Ngaba nawe uyamkhathalela omnye umntu? Masiqaphele le 'Caregiver Drainout'!

Ngaba kukho umntu ekhayeni lakho ogulayo okanye ofuna unyango olukhethekileyo? Mhlawumbi ngabazali bakho asebekhulile, iqabane lakho elinesifo esinganyangekiyo, okanye umntwana oneemfuno ezikhethekileyo. Yinto entle ukunyamekela umntu onje. Kodwa ngaba ngamanye amaxesha uyazilibala xa usebenza nzima kangaka ukubanyamekela? Namhlanje, siza kuthetha ngemeko eqhelekileyo enokuvela.

Ngubani lo 'Mnakekeli'? (Umntu onyamekela umntu)

Ngamafutshane, 'umnakekeli', okanye oko sikubiza ngokuba yi " " ngesiSinhala, ngumntu onceda omnye umntu ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwengqondo, emnceda ukuba ahlangabezane neemfuno zakhe zemihla ngemihla. Oko kukuthi, lo ngumntu onyamekela umntu ongakwaziyo ukwenza umsebenzi wakhe, mhlawumbi ngenxa yempilo ebuthathaka, ukugula, ingozi, okanye imeko yempilo.

Khawucinge nje, abanye abantu banalo:

• Isifo sika-Alzheimer okanye i-dementia
• Umhlaza
• Isifo esingapheliyo
• Iimeko zempilo yengqondo
• Isifo sokugubhuka
• Isifo sikaParkinson
• Iimeko ezifana nestroke
• Ukulimala kwengqondo okubuhlungu

Olu luhlu aluphelelanga, kodwa abantu abanezi meko badla ngokuba ngabona bafuna uncedo lomnakekeli. Ukongeza, abantu abakwiindawo zonyango, njengootitshala, banokuhlangabezana nale meko ibizwa ngokuba kukudinwa ngumnakekeli.

Zithini iimbopheleleko 'zoMnakekeli'?

• Ukunceda ngemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla, umzekelo, ukuya endlwini yangasese, ukuhlamba, ukunxiba, kunye nokukama iinwele.
• Ukulungisa ukutya neziselo.
• Ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya.
• Ulawulo lwamayeza sisenzo sokunika amayeza ngexesha elifanelekileyo nokugcina umkhondo wawo.
• Ukunceda ngolawulo lwemali.
• Uthutho sisenzo sokuhambahamba.
• Hlala ulumkile ngempilo yakho.
• Ukuthetha namaziko afana noogqirha nezibhedlele kunye nokuthethelela iimfuno zabo.

Ngamafutshane, uxanduva oluphambili lomnakekeli kukuqinisekisa ukhuseleko nempilo yomntu amnyamekelayo.

Ngoko ke yintoni le 'Caregiver Burnout'?

Kulungile, ngoku makhe sijonge ukuba yintoni le 'Caregiver Burnout'. Le yingongoma yethu ephambili namhlanje. 'Caregiver Burnout' kukudinwa ngokomzimba, ngokwengqondo nangokweemvakalelo okunokwenzeka xa unikela lonke ixesha lakho, umgudu, namandla kwimpilo nokhuseleko lomnye umntu.

Khawucinge ngekhandlela. Liyacima xa ulikhanyisa. Kodwa xa ikhandlela licima, awukwazi ukuphinda ulikhanyisa, akunjalo? Yiloo nto ithethwa kukudinwa. Kunokwenzeka xa ungafumani ncedo uludingayo, xa ucinga ngomnye umntu endaweni yakho, okanye xa uthatha okungaphezu kwamandla akho. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba impilo yakho kunye nokuphila kakuhle kubaluleke njengomntu omkhathalelayo.

Kuqheleke kangakanani oku?

Ukudinwa ngabantu abanyamekela abanye abantu yinto eqhelekileyo. Uphando lubonisa ukuba abantu abangaphezu kwama-60% abanyamekela abanye abantu bafumana iimpawu zolu hlobo lokudinwa. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuba uhlangabezana nento efana nale, awuwedwa.

Zithini iimpawu 'zoMnakekeli Odiniweyo'?

Iimpawu 'zokuphelelwa ngamandla' zihlala zifana neempawu zeengxaki zempilo yengqondo ezifana noxinzelelo kunye nokudakumba . Jonga ukuba unayo na enye yezi:

• Ndihlala ndiziva ndidiniwe kakhulu, ndidiniwe emzimbeni nasengqondweni.
• Utyekelo lokuzihlukanisa kancinci kancinci nabahlobo, usapho, kunye nabantu obathandayo.
• Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwizinto obukade uzonwabela.
• Ukuziva ungenathemba kwaye ungenakuncedakala ngobomi.
• Utshintsho ekutyeni. Nokuba awutyi konke konke, okanye utya ngaphezu kokuba kufanele. Oku kunokukhokelela ekutyebeni okanye ekulahlekelweni bubunzima.
• Iingxaki zokulala. Nokuba akukwazi ukulala konke konke, okanye uzive udiniwe xa ulala.
• Kunzima ukugxila kwinto enye, kwaye kuvakala ngathi inkumbulo yakho iya isiba mandundu.
• Uziva ngathi ugula rhoqo kunangaphambili. Ufumana umkhuhlane rhoqo.
• Ukuba nomsindo ngezinto ezincinci, ukucaphuka msinya, nokusoloko uxabana nabanye.

Kubaluleke kakhulu: Ukuba ukhe uzive ngathi awukwazi ukuthwala lo mthwalo, ufuna ukuthetha nomntu, okanye ucinga ngokuzenzakalisa, nceda ufune uncedo ngokukhawuleza. Nxibelelana nenkonzo yakho yenkxaso yempilo yengqondo, ugqirha othembekileyo, umsebenzi wentlalontle, okanye ugqirha wengqondo. Kwakhona, ukuba uziva unomsindo, unomsindo, okanye uneengcinga zokumenzakalisa umntu omkhathaleleyo, le yimeko enzima. Xelela umntu omthembayo ngoko nangoko.

Uziva njani xa uziva 'ukhathele ngenxa yokhathalelo'?

Asinguye wonke umntu odinwa ngendlela efanayo. Nangona kunjalo, xa udinwa ngumntu okhathalela abanye, unokuba nezi mvakalelo zilandelayo:

• Uloyiko okanye ixhala: Ukoyika ukuba ukuba kukho into engahambi kakuhle ngam, kuya kubangela ingxaki kumntu endimkhathalelayo.
• Umsindo okanye ukukhungatheka: Ndivakalelwa kukuba nangona ndisebenze nzima kangaka, umntu endimkhathalelayo akaluboni okanye akaluxabisi uncedo lwam.
• Ukukhanyela: Ukuzixelela ukuba umntu omkhathaleleyo "akabi kangako."
• Ukuziva unetyala:Akulunganga ukuzibekela ixesha elincinci, ucinge ngolonwabo lwakho, kwaye ucinge ukuba ixesha belinokuchithwa kuloo mntu ungenakunceda.
• Ukungabi namdla: Nangona ukhathalelo lwaqala ngenjongo entle, ngoku luvakala ngathi lilifu elimnyama eliphezu kwentloko yakho. Uqhubeka nemisebenzi yakho ungenamdla okanye umnqweno wokuyenza ngokufanelekileyo.
• Ukuba wedwa okanye ukuba wedwa: Andinamntu wokundinceda, akukho mntu ufuna ukundinceda, kwaye ndivakalelwa kukuba ukucela uncedo luphawu lobuthathaka.

Kuqhelekile ukuva ezi mvakalelo xa uziva 'udiniwe'. Kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba ungavumeli ezi mvakalelo zikufikele okanye zikwenzele nantoni na enokukulimaza. Cela uncedo ngokukhawuleza nje ukuba uzive ezi mvakalelo.

Kutheni kukho 'ukudinwa nguMnakekeli'?

Eyona sizathu 'sokudinwa ngumzimba' kukuba xa unikela lonke ixesha lakho, amandla akho, kunye nezixhobo zakho ekukhathaleleni abanye, uyazilibala kwaye uzityeshele. Zonke ezi ngxaki ziqala xa ungacingi ngempilo yakho yomzimba neyengqondo.

Ukongeza, kunokubakho ezinye izizathu:

• Ukudideka kwendima: Xa ngequbuliso unoxanduva lokunyamekela umntu, kunokuba yinto edidayo ukwazi ukuba ungubani. Khawuthelekelele, ukhathalela umama wakho. Ungumntwana wakhe. Kodwa ngoku 'ungumnakekeli' wakhe. Kulula ukudideka, akunjalo? Ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba amalungu amaninzi osapho ayakhathalelana, kunokuba yinto ebangela uxinzelelo xa kungacaci ukuba ngubani onoxanduva lwantoni.
• Umsantsa phakathi kolindelo kunye nenyaniso: Sicinga ukuba ngenxa yokuba sikhathalele, umntu uya konwaba, aphile kungekudala, kwaye nathi siya kuziva sonwabile. Kodwa inyaniso iyinkimbinkimbi ngakumbi. Le yintsikelelo enkulu, kodwa ikwanguxinzelelo olukhulu. Kunzima ukugcina ulungelelwano phakathi kwezi zimbini.
• Ukungabi nalawulo: Mhlawumbi ngenxa yeengxaki zemali, ukungabikho kwezixhobo ezifunekayo, okanye ukungazi ukuba uceba, ulawule, okanye uhlele njani ngokufanelekileyo, ungaziva ngathi yonke into ayilawuleki.
• Ukwanda koxanduva: Ngamanye amaxesha ungaziva ngathi zonke ezi mbopheleleko zisemagxeni akho. Olu xinzelelo luyanda xa abanye bengakuncedi, okanye xa yonke into ilindelekile kuwe.
• Ukungazi ukuba kuza 'ukudinwa': Abantu abaninzi abayiqondi le nto ide yenzeke. Oku kunokuchaphazela nomgangatho wenkonzo oyinikelayo.

Ngubani osengozini enkulu 'yokudinwa nguMnakekeli'?

Usenokuba sengozini enkulu yokudinwa ngumnakekeli ukuba:

• Ukuba ungumnakekeli onyamekela omnye umntu.
• Ukuba usebenza kwindawo enceda abanye (umz., isikolo, isibhedlele, ikliniki).
• Xa uziva udiniwe, zinike ikhefu, ukuba akukho mntu unokukunceda.
• Ukuba ucinga ukuba ndim ndedwa onokwenza lo msebenzi ngendlela eyiyo.

Kuza kwenzeka ntoni ukuba 'uMnakekeli Odiniweyo' uyaqhubeka?

Ukuba umntu onyamekela umntu omthandayo uyaqhubeka edinwa, oku kunokuchaphazela wena nomntu omkhathalelayo.Ukunyamekela umntu ixesha elide kwandisa umngcipheko wokudinwa, kunye neengxaki zempilo yomzimba neyengqondo. Usenokude uhlehlise uhlolo lwakho lwezonyango okanye uyeke ukuthatha amayeza akho ngenxa yesifo esingapheliyo kuba kufuneka ukhathalele umntu omkhathalelayo. Ukuba iimpawu zempilo yengqondo, ezinje ngokudakumba okanye ukuxhalaba, azinyangwa, wena nomntu omkhathalelayo niya kuba nobomi obuphantsi. Kwiimeko ezinzima, uxinzelelo kunye nokudandatheka okubangelwa kukudinwa kunokuba yingozi ebomini.

Ungazi njani ukuba 'unengxaki yokudinwa nguMnakekeli'? (Uvavanyo)

Ukuba uziva ngathi udinwe kakhulu, kungcono ukuthetha nogqirha okanye nomcebisi wezempilo yengqondo ngaloo nto. Banokuvavanya impilo yakho yengqondo neyomzimba. Okwangoku, baxelele ukuba uziva njani ngokunyaniseka. Ukuba ugcina iimvakalelo zakho zivaliwe, abayi kukwazi ukukunceda ngendlela efanelekileyo.

Yintoni enokwenziwa 'ngokudinwa yiCaregiver'? (Unyango)

Akukho sisombululo sinye 'sokudinwa ngumzimba'. Kusenokufuneka uzame iindlela ezimbalwa ezahlukeneyo ude uzive ungcono. Ezi zinto zinokukunceda:

• Funa ingcebiso kagqirha: Njengomnakekeli, uxinzelelo kunye nomthwalo weemvakalelo ozivayo kunokuba nzima ukuwuthwala. Ke ngoko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukudibana nogqirha, ingcali yezengqondo, unontlalontle, okanye umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo ukuze uthethe ngeemvakalelo zakho. Kunye nosapho lwakho nabahlobo, aba ngcali banokukunceda kolu hambo.
• Ukuzinyamekela: Ngelixa unyamekela omnye umntu, akukhona ukuzicingela wena . Musa ukutsiba izinto zakho zobuqu njengokuya kugqirha wamazinyo. Yitya ukutya okunesondlo kwaye ulale ngokwaneleyo. Ukuzilolonga kunokuphucula indlela ovakalelwa ngayo. Ekupheleni kosuku, ungaphumla ngokucamngca okanye ukwenza into efana neyoga.
• Cela uncedo: Ukucela uncedo akulula. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abaqondi ukuba udinga uncedo de ulucele. Xa umntu ecela uncedo, yiba nomkhwa wokuthi, "Ewe, enkosi kakhulu." Xa unomsebenzi omninzi ekufuneka uwenze, yiba nomkhwa wokuthi, "Andinakukwenza oku." Mhlawumbi abanye baya kukulungela ukukwenzela izinto ezincinci, njengokukuthengela ukutya ngelixa usiya kuthenga okanye ukuhamba nenja yakho ngokuhlwa.
• Fumana izixhobo kwindawo okuyo: Kusenokubakho imibutho kunye neenkonzo kuluntu lwakho ezinokukunceda. Jonga izinto ezifana nokhathalelo lwasekhaya, amaziko okhathalelo lwabantu abadala, kunye neenkqubo zokutya kuluntu. Ugqirha wakho anokukunceda ngezi zinto. Ungafumana namaqela enkxaso adibanisa abantu abaye badlula kumava afanayo.

Yintoni 'Ukhathalelo Lokuphumla'?

'Ukhathalelo Lokuphumla' likhefu nje lexeshana lomntu oyintloko onyamekela abantu, onguwe. Ungalicwangcisa eli khefu iiyure ezimbalwa, iintsuku ezimbalwa, okanye iiveki ezimbalwa. Ngeli xesha, umntu omkhathalelayo unokufumana iinkonzo zokhathalelo ekhaya, esibhedlele, okanye kwindawo efana neziko lokhathalelo lwabantu abadala.

Oku kuxabiseke kakhulu kuwe. Kuba kuya kukunceda uphefumle kancinci, kwaye kwenze ulungelelwano phakathi kobomi bakho kunye nalo mthwalo. Imibutho emininzi yoluntu ibonelela ngeenkonzo ``(Ukhathalelo lwexesha lokuphumla)``.

Ungachacha njani emva kokuba 'uCaregiver Burnout'? Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani?

Kuthatha ixesha nomonde ukuchacha emva kokudinwa ngumgcini-mpilo. Wonke umntu uhlangabezana nako ngendlela eyahlukileyo, ngoko ke ukuchacha kwahlukile. Kusenokufuneka uzame izinto ezimbalwa ude uzive ungcono. Abantu abaninzi bafumanisa ukuba ngelixa besenza unyango lwamaqela okanye unyango lokuthetha, bajika baye kwiindlela zokuzinyamekela ezifana nokucamngca kunye nokunyamekela ukuphumla. Kunokuba nzima ukufumana ixesha lokutya kakuhle, ukuzilolonga, kunye nokuphumla. Kodwa ungoyiki ukucela uncedo. Kukho iindawo kwindawo okuyo apho unokufumana khona uncedo.

Akukho xesha lichanekileyo lokuba kuza kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuze uphile emva kokudinwa. Kungathatha iintsuku, iiveki, okanye iinyanga ukuba uzive ungcono. Yonke imeko yokhathalelo yahlukile. Okukhona ucinga ngawe, ucela uncedo, kwaye uzinike ixesha, kokukhona unganciphisa olu xinzelelo ngokukhawuleza. Ukudinwa akuphucuki ngobusuku obunye.

Ngaba Ukudinwa Okugqithisileyo Komnakekeli Akunakuthintelwa?

Ewe, zikho izinto onokuzenza ukuze uthintele ukudinwa ngumnakekeli:

• Fumana umntu omthembayo: Yindlela entle yokuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho kunye nokukhathazeka kwakho nomnye umntu. Lo unokuba ngumhlobo, ilungu losapho, umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo , okanye unontlalontle. Kukho amaqela enkxaso kubantu abanjengeentsapho zabantu abanesifo somhlaza kunye nabanakekeli babantu abanesifo se-Alzheimer.
• Zibekele usukelo olunokwenzeka: Yamkela ukuba unokufuna uncedo ngale misebenzi yokunyamekela. Ingakumbi ukuba uzama ukulinganisela oku nomsebenzi kunye neminye imisebenzi yosapho. Usenokungakwazi ukwenza yonke imisebenzi ngokwakho. Abanye banokukunceda kweminye imisebenzi. Cela uncedo xa umthwalo wakho womsebenzi unzima kakhulu. Zibekele ixesha, yazi imida yakho, kwaye unyaniseke kuwe ngemeko yakho. Qaphela umngcipheko 'wokudinwa'.
• Funda okungakumbi: Xa uyiqonda kakuhle imeko okanye isigulo somntu omkhathalelayo, kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuba umnyamekele. Ukuba isigulo siyaqhubeka, njengesifo sikaParkinson okanye isifo sika-Alzheimer, yiba nengqondo ngaso. Yamkela ukuba kunokufika ixesha apho kufuneka unyango lwabahlengikazi ngaphandle kwekhaya okanye inkxaso kwiziko lokhathalelo.
• Zikhathalele nawe:Xa ukhathalela omnye umntu, khathalela iimfuno zakho kuqala. Kufana necebiso elithethwe kwinqwelo-moya: "Nxiba imaski yakho yeoksijini ngaphambi kokuba uncede abanye." Zinike ixesha, nokuba yiyure enye okanye ezimbini. Khumbula, ukuzikhathalela akuyonto ilula. Yinto eyimfuneko kumntu okhathalela abanye.
• Yitya kakuhle: Xa unyamekela omnye umntu, kulula ukulibala ukutya izidlo ezithathu ngemini. Ukutya ukutya okunempilo kunokukunceda uhlale unamandla.
• Yamkela iimvakalelo zakho: Kuqhelekile ukuba neemvakalelo ezimbi, ezinje ngomsindo okanye ukukhungatheka malunga neembopheleleko zakho kunye nomntu omkhathalelayo. Akukwenzi ube ngumntu ombi okanye umnakekeli ombi. Ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zinzima kakhulu, cela uncedo.

Ndingalufumana phi uncedo 'kwiCaregiver Burnout'?

Ukuba uziva uxinezelekile okanye udandathekile, funa ingcebiso kagqirha ngoko nangoko. Uxinezeleko kunye noxinzelelo ziimeko ezinokunyangwa ezinokuthi zibe mandundu xa umntu onyamekela umntu oza kumnceda adinwe kakhulu.

Jonga ezi ndawo ukuze ufumane uncedo ngokunyamekela abaguli:

• Iinkonzo zempilo yasekhaya: Le mibutho ibonelela ngabancedisi bezempilo yasekhaya kunye nabahlengikazi. Eminye imibutho ikwabonelela ngononophelo lwexesha elifutshane.
• Amaziko okunyamekela abantu abadala emini: Ezi ndawo zivumela abantu abangaphezu kweminyaka engama-65 ukuba badibane kunye, benze imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo, kwaye bafumane izibonelelo zonyango eziyimfuneko.
• Amakhaya abantu abadala okanye amaziko okuhlala abantu abasweleyo: La maziko ngamanye amaxesha anika ithuba lokuhlala ixesha elifutshane, ukuze anike abanakekeli ithuba lokuphumla.
• Abancedisi bokhathalelo lwabucala: Aba ziingcali ezivavanya iimfuno zangoku kwaye zilungelelanise unyango kunye neenkonzo.
• Iinkonzo zokuxhasa abanakekeli: Ezi ziquka amaqela enkxaso, iinkqubo ezinceda abanakekeli ukuba bavuseleleke, ukudibana nabanye abadlula kwiimeko ezifanayo, ukufunda ngakumbi ngezifo ezithile, kunye nokufumana ezinye izibonelelo.
• UNobhala weCandelo okanye iSebe leeNkonzo zoLuntu: Ungafumana ulwazi malunga neenkonzo ezifana neenkonzo zokhathalelo lwabantu abadala emini, amaqela enkxaso yokhathalelo, kunye nokhathalelo lokuphumla kwindawo okuyo.
• Imibutho yesizwe: Fumana amasebe emibutho yesizwe asekuhlaleni anceda abantu abanezifo ezifana nomhlaza nesifo sikaParkinson kunye nabanakekeli babo ngokusebenzisa iifolda zefowuni kunye ne-Intanethi. Ezi zinokubonelela ngolwazi malunga nokhathalelo lokuphumla, amaqela enkxaso, kunye nezixhobo.

Yintoni omele uyibuze kugqirha xa ubona enye?

• Ndingalunciphisa njani olu xinzelelo?
• Ndingazilawula njani ngcono iimvakalelo zam kunye nolindelo lwam kule meko yokwamkela iindwendwe?
• Ngaba ikho indlela yokunciphisa umvandedwa endiwuvayo xa ndicinga ngam?
• Ngaba ungacebisa naziphi na izixhobo okanye imibutho yoluntu enceda abanakekeli?
• Ngaba zikho iindlela zokuba abanakekeli bafumane uncedo lwemali?
• Ukuba abahlobo bam nosapho lwam abanakundinceda, ngubani endifanele ndimcele uncedo ngokunyamekela umntu okwimeko yokugula?

Yintoni umahluko phakathi 'kokudinwa yintliziyo' kunye 'nokudinwa yintliziyo'?

Zombini 'ukudinwa ngumnakekeli' kunye 'nokudinwa yimfesane' ziyamchaphazela umnakekeli.

'Ukudinwa ngumnakekeli' kukudinwa okunzulu kunye noxinzelelo oluvakalayo emva kokunyamekela omnye umntu.

'Ukudinwa yimfesane' kuxa umntu onyamekela abanye abantu enyamezela uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo kunye nokulimala komntu amkhathalelayo. Oku kunokukhokelela ekulahlekelweni luvelwano (ukuqonda iimvakalelo kunye neemeko zomnye umntu) okanye ukuncipha kokukhathalela umntu amkhathalelayo.

'Ukudinwa yimfesane' kunye 'nokudinwa ngumnakekeli' zinokwenzeka zombini ngaxeshanye.

Ekugqibeleni (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Ukunyamekela omnye umntu ngamava avuyisayo ngokwenene kwaye anzima. Ngamaxesha anje, kulula ukunika ingqalelo yakho epheleleyo kumntu omkhathalelayo, kwaye ubeke ecaleni iimvakalelo zakho kunye neemfuno zakho. Yiyo loo nto imeko ebizwa ngokuba 'kukudinwa ngumnakekeli' ixhaphake kangaka. Ingayichaphazela impilo yakho yengqondo neyomzimba, kunye nokukwazi kwakho ukubonelela ngononophelo olungcono kangangoko.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo onokuyenza njengomnakekeli kukuzinika ixesha. Kunokuba nzima ukucela uncedo, kodwa khumbula, awuwedwa. Kukho izixhobo zokukunceda. Xa uphilile, ungamnyamekela kakuhle umntu omthandayo.

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