Ngaba eminye yemikhwa yomntwana wakho iyakukhathaza? (Imikhwa eqhelekileyo yobuntwana)

Ngaba uziva ukhathazekile kancinci xa ubona izinto ezenziwa ngumntwana wakho ngamanye amaxesha? Kukho imikhwa eyenziwa ngabantwana abancinci rhoqo, kodwa njengabazali, sisenokuba sixhalabile ngayo, okanye sicinge ukuba, "Le yingxaki enkulu." Kodwa uninzi lwexesha, ezi zizinto eziqhelekileyo ezenzeka xa umntwana ekhula, kwaye azikho izinto ekufuneka sizixhalabise kakhulu. Namhlanje, masithethe ngezinye zezi mikhwa ziqhelekileyo.

Yintoni umkhwa?

Ngamafutshane, umkhwa yinto eyenziwa ngumntwana ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Uninzi lwexesha, xa bekwenza, umntwana akakuqondi kakuhle oko, oko kukuthi, abazi. Bakwenza ezi zinto bengaqondi. Nangona kunjalo, nokuba umntwana akazi, abazali banokuzibona ngokucacileyo ezi zinto, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha zinokuba yinto ecaphukisayo, akunjalo? Kwakhona, ungamangaliswa xa ubona umntwana wakho efaka into emlonyeni wakhe ngesandla esinye aze ajikelezise iinwele zakhe ngesinye. Le mikhwa ayisoloko izenzekela yodwa, inokuvela izihlandlo ezininzi.

Ziziphi izinto ezixhaphakileyo ebantwaneni abancinci?

Nazi izinto ezine ezidla ngokubonwa ebantwaneni abancinci kwaye ezinokuba ziyakukhathaza nawe:

• Ukuluma iinzipho (okanye ukwaphuka)
• Ukuchukumisa, ukujija, okanye ukutsala iinwele
• Ukucoca impumlo ngomnwe (ukukha impumlo)
• Ubhontsi okanye olunye uhlobo lokushukuma kweminwe

Makhe sithethe ngesinye kwezi nkcukacha zithe vetshe.

Ukuluma iinzipho (okanye ukwaphuka)

Ngaba sekudlule ixesha lokusika iinzipho zomntwana wakho? Ukuluma iinzipho ngumkhwa oqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantwana abancinci. Njengabantwana abaninzi abancinci, abantwana abadala, oko kukuthi, abo baselula, baluma okanye baphule inzipho enye okanye ezingaphezulu. Ngamanye amaxesha, kunqabile, abanye abantwana banokubonwa beluma iinzipho zabo zeenyawo. Njengoko abantwana bekhula, lo mkhwa wokuluma iinzipho uqheleke kakhulu phakathi kwamakhwenkwe kunamantombazana.

Ukuchukumisa, ukujija, ukutsala iinwele

Ukuba kukho nawuphi na kubantwana bakho ohlala echukumisa aze ajije iinwele zakhe, kusenokwenzeka ukuba yintombi yakho. Kuba, lo mkhwa wokuchukumisa, ukujijeka, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uxhaphake kakhulu kumantombazana . Lo mkhwa unokuqala besebancinci uze kamva ube ngumkhwa wokunxiba iinwele zabo. Kukho amaxesha apho iinwele zijijeka kwaye kukho amaxesha apho zingajijeki. Nangona kunjalo, abantwana abaninzi abajijeka baze bajijeke iinwele zabo bayawuyeka lo mkhwa xa bekhula. Kwabo bangayekiyo, ukuguqulwa kokuziphatha okulula, oko kukuthi, iindlela ezilula ezitshintsha iindlela zokuziphatha, kunokubanceda bayeke lo mkhwa.

Kodwa kukho into ekufuneka uyilumkele apha. Ukuba uqala lo mkhwa wokutsala iinwele usemncinci, kunokuba nzima kancinci ukuwuyeka. Kwakhona, ngamanye amaxesha unokuba luphawu lwengxaki yengqondo efana nokuxhalaba, ukudakumba, okanye i-Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD).

Ukucoca impumlo ngomnwe (ukukha impumlo)

Ukukha impumlo kubonakala ngathi ngumkhwa oqala ebuntwaneni kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uqhubeke de ube ngumntu omdala. Oku kudla ngokuba yinto umntwana ayenzayo engaqondanga. Nangona oku ngamanye amaxesha kungasikhathazi ukuyibukela, akuyonto inkulu kumntwana.

Ubhontsi okanye olunye uhlobo lokushukuma kweminwe

Xa abantwana beqala ukumunca iminwe yabo, badla ngokumunca kakhulu oobhontsi babo. Oku kucingelwa ukuba kungenxa yonxibelelwano phakathi kwemilomo yabo nobhontsi babo xa babesebancinci, xa babesancancisa. Abanye abantwana bancanca eminye iminwe, izandla, okanye nezandla zabo zonke ukongeza koobhontsi babo. Uninzi lwabancancisa iithupha ngabantwana abancinci. Kuthiwa malunga nesiqingatha sabantwana abaphakathi kweminyaka emibini nemine ubudala bancanca oobhontsi babo . Abantwana abaninzi bancanca oobhontsi babo ukuze bazole kwaye bafumane intuthuzelo kubo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba bayaqhubeka nokuncanca oobhontsi babo kakhulu emva kweminyaka emine okanye emihlanu ubudala, kunokubangela iingxaki ezithile. Umzekelo, kunokubakho iingxaki zamazinyo (ezifana nokulunywa kakhulu), usulelo lwesithupha okanye eminye iminwe, kunye nokugculelwa ngabanye abantwana.

Kutheni le mikhwa ivela?

Nangona kungenakwenzeka rhoqo ukutsho ngqo ukuba kutheni le mikhwa isenzeka, into abayaziyo kukuba le yimikhwa efundwayo. Kwaye, le mikhwa idla ngokuzisela umntwana into entle okanye eyonwabisayo.

• Njengento yokuzonwabisa: Ngamanye amaxesha, umntwana okruqukileyo unokuba nale mikhwa njengento yokuzonwabisa.
• Njengendlela yokuzola: Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo, le mikhwa inokubakho njengendlela yokulawula into efana nokuxhalaba okanye uloyiko. Cinga ngayo, kwixesha elizayo xa ubona umntwana wakho eluma iinzipho zakhe okanye ejika iinwele zakhe, cinga ngokuba ukhe wadibana nesiganeko esibangela uxinezeleko kutshanje. Ukuba kunjalo, le ndlela yokuziphatha isenokuba yimizamo yomntwana wakho yokunciphisa uxinezeleko, njengokuba unokuya ejimini ukuze uzilolonge.
• Xa bekhululekile: Kwelinye icala, abanye abantwana baqhelisela oku xa bekhululekile kakhulu, umzekelo ngaphambi kokuba balale, okanye xa bemamele ingoma buthule.
• Iinkumbulo Zobuntwana: Eminye imikhwa inokuzuzwa njengelifa ebuntwaneni. Umzekelo, iintsana ezincinci kakhulu zincanca iithupha zazo ukuze zizithomalalise. Oku kunxulunyaniswa nolonwabo ezilufumanayo xa zanelisekile lubisi lwazo. Ngoko ke, ngenxa yaloo nkumbulo ilungileyo, lo mkhwa ungaqhubeka nasemva kobuntwana.
• Impembelelo yosapho: Okanye, ungafumanisa isizathu sokuba umntwana wakho azilume iinzipho zakhe ngokuzijonga esipilini esiphambi kwakho. Oko kukuthi, ngaba nawe uyaziluma iinzipho zakho? Uphando lubonisa ukuba umkhwa wokuluma iinzipho unokuba nefuthe kusapho, oko kukuthi, kwimfuza.
• Qwalasela:Abanye abantwana nabo baziphatha ngale ndlela ukuze bafumane ingqalelo yabazali babo okanye babalawule. Ukuba abantwana bavakalelwa kukuba abazali babo ababakhathaleli, bayazi ukuba ukuzibandakanya kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha zicaphukisayo kuya kubangela ukuba abazali babo baphendule. Ngoko ke, banokwenza ezi zinto ngenxa yoku.

Ujongana njani nalo mkhwa womntwana wakho?

Uninzi lwexesha, le mikhwa iyaphela. Ngokwesiqhelo, xa umntwana efikelela kwiminyaka yesikolo, akasayi kuyidinga loo mkhwa okanye uya kuba sele ekhulile. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ngoku lixesha lokunceda umntwana wakho ayeke lo mkhwa, cinga ngala manyathelo:

• Ngoxolo nangobubele mchazele umntwana wakho into ongayithandiyo ngokuziphatha kwakhe nesizathu. Le ndlela ingasetyenziselwa ukunceda umntwana oneminyaka emi-3 okanye emi-4 ubudala aqonde ukuziphatha kwakhe. Yithi into efana nale, "Andiyithandi into yokuba uluma iinzipho zakho, nyana/ntombi. Akumnandi ukukubona. Ungayiyeka?" Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba, xa ubona umntwana wakho eluma iinzipho zakhe, ungamthethisi okanye umthethise. Ukumohlwaya, ukumhlekisa, okanye ukumgxeka kuya kuyenza ibe mandundu le ndlela yokuziphatha.

• Bandakanya umntwana wakho kwinkqubo yokuyeka lo mkhwa. Khawuthelekelele umntwana wakho oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala ebuya ekhaya ekhala evela esikolweni kwaye abanye abantwana bamhlekisa ngokumunca ubhontsi wakhe. Oku kufanele kuqondwe njengendlela yokucela uncedo lwakho. Abazali banokubuza abantwana babo ukuba bacinga ukuba yintoni enokwenziwa ukuyeka lo mkhwa, okanye ukuba bafuna ukuyeka lo mkhwa. Kunye, cingani ngento eninokuyenza ukuyeka lo mkhwa ungathandekiyo.

• Cebisa ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho uluma iinzipho, endaweni yokuthi, "Musa ukuziluma iinzipho zakho," thetha into efana nale, "Singashukumisa iminwe yethu?" Oku kuya kuyiqinisa le ndlela kwaye kube sisikhumbuzo. Mphazamise umntwana wakho ngokukunceda ekhitshini okanye ukwenza enye into, njengobugcisa.

• Xabisa kwaye uncome ukuzibamba. Umzekelo, ukuba intombazana yakho ikhulisa iinzipho zayo, yivumele ifake ipolishi yezinzipho. Okanye, ngalo lonke ixesha unyana wakho eyeka ukumunca ubhontsi wakhe, mncome, mnike isitika okanye esinye isipho esincinci ukuze aqinise ukuziphatha kakuhle.

• Hlala uvuza ukuziphatha okuhle rhoqo. Ukuba awuyinaki indlela yokuziphatha okuhle kwaye ungayinaki, ekuhambeni kwexesha iya kuphela. Ngaphambi kokuba umkhwa omdala uphele, umkhwa omtsha nolungileyo kufuneka umiselwe ngokuqinileyo.

Ukuze ufumane iziphumo ezilungileyo, kubalulekile ukuba umntwana akhuthazeke ukuba ayeke lo mkhwa. Kwakhona, kuthatha ixesha ukwakha imikhwa, kwaye kuthatha ixesha ukuyitshintsha ngokuziphatha okutsha. Ngoko ke, yiba nomonde.

Le mkhwa iba yinto engaphezulu kunokuba ngumkhwa nje?

Kwezinye iimeko, umkhwa ngumphumo, okanye unobangela, wengxaki yomzimba okanye yengqondo. Umzekelo, umntwana okhupha impumlo yakhe usenokuba nengxaki ngenxa yokuba kukho into ebambeke empumlweni yakhe. Kwakhona, le mikhwa inokukhokelela kwiingxaki ezithile zempilo. Imizekelo:

• Umntwana okhupha impumlo yakhe uyopha.
• Umntwana ohlafuna iinzipho zakhe unokuba neenzipho ezikhula ngaphakathi okanye usulelo lwezinzipho.
• Umntwana oncanca ubhontsi wakhe unokuba neengxaki zamazinyo, ezifana nokungalungelelani kakuhle kwamazinyo aphezulu nasezantsi (imeko ebizwa ngokuba yi-'malocclusion'), okanye usulelo kubhontsi okanye kweminye iminwe.

Umkhwa usenokungabi ngumkhwa ukuba uchaphazela kakubi unxibelelwano lomntwana nabantu okanye uphazamisana nemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla. Ukuba abantwana abadala bayaqhubeka nokumunca ubhontsi wabo, basenokuba noxinzelelo olukhulu okanye ixhala. Ukuba bagculelwa ngabanye abantwana esikolweni okanye banobunzima bokuthetha kuba bengakwazi ukususa ubhontsi wabo emlonyeni wabo, lo mkhwa usenokuba udlule umda uye kwimikhwa. Abantwana abakhupha iinwele zabo banokuba nesifo esibizwa ngokuba yi-trichotillomania, esichaphazela iinwele zabo. Ngokufanayo, imikhwa ephendula kwiingcinga ezigqithisileyo inokuba luphawu lwesifo sokungakhathali (OCD). Nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwemikhwa alubangeli iingxaki ezinkulu kwaye luya kuphela njengoko abantwana bekhula. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unenkxalabo malunga noku, thetha nogqirha womntwana wakho.

Okokugqibela, izinto ekufuneka uzikhumbule

Ngoko ke, bazali, musani ukothuka ziindlela umntwana wenu aziphatha ngayo. Uninzi lwexesha, ezi zizinto eziqhelekileyo umntwana aza kukhula abe zizo kwaye ziya kuphela ngokuhamba kwexesha.

• Yiba nomonde: Kuthatha ixesha ukuyeka imikhwa. Nika umntwana wakho ixesha lakho.
• Xhasa umntwana wakho: Mqonde, thetha naye ngothando, kwaye umncede ayeke lo mkhwa. Ukumohlwaya, ukumthethisa, nokumhleka akuyi kuzisombulula ezi ngxaki, kwaye kusenokuzenza zibe mbi nangakumbi.
• Mncome ngezinto ezilungileyo: Xa umntwana wakho ezama ukulawula lo mkhwa, mncome nezinto ezincinci. Oku kuya kumnika inkuthazo engakumbi.
• Funa ingcebiso kagqirha: Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba lo mkhwa uchaphazela impilo yomntwana wakho, ubomi bemihla ngemihla, okanye ubudlelwane bakhe nabanye abantu, okanye ukuba ukhathazekile kakhulu ngawo, qiniseka ukuba ubona ugqirha wabantwana ukuze akunike ingcebiso.

Wonke umntwana wahlukile. Ngoko ke, okusebenza komnye umntwana kusenokungasebenzi komnye. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukunika umntwana wakho uthando, ukuqonda, kunye nolwalathiso olufanelekileyo.

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