Ngamanye amaxesha siyakwazi ukumelana nemingeni emikhulu ebomini bethu. Kodwa okumangalisayo kukuba, asikwazi ukumelana nezinto ezincinci neziqhelekileyo, size siphele siziva sidakumbile kwaye sixhalabile. Namhlanje sithetha ngenye yamava anjalo. Khawucinge nje, umntu oye walwa waza woyisa umhlaza webele angaziva njani ukuba akakwazi ukumelana neempawu zokwaluphala emzimbeni wakhe? Le yinto abantu abaninzi abayivayo, kodwa abathethi kakhulu ngayo.
Imfazwe yomfazi nomhlaza
Ukuze siqonde eli bali, makhe sithathe amava omfazi owalwa nomhlaza webele njengomzekelo. Umzimba wakhe wadlula kuhambo olukhulu kakhulu. Kwakungelula.
- Iiraundi ezisibhozo ze-chemotherapy .
- Utyando lokususa ithumba ebeleni lutyando lokususa ithumba ebeleni.
- Ukususwa kwee -lymph nodes ezilithoba kwindawo engaphantsi kwekhwapha.
- Unyango ngemitha kangangeeveki ezintandathu.
- Eli yeza kwafuneka lisetyenziswe unyaka wonke ukuze kuthintelwe ukuba umhlaza ungabuyi.
Khawucinge nje indlela umzimba wakhe omele ukuba watshintsha ngayo emva kokunyamezela konke oku. Utyando lwakhe lwebele lasekunene lushiye isikhewu esincinci. Wayenemvakalelo yokurhawuzelela phezulu kwengalo yakhe yasekunene. Kwakukho isilonda esingqukuva apho amabele akhe ayesuswa khona. Kwakhona, ibele lakhe lasekhohlo lalisoloko likhulu kunelasekunene. Alincinci nje kuphela, kodwa liyabonakala.
Ekuhambeni kwexesha, wafika kwindawo apho wayenokwamkela yonke into. Wacinga ngale ndlela: "Ndibona umzimba ophumeleleyo. Ndibona umzimba owoyisileyo umhlaza. Ndibona umfazi onethamsanqa elikhulu othanda ubomi bakhe kunye nomzimba ophila ubomi bakhe."
Ngelo xesha, yayiyinyani ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa emva kweminyaka elishumi, uyijonga ngenye indlela. Uqaphele ukuba ukwamkela umzimba wakho ngokupheleleyo okanye nantoni na ebomini bakho ayisiyonto iyenzeka kube kanye. Yinkqubo eqhubekayo.
Yintoni le 'Yamkelwa Ngokugqithisileyo'?
Ngamafutshane, uKwamkelwa okuKhulu kukwamkelwa ngokupheleleyo nokungaxhomekekanga kwimiqathango yokuba kukho into eyenzekayo kuthi. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uyithande, akufuneki ukuba wonwabe ngayo, kodwa kufuneka uyamkele uze uthi, 'Kulungile, le yimeko ekhoyo ngoku.' Kukukuyeka ukulwa nenyaniso, ukuqonda imeko, nokuqhubeka phambili.
Khawuthelekelele uhamba esitalatweni uze ubhaqwe yimvula enkulu. Uba manzi.
- Ukungamkeleki :"Owu, kutheni kuna imvula ngoku? Oku akunakwenzeka!" Ekhalimela imvula aze abe manzi.
- Ukwamkela Okukhulu: Ukwamkela imeko nokuthatha amanyathelo ngayo, uthi, "Kulungile, kuyana imvula, ndiyamanzi. Le yinyaniso. Ndifuna ukuzimela ndaweni ithile ngokukhawuleza."
Uyawuqonda umahluko? Ukwamkela ngokugqithisileyo akuthethi ukuyeka okanye ukuthi, "Oku akunamsebenzi." Kuthetha ukucinga, "Le yimeko, ndenze ntoni ngayo ngoku?"
Ukwamkela ngokupheleleyo kukwamkela amava anjengomhlaza njengenxalenye yebali lobomi bakho. Akuyonto yokukhumbula rhoqo nokuziva ulusizi.
Wamkela iimpawu zomhlaza, kodwa iimpawu zokwaluphala?
Ekuhambeni kwexesha, umfazi okwibali lethu wazifumana echitha iintsuku neeveki engazi nokuba unesifo somhlaza. Yaba yinxalenye nje yobuntu bakhe, njengeenwele zakhe ezimdaka namehlo akhe amdaka.
Kodwa... kwakukho enye into awayengasakwazi ukuyamkela ngokupheleleyo. Oko kwakukhula.
Ukuphuma ebhedini kusasa, ehla ngezinyuko, "Aww, aww, aww" de kwaphela ukuqina kwamaqatha akhe. Ejonge esipilini, ecinga, "Ivela phi loo mgca usembindini wentamo yam?" Wayesalwa nezi zinto.
Inene, unethamsanqa lokuba uphile ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo ukuze abone iimpawu zokwaluphala. Uyayazi loo nto. Kodwa akanakuthi ukwamkele ngokupheleleyo.
- Usazidaya iinwele zakhe naxa ezikhulisa.
- Ndikhangela ikhrimu enokunceda ekulweni nemibimbi entanyeni.
- Ukuzilolonga akupheleli nje ekuhlaleni usempilweni kwaye unamandla, kodwa kukwamalunga nokubonakala umhle kwiibhulukhwe zebhulukhwe kunye ne-tank top.
Akaxinezeleki kakhulu ngezi zinto njengoko wayenjalo xa wayeneminyaka engama-20 ubudala. Ngoku unembono ebanzi ngobomi. Kodwa ukuba usazama ukutshintsha umzimba wakhe, ngaba uzimisele ngokupheleleyo kuwo? Mhlawumbi akunjalo.
Eli thuba lisifundisa isifundo esihle. Nokuba siyayamkela into enkulu efana nomhlaza, uxinzelelo oluvela kuluntu lunokwenza kube nzima ukwamkela into yendalo efana nokwaluphala.
| Umngeni Owamkelweyo - Umhlaza | Kunzima Ukwamkela - Ukwaluphala |
|---|---|
| Izinto ezifana namanxeba otyando kunye nokungalingani komzimba zibonwa njengeempawu zokuqina nokuqina . | Ukuzama ukutshintsha okanye ukufihla izinto ezinje ngeenwele ezingwevu kunye nolusu olushwabanayo. |
| Yamkele njengenxalenye yobomi, funda kuyo uze uqhubeke nobomi. | Ibonwa njengento 'engafunekiyo' kwaye ihlala ilwa nayo. |
| Ukuziva ngathi 'ndiphumelele kule nto' kwandisa ukuzithemba. | Ukuziva ngathi 'ndiyaluphala' kunokubangela ixhala. |
Amanxeba ayisiyiyo impawu yobuthathaka, kodwa luphawu lwamandla.
Ekugqibeleni, nantsi isigidimi esibalulekileyo sale bali. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, amava omhlaza aya ekude kakhulu. Ngamanye amaxesha kuvakala ngathi kwenzeke komnye umntu.
Kodwa amanxeba asemzimbeni wakho ahlala ekukhumbuza, "Hayi, kwenzekile kuwe. Unyamezele. Uyoyisile loo nto."
Ezo zilonda zikukhumbuza indlela owawubuthathaka ngayo nendlela owawunamandla ngayo kwangaxeshanye. Loo mvakalelo ixabiseke kakhulu kunokwamkela into ethile. Yilo olo loyiso lokwenyani.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- 'Ukwamkelwa Okukhulu' akuthethi ukuthanda inyani, kodwa malunga nokuyamkela njengoko injalo nokuya phambili.
- Ukwamkela ebomini asinto oyenza kube kanye kwaye ngonaphakade. Luhambo olude. Musa ukuziva ungonwabanga kukuba usekulo hambo.
- Kuqhelekile kakhulu ukufumana kunzima ukwamkela into eqhelekileyo njengokwaluphala, nokuba ujongene nomngeni omkhulu njengomhlaza. Awuwedwa.
- Ibali elimnandi malunga namanxeba emzimbeni wakho, izinto ozinyamezeleyo, kunye namandla akho. Lijonge ngothando.
- Ukuba kunzima ukujongana nezi mvakalelo wedwa, ukuthetha nomhlobo othembekileyo, ilungu losapho, okanye ugqirha wakho kunokuba luncedo kakhulu.
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