Ngaba umntwana wakho omncinci uyasokola ziimvakalelo? Masithethe ngeDialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)!

Ngaba umntwana wakho omncinci ucaphuka lula ngezinto ezincinci? Okanye ukhala kakhulu xa eziva edakumbile? Ngaba wakha waziva ngathi kunzima ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe? Oku kunokuba ngamava anzima kakhulu kuye nakuwe. Ngoko ke namhlanje siza kuthetha ngohlobo oluthile lonyango olunokunceda ngamaxesha anje. Lulo `(Dialectical Behavior Therapy)` okanye `(DBT)`.

Yintoni iDialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)?

Ngamafutshane, i-Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) yindlela ekhethekileyo yokunika iingcebiso enceda abantwana abancinci ukuba bajongane kwaye balawule iimvakalelo zabo ezinzima, kunye nokuphucula ubudlelwane babo nabanye. Luhlobo lonyango olugxile ekuziphatheni. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuziphatha komntwana kunye neendlela zokucinga ziyatshintshwa, kwaye umntwana ufundiswa izakhono ezifunekayo ukuze akwazi ukumelana neemeko ezinzima kunye neengxaki ebomini.

Cinga ngayo, ubomi bethu bufana ne-roller coaster. Ngamanye amaxesha siyanyuka sinyuka. Kufuneka siphile neemvakalelo ezininzi eziza nezi ngxaki. Ezi zakhono sizifumana kwi-'(DBT)' zifana nezixhobo ezisezandleni zethu. Ezi zakhono zisinceda sikwazi ukujongana nemingeni kunye neentlungu eziza ebomini, kwaye singalahleki kwezo mvakalelo.

Igama elithi "dialectic" lithetha ukudala ulungelelwaniso phakathi kwezinto ezimbini ezibonakala ziphikisana. Kolu nyango, ezo zinto zimbini "nguKwamkela" kunye "noTshintsho." Oko kukuthi, ngelixa enceda umntwana ukuba aqonde kwaye amkele iimvakalelo zakhe kunye namava akhe, ukwamnceda ukuba enze utshintsho olufunekayo ukuze aphume kuloo meko aze aphile ubomi obungcono nobonwabisayo. Ezi zinto zimbini zihamba kunye.

Kwenzeka ntoni ngokwenene nge `(DBT)`? Zeziphi izakhono eziphambili umntwana azizuzayo?

Unyango lwe-DBT alusebenzi ngendlela efanayo kubo bonke abantu, kuba wonke umntwana wahlukile. Kodwa ngokubanzi, olu nyango lugxile ekuphuhliseni izakhono ezine ezibalulekileyo. Makhe sijonge ukuba ziyintoni na.

1. Ukuqiqa

Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuzigcina engqondweni kuthetha ukunikela ingqalelo epheleleyo kwinto oyenzayo ngelo xesha, kwiingcinga ezifika engqondweni yakho, kwiimvakalelo onazo. Kuthetha, ngaphandle kokugweba, "Owu, ndiziva ngolu hlobo, oku akulunganga," kodwa ukukubona njengokuthi "Owu... ndiziva ngolu hlobo ngoku, ndicinga ngolu hlobo." Kufana nokuzijonga ngaphandle. Oku kukunceda ukuba ulawule iimvakalelo zakho neengcinga zakho, endaweni yokulahleka kuzo.

Umzekelo, khawucinge ukuba umntwana wakho unomsindo ngequbuliso. Xa uziqhelisa ukuqaphela, endaweni yokubaleka loo msindo, ungabona izinto ezinje, "Ndinomsindo ngoku, intliziyo yam ibetha ngokukhawuleza, izandla zam ziyangcangcazela." Oku kukunceda ukulawula impendulo yakho ngoko nangoko kuloo mvakalelo.

2. Ulawulo lweeMvakalelo

Abantwana bethu abancinci ngamanye amaxesha banokuziva iimvakalelo ezinamandla kakhulu ezifana nokudakumba, umsindo, kunye noloyiko. Ngelo xesha, abakwazi ukuzilawula. "Ulawulo lweeMvakalelo" kuthetha ukubafundisa ukuba baqonde ukuba zeziphi ezi mvakalelo zinzima, baphendule kuzo ngokufanelekileyo, banciphise ubukhali bazo, kwaye bonyuse iimvakalelo ezilungileyo xa zivela.

Kule meko, umntwana ufunda:

• Chonga ngqo indlela ovakalelwa ngayo.
• Qonda ukuba yintoni ebangele ezo mvakalelo.
• Iindlela zokunciphisa impembelelo yeemvakalelo ezimbi.
• Indlela yokongeza amava amahle ebomini bakho.

Xa esi zakhono siphuhlisiwe, umntwana uyakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe endaweni yokudlala ngazo.

3. Ukunyamezela Iingxaki

Ubomi abusoloko buyindlela entle. Ngamanye amaxesha kukho amaxesha anzima nabuhlungu ngendlela engenakucingelwa. "Ukunyamezelana Nokubandezeleka" kuthetha ukunika umntwana amandla kunye neendlela ezifunekayo zokunyamezela la maxesha anzima naxinezelekileyo, ukuze akwazi ukudlula kuwo ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka aze enze imeko ibe mandundu.

Le yindawo ekhuselekileyo yokuhlala xa kufika isiphepho, de sidlule. Ngezi zakhono, umntwana ufunda:

• Iindlela zokuzola ingqondo yakho ngoko nangoko.
• Ziphazamise ngamaxesha anzima.
• Iindlela zokuzithomalalisa.
• Yamkela imeko yangoku okwangoku.

Oku akuthethi ukuba akufanele ujonge isisombululo sengxaki. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, xa kungekho sisombululo sikhawulezileyo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthwala olo xinzelelo.

4. Ukusebenza kakuhle phakathi kwabantu

Njengabantu, asihlali sodwa. Sisoloko sijongene nabanye abantu. Izakhono "zokusebenza ngokubambisana" zisifundisa indlela yokugcina ubudlelwane obuhle nabanye, indlela yokuveza iimfuno zethu kunye neengcinga zethu ngokucacileyo nangokuqinileyo ngaphandle kokuba ndlongondlongo okanye ukuthotywa (ukuzithemba), kunye nendlela yokusombulula iingxabano ngobulumko xa zivela.

Kule meko, umntwana ufunda:

• Indlela yokucela into oyifunayo.
• Indlela yokuthi "hayi" kwizicelo ezinganyanzelekanga.
• Veza izimvo zakho ngelixa uhlonipha izimvo zabanye abantu.
• Khusela imida yakho kubudlelwane.

Xa ezi zakhono ziphuhlisiwe, umntwana uya kuba nakho ukuba nobudlelwane obuphumelelayo ngakumbi nabahlobo, usapho kunye nootitshala.

Nazi izakhono ezine eziphambili umntwana azifumanayo nge-DBT:

• Ukuqaphela: Ukwamkela okwenzekayo ngelo xesha, iingcinga ezifika engqondweni, kunye neemvakalelo ozivakalelwayo, njengoko zinjalo, ngaphandle kokugweba.
• Ulawulo lweeMvakalelo: Ukuqonda nokuphendula ngokufanelekileyo kwiimvakalelo ezinzima.
• Ukunyamezela Uxinzelelo: Ukufunda ukumelana noxinzelelo olukhulu ngaphandle kokuwohloka.
• Ukusebenza kakuhle kobudlelwane: Ukuphuhlisa izakhono zokubuza into oyifunayo ngokucacileyo, ukugcina ubudlelwane obuhle, kunye nokusombulula iingxabano.

Ngubani onceda unyango lwe-DBT?

Unyango lwe-DBT lwenzelwe ngokukodwa ukunceda abantwana abancinci abanengxaki yeemvakalelo ezinzulu, abanengxaki yokulawula iimvakalelo zabo, abaneengcinga zokuzilimaza, okanye ababandakanyeka kwezinye iindlela zokuziphatha eziyingozi.

Iingcamango ezimbini eziphambili ze-DBT kukubonelela ngenkxaso nokuqinisekiswa komntwana, nokufundisa izakhono zokwenza utshintsho olufunekayo ukuze aphile ubomi obonwabisayo nobunempilo. Oko kukuthi, ngelixa simamkela umntwana, sithi, "Ndiyaqonda ukuba uvakalelwa ngolu hlobo, kuqhelekile," sibakhokela ngokuthi, "Kodwa masenze ezi zinto ukuze siphume kule meko."

Inikezelwa njani unyango lwe-DBT?

Izakhono zeDBT zifundiswa ngeendlela ezininzi eziphambili:

• Iiseshoni zoNyango zoMntu ngamnye: Apha, umntwana kunye nogqirha wengqondo bathetha bodwa, begxile kwimiba yomntwana kunye neemvakalelo zakhe, kwaye bebanceda ukuba basebenzise izakhono ze-DBT kubomi bemihla ngemihla.
• Iiseshoni zoNyango lweeNtsapho ezininzi: Kulapho iqela labantwana kunye nabazali okanye abagcini babo badibana khona. Wonke umntu ufunda izakhono ze-DBT kunye kwaye afunde kumava omnye nomnye. Oku kungenziwa nokuba kuse-intanethi okanye ngokobuqu.
• Uqeqesho lwefowuni: Ukuba umntwana okanye umzali ufumana ixesha elinzima phakathi kweeseshoni zokunika iingcebiso, banokufowunela ingcali yezonyango baze bafumane uncedo kunye nesikhokelo sendlela yokusebenzisa izakhono ze-DBT ngelo xesha.

Zonke ezi zakhono zifundiswa ukusetyenziswa kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Njengoko abantwana beziqhelanisa kancinci kancinci nezi zakhono, baya kulawula iimvakalelo zabo ngcono, baphucule ubudlelwane babo nabanye, baze baphuhlise isimo sengqondo esihle ngobomi.

Ndingalufumana njani unyango lwe-DBT kumntwana wam omncinci?

Ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki yeemvakalelo ezinamandla kwaye ucinga ukuba uphantsi koxinzelelo olukhulu, thetha nogqirha wakho wosapho kuqala. Angakuthumela kumboneleli wezempilo oqeqeshiweyo oqeqeshwe kwi-Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Ungabuza ngezi nkonzo ngoogqirha bengqondo kunye neengcali zengqondo.

Kungathatha ixesha elide ukukhangela ukuze ufumane iindawo ezibonelela nge-DBT eSri Lanka, kodwa ukuba uyazama, awuyi kukwazi ukuzifumana. Ezinye izibhedlele zabucala kunye namaziko eengcebiso anokuba nazo ezi ndawo.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Ukufundisa umntwana wakho omncinci ukuba aqaphele, alawule iimvakalelo zakhe, ajongane nemingeni yobomi, aze asebenzisane kakuhle nabanye abantu kuya kuba negalelo elikhulu ekwenzeni umahluko omhle ebomini bakhe kwaye kumncede abe ngumntu olungeleleneyo nowonwabileyo.

I-DBT ayilomlingo. Ithatha ixesha, ukuzinikela, kunye nenkxaso evela kumntwana wakho. Kodwa iziphumo zifanelekile. Umntwana wakho uza kufunda izakhono eziya kuhlala ubomi bakhe bonke. Ngoko ke, musa ukuphelelwa lithemba. Fumana uncedo olufunayo.

Khumbula, awuwedwa. Asingomntwana wakho wedwa ojongene nale mingeni. Ngolwalathiso olufanelekileyo nenkxaso, ungoyisa nayiphi na imeko enzima.

Ulutsha , Iimvakalelo, Impilo Yengqondo, i-DBT, Ingcebiso, Unyango Lokuziphatha, eSri Lanka