Makhe sibone indlela yokuphucula izakhono zonxibelelwano zomntwana wakho oneminyaka eyi-4-5.

Ukuthetha nabantwana bethu abancinci, oko kukuthi, ukutshintshiselana ngezimvo nabo, yinto esizisa uvuyo olukhulu nolwaneliseko olukhulu njengabazali, akunjalo? Enyanisweni, abantwana bafunda lukhulu kwezi ncoko zemihla ngemihla nathi kunye nehlabathi elibangqongileyo, kumava abanawo. Phakathi kweminyaka emine ukuya kwemihlanu, oko kukuthi, xa bekhulile kancinci, abantwana abaninzi baqala ukuya kwiiklasi zabantwana abancinci okanye zabantwana abancinci. Ngoko ke, izakhono zabo zolwimi, oko kukuthi, indlela abanxibelelana ngayo, zibaluleka kakhulu ukuze basebenzisane nabanye eklasini kwaye bafunde izinto ezintsha.

Abantwana abaneminyaka emi-4 ukuya kwemi-5 bathetha njani?

Ubusazi na ukuba njengoko izakhono zolwimi zabantwana zikhula kancinci kancinci, nendlela yabo yokuthetha nayo ikhula kakuhle. Ngokuchanekileyo, xa beneminyaka emine okanye emihlanu ubudala, nemiyalelo ebonakala inzima kancinci kubantwana abancinci, efana nokuthi "nxiba izihlangu zakho uze nebhegi yakho," ingaqondwa kwaye yenziwe ngendlela efanayo. Ayipheleli apho, banokukuxelela ngenzondelelo enkulu yonke into abayenzileyo, abayithethileyo, nabayibonayo imini yonke. Khawuthelekelele uvuyo oluvayo xa bebuya esikolweni baze bathi, "Mama, utitshala undinike iinkwenkwezi ezininzi namhlanje!"!

Kule minyaka, banokucinga ngamabali amancinci bodwa. Mhlawumbi loo mabali awanantsingiselo ingako, kodwa ngamahlabathi abanokuyicinga engqondweni yabo. Kwakhona, bayakwazi ukuphulaphula ibali obaxelela lona baze baliphinde balibalise ngamazwi abo. Xa sihlala sibuza, "Kwenzeka ntoni emva koko, nyana?" kwibali, banokuthi, "Kwaza kwafika inkosana..."

Amagama nezivakalisi zinjani?

Ngeli xesha, baqala ukusebenzisa amagama amane okanye ngaphezulu kwizivakalisi zabo. Umzekelo, "Tata, ndifuna loo nto yokudlala." Isigama sabo, okanye inani lamagama abawaziyo, liyaqhubeka likhula. Bafumana amagama amatsha owathethayo ngokukhawuleza.

Ngokwesiqhelo, kufuneka sikwazi ukuqonda ngokupheleleyo oko kuthethwa ngumntwana kule minyaka. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha kunokubakho izinto ezincinci. Oko kukuthi, ezinye iimpazamo zesandi sophuhliso zinokubonakala. Umzekelo, ezinye iileta zisenokungabizwa ngokucacileyo, kwaye isandi esifana 'த' sinokuvakala endaweni yeleta 'ஸ' (ukulila). Kwakhona, abanye abantwana, ingakumbi abafana, banokuba nokutshixiza okuncinci ngeli xesha. Uninzi lwezi zinto ziya kuphela zodwa ngokuhamba kwexesha . Kodwa ukuba ukhathazekile ngokwenene ngayo, kungcono ukuthetha nogqirha ngayo.

Ndingenza ntoni ukuphucula izakhono zomntwana wam zokuncokola?

Zininzi izinto onokuzenza ukunceda umntwana wakho aphuhlise izakhono zakhe zolwimi. Enyanisweni, ungutitshala wakhe wokuqala. Izinto ezilula ezifana nokufunda iincwadi, ukucula iingoma kunye, ukudlala ngamagama, ukubabuza imibuzo elula, kunye nokuthetha nabo rhoqo kunokubanceda kakhulu ekwandiseni isigama sabo nokuphuhlisa izakhono zabo zokuphulaphula. Nazi ezinye iindlela onokunceda ngazo:

• Thetha ngeziganeko zosuku: Xa umntwana wakho ebuya esikolweni sabantwana abancinci, okanye xa ebuya ekudlaleni, mbuze izinto ezinje, "Kwenzeke ntoni namhlanje, nyana/ntombi?", "Ngubani owaba ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni namhlanje?", "Zeziphi izinto ezintsha ozifundileyo namhlanje?" Mphulaphule ngomonde nangomdla oko akutshoyo. Mxelele izinto ezincinci malunga nosuku lwakho. Umzekelo, "Namhlanje, umama ukuphekele isidlo sakho osithandayo." Oku kuya kubanceda baqonde ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukwabelana ngamava abo kunye neemvakalelo zabo nabanye, kunye nokuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo kangakanani.

• Mamela ngononophelo oko kuthethwa ngumntwana wakho: Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Nanini na xa kunokwenzeka, xa umntwana wakho eze kukuxelela into ethile, yeka oko ukwenzayo, mjonge, kwaye umamele ngononophelo oko akutshoyo. Oku kuya kumbonisa ukuba uyammamela kwaye oko akuthethayo kuxabisekile kuwe. Oku kuya kumenza afune ukukuxelela okungakumbi aze abelane nawe ngokungakumbi.

• Thetha ngeencwadi enizifundayo kunye: Emva kokufunda incwadi, buza imibuzo efana nale, "Ngubani umlinganiswa omthandayo kweli bali?", "Ucinga ukuba kuza kwenzeka ntoni emva koko?", "Sifunde ntoni kweli bali?" Thetha ngemifanekiso ekwibali. Thetha izinto ezifana nokuthi, "Jonga oku, intle kangakanani le mvundla?", "Imbala onjani loo ntyatyambo?" Oku kuya kubanceda baqonde ibali ngcono, bafunde amagama amatsha, kwaye baphuhlise izakhono zabo zokucinga.

• Thetha ngeenkqubo zeTV, iividiyo, kunye nemidlalo eniyibukela kunye: Xa nibukela ikhathuni okanye ividiyo efundisayo kwiTV nomntwana wakho, thethani ngento eyenzekayo. Buza izinto ezinje, "Wenza ntoni?" kunye "Ungathanda ukwenza loo nto nawe?" Kwakhona, xa udlala, umzekelo, xa uphosa ibhola, thetha ngokuthi, "Lithuba likabani ngoku?" kunye "Senza ntoni ngoku?" Oku kubanceda bafunde ukuchaza ngamazwi oko bakubonayo nabakwenzayo, kunye nokukuthetha ngendlela abanye abanokuyiqonda.

• Gcina izinto zokufunda ezifana neencwadi kunye neemagazini zikufutshane nabantwana: Beka ishelufu yeencwadi okanye ibhokisi entle apho banokuzithathela khona baze bazijonge. Khetha iincwadi ezinemifanekiso emikhulu, enemibala abayithandayo. Ngale ndlela, baya kuziva befuna ukuzithatha iincwadi baze bazifunde nanini na xa befuna. Le yindlela entle yokufaka uthando lokufunda besebancinci.

• Nceda umntwana wakho enze i-albhamu efana nethi "Ndim lo" okanye "Lo lusapho lwethu": Yenza i-albhamu entle ngokuncamathisela iifoto zamalungu osapho, imifanekiso yezilwanyana kunye nezinto zokudlala umntwana wakho azithandayo, izipho ezincinci azifumeneyo, kunye nemizobo ayizobileyo. Thetha naye malunga nomfanekiso ngamnye. Ukubuza imibuzo efana nethi "Ngubani lo?", "Uyakhumbula apho saya khona ngaloo mini?", "Uyizobile nini le?" kumnika ithuba elihle lokukhumbula iinkumbulo zakudala nokuthetha ngazo. Oku kuya kuphucula inkumbulo yakhe kunye nokukwazi kwakhe ukubalisa iziganeko zangaphambili ngokulandelelana.

Cinga ngako, ukwenza konke oku kufana nokunkcenkceshela nokukhulisa isityalo esincinci. Zizandla ezincinci ezincedayo ezenza incoko yakhe ichume kakuhle.

Ndifanele ndibonane nogqirha nini?

Ixesha elininzi, sisenokuba sixhalabile ngezinto ezincinci ngaphandle kwesizathu. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unamathandabuzo, uloyiko, okanye inkxalabo malunga nezakhono zolwimi zomntwana wakho okanye ukucaca kwento ayithethayo, kungcono ukuthetha nogqirha ngayo. Ngamanye amaxesha isenokungabi yinto enkulu, kodwa ukwazi ngayo kunokukunceda uzive ungcono.

Ngokubanzi, kukho imida yobudala apho umntwana anokwenza izinto ezithile njengoko ekhula. Ezi sizibiza ngokuba ziinqanaba zophuhliso. Kukho iinqanaba ezifanayo xa kufikwa ekuthetheni.

Xa beneminyaka emi-4 ubudala, uninzi lwabantwana kufuneka bakwazi ukwenza ezi zinto zilandelayo:

• Thetha izivakalisi zamagama amane okanye ngaphezulu. Umzekelo, "Mama, ndilambile kwaye ndifuna irayisi," okanye "Tata, singaya kudlala?"
• Phinda amagama namabinzana avela kwingoma okanye ebalini. Ufanele akwazi ukucula ingoma emfutshane okanye ivesi evela kwisingqisho sesikolo sabantwana abancinci osiculayo.
• Thetha ngento enye eyenzekileyo emini. Umzekelo, "Ndiwile ndidlala namhlanje," okanye "Utitshala undixelele ibali elimnandi namhlanje."

Xa beneminyaka emi-5 ubudala, uninzi lwabantwana kufuneka bakwazi ukwenza ezi zinto zilandelayo:

• Balisa ibali elifutshane eliquka ubuncinane iziganeko ezibini. Umzekelo, "Ndivuke kusasa. Emva koko ndahlamba amazinyo am," okanye "Usana luye epakini. Emva koko ndakhwela iswingi."
• Phendula imibuzo elula malunga nencwadi okanye ibali, njengokuthi "Yayinjani umbala wenja ebalini?" kunye nokuthi "Inkosazana iye phi?"
• Yibani nobuncinane izihlandlo ezintathu okanye ezine zokutshintshiselana. Oku kuthetha ukuba xa ubuza into, uyaphendula, mhlawumbi nabo bakubuze umbuzo. Banomdla wokuqhubeka nencoko kunokunika nje iimpendulo zegama elinye.
• Ukwazi ukusebenzisa nokuqaphela izicengcelezo ezilula. Umzekelo, amagama avakala ngathi 'yi-bat-cat', anje ngo-'cat - table', 'house - door', anokuqatshelwa aze athethwe.

Akukho mthetho wokuba zonke ezi zinto ziya kwenzeka kumntwana ngamnye ngendlela efanayo okanye ngexesha elinye. Abanye abantwana bazenza ngokukhawuleza ezi zinto, kwaye abanye bathatha ixesha elide. Oko kuqhelekile. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho ubambezeleke ekwenzeni ezininzi zezi zinto, okanye ukuba wena okanye abanye ninengxaki yokuqonda into ayithethayo ngokucacileyo, kubalulekile ukuthetha nogqirha ngayo.

Kwakhona, ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki yokuva , umzekelo, ukuba akajongi ngasemva xa uthetha, ukuba uvula iTV kakhulu, okanye ukuba kukho enye into ngomntwana wakho enganxulumananga nayo nayiphi na kwezi zinto kwaye ekukhathazayo, ngokuqinisekileyo bonana nogqirha.

Khumbula, ukuba unamathandabuzo, nokuba mancinci kangakanani na, kububulumko ukubonana nogqirha. Oku kuya kunciphisa umthwalo wakho kuphela.

Okokugqibela, izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka uzikhumbule

Ngoko ke, kolu hambo lokuphuhlisa intetho yomntwana wakho oneminyaka emine okanye emihlanu ubudala, uthando lwakho, umonde wakho, kunye nenkuthazo zezona zinto zibalulekileyo aza kuzifumana. Dlala naye, hleka naye, thetha naye, mamela ngononophelo oko akuthethayo. Mncome xa ethetha igama elitsha, eqamba ibali elincinci, aze alibalise.

Ayingabo bonke abantwana abafanayo, kwaye bafunda ngamanqanaba ahlukeneyo. Ngoko ke musa ukuthelekisa umntwana wakho nabanye abantwana. Ukwenza njalo kuya kukwenza uzive kakubi, kwaye akuyi kuba luncedo kumntwana wakho. Mvumele akhule ngesantya sakhe, ngendlela yakhe.

Ukuba uneengxaki okanye amathandabuzo, ungaze ungathandabuzi ukufuna ingcebiso kagqirha. Luxanduva lwakho.

Ungenza ihlabathi lomntwana wakho libe lihle ngamazwi, kwaye umncede aveze izinto eziliwaka ezingqondweni zakhe! Siyavuyisana nawe ngaloo nto!

Intetho yabantwana , uphuhliso lolwimi, abantwana abaneminyaka emi-4-5 ubudala, abantwana abasaqalayo, iingcebiso zobuzali, izakhono zonxibelelwano, uphuhliso lomntwana