Ngaba nomntwana wakho uziva enesizungu? (Ukuba nesizungu) Makhe sibone ukuba singakunceda njani oku?

Kuqhelekile ukuba wonke umntwana azive enesizungu kwaye eyedwa ngaxa lithile ebomini bakhe. Akuyonto inkulu leyo. Kodwa, njengomama okanye utata, ungamfundisa umntwana wakho izakhono ezibalulekileyo eziya kumnceda ukuba ajongane nesi sizungu, adibane nabanye, aze ahlale enxibelelene. Ezi zakhono sizibiza ngokuba zizakhono zokunxibelelana nabantu . Ezi zibaluleke kakhulu kwimpilo yengqondo yomntwana.

Ngoko ke, namhlanje siza kuthetha ngeendlela ezintathu onokumnceda ngazo umntwana wakho ukuba akhe ezi zakhono zentlalo. Ezi zizinto ezilula kakhulu, kodwa iziphumo ziphezulu kakhulu.

1. Okokuqala, nxibelelana kakuhle nomntwana wakho!

Le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Thetha nomntwana wakho yonke imihla, ubuncinane imizuzu embalwa, kwaye ufumane ixesha lokuchitha naye. Cinga ngako, umntwana obuya ekhaya evela esikolweni esinzima ulindele uthando kunye nengqalelo kuwe, akunjalo?

• Isenokuba yintetho nje encinci: "Bekunjani esikolweni namhlanje, nyana/ntombi?" "Bekunjani namhlanje?" "Ngubani obengumhlobo wakho osenyongweni namhlanje?" Buza imibuzo elula.
• Mamela ngononophelo oko kuthethwa ngumntwana wakho: Endaweni yokujonga ifowuni yakho okanye ukubukela iTV, mjonge umntwana wakho kwaye umamele oko akutshoyo ngengqwalasela yakho epheleleyo . Njengokungathi uthetha nomntu omncinci.
• Jonga emehlweni, uncume, kwaye ubambe: Ezi zinto zincinci zingenza umntwana azive ekhululekile kwaye ekhuselekile. Ukumbamba kwakho okufudumeleyo kunokususa uninzi lwentlungu entliziyweni yomntwana.
• Benze bazive ngathi uhlala ukulungele ukubaxhasa: Nika umntwana wakho uluvo lokuba "Umama noTata banawe nokuba ingxaki iyintoni na." Emva koko baya kusondela kuwe endaweni yokujongana neengxaki bodwa.

Ekuhambeni kwexesha, umntwana wakho uya kufunda ukuba enye yezona ndlela zibalaseleyo zokujongana nesizungu kukucinga ngomntu asele emazi, oko kuthetha ukucinga ngawe nokuthetha nawe. Oku kuya kuziva ngathi yindawo ekhuselekileyo kuye.

Khawucinge nje, ukuba ubekela bucala imizuzu eli-15 ngosuku, uhlale nomntwana wakho, uze umamele oko akuthethayo ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka, kuya kudala ulwalamano olungakanani phakathi kwenu? Mhlawumbi umntwana uza kwabelana nawe ngengxaki encinci okanye uvuyo awayejongene nalo ngaloo mini. Oko kuya kukhulula ingqondo yakhe kwaye kwakhe ukuthembana okukhulu kuwe.

2. Ngaba kufuneka sincede umntwana wethu abe nobuhlobo obuphilileyo?

Abahlobo badlala indima enkulu ebomini bomntwana. Ukuba nabahlobo abalungileyo kunciphisa ubulolo kakhulu. Ngoko ke, ungamnceda umntwana wakho akhe ubuhlobo obuhle nobunempilo .

• Thetha nomntwana wakho ngabahlobo: Buza imibuzo efana nale, "Ngubani umhlobo othandekayo wonyana/intombi yakho?" "Kutheni umthanda kangaka?" "Uthanda ukwenza ntoni ngaye?" uze uqhelane nabahlobo bangaphakathi bomntwana wakho kunye nabo buhlobo.
• Ndifundise indlela yokwenza abahlobo:
• Yiba nobubele, ube nobulungisa: bafundise indlela yokunceda abanye, indlela yokwabelana ngamathoyizi abo, kunye nendlela yokuphatha wonke umntu ngokulinganayo.
• Bandakanya abanye kumdlalo: Ukuba ubona umntu eyedwa, mema ukuba ajoyine umdlalo wakho.
• Tshintshana: Ziqhelise ukunika wonke umntu ithuba xa edlala naxa ethetha, kwaye ube nomonde de kufike ithuba lakho.
• Phulaphula ngononophelo: Xa umhlobo ethetha, phulaphula ngononophelo uze uzame ukumqonda.
• Imidlalo Emihle: Nokuba uyaphumelela okanye uyaphulukana, yamkele ngovuyo, fundisa abanye ukuba bakubulise, kwaye ubakhuthaze ukuba bazame kwakhona ngaphandle kokucaphuka.
• Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo nangokuthethelela abanye: Ukuba umntu wenza into engalunganga okanye ukuba uphathwa ngokungafanelekanga, mfundise ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo ngayo, kwaye ukuba ubona omnye umntu ephathwa ngokungafanelekanga, mfundise ukummela. Oku kuya kwakha ukuzithemba kwakhe.

Xa abantwana beziva ngathi bayinxalenye yosapho, iqela labahlobo, okanye uluntu, abaziva benesizungu kangako. Baziva besithi, "Andindedwa, kukho abantu abandikhathaleleyo nabandithandayo."

Ngamafutshane, umhlobo ufana nelinye ifestile eliya kwihlabathi lomntwana. Ngaloo festile, babona izinto ezintsha, bafunda, kwaye bonwabile. Ngoko ke luxanduva lwakho ukunceda ukugcina loo festile icocekile kwaye intle.

3. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukunceda abanye, ukuba nobubele, nokubonisa umbulelo.

Ukunceda abanye, ukuba nobubele, nokubonisa umbulelo nangezinto ezincinci kunokubangela uvuyo olukhulu nolwaneliseko emntwaneni. Ezi zinto zikwaqinisa ubudlelwane nabantu kwaye zinciphise isizungu.

• Bonisa abantwana indlela yokunceda:
• Ekhaya: Mqhelise umntwana wakho ukukunceda ngemisebenzi emincinci. Umzekelo, ukubeka izinto zakhe zokudlala ecaleni, ukumncedisa ukuthwala izitya ukuya etafileni, okanye ukunkcenkceshela isityalo seentyatyambo.
• Esikolweni: Izinto ezifana nokunika umhlobo ipensile okanye irabha ukuba akanayo, ukwenzela utitshala ububele obuncinci.
• Kuluntu: Ungamisela umzekelo omkhulu ngezinto ezincinci ezifana nokunika inja okanye ikati ukutya esitalatweni, okanye ukunceda umntu omdala awele indlela (phantsi kweliso lakho).
• Bafundise ukuba nobubele: Nceda abanye kwiintlungu zabo nakwiingxaki zabo, bafundise ukuba nobubele kwabanye. Bafundise ukuba nobubele kwizilwanyana.
• Fundisa abanye ukubulela: Nokuba umntu ukwenza into encinci okanye ukunika isipho, ziqhelise ukuthi "enkosi." Oku kuya kufundisa umntwana wakho uphawu oluxabisekileyo lokubulela .
• Yiba ngumzekelo omhle nawe:Xa umntwana wakho ekunceda okanye ekwenzela into entle, mbulele. Yithi, "Enkosi nyana/ntombi, ngokundinceda." Emva koko umntwana wakho uya kuqonda ukuba oku kulungile kangakanani.

Xa umntwana enceda omnye umntu aze abone uncumo ebusweni baloo mntu, umntwana uziva onwabile kakhulu. Baziva ngathi "umntu wonwabile ngenxa yam." Eso sisipho sokwenene abasifumanayo. Izinto ezinje zibenza bazive bedibene noluntu, kwaye ukuba bodwa kuyaphela kancinci kancinci kubo. Kuba, wonke umntu uyabathanda abantu abanobubele nabanceda abanye, kwaye baziva bengabodwa kangako.

Yintoni omawuyenze ukuba ukuba wedwa komntwana wakho kubonakala ngathi kunzulu kancinci?

Amaxesha amaninzi, abantwana kunye nolutsha bayakwazi ukumelana nobulolo babo, nokuba bebodwa okanye ngoncedo lomzali okanye umhlobo olungileyo. Nangona kunjalo, xa befumana indlela yokunxibelelana nomntu, ukuziva bamkelekile, ukuziva beqondwa, okanye ukukhumbula ukuba bayinxalenye yolu luntu, loo mvakalelo yokuba bodwa iyaphela kancinci kancinci.

Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha le mvakalelo yokuba lilolo inokuba nzulu kwaye inokuba nzima kumntwana ukujongana nayo. Ukuba ilolo lihlala ixesha elide, okanye ukuba uziva ngathi umntwana wakho uhlala enesizungu ngalo lonke ixesha , kubalulekile ukuthetha nogqirha womntwana wakho ngayo. Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho anokufumana amandla kunye namaqhinga okujongana nale meko ngokuthetha nogqirha wengqondo okanye omnye umboneleli wezempilo yengqondo . Asinto yokuba neentloni ngayo, njengokuthatha amayeza okugula komzimba.

Khumbula, impilo-ntle yengqondo yomntwana ibaluleke njengempilo-ntle yakhe yomzimba. Ngoko ke, ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki yempilo yengqondo, ungaze ungathandabuzi ukufuna uncedo lweengcali.

Ngoko ke, sithini isigidimi esisithathayo kweli bali?

Kulungile, ngoko ke eyona nto ibalulekileyo kuwe kwinto esithethe ngayo namhlanje kukuba isisombululo esingcono sokufumana umntwana elilolo kukumnika uthando, inkathalo, kunye nezakhono azidingayo ukuze aqhagamshelane nabanye.

• Yakha ulwalamano oluqinileyo nomntwana wakho.
• Bancede bakhe ubuhlobo obuhle nobunempilo.
• Bafundise ukunceda abanye, ukuba nobubele, nokuba nombulelo.

Ngezi zinto zilula, zemihla ngemihla, umntwana wakho uya koyisa ubulolo aze akhule abe ngumntu onwabileyo, ohlala nabantu, nonamandla engqondweni. Elo liphupha elikhulu kubo bonke umama notata, akunjalo? Ngoko ke, qala ukwenza ezi zinto zincinci namhlanje. Wena nomntwana wakho niza kuziva nikhululekile!

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