa ukuba abantu bafumana i-orgasm yabo yokuqala ngokomyinge phakathi kweminyaka eli-13 neli-17. Ezinye izifundo zibonisa ukuba kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana baqale ukuziva benqwenela ngokwesondo kwangethuba beneminyaka esi-7 ubudala.

Umntu uyeka ukukhupha i-ejaculation eneminyaka emingaphi ubudala?

Ukukhupha i-ejaculation akupheli kule minyaka. Nangona kunjalo, amadoda angaqala ukuba neengxaki zesondo ezifana nokungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-erectile xa eneminyaka engama-40 kunye nengama-50. Oku kunokubangela ukwehla kokuphindaphinda kokukhupha i-ejaculation. Kwakhona, xa abafazi bedlula kwixesha lokuya exesheni, abo babekhe bakhupha i-ejaculation (abanye abafazi bakhupha ulwelo ngexesha lokukhupha i-ejaculation) baxela ukuba babone utshintsho oluthile ekukhupheni kwabo i-ejaculation nakwi-orgasm.

Umyalezo Wokugqibela Wokuya Ekhaya

UMjikelo Wempendulo Yesondo uchaza utshintsho olwenzeka emizimbeni nasezingqondweni zethu ngexesha lesondo okanye isenzo sokwabelana ngesondo. Nangona oku kunokusinika ingcamango elungileyo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba le ayisiyondlela inye yokulingana, ayiyondlela inye yokulingana .

Abantu badlula kwezi zigaba zine ngesantya esahlukileyo nangamanqanaba ahlukeneyo okuqina. Ithemba eliphambili kukunceda abantu baqonde imizimba yabo kunye nemizimba yamaqabane abo kwaye babone naziphi na iingxaki zesondo abanokuba nazo.

Ngoko ke, sinethemba lokuba ezi nyaniso ziya kukunceda uqonde ngcono impilo yakho yesondo neyentsapho yakho. Ukuqaphela umzimba wakho kubaluleke kakhulu kulwalamano olusempilweni nolonwabo.

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