Ngaba uqhawulo-mtshato luyingxaki nakuwe? Masithethe ngalo!

Xa abazali bakho begqiba ekubeni baqhawule umtshato, usenokuba neemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo kwaye ube nemibuzo emininzi. Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo, kuba lutshintsho olukhulu kuwo wonke umntu kusapho lwakho, kuquka nawe. Kodwa zininzi izinto onokuzenza ukuze udlule kule meko kwaye wenze isigqibo. Makhe sithethe ngaloo nto, kulungile?

Yintoni onokuyenza ukuze wenze isigqibo xa abazali bakho beqhawula umtshato?

Akulula ukujongana neemvakalelo nemibuzo efika engqondweni ngexesha elinje. Kodwa zama ezi zinto zimbalwa, uza kuziva ukhululekile.

Thetha into esengqondweni yakho, mamela.

Kunokuba yingxaki enkulu kuwe ukwazi ukuba abazali bakho abafuni ukuba kunye. Ungoyiki ukubabuza nayiphi na imibuzo onayo. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba ukufumanisa kunzima ukufumana amagama, ungababhalela ileta. Kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ukuveza iimvakalelo zakho.

Cinga ngayo, mhlawumbi ufuna ukwazi izinto ezifana nokuthi "Kutheni oku kusenzeka?", "Ndingubani ngoku?", "Ngaba kuya kufuneka nditshintshe isikolo?". Lilungelo lakho ukubuza le mibuzo.

Ndixelele indlela oziva ngayo xa abazali bakho bexabana.

Ngamanye amaxesha abazali bakho banokulwa phambi kwakho, okanye bathethe kabukhali omnye komnye. Baxelele ukuba uziva ulusizi okanye ukhathazekile. Emva koko baya kuzama ukuba nononophelo ngakumbi xa bekunye nawe. Okanye ungaphuma kwigumbi okwethutyana. Khumbula, iimvakalelo zakho zixabiseke kakhulu.

"Mama, Tata, ndiziva ndibuhlungu kakhulu xa nilwa. Ndiziva ndiyoyika." Mhlawumbi kulula nje ukuthetha oku.

Qonda ukuba akufuneki "uthathe icala"

Abanye abazali bazama ukuba abantwana babo bavumelane nabo. Banokuthetha izinto ezimbi ngomnye umntu. Ukuba oko kuyenzeka, ungabaxelela ukuba ufuna ukuthetha nomama notata wakho nize nichithe ixesha nabo. Akufanele uthathe icala kuba ucinga ukuba omnye umntu uza kuba nomsindo, abe lusizi, okanye abe nomona. Ufanelwe bobabini.

Thetha nabanye abantu abathembekileyo

Thetha ngeemvakalelo zakho nomntu omdala omthembayo. Lo unokuba ngutitshala, umcebisi , ingcali yezonyango , okanye inkokheli yenkolo (njengomfundisi, umfundisi, okanye umfundisi). Thetha nabahlobo bakho nawe. Ukuba kukho nabani na kubo onabazali abaqhawule umtshato, banokuba nokuqonda ngakumbi.

Khawucinge nje, ukuba abazali bomhlobo wakho osenyongweni nabo baqhawule umtshato, indlela abajongana ngayo nalo mtshato inokukunceda nawe.

Gxila kumsebenzi wesikolo kunye neminye imisebenzi

Qhubeka usenza umsebenzi wakho wesikolo, wezemidlalo, kunye nemisebenzi yeklabhu ngaphandle kotshintsho. Xa izinto ekhaya zitshintsha, kuya kuba namandla amakhulu ukuba nezinye izinto eziqhelekileyo ebomini bakho. Ezi zinto ziya kukususa engqondweni yakho kwiingxaki zakho okwethutyana.

Yitya kakuhle, ulale kakuhle.

Xa sibuhlungu, sinokuziva sifuna ukutya ukutya okungenampilo nokubukela iividiyo kude kube sebusuku. Kodwa wenaUkutya ukutya okunempilo kunye nokuphumla ngokwaneleyo (ukulala) kuya kunceda umzimba wakho uzive ungcono. Oku kuya kwenza kube lula kuwe ukujongana neemvakalelo ezinzima ngamaxesha anzima anje.

Fumana iindlela zokunciphisa uxinzelelo.

Xa uziva uxinezelekile, zininzi izinto onokuzenza ukuze uzole ingqondo yakho. Zama ezimbalwa kwezi:

• Ukuzilolonga: Ungatsiba, uhambe endaweni ethile, ubaleke, udanse, okanye udlale umdlalo owuthandayo. Xa sizilolonga, imizimba yethu ivelisa iikhemikhali ezibizwa ngokuba zii-endorphins . Oku kusenza sizive sonwabile kwaye sikhululekile.
• Phuma ngaphandle: Phuma ngaphandle uphefumle umoya omtsha. Hambahamba, khwela ibhayisekile. Indalo yindlela entle yokuphumla.
• Zama i-yoga: Iindlela zokuzilolonga ze-yoga zinika umzimba wakho ulwandiso oluhle, ziphucule ukuphefumla kwakho, kwaye ziphumze umzimba nengqondo yakho.
• Tsala umoya onzulu: Phefumla ngempumlo yakho. Isisu sakho masikhule njengebhaluni. Emva koko phefumlela ngaphandle ngempumlo yakho. Isisu sakho masiphinde sinciphe. Ukwenza oku izihlandlo ezimbalwa kuya kukunceda uzole.
• Yenza into oyithandayo: mamela ingoma, ubukele ibali elihlekisayo, uzobe umfanekiso, ubhale kwincwadi yemihla ngemihla, okanye udlale nesilwanyana sakho sasekhaya. Nokuba uncokola nje kancinci nomntu okuvuyisayo aze akuhlekise kulungile.

Andinakubanceda abazali bam babuyelane?

Ukubuyisela abazali bakho kwakhona asinto onokuyenza. Abantwana abaninzi bayayinqwenela loo nto, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha benza izinto abacinga ukuba zilungile. Ukuba ulandela yonke imithetho ekhaya kwaye wenza kakuhle esikolweni, abazali bakho baya konwaba, kodwa kunzima ukuyicinga into yokuba kuya kubenza balibale ngoqhawulo-mtshato.

Abayi kubuyelana kuba nje ubungumphangi, waphule imithetho, okanye wenza abazali babo bathethe ngawe. Uqhawulo-mtshato lumcimbi phakathi kwabo, hayi into oyenzayo.

Uqhawulo-mtshato lwabazali bakho lutshintsho olukhulu, kodwa ngokubaxelela indlela oziva ngayo nokujongana nayo ngendlela ephilileyo, ungadlula kweli xesha linzima.

Ndingenza ntoni ukuba intlungu nomsindo wam azipheli?

Ukuba awukwazi ukuphelisa uqhawulo-mtshato lwabazali bakho, kwaye uziva uxhalabile, usizi, okanye unomsindo yonke imihla, ngokuqinisekileyo thetha nomntu omdala ngayo loo nto. Banokukuthumela kwingcali yezonyango okanye kumcebisi .

Iingcali zonyango ngabantu abaqeqeshwe ukuqonda nokunceda abantwana ngeengxaki zabo zeemvakalelo. Baza kukubuza imibuzo, bamamele ngononophelo into oyithethayo, bakufundise indlela yokujongana nezi meko, baze bakuncede wakhe ukuzithemba kwakho.Asinto yokuba neentloni ngayo, yinto onokuzenzela yona.

Umyalezo Wokugqibela Wokuya Ekhaya

Ukuqhawula umtshato kwabazali bakho kunokuba njengesivuthuvuthu esikhulu esiza ebomini bakho. Kodwa khumbula:

• Asikuko oku okubangela ingxaki yakho. Nokuba wenza ntoni okanye awukwenzi ntoni, awunakutshintsha izigqibo zabazali bakho.
• Kuqhelekile ukuba lusizi, unomsindo, kwaye ucaphukile. Musa ukuzifihla ezo mvakalelo.
• Ukuthetha kubaluleke kakhulu. Thetha ngeemvakalelo zakho neengxaki zakho nabazali bakho, abantu abadala obathembayo, kunye nabahlobo.
• Qhubeka nemisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla njengesiqhelo. Musa ukuyeka umsebenzi wesikolo, imidlalo, okanye izinto ozithandayo.
• Cinga nangempilo yakho yomzimba. Yitya kakuhle, ulale kakuhle, kwaye uzilolonge.
• Sebenzisa iindlela zokunciphisa uxinzelelo. Fumana into ekulungeleyo.
• Ungaze ungathandabuzi ukufuna uncedo lweengcali ukuba kuyimfuneko. Ingcali yezonyango ingakunika isiqabu esikhulu.

Awuwedwa. Eli xesha linzima liza kudlula. Ungadlula kweli xesha linzima.

Uqhawulo - mtshato, ukwahlukana kwabazali, impilo yengqondo yabantwana, ulawulo loxinzelelo, iingcebiso, unyango, eSri Lanka