Ngaba nomntwana wakho uziva enesizungu? Nantsi indlela yokufumana uncedo kule ngxaki ngokunxibelelana nabantu!

Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana bethu bazive bebodwa kule mihla. Unyana okanye intombi yakho mhlawumbi ivakalelwa ngendlela efanayo ngamanye amaxesha, akunjalo? Namhlanje, siza kuthetha ngokweenkcukacha malunga nokuba yintoni na ngokwenene ukuba bodwa, kutheni abantwana bethu bevakalelwa njalo, kunye nolwalamano lwabantu , olunokuba sisisombululo esingcono koku, kunye nokuba lubaluleke kangakanani kubomi babantwana.

Kuthetha ukuthini ngokwenene ukuba nesizungu?

Ukuba nesithukuthezi yinto esiziva ngayo sonke ngaxa lithile. Ngamafutshane, xa sifuna ukuba nabanye, ukuba kufutshane nabo, ukufumana uthando nobubele babo, siziva sisodwa, sikude nabanye, kwaye sishiywe sodwa . Khawucinge nje, umntwana wakho ebeya kuziva njani ukuba abanye abantwana bebengamjoyini esikolweni? Olu luhlobo losizi kunye nokungabi nanto oluza nale mvakalelo yokuba nesithukuthezi.

Iimeko apho abantwana abancinci kunye nabantwana abancinci banokuziva bebodwa:

Zininzi izizathu zokuba abantwana bethu bazive bebodwa. Nazi imizekelo embalwa:

• Xa uziva unesizungu kwaye ungenabahlobo, okanye xa abanye beziva ngathi bashiywa ngaphandle: Khawuthelekelele indlela ebekuya kuba buhlungu ngayo ukuba umntwana wakho ebekuphela kwakhe oshiywe ngaphandle ngelixa abanye abafundi bedlala kunye. Usenokucinga, 'Akukho mntu undikhathaleleyo, andinabahlobo.'
• Xa uziva ngathi, 'Andifanelekanga apha, andifaneleki': Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana baziva ngathi abafanelekanga kwiklasi yabo, kwiqela labahlobo babo, okanye nakwintsapho yabo. Ngamaxesha anjalo, baziva bebodwa kakhulu.
• Xa umntwana ecinga ukuba nguye yedwa onengxaki, iingcinga ezinje, "Le ngxaki iyenzeka kum kuphela, akukho mntu uza kuyifumana le nto, akukho mntu uza kundiqonda," umntwana uba yedwa nangakumbi.
• Ukuziva ubuhlungu emva kokulwa nomzali, umhlobo, okanye umntakwenu: Nokuba yingqumbo encinci inokushiya abantwana beziva bebodwa kwaye bekude.
• Nokuba kukulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo okanye ukwahlukana: Xa ilungu losapho lisifa, abazali bahlukana, okanye umhlobo osenyongweni efudukela kwesinye isikolo, abantwana banokuziva bebodwa kakhulu.

Ngaba abantwana baziva bebodwa ngakumbi kule mihla?

Ngoku khangela, kule mihla, ayingobantwana abancinci kuphela, abantu bayo yonke iminyaka bathi baziva bebodwa ngakumbi. Kutheni kunjalo? Esinye sezizathu eziphambili leli hlabathi ledijithali elikhawulezayo . Xa yonke into isenziwa kwiifowuni, iikhompyutha, kunye neetablet, ukunxibelelana ubuso ngobuso, ukuncuma emehlweni, njalo njalo, amathuba obuhlobo, amaqhina, kunyeAkwenzeki ngqo. Ukuze ubuhlobo obuhle nolwalamano nosapho buqine, kubaluleke kakhulu ukudibana ubuso ngobuso nokuthetha, ukuchitha ixesha kunye. Xa oko kungekho, abanye abantwana kunye nabantu abaselula baziva bebodwa. Nokuba banamakhulu abahlobo efowunini, ukuba abanamntu wokuthetha naye ngento abayicingayo ebomini bokwenyani, oko kukwalilolo.

Ukuba wedwa ngolu hlobo ixesha elide akulunganga kwimpilo yengqondo yomntwana kunye nempilo yakhe yomzimba . Oku kunokuchaphazela kungekuphela nje ingqondo yakhe, kodwa nomzimba wakhe wonke.

Kodwa kukho iindaba ezimnandi! Kukho iindlela zokunciphisa obu bulolo. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwenza oko kukwandisa unxibelelwano nabantu.

Ngoko ke yintoni le nto inxulumene noluntu?

Ngamafutshane, oku kuthetha ukuba nomvakalelo wokuba yinxalenye, ulwalamano olusondeleyo, kunye nonxibelelwano nabanye, kunye nomvakalelo wokuba 'Ndingoweli qela' kunye 'nokwamkelwa ngaba bantu' . Esi sisidingo esisisiseko somntu, njengokutya, isiselo, nokulala. Kanye njengokuba indlala isenzeka xa singafumani kutya, ukuziva ungenanto yokuba lilolo endikukhankanyileyo ngaphambili kwenzeka xa singafumani olu nxibelelwano loluntu.

Ngoko ke, kwenzeka ntoni xa umntwana enolwalamano oluhle noluntu olunje?

• Ukuziva ulilolo kuncipha kakhulu. Abaziva bebodwa ngalo lonke ixesha.
• Nokuba baziva benesizungu ngequbuliso, kulula kubo ukumelana naso. Banokuziqinisekisa , 'Owu, oku kuza kulunga kwixesha elithile, ndinomntu endinokuthetha naye.'
• Nokuba baziva bebodwa, bayakwazi ukuchacha ngokukhawuleza baze bonwabe kwakhona. Oku kuthetha ukuba bachitha ixesha elincinci bebambe usizi.

Unxibelelwano loluntu lunciphisa njani isizungu?

Olu nxibelelwano lwentlalo lulungile kakhulu kwimpilo yengqondo yabantwana kunye nempilo yabo yomzimba. Xa umntwana enonxibelelwano oluhle noluntu, endaweni yokuziva enesizungu, uziva izinto ezinje:

• Baziva besondelelene kakhulu nabantu ebomini babo. Oko kuthetha ukuba baziva ngathi banobudlelwane obusondeleyo nobuhlobo nabantu abafana nomama wabo, utata wabo, abantakwabo noodadewabo, abahlobo kunye nootitshala.
• Abanye bavakalelwa kukuba bayathandwa, bayakhathalelwa, bayaphulaphulwa, kwaye bayaqondwa. Khawucinge nje ukuba bekuya kuba luncedo kangakanani ukuba umntwana axelele umama wakhe ngengxaki ethile, aze umama aphulaphule athi, "Nyana/ntombi, musa ukoyika, ndilapha." Yiloo ndlela bavakalelwa ngayo.
• Baziva bamkelekile ngaphandle kwemiqathango, bebandakanyiwe kwiqela labo, kwaye bexatyiswa ngendlela abayiyo. Endaweni yokuxhalabela izinto ezinje 'Ndimnyama, ndibhityile, ndityebile,' baziva beqinisekile ukuba 'Ndilungile ngendlela endiyiyo, abanye bayandithanda, kwaye ndixabisekile.'
• Baziva ngathi bangamalungu ento ethile.Oko kuthetha ukuba, ufumana uluvo olufana nolu, ‘Lusapho lwam olu, liqela lam labahlobo, liqela lam lekhilikithi lesikolo, lululuntu lwam lwasezilalini.’ Kumnandi ukuziva ngathi awuwedwa, ukuba unendawo oyinxalenye yayo.
• Bavakalelwa kukuba banabantu abanokuthembela kubo, abaziva bekhululekile kwaye bonwabile xa bekunye nabo. Inkolelo yokuba 'kungakhathaliseki ukuba ndinengxaki enjani na, kukho umntu endinokumxelela yena, kwaye abayi kundishiya' inamandla amakhulu engqondweni.
• Baziva ngathi ababodwa, kodwa bayinxalenye yento enkulu kunabo. Mhlawumbi lunxibelelwano nendalo. Okanye, baziva olu luvo xa bebandakanyeka kwinjongo elungileyo, inkonzo yoluntu, abayithandayo. Baziva ngathi, 'Ndenza into ebalulekileyo kweli hlabathi.'

Abazali banokunceda ekunciphiseni ubulolo ebantwaneni!

Ngoku mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba, 'Ndingamnceda njani umntwana wam ukuba anqobe obu bulolo? Ndingamnceda njani ukuba enze olu nxibelelwano loluntu?' Zininzi izinto abazali abanokuzenza ngale nto.

Nceda uphuhlise izakhono zentlalo

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukufundisa abantwana izakhono zentlalo ezifunekayo ukwakha olu nxibelelwano loluntu.

• Fundisa abanye ukuba nobubele nokunceda: Ungaqala ngezinto ezincinci ezinje, 'Nyana, ukuba loo mhlobo ulibele ukuzisa ipensile namhlanje, mnike ipensile yakho eyongezelelweyo', 'Ukuba umakazi wakho ekhaya udinga uncedo oluncinci, nceda wenze njalo.' Ezi zinto ziya kumenza umntwana azive amkelekile kwabanye.
• Bafundise indlela yokwenza ubuhlobo obuhle nobunempilo: Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ngumhlobo nomntu wonke, kodwa kubalulekile ukufumana abahlobo abafanelana nawe, abakulungeleyo, nabakuqondayo. Kufuneka ubafundise nokuba bangadibani nabahlobo ababi abakucaphukisayo.
• Fundisa umntwana wakho ukumamela ngononophelo oko kuthethwa ngabanye (Ukumamela Ngomdla), kunye nokuveza izimvo zakhe ngentlonelo nangokucacileyo. Ezi zibaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane obuhle. Menze umntwana wakho aqonde ukubaluleka kokujonga umntu xa ethetha aze amphulaphule.
• Fundani ukusebenza njengeqela kwaye nihloniphe izimvo zabanye. Ezi zakhono zingaphuhliswa ngokuthatha inxaxheba kwiqela lezemidlalo lesikolo, iqela lee-scout, okanye eminye imisebenzi yeqela.

Yakha ubudlelwane bemihla ngemihla nomntwana wakho.

Kwakhona, fumana ixesha lokuthetha nomntwana wakho yonke imihla kwaye uchithe ixesha naye. Nokuba uxakeke kangakanani na, bekela ecaleni imizuzu eli-15 ukuya kwengama-20 ngosuku ukwenzela umntwana wakho kuphela.

Umntwana kufuneka aqiniseke ukuba "uMama/uTata uyandinika ixesha, uyamamela into endiyithethayo, kwaye ukhona kum nokuba ndinengxaki enjani na."

Le yeyona nto inamandla kubo. Ukuba uchitha ixesha nomntwana wakho nize nithethe ngokwenzekileyo ngaloo mini, baya kukuxelela ngezinto ezimvuyisayo, iintlungu neengxaki zakhe. Oku kuya kukunceda uqonde okwenzekayo kumntwana wakho, nokuba unesizungu, kunye nohlobo loncedo aludingayo. Nezinto ezincinci ezifana nokudlala kunye, ukufunda incwadi, okanye ukunceda ekuphekeni zinokuluqinisa olu lwalamano.

Ukuqinisa unxibelelwano lomntwana wakho nabantu ngale ndlela kuya kubanceda kungekuphela nje namhlanje, kodwa nakwikamva lakhe lonke, nangona ekhula. Umntwana onolwalamano oluqinileyo nosapho unamathuba amaninzi okuphumelela kuluntu.

Ngoko ke, zeziphi izinto ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka sizikhumbule kwizinto esithethe ngazo? (Umyalezo Wokubuyela Ekhaya)

• Ukuba nesizungu yinto enokuviwa ngumntu wonke. Musa ukuba neentloni ngayo, musa ukuyoyika, kwaye ungacingi ukuba yimpazamo yomntwana.
• Zininzi izizathu zokuba abantwana bazive bebodwa. Qaphela oku kwaye uqaphele utshintsho kwindlela umntwana wakho aziphethe ngayo.
• Unxibelelwano loluntu sesona sisombululo silungileyo sokuphelisa ubulolo. Lubaluleke kakhulu kwimpilo yengqondo neyomzimba yabantwana.
• Abazali banokunceda ekunciphiseni obu bulolo ngokuphuhlisa izakhono zokunxibelelana zabantwana babo nokwakha ubudlelwane obuqinileyo nabo. Ungutitshala wokuqala noyena ubalaseleyo womntwana wakho.
• Chitha ixesha uncokola nomntwana wakho yonke imihla, umphulaphule. Mxelele ukuba unaye. Mxelele, "Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni na, ndiza kuba nawe."

Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba umntwana wakho uziva enesizungu, thetha naye ngaloo nto ngendlela enothando nenobubele. Ngamanye amaxesha basenokungabi namazwi okuchaza loo nto, kodwa baya kuvula umlomo xa bebona umdla wakho. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, ungathandabuzi ukufuna ingcebiso yezonyango , umcebisi wesikolo, okanye ingcebiso efanelekileyo. Ulonwabo lomntwana kunye nempilo-ntle yengqondo zibaluleke ngaphezu kwayo yonke enye into!

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