Ngaba ucaphuka ngequbuliso xa ungqubana nomntu ebhasini, okanye xa udlula imoto endleleni ngendlela engafanelekanga? Ngaba uziva isifuba sakho siqinile kwaye ubuso bakho bushushu? Sonke siyacaphuka ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo ebomini bethu. Kuyinto eqhelekileyo kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba awukwazi ukulawula lo msindo, unokuba nefuthe elikhulu kubudlelwane bakho, emsebenzini wakho, nakwimpilo yakho yomzimba. Ngoko ke namhlanje, masithethe ngokuba yintoni lo msindo kunye nendlela yokuwulawula.
Ngamafutshane, yintoni ukulawula umsindo?
Ukulawula umsindo yindlela esijongana ngayo nomsindo wethu xa siwuva. Ikwaluhlobo lwe-psychotherapy. Ngokuchanekileyo, yinxalenye yonyango oluthethwayo "Unyango Lokuziphatha Oluqondayo". Ukuze wenze oku, ungaya kwingcebiso wedwa okanye kwiqela.
Kolu nyango, usebenzisana nogqirha wengqondo okanye umcebisi ofanelekileyo ukukunceda uchonge izinto ezikubangelayo kwaye uphuhlise izakhono kunye namaqhinga owadingayo ukujongana nezo mvakalelo ngendlela ephilileyo. Ungafunda malunga noku:
- Yintoni ebangela umsindo nendlela abantu abawubonakalisa ngayo.
- Izakhono zokusombulula iingxaki kunye nonxibelelwano.
- Iindlela zokuphumla.
Ngamanye amaxesha, umcebisi wakho unokucebisa ukuba ubone omnye ugqirha ukuze akunike amayeza okulawula iimeko zempilo yengqondo ezingaphantsi, ezinje ngokudakumba okanye ukuxhalaba.
Luhlobo luni lovakalelo olu msindo ngokwenene?
Khawucinge nje, xa uzama ukupaka imoto yakho, umntu osecaleni kwakho umise imoto yakhe ngaphezu komgca kwaye uthathe indawo yakho. Loo mvakalelo isesifubeni sakho ngelo xesha ngumsindo. Loo mvakalelo uziva ngayo xa umntu ekuqhawula ngequbuliso ngelixa uhamba endleleni, loo mvakalelo ikwenza ufune ukuzijonga esipilini, loo mvakalelo ikwenza ufune ukuthetha into efika emlonyeni wakho, ngumsindo. Uluvo lokuba umntwana omncinci ufuna ukuluma isandla somntu xa engayifumani into ayifunayo, uluvo lokuba umntwana omncinci ufuna ukuvala ucango aze ahlale egumbini lakhe, zonke ezi zinto zibangelwa ngumsindo.
Yintoni ke isizathu soku? Umsindo yindlela esisabela ngayo ngokweemvakalelo kwimeko ethile. Usikhuthaza ukuba senze utshintsho. Ngeli xesha, inkqubo yemithambo-luvo yomzimba wethu iyasebenza, isilungiselela 'impendulo yokulwa okanye yokubaleka' . Oku kubangela utshintsho oluninzi emzimbeni.
- Isantya sentliziyo kunye nokuphefumla kuyakhawuleza.
- Umzimba ukhupha iihomoni zoxinzelelo.
- Ukuhamba kwegazi okungakumbi ukuya kwimisipha.
- Ingqwalasela iyaqina.
Konke oku kusinika amandla angakumbi okujongana nengozi. Kodwa umsindo awusoloko unxulumene nosongelo lomzimba. Unganomsindo nakwiimeko zentlalo, njengaxa unengxabano nomhlobo okanye ilungu losapho, xa ubona ukungabikho kobulungisa kuluntu, xa iimfuno zakho zingafezekiswa, okanye xa umntu ehlekisa ngawe.
Kuza kwenzeka ntoni ukuba ubambe umsindo?
Ukuba uyayicinezela ingqumbo yakho, inokuchaphazela iingcinga zakho kunye nokuziphatha kwaye ibangele okanye ibenze mandundu iingxaki ezininzi zomzimba. Lo msindo ongapheliyo yinto oogqirha abayibiza ngokuba yingqumbo engapheliyo . Nazi ezinye zeengxaki zempilo ezinokubangelwa yile meko.
| Ingxaki yempilo | Inkcazo |
|---|---|
| Igazi elonyukayo | Ukusoloko unomsindo kunokubangela uxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu. |
| Isifo sentliziyo | Umsindo ongapheliyo uyingozi enkulu ekuhlaselweni yintliziyo nakwezinye izifo zentliziyo. |
| Intloko ebuhlungu | Uxinzelelo lunokubangela iintloko ezibuhlungu rhoqo. |
| Izifo Zesikhumba | Iimeko ezifana ne-atopic dermatitis kunye ne-psoriasis zinokuba mandundu. |
| Iingxaki zenkqubo yokugaya ukutya | Iingxaki ezinje ngeentlungu zesisu, ukuqhina kwesisu, kunye norhudo zinokubakho. |
Ngoko ke, ngaba umsindo uyinto embi? Hayi. Umsindo yimvakalelo eqhelekileyo neluncedo. Nokuba ulungile okanye umbi kuxhomekeke kwindlela owusingatha ngayo.
Khawuthelekelele ukuba kwingxaki yokupaka ekhankanyiweyo ngaphambili, ubunomsindo, kodwa wazola emva komzuzu waza wemka. Omnye umntu, ngenxa yomsindo, wehla emotweni yakhe waza washiya iphepha elinombhalo orhabaxa emotweni yomnye umntu. Kuzo zombini iimeko, ubunomsindo. Kodwa kwimeko yokuqala, ubuyiqonda loo msindo waza wawuyeka. Kwimeko yesibini, wawusasaza loo msindo ngakumbi, kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba ubuwugcine engqondweni yakho imini yonke.
Ngubani ofuna ukulawula umsindo?
Enyanisweni, ukufunda izakhono zokulawula umsindo kuyingenelo kuthi sonke. Ingakumbi ukuba unesifo sengqondo, olu nyango lunokwenza umahluko omkhulu kumgangatho wobomi bakho kunye nobudlelwane bakho. Oku kunokuba kubaluleke kakhulu kubantu abanezi meko zilandelayo:
| Imeko yempilo yengqondo |
|---|
| Ingxaki Yokunqongophala Kwengqalelo/Ukuphazamiseka Kokusebenza Kakhulu (ADHD) |
| Ukuxhuzula |
| Ingxaki yoBuntu obuseMda |
| Uxinzelelo |
| Ingxaki yokuxhalaba ngokubanzi |
| Ingxaki Yokuqhushumba Okungapheliyo |
| Ingxaki yokungavumi ukuchasana |
Kwenzeka ntoni ngexesha lonyango?
Kwezi ndlela zonyango, ufunda izakhono ezikunceda uqonde isizathu sokuba ube nomsindo kunye nendlela oziva ngayo xa unomsindo. Ugqirha wakho okanye umcebisi wakho unokukubuza imibuzo efana nale:
- Zeziphi izinto ezikwenza ucaphuke?
- Yintoni kanye kanye ekwenza ucaphuke? Ngaba ubushushu bomsindo wakho bufanelekile kwimeko leyo?
- Ngaba ikho enye imvakalelo efihliweyo emva komsindo wakho, njengoloyiko, ixhala, okanye intlungu?
- Umzimba wakho uziva njani xa unomsindo?
Emva koko, kunye nogqirha wakho, niya kuphuhlisa amaqhinga kunye nezakhono zokulawula umsindo wakho. Ezi zizinto onokuzisebenzisa kwangoko nje xa uziva unomsindo.
1. Ukutshintsha indlela ocinga ngayo (Uhlengahlengiso lweNgqondo)
Oku kuquka ukutshintsha indlela ojonga ngayo iziganeko. Endaweni yokucinga ngezinto ezimbi, ufunda ukutshintsha indlela obona ngayo izinto. Umzekelo, endaweni yokucinga, "Le yeyona nto imbi kakhulu eyakha yenzeka kum," ufunda ukucinga ngendlela eyinyani, njengokuthi, "Oku kubi, kwaye kulungile ukuziva ulusizi ngako, kodwa akusosiphelo sehlabathi."
2. Izakhono zoNxibelelwano
Uza kufunda iindlela zokunxibelelana eziza kukunceda uveze umsindo wakho ngendlela ephilileyo. Uza kufundiswa indlela yokulawula iimvakalelo zakho nokuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho.
3. Iindlela zokuphumla
Ezi zinokukunceda ume phambi kokuba wenze into oyifunayo. Zinokukunceda ucacise ingqondo yakho ngokuyeka ukucinga emva kokuba usombulule ingxaki. Oku kungabandakanya izinto ezifana nokucamngca, umthambo wokuphefumla nzulu, okanye i-yoga.
Uza kuziqhelisa ezi zakhono zintsha ngexesha leeseshoni zonyango. Uza kukhuthazwa ukuba uziqhelise ekhaya. Kubalulekile ukuziqhelisa ezi ndlela de uzive ukhululekile kwaye ukwazi ukulawula ngempumelelo iimeko zomsindo.
Yintoni omawuyenze xa kukho imeko engxamisekileyo?
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba, ukuba uziva ngathi awukwazi ukuzibamba kwaye uyoyika ukuzenzakalisa okanye ukwenzakalisa omnye umntu, bonana nogqirha ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba kusebusuku okanye ukuba imeko ingxamisekile, yiya kwiSebe leNgxamiseko (ETU) lesibhedlele esikufutshane. Musa ukuyibekela bucala.
Kusenokuvakala ngathi akukhululekanga ekuqaleni ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho neziganeko zangaphambili. Kodwa wakuba wakhe ukuthembana nogqirha wakho, ukuthetha ngezi zinto nokuvula ingqondo yakho linyathelo elibalulekileyo lokuphucula ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Umsindo yimvakalelo eqhelekileyo yomntu, kodwa umsindo ongalawulekiyo uyingozi kwimpilo yakho nakubudlelwane bakho.
- Ukusoloko unomsindo kunokubangela iingxaki zempilo ezifana noxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu, isifo sentliziyo, kunye neengxaki zenkqubo yokugaya ukutya.
- Unyango lokulawula umsindo lunokukunceda ufunde izakhono ozidingayo ukulawula le meko.
- Ukuze wenze oku, kubalulekile ukutshintsha iingcinga zakho, ukuphucula izakhono zakho zonxibelelwano, nokusebenzisa iindlela zokuphumla.
- Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba wena okanye abanye abantu nisengozini yokwenzakala, bonana nogqirha wakho ngoko nangoko okanye uye kwiSebe lezeMpilo eziNgxamisekileyo (ETU) elikufutshane.
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