Ngaba ufuna ukwazi kakuhle ukuba zeziphi iingongoma ezibalulekileyo zokukhula komntwana wakho?

Kuyonwabisa kakhulu ukubukela umntwana wakho ekhula kwaye esenza izinto ezintsha yonke imihla, akunjalo? Ukususela ekuphakamiseni intloko yakhe ngexesha "lesisu" ukuya ekufikeleleni kwizinto zokudlala, konke oku kuyamangalisa. Ezi zizinto esizibiza ngokuba ziimpawu zomntwana . Ngamafutshane, ezi zizinto ezinokwenziwa luninzi lwabantwana xa beneminyaka ethile. Ezi zinto zincinci ziimpawu zokuba umntwana wakho uyakhula kwaye ukhula njengoko kulindelekile.

Ugqirha wezingane uzijonga njani ezi zinto zibalulekileyo?

Uthatha umntwana wakho aye kuhlolwa rhoqo (`ukuhlolwa kakuhle`). Ngala maxesha, ugqirha wezingane uhlola umntwana wakho, adlale naye, aze ajonge indlela ashukuma ngayo, adlala ngayo, kwaye enze izandi. La ngamaxesha apho unokubuza ugqirha nayiphi na imibuzo onayo malunga nokukhula komntwana wakho.

Iingcali zihlaziye olu luhlu lweziganeko ezibalulekileyo zophuhliso lomntwana ngo-2022. Luquka izinto ezinokwenziwa ubuncinane ziintsana ezintathu kwezine ngokomyinge. Khawuthelekelele, ukuba umntwana wakho akenzi izinto ezithile ngexesha elilindelekileyo, ugqirha unokucebisa uvavanyo oluthile ('ukuhlolwa'). Oko kukuthi, ukubona ukuba umntwana uneengxaki zophuhliso. Ukuba bacinga ukuba kukho into enjalo, ugqirha uya kuthetha nawe 'ngongenelelo lwangethuba' . Ezi nyathelo zangethuba ziindlela zonyango ezifana 'nonyango lomzimba', 'unyango lomsebenzi', kunye 'nonyango lokuthetha' . Ngoko ke, akukho sizathu sokukhathazeka.

Ziziphi ezi ntlobo zeziganeko zophuhliso?

Amanqanaba okukhula kweentsana nabantwana abancinci anokwahlulwahlulwa abe ngamacandelo amane aphambili. Nangona kunjalo, amanye amanqanaba anokuwa kumaqela angaphezu kwelinye. Kodwa ukwazi ngezi zigaba kuya kukunceda uhlale ujonge ukukhula komntwana wakho kwaye uxoxe ngako nogqirha wakho.

• Iziganeko ezibalulekileyo zentlalo nezeemvakalelo: Ezi ziindlela umntwana wakho abonisa ngazo iimvakalelo zakhe kwaye asebenzisana ngazo nabanye. Umzekelo, ukuncuma naye xa uncuma, ukukujonga xa ubiza igama lakhe.
• Iimpawu ezibalulekileyo zolwimi nonxibelelwano: Indlela umntwana enza ngayo izandi, indlela aziveza ngayo ngaphandle kwamazwi (umzekelo, ukukhonkotha, ukuphakamisa isandla sakhe ukuze afunqulwe).
• Izinto ezibalulekileyo engqondweni: Indlela umntwana acinga, afunda, aze asombulule ngayo iingxaki. Cinga ngayo, ufake ithoyizi emlonyeni wakhe uze ufunde ngayo. Izinto ezinjalo.
• Iimpawu zokunyakaza komzimba: Indlela umntwana ashukuma aze akhule ngayo ngokwasemzimbeni (umzekelo, ukugoba phantsi ngeengqiniba zakhe ngelixa ekhasa, ezitsala ukuze ame).

Zihlelwa njani iingongoma zokukhula komntwana?

Umntwana wakho udlula kwiinqanaba ezininzi ukususela ngomhla azalwa ngawo ukuya kuthi ga kwiinyanga ezili-12 ubudala. Kuyonwabisa kakhulu ukubona la manqanaba okukhula komntwana. Umntwana wakho uchulumancile ngakumbi kuba uqala ukufumanisa eli hlabathi ngendlela entsha.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba la manqanaba obomi yimigaqo nje eqhelekileyo. Musa ukoyika ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala ethatha ixesha elide. Ayizizo zonke iintsana ezifanayo, kwaye wonke umntu ukhula ngesantya sakhe. Ukuba uneengxaki, thetha nogqirha wezingane.

Apha ngezantsi kukho amanyathelo okukhula abonakaliswa ziintsana inyanga nenyanga.

Kwiinyanga ezi-2

Uninzi lweentsana ezineenyanga ezi-2 ubudala zenza ezi zinto:

• Ukujonga into efana nethoyi imizuzwana embalwa ngexesha.
• Uyijonga njengoko ujikeleza.
• Uphakamisa intloko ngexesha 'lesisu'.
• Ukungcangcazela izandla nemilenze.
• Bamba inqindi imizuzwana embalwa ngaphandle kokuyishukumisa.
• Benza ezinye izandi ngaphandle kokulila.
• Ukuba uva ingxolo enkulu, uyasabela kuyo.
• Xa uthetha naye okanye umbambe, uyayeka ukukhala aze azole.
• Ukujonga ubuso bakho.
• Basabela ngovuyo xa bekubona.
• Ukuba uyancuma okanye uthetha, nabo bayancuma.

Kwiinyanga ezi-4

Uninzi lweentsana ezineenyanga ezi-4 ubudala zenza ezi zinto:

• Xa belambile, bavula imilomo yabo xa bebona ibhotile yokuncancisa okanye ibele likanina.
• Bathanda ukujonga izandla zabo.
• Xa uyiphethe, intloko yayo iyazigcina ithe tye yodwa.
• Ubamba into oyinikwayo.
• Babetha izinto ezinje ngamathoyizi ngezandla zabo.
• Bafaka izandla zabo emlonyeni.
• Xa zikhasa, zixhomekeka emhlabeni ngeengqiniba zazo.
• Benza ingxolo efana no-"ooo" kunye no-"aaa".
• Baphendula ngokuvakalayo xa uthetha into ethile.
• Ndijika intloko yam xa ndisiva ilizwi lakho.
• Ukuhleka yedwa.
• Xa usenza into ehlekisayo, umntwana omncinci uyahleka aze ahleke.
• Bayashukuma, benze ingxolo, baze bakujonge ukuze bakunike ingqalelo.

Kwiinyanga ezi-6

Kwiinyanga ezi-6, uninzi lweentsana:

• Xa ugqiba ukutya, ucinezela imilebe yakho.
• Bafaka izinto emlonyeni wabo ukuze bafunde ngazo.
• Besolula isandla bethatha izinto zokudlala abazifunayo.
• Iqengqeleka ukusuka esiswini ukuya emqolo.
• Xa zikhasa, zolula iingalo zazo zize ziphakamise umzimba wazo.
• Xa uhleli, uxhomekeka emhlabeni ngezandla zakho.
• "Bathetha" nawe ngokwenza ingxolo bebuya bebuya.
• Ukukhupha ulwimi kunye "nokuvuthela iirasbheri" (ukwenza ingxolo ngolwimi).
• Ukwenza ingxolo yokukhwaza.
• Ukuqonda abantu obaziyo.
• Ndiziva ndonwabile xa ndizibona esipilini.
• Ukuhleka kakhulu (hayi ukuhleka nje kancinci).

Kwiinyanga ezili-9

Xa sele beneminyaka eli-9, uninzi lweentsana:

• Ndikhangela izinto zokubeka phantsi.
• Ukubetha ababini kunye – njengokubetha imbiza ngecephe.
• Uhleli yedwa.
• Ukuhlala ngaphandle kwenkxaso.
• Basebenzisa iminwe yabo ukuzisa iziqwenga zokutya emlonyeni wabo.
• Ukudlulisela izinto ukusuka kwelinye icala ukuya kwelinye.
• Zenza izandi ezifana namagama aphindaphindayo afana no-"ma-ma-ma".
• Uphakamisa izandla zakho xa ufuna ukubanjwa.
• Abantu ongabaziyo baneentloni, bayoyika, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha banamathela kuwe.
• Sisebenzisa imbonakalo yobuso eyahlukeneyo ukubonisa iimvakalelo ezinje ngolonwabo, usizi, kunye nokumangaliswa.
• Uphendula xa esiva igama lakhe.
• Ukuba uzama ukuhamba, baza kukhala baze bakuncede.
• Xa ugquma ubuso bakho uze uhambe ("Yomelela, sthandwa!"), baphendula ngokuhleka novuyo.

Kwiinyanga ezili-12 (ngonyaka)

Iintsana ezininzi ezinonyaka omnye ubudala:

• Ukufaka izinto ezincinci kwizikhongozeli ezinkulu – njengokufaka itreyini yamathoyizi ngaphakathi kwibhakethi.
• Ukhangela izinto onokuzifihla – njengaxa ufihla ithoyizi yakhe ngasemva kwakho.
• Babambelela kwinto ethile ekufutshane baze bame bodwa.
• Ukuhambahamba ebambelele kwizinto ezimileyo, ezifana nefenitshala (ekwabizwa ngokuba yi "cruising" ).
• Sisebenzisa ubhontsi wethu nomnwe wokwalatha ukuze sithathe izinto ezincinci ezifana neenkozo.
• Xa usithi ndlela-ntle kumntu, uyamphakamisa isandla.
• Babiza abazali babo ngokuthi “umama” okanye elinye igama.
• Ndiyazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuthi "hayi".
• Ndidlala nawe nje.

Uqinisekisa njani ukhuseleko lomntwana wakho njengoko ekhula kwaye ekhula?

Unyaka wokuqala womntwana lixesha lokufumanisa izinto ezintsha. Njengoko eqala ukuhambahamba, umdla wakhe ngehlabathi elimngqongileyo uyakhula. Ungaze umshiye yedwa umntwana wakho. Umntu omdala onoxanduva kufuneka abe naye ngamaxesha onke xa evukile. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba qwa wedwa akugubungeli yonke into. Iingozi kunye nokwenzakala zinokwenzeka ngokukhawuleza ukuba awuthathi amanyathelo afanelekileyo okhuseleko.

Nazi ezinye izinto omele uzenze nongamele uzenze ukuze umntwana wakho akhuseleke.

Izinto ekufuneka zenziwe (ii-DO):

• Ukuthintela ukutsha ngengozi, beka ubushushu besifudumezi samanzi kwi- 48 degrees Celsius (120 Fahrenheit) .
• Jonga ubushushu bamanzi xa uhlamba umntwana wakho, kwaye ufunde amanye amacebiso malunga nokhuseleko lokuhlamba.
• Xa ukhetha izinto zokudlala, maziqine, zingabi naziqwenga zikhululekileyo, zingabi bukhali, kwaye zibe nkulu kunomlomo womntwana.
• Ukuba kukho izinyuko ezivulekileyo, faka amasango kuzo okanye uwavale (khetha amasango anezilayidi ezithe nkqo, ezithe nkqo endaweni yezimile okwedayimani ezinokunyuswa).
• Faka izixhobo zokuvavanyela umsi kunye nezixhobo zokuvavanyela i-carbon monoxide uze ulandele imiyalelo yendlela yokuzisebenzisa ngokufanelekileyo.
• Funda amacebiso okhuseleko kwizihlalo zemoto (oku kusebenza nakubani na ohamba nomntwana emotweni).
• Nciphisa umngcipheko wokuba umntwana wakho abe selangeni, uze umnxibise iimpahla ezimkhusela elangeni (sebenzisa isithambisi selanga emva kweenyanga ezi-6).
• Jonga ukuba umntwana wakho uhleli endaweni yokuma xa ehleli kwisitulo esiphezulu.
• Gcina izinto ezincinci, izinto ezibukhali, izinto eziqhekezwayo, kunye nezinto ezinokuba yityhefu kumntwana (amayeza, iimveliso zokucoca, isepha) kude okanye kwikhabhathi etshixiweyo. ( Ulawulo lweTyhefu inombolo yaseSri Lanka 0112686143)Khumbula loo nto).
• Xa ulalisa umntwana wakho, mbeke ngomqolo kumatrasi oqinileyo. Thatha amanye amanyathelo okunciphisa umngcipheko we- Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) .
• Bopha iintambo kwiikhethini zefestile ukuze zingabhijelwa ngengozi entanyeni yakho.

Izinto ekungamele zenziwe (AMANDLA OKUNGENZEKI):

• Musa ukusela okanye ukubamba izinto ezishushu ngelixa uphethe umntwana wakho.
• Musa ukunika abantwana abangaphantsi kweenyanga ezi-6 ubudala amanzi.
• Musa ukushiya umntwana wakho yedwa emotweni.
• Musa ukuvumela umntwana adlale ekhitshini ngelixa upheka.
• Musa ukubeka imigexo, izinto zokuthambisa, okanye izinto zokudlala entanyeni yomntwana.
• Musa ukuthatha abantwana abangaphantsi kweenyanga ezi-6 ubudala uye nabo echibini lokudada.
• Musa ukusebenzisa izixhobo zokuhamba zeentsana . Ziyingozi.

Zithini iindawo zokugqibela zeentsana ezisandul’ ukuzalwa?

Izinto ezibalulekileyo eziza kuzalwa zizinto ezinokwenziwa luninzi lwabantwana xa lunenyanga enye ubudala. Nangona uluhlu oluhlaziyiweyo lweziganeko ezibalulekileyo luqala kwiinyanga ezimbini, oogqirha babantwana ngokwesiko babelindele ukuba iintsana ezisandul’ ukuzalwa zikwazi ukwenza oku kulandelayo xa zinenyanga enye ubudala:

• Izandla eziphakanyisiweyo zijonge ebusweni.
• Xa ilele ngesisu, ishukumisa intloko yayo ukusuka kwelinye icala ukuya kwelinye.
• Ndizihlikihla izandla zam.
• Yenza iintshukumo ze-reflex.
• Izandi okanye amazwi aqhelekileyo ajika aye kwicala elifanelekileyo.

Iziganeko ezibalulekileyo zomntwana zizalisa intliziyo yakho ngovuyo, mhlawumbi uzalise ifowuni yakho ngeefoto! Kodwa, ukuba umntwana wakho akafikeleli kwinqanaba elithile, ungaziva ukhathazekile. Ukuba unamathandabuzo ngento ethile, thetha nogqirha wakho wezingane. Nguye oza kujonga iziganeko ezibalulekileyo zomntwana wakho aze akuxelele ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna uncedo oluncinci endleleni.

Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya

Ukukhula komntwana wakho luhambo oluhle. Wonke umntwana ukhula ngesantya sakhe. Kulungile ukuqaphela la manqanaba, kodwa ungakhathazeki kakhulu ngokuthelekisa umntwana wakho nawo. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuthanda umntwana wakho, ukudlala naye, ukuthetha naye, kunye nokunyamekela iimfuno zakhe. Ukuba unemibuzo okanye amathandabuzo, ungabi nazintloni zokubuza ugqirha wakho wabantwana. Bakho ukukunceda wena nomntwana wakho.

Ukukhula komntwana , amanyathelo okukhula, amanyathelo okukhula komntwana, ukukhula kwenyanga, uphuhliso lomntwana, iingcebiso zokuba ngumzali, ukhuseleko lomntwana