Ngaba umntwana wakho akaphumli? Ngaba uhlala eshukuma, ebaleka, kwaye etsiba? Ngaba unengxaki yokugxila kwinto enye? Ngaba uhlala efumana izikhalazo ezivela esikolweni? Umele ukuba uziva udiniwe kakhulu zezi zinto. Kodwa ngaba wakha waziva ukuba ngenxa yale ndlela yokuziphatha , umntwana wakho uyazisola kwaye ukuzithemba kwakhe kuyehla? Namhlanje sithetha ngale ngongoma ibaluleke kakhulu.
Yintoni ubudlelwane phakathi kwe-ADHD kunye nokuzithemba?
Umntwana one-ADHD, okanye ngokuchanekileyo , i-Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, unobunzima bokugxila kwinto enye. Oku kunokwenza kube nzima ngaye ukwenza kakuhle esikolweni. Ngenxa yoko, unokufumana amanqaku aphantsi, ukungxoliswa ngootitshala, kunye nokohlwaywa rhoqo.
Khawucinge ngendlela ebeya kuyichaphazela ngayo ingqondo yomntwana omncinci ukuba ebesoloko egxekwa esikolweni, ekhaya, ngabahlobo nezalamane, njengokuthi "Awukwazi ukuhlala endaweni enye?", "Kutheni ungandiphulaphuli?", kunye nokuthi "Uyahlanya kakhulu."
"Aba bantwana bathabatha ityala kunye nokugxekwa okuvela macala onke ezintliziyweni zabo. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, baqala ukuzicingela kakubi. Bade bafikelele kwinqanaba lokucinga ukuba abanto yanto."
Eli likhonkco eliphambili phakathi kwe-ADHD kunye nokungazithembi. Ezinye izifundo zifumanise ukuba njengoko abantwana abane-ADHD besiba ngabantu abadala, ukuzithemba kwabo kuyehla kancinci kancinci ngenxa yemingeni abajongene nayo ebomini kunye nokugxekwa rhoqo abakufumanayo. Kwezinye iimeko ezinzima, oku kuzihlonipha okuphantsi kunokukhokelela kwiimeko ezifana nokudakumba kunye neengcinga zokuzibulala.
Kodwa ungakhathazeki. Asikuko oku okubangela umntwana. Kwaye, njengomzali, zininzi iindlela onokungenelela ngazo kule meko, uncede umntwana wakho azive ngcono, kwaye uncede ekwakheni ukuzithemba kwakhe.
Okufanele ukwenze kuqala: Qonda imeko ngqo
Inyathelo lokuqala kukufumanisa ukuba yintoni kanye kanye ebangela ukuziphatha komntwana wakho. Oku kuya kuzisa isiqabu esikhulu kumntwana nakuni. Thetha nogqirha wakho wezingane okanye omnye ugqirha ofanelekileyo malunga nokuziphatha komntwana wakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha izalamane nabahlobo bethu banokuthi, "Kunjalo kanye kuloo minyaka," "Kuqhelekile ukuba abafana babe neentloni," "Ucinga kakhulu ngaloo nto." Kodwa umazi kakuhle umntwana wakho. Ukuba ucinga ukuba oku kuyinto engaphaya kokuziphatha okuqhelekileyo okungcolileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo funa ingcebiso kagqirha.
I-ADHD yimeko enokwenzeka kwiintsapho. Ukuba ilungu losapho elisondeleyo linale meko, nomntwana wakho unokuba nayo. Ke ngoko, ukufumana ukuxilongwa kwangethuba kuthetha ukuba ungaqala ukusebenza kwiindlela zokunceda umntwana wakho kwangoko.
Izinto onokuzenza njengomzali
Ukuba umntwana wakho une-ADHD kwaye uziva ngathi akazithembi, kukho izinto ezithile onokuzenza ukuze umncede akhe ukuzithemba . Makhe sijonge ukuba bayintoni na.
| Indlela | Kwenziwe ntoni |
|---|---|
| Xabisa nokuba nempumelelo encinci. | Endaweni yokuthetha nje ngeempazamo ezenziwa ngumntwana wakho, mncome ngezinto ezincinci azenzayo kakuhle. Umzekelo, ukuba uhlala phantsi ukuze enze umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo kwangoko nje emva kokuba efikile ekhaya evela esikolweni, yithi, "Jonga indlela owenze kakuhle ngayo, uhlale phantsi ukuze wenze oko kwangoko nje emva kokuba ufikile ekhaya." Mncome ngomzamo wakhe. |
| Nika indumiso ethile | Endaweni yokuthi nje, "Kulungile mfondini," mncome ngokukhankanya ngqo oko akwenzileyo. Ukuthi into efana nokuthi, "Indlela obeke ngayo izinto zokudlala icocekile, oko kundinceda kakhulu," akuyi kukhulisa ukuzithemba kwakhe kuphela, kodwa uya kufunda nendlela yokwenza umsebenzi olungileyo. |
| Chonga iziphiwo zomntwana wakho | Wonke umntwana unetalente ekhethekileyo. Isenokuba kukuzoba, ukucula, ukudlala umdlalo, okanye nokudlala umdlalo wekhompyutha. Chonga ukuba yintoni abanobuchule kuyo kwaye ubancede bayiphuhlise. Oku kuya kubanika ikratshi nempumelelo. |
| Yahlula imisebenzi emikhulu ibe ziinxalenye ezincinci. | Yahlulahlula imisebenzi umntwana wakho ayifumana inzima (umz., ukufunda incwadi, ukucoca igumbi) ibe ziinxalenye ezincinci nezilawulekayo. Oku kuya kumnika ithuba lokugqiba ngempumelelo icandelo ngalinye. Ukuba wenza into angayithandiyo, ungabanika nomvuzo omncinci xa egqibile. |
| Umzekelo wokuziphatha okuhle. | Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokufundisa umntwana ukuziphatha kakuhle kukuba abazali bamxelise. Umntwana wakho uza kujonga indlela oziphatha ngayo xa unomsindo, indlela osingatha ngayo iingxaki, kunye nendlela oziphatha ngayo. Ngoko ke, yiba ngumzekelo omhle nawe. |
| Cela uncedo ukuba kuyimfuneko. | Ukunceda umntwana one-ADHD akulula. Ukuba unengxaki yokulawula yonke le nto wedwa, ungaze ungathandabuzi ukufuna uncedo lweengcali. Asikobuthathaka bakho. Ngumzamo wakho ukunika umntwana wakho okona kulungileyo. |
Masiqaphele neendlela zonyango.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, oogqirha baqala ngokujonga unyango endaweni yokusebenzisa amayeza kwimiba efana nokungazithembi okunxulumene ne-ADHD.
Unyango
Ugqirha wakho angathumela umntwana wakho kwingcali yezonyango okanye kwingcali yezengqondo yabantwana egxile kwimiba enxulumene ne-ADHD. Kwimeko enjalo,
- Unyango Lokuziphatha Oluqondayo (i-CBT): Olu nyango lunceda abantwana ukuba babone iindlela zokucinga ezingalunganga kwaye lubafundise ukuzitshintsha zibe zezakhayo.
- Uqeqesho lwezakhono zokuhlela: Ufundisa abantwana ukucwangcisa umsebenzi wabo, ukusebenzisa iishedyuli, kunye nokucwangcisa izinto. Ezi zizakhono ezingenakufundiswa ngamayeza kwaye zibalulekile ebomini.
Uqeqesho lwabazali
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Ungafunda indlela yokuxhasa umntwana one-ADHD kolu qeqesho. Ungafunda izinto ezininzi koku, njengendlela yokulawula ukuziphatha komntwana, iindlela zokuqeqesha ezakhayo, kunye nendlela yokunxibelelana nomntwana.
Amayeza
Ukuba iindlela zonyango azivelisi ziphumo zifunwayo, ugqirha angakunika amayeza. La mayeza e-ADHD, ingakumbi avuselelayo , anceda ukuphucula amandla omntwana okugxila nokulawula indlela aziphethe ngayo .
Ukuba unamathandabuzo okanye uloyiko malunga namayeza, thetha ngawo.Qiniseka ukuba uthetha ngokukhululekileyo nogqirha wakho.
Okokugqibela, kukho into enye ekufuneka uhlale umkhumbuza ngayo umntwana wakho: "Awunayo i-ADHD. Unayo i-ADHD kuphela." Oko kukuthi, i-ADHD ayilophawu lwabo, yimeko nje elawulekayo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Kuqhelekile ukuba umntwana one-ADHD angazithembi, kodwa oko kunganceda. Asikuko ityala lomntwana okanye elakho.
- Ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nokuziphatha komntwana wakho, musa ukuyithatha njengento “enjalo kanye kuloo minyaka,” kodwa funa ingcebiso kagqirha ngoko nangoko.
- Endaweni yokumgxeka umntwana wakho ngeempazamo zakhe, mncome ngezinto ezincinci azenzayo kakuhle kunye nomzamo awenzayo.
- Ukuchonga nokunceda umntwana wakho aphuhlise italente yakhe kukhulisa ukuzithemba kwakhe.
- Ukuba wena, njengomzali, ukufumanisa kunzima ukuhamba olu hambo wedwa, ungathandabuzi ukucela uncedo kugqirha okanye kumcebisi.
- Ukuba unemibuzo malunga namayeza okanye unyango, thetha nogqirha wakho ngayo.
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