Ngaba umntwana wakho uyabhideka xa ethetha? Ngaba uyathintitha? Singathetha ngokuthintitha?

Ngaba wakha waphawula ukuba umntwana wakho omncinci ngamanye amaxesha uyathintitha okanye uphinda-phinda igama elinye amaxesha amaninzi? Kuqhelekile ukuziva usoyika kwaye ukhathazekile ngamaxesha anjalo. Usenokuba uzibuza, 'Kutheni oku kusenzeka kumntwana wam? Ngaba le yingxaki enkulu?' Ngoko ke namhlanje, masithethe ngale nto, okanye ' ukuthintitha' njengoko oogqirha beyibiza, ngendlela elula eya kususa nawaphi na amathandabuzo onokuba nawo.

Yintoni ukuthintitha?

Ngamafutshane, ukuthintitha kukuphazamisa ukuhamba kakuhle kwentetho. Oogqirha bakwabiza oku ngokuba kukungathethi kakuhle . Usenokuba uqaphele ukuba abanye abantwana abancinci, ingakumbi abo baphakathi kweminyaka emibini ukuya kwemihlanu ubudala, banale:

• Ukuphinda oonobumba abathile, iinxalenye zamagama, okanye amagama apheleleyo. Khawuthelekelele unyana wakho ezama ukukuxelela into eyenzekileyo esikolweni, njengokuthi, "A... a... Mama, mna... namhlanje..."
• Ezinye iileta ziyatsalwa. Njengokuthi "Mmmmmmm ndilapha."
• Xa uthetha, ngequbuliso uyayeka, akukho sandi, uze uphinde uqale.

Uninzi lwexesha, abantwana bayayeka lo mkhwa xa befikelela kwiminyaka emihlanu ubudala. Oko kukuthi, njengoko bekhula kwaye bephuhlisa izakhono zolwimi, kancinci kancinci kuncipha. Kodwa kwabanye abantwana, kuhlala ixesha elide. Kodwa akukho nto inokubangela ixhala, kukho unyango olufanelekileyo olunokunceda kule nto. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukungaxhalabi kwaye wenze ngokuqonda okufanelekileyo.

Kutheni usithintitha ngolu hlobo?

Oogqirha noososayensi abakayazi ngokuqinisekileyo i-100% ukuba kutheni oku kusenzeka kubantwana abathile kuphela, kodwa uninzi lukholelwa ukuba zininzi izinto ezibangela oku.

• Ingxaki ngemiyalezo yobuchopho: Enye kukuba kukho ingxaki ngemiyalezo ethunyelwa esuka engqondweni ukuya kwimisipha nakwezinye iindawo zomzimba (umz., ulwimi, imilebe) ezifunekayo ukuze kuthethwe, kwaye kukho ukunqongophala okuncinci kokunxibelelana . Kufana nonomathotholo ongavakali kakuhle xa isignali ijijekile, okanye imoto ehlala kancinci xa uyiqala. Oku akubangelwa kukunqongophala kobukrelekrele okanye umzamo kumntwana.
• I-Genetics: Enye into kukuba kukholelwa ukuba oku kusenokuba yimbangela ye-genetic . Ezinye izifundo zifumanise ukuba abantwana abathintithayo banomzali, abantakwabo, okanye isalamane esisondeleyo kusapho lwabo abathintithayo banamathuba aphindwe kathathu okuba bathintithayo besebancinci. Oku kuthetha ukuba kunokubakho utyekelo lwe-genetic.

Okwangoku kuyamkelwa ngokubanzi ukuba ukuthintitha kubangelwa yenye okanye ngaphezulu kwezi zinto.

Zithini iimpawu zokuthintitha? Uzibona njani?

Iimpawu zokuqala zokuthintitha zibonakala phakathi kweenyanga ezili-18 nezingama-24 ubudala. Kulapho isigama sabantwana siqala ukukhula ngequbuliso, baqala ukudibanisa amagama ukuze benze izivakalisi, baze baveze iingcinga zabo. Ngoko ke xa umntwana ethintitha ngexesha elinje, kunokuba yinto ephazamisayo nexhalabisayo kubazali. Kusengqiqweni ukucinga, "Owu, yintoni ingxaki ngomntwana wam?" Kodwa kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana bathintitha kancinci kule minyaka. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba nomonde kangangoko.

Abanye abantwana banokuthintitha kangangeeveki okanye iinyanga. Kungaphinda kubuye kudlule, emva koko kubuye. Kwezinye iintsuku banokuthetha kakuhle, kwaye kwezinye iintsuku banokuthintitha ngakumbi. Abantwana abaninzi abaqala ukuthintitha ngaphambi kokuba bafikelele kwiminyaka emihlanu baya kuphila ngaphandle koncedo, njengonyango lokuthetha .

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho uyathintitha kakhulu, ukuba kubonakala ngathi kuya kusiba mandundu, okanye ukuba kukho utshintsho kulwimi lobuso okanye lomzimba xa ethintitha, kulungile ukubona ingcali yolwimi malunga neminyaka emithathu ubudala. Okukhona ulungisa oku kwangoko, kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho ancedwe.

Impembelelo kubantwana abaya esikolweni

Ngokwesiqhelo, ukuthintitha kuyancipha njengoko abantwana beqala isikolo kwaye izakhono zabo zokuthetha ziyaphucuka. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana uyaqhubeka nokuthintitha ngexesha lesikolo, usenokuba uyazi ingxaki kwaye azive eneentloni okanye ebuhlungu ngayo. Khawucinge ukuba kunzima kangakanani kuye ukuthintitha xa ezama ukuphendula umbuzo eklasini okanye xa ezama ukuthetha nomhlobo aze abambeke ngamazwi. Ngamanye amaxesha, abanye abantwana eklasini, ngenxa yokungazi okanye ukwenza izinto ezimbi, basenokuhleka oku baze bahlekise ngako. Ngenxa yezinto ezinje, umntwana usenokuba noloyiko lokuphinda athethe aze azame ukuzikhwebula kuluntu.

Ukuba oku kuyenzeka kumntwana wakho, thetha notitshala esikolweni . Utitshala angachaza oku eklasini aze achaze ukuba ukuthintitha akuyonto yokuhlekisa. Utitshala anganciphisa nexesha umntwana wakho analo lokuthetha aze azive ecinezelekile (umz., ukufunda ngokuvakalayo phambi kweklasi) de kuqale unyango lokuthetha.

Kunini apho sifanele sifune uncedo ngokuqinisekileyo?

Ukuba umntwana wakho usathintitha emva kweminyaka emi-5, qiniseka ukuba uthetha nogqirha wakho wosapho okanye ingcali yolwimi lokuthetha . Bona ingcali yonyango ngoko nangoko, ingakumbi ukuba ubona nayiphi na kwezi zilandelayo:

• Ukuba uzama ukuphepha amathuba okuthetha (umz., uyoyika ukuya evenkileni uyokucela into ethile, okanye uzama ukungaphenduli xa umntu ekubuza umbuzo)
• Ukuba usebenzisa igama elahlukileyo endaweni yelinye kuba usoyika ukuthintitha. (Umzekelo, uthi "sela" kuba ubambeka xa usithi "amanzi").
• Ukuba kukho ukushukuma okanye ezinye iintshukumo ebusweni okanye emzimbeni (umz., ukuqhwanyaza, ukushukumisa intloko, okanye ukushukuma) xa ushukuma.
• Ukuba amagama apheleleyo kunye neenxalenye zezivakalisi ziphindaphindwa rhoqo nangokuqhubekayo.
• Ukuba oonobumba kunye namalungu amagama aphindaphindwa rhoqo. (Umzekelo: "I-I-I-I-I")
• Ukuba uthetha ngobunzima obukhulu noxinzelelo, ngokungathi unengxaki yokukhupha amagama.

Thetha nogqirha wakho ngezi zinto:

• Ukuba izihlunu zobuso bomntwana wakho ziyaqina okanye zibonakala ngathi ziyaqhaqhazela xa ethetha.
• Ubukhali belizwi, nto leyo ebangela ukuba isandi selizwi sinyuke, okanye ukuba isandi sibonakala sinyuka.
• Ukuba kukho naluphi na olunye uloyiko okanye amathandabuzo malunga nebali lomntwana wakho.

Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuba ukuthintitha kuyaqhubeka kangangeenyanga ezi-6 nangaphezulu, izikolo ezininzi ziya kubonelela ngovavanyo olufunekayo kunye nonyango olufanelekileyo . Ke ngoko, licebo elihle ukwazisa ootitshala esikolweni ngale nto.

Singanceda njani thina njengabazali?

Zininzi izinto onokuzenza ukunceda umntwana wakho kule meko. Ezi zinto zinokumthuthuzela kakhulu kwaye zakhe ukuzithemba emntwaneni. Nazi ezimbalwa...

• Musa ukumnyanzela umntwana wakho ukuba athethe ngokucacileyo nangokuchanekileyo ngalo lonke ixesha. Makube luvuyo nolonwabo ukuthetha. Cinga ngako, ngaba sonke sithetha ngokuchanekileyo ngokwegrama ngalo lonke ixesha? Hayi, asithethi. Mnike umntwana wakho loo nkululeko. Mamela oko azama ukukuthetha, kwaye ungamnqandi kuba ebambekile emazwini.

• Yenza itafile yesidlo sangokuhlwa ibe lixesha lencoko. Nciphisa iziphazamiso ezifana nonomathotholo kunye neTV. Xa wonke umntu ekunye kwaye ethetha ngeziganeko zosuku kunye namahlaya, umntwana wakho uya kufuna ukuthetha ngakumbi. Yenza indawo ekhululekileyo, engenaxinzelelo.

• Musa ukunika iingcebiso okanye ukugxeka okufana nokuthi, "Thetha kancinci," "Ungakhathazeki," "Thabatha umoya onzulu." Nokuba uneenjongo ezintle kangakanani na, ezi zinto ziya kumenza umntwana acinge ngakumbi ngaye aze azive engakhululekanga. Uza kucinga athi, "Owu, ndenza into engalunganga."

• Xa umntwana wakho enengxaki okanye ukugquma kwakhe kusiba mandundu, musa ukumnyanzela ukuba athethe okanye afunde ngokuvakalayo. Endaweni yoko, mqondise kwimisebenzi engadingi ukuba athethe kangako. Izinto ezifana nokuzoba, ukudlala ngamathoyizi, okanye ukujonga imifanekiso encwadini.

• Musa ukumphazamisa umntwana wakho ngelixa ethetha okanye umxelele ukuba "aqale phantsi." Ukwenza njalo kunokwenza umntwana azive ngathi into ayithethayo ayibalulekanga kwaye akakwazi ukuthetha kakuhle. Mvumele agqibe ukuthetha ngesantya sakhe.

• Musa ukuxelela umntwana wakho ukuba "acinge ngaphambi kokuba athethe." Oku kuya kongeza uxinzelelo olungakumbi kumntwana. Ukubalisa amabali kufanele kube yinto yendalo, kungabi njengokusombulula ingxaki yezibalo.

• Yenza imeko-bume enoxolo nezolileyo ekhaya. Zama ukunciphisa isantya sobomi bosapho kancinci. Xa yonke into ikhawuleziswa kwaye ukhwaza, umntwana wakho naye uyaziva engxamisekile kwaye ecinezelekile.

• Thetha kancinci nangokucacileyo xa uthetha nomntwana wakho okanye nabanye abantu abaphambi kwakhe.Umisela umzekelo omhle kumntwana wakho ngokuthetha kancinci. Oku kuya kumnceda ukuba aqhele ukuthetha kancinci. Ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza kunokufaka uxinzelelo kumntwana wakho ukuba athethe ngokukhawuleza.

• Hlala ujonge umntwana wakho emehlweni xa uthetha naye. Musa ukumjonga okanye uzenze ngathi ukhathazekile, ulusizi, okanye uphelelwe ngumonde. Oku kuya kumenza umntwana wakho acinge ukuba wenza into engalunganga kwaye awufuni ukumphulaphula.

• Vumela umntwana wakho azithethele, agqibezele iingcinga zakhe nezivakalisi zakhe. Musa ukumphazamisa ngelixa ethetha okanye uzame ukugqibezela amazwi akhe ngenxa yakhe.

• Yima kancinci ngaphambi kokuba uphendule umbuzo okanye intetho yomntwana. Oku kudala umoya apho umntwana anokuthetha khona ngaphandle kokuba azive engxamile.

• Thetha kancinci nomntwana wakho. Oku kufuna ukuziqhelanisa! Ukucothisa isantya sakho sokuthetha kuya kunceda umntwana wakho athethe kakuhle. Njengokuba sithetha kancinci nomntwana omncinci xa simfundisa ukufunda, misela loo mzekelo kumntwana wakho.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba azive uthando lwakho, inkxaso yakho, kunye nomonde wakho. Nokuba uthetha njani, mxelele ukuba uyamxabisa. Nika ingqalelo kwinto ayithethayo, hayi indlela ayithethayo ngayo.

Ngoko ke, zeziphi izinto ezibalulekileyo esifanele sizithathele ekhaya kweli bali?

Kulungile, masikukhumbuze ngezinto ezimbalwa esithethe ngazo esicinga ukuba zibalulekile kuwe:

• Ukuthintitha kunokuba yinto eqhelekileyo kubantwana abancinci, ingakumbi abaphakathi kweminyaka emi-2 ukuya kwemi-5 ubudala, kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi kuya kuba ngcono ngokwako . Ngoko ke musa ukoyika ngoko nangoko.
• Nangona kunjalo , ukuba ukutsiba kwenzeka rhoqo, kuyanda, okanye ukuba umntwana akakhululekanga kuko, okanye uyaqhubeka nokuba nako emva kweminyaka emi-5, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna ingcebiso kagqirha, ingakumbi kwingcali yokuthetha.
• Unyango lweNtetho noLwimi lunyango olusebenzayo koku. Lufundisa umntwana iindlela ezahlukeneyo kunye nemithambo ukuze oyise ubunzima ajongene nabo ekuthetheni.
• Njengabazali, umonde wenu, inkxaso yenu, kunye nokumamela umntwana wenu zezona zinto zinamandla eninokumnika zona umntwana wenu kolu hambo. Umntwana wenu kufuneka azive enimthembayo.
• Vumela umntwana wakho akonwabele ukuthetha nawe. Kuphephe ukumgxeka okanye ukumcinezela. Gcina imeko yasekhaya ikhululekile.
• Impendulo yakho ezolileyo neyothando iya kuba negalelo elikhulu ekuncedeni umntwana wakho ukuba aphumelele kule meko.

Ngoko ke, khumbula oku uze ube nomonde nothando nomntwana wakho omncinci. Ukuba kukho ingxaki, ungoyiki ukubona ugqirha okanye ingcali yokunyanga intetho. Bakulungele ukukunceda wena nomntwana wakho.

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