Ngaba umntwana wakho ucaphuka rhoqo kunokuba bekulindelwe ngenxa yezinto ezincinci? Okanye ngaba ngequbuliso uvuya kakhulu aze azame ukulawula ulonwabo lwakhe? Ngamanye amaxesha ungazibuza, "Kutheni umntwana wam engumntu ongcolileyo kangaka? Akakwazi na ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe?" Oku akukokuba yinkani okanye ukuba nenkani nje kuphela. Le meko yinto esihlala siyibona kubantwana abane- Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) . Baziva iimvakalelo njengaye wonke umntu, ezinje ngosizi, ulonwabo, umsindo, kunye noloyiko. Umahluko kukuba baziva ezi mvakalelo kakhulu, rhoqo, kwaye zithatha ixesha elide ukuziphelisa. Ngoko ke, masithethe ngendlela yokuyiqonda le nto nokunceda umntwana wakho.
Kutheni benobunzima bokulawula iimvakalelo zabo?
Ngamafutshane, oku kungenxa yotshintsho oluncinci kwindlela esebenza ngayo ingqondo yabo. Xa besebancinci, abantwana abaninzi benza izinto ngokungxama, okanye banengxaki yokuzola xa bevuya kakhulu. Kodwa njengoko bekhula, bafunda ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo. Olu buchule lukwabizwa ngokuba kukuzilawula .
Cinga nge-thermostat ekwi-AC yethu ekhaya. Ukuba ubushushu kwigumbi bunyuka ngaphezu kobushushu obumiselweyo, i-thermostat iyavula ize ipholise igumbi kwakhona. Ngendlela efanayo, xa "ubushushu" beemvakalelo zethu bunyuka, ingqondo yethu nayo inenkqubo efana ne-thermostat yokuyilawula. Kodwa kubantwana abane-ADHD, olu buchule lubizwa ngokuba yi-self-regulation, oko kukuthi, loo thermostat, lubuthathaka kancinci. Ngoko ke xa iimvakalelo zabo ngequbuliso ziba "shushu kakhulu", kunzima kakhulu kubo "ukuzipholisa" kwakhona, oko kukuthi, ukuzola.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuqonda ukuba umntwana akenzi ezi zinto ngabom . Asilotyala lakhe. Basenokufuna ixesha elingakumbi kunye noncedo kunabanye abantwana ukuze bafunde ukulawula ezi ndlela zokuziphatha .
Indlela abantwana abane-ADHD ababonakalisa ngayo iimvakalelo zabo
Ayingabo bonke abantwana abane-ADHD abaziphatha ngendlela efanayo xa bengakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo. Abanye abantwana baphulukana nolawulo ngokupheleleyo xa benomsindo. Abanye, xa becelwa ukuba benze into abangafuni ukuyenza, abanamdla okanye intshukumo.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho iimpawu eziqhelekileyo ekufuneka uzazi.
| Uphawu oluqhelekileyo olubonwayo | Ingcaciso elula |
|---|---|
| Ukucaphuka okanye ukucaphuka ngento encinci | Nangona kusenokuba yinto eqhelekileyo kwabanye, bayibona njengengxaki enkulu. Bahlala becinga ngesiganeko kwaye abakwazi ukusisusa, nto leyo ebangela uxinzelelo olukhulu lwengqondo. |
| Kuthatha ixesha elide ukuzola | Kuthatha ixesha elide kunabanye ukuba baphinde baphile baze bazole emva kokuba kwenzeke into ebuhlungu. Bangakwazi ukubamba umsindo kangangeeyure, kwaneentsuku. |
| Ukubona nokuba kukugxekwa okuncinci njengohlaselo olukhulu | Nokuba uthi ngeenjongo ezilungileyo, "Nyana, oku akunjalo, kwenze ngale ndlela," baziva ngathi uyabathuka, ngokungathi wenze impazamo enkulu. |
| Ukungabi namonde kunye neemfuno ezikhawulezileyo | Ukuba baziva ngathi bafuna into ethile, bayifuna ngoko nangoko. Banobunzima bokunyamezela ukuxelelwa ukuba "linda umzuzu." |
Kwakhona, lumka malunga nolonwabo olugqithisileyo. Abantwana abane-ADHD ngamanye amaxesha banokuthwaxwa ziimvakalelo ezinje ngolonwabo kunye nemincili, baze benze ngokungalawulekiyo.
Ungamnceda njani umntwana wakho ukuba alawule iimvakalelo zakhe?
Ukunceda umntwana one-ADHD ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe kunokuba nzima kancinci, kodwa akunakwenzeka. Nazi ezinye izinto ezinokukunceda.
Hlonipha iimvakalelo zomntwana.
Xa umntwana wakho ethetha ngeemvakalelo zakhe, musa ukuzithatha lula ngokuthi, "Ayiyonto," okanye "Musa ukucinga kakhulu ngayo." Endaweni yoko, dala indawo ekhuselekileyo yokuba umntwana wakho aveze oko kusengqondweni yakhe. Mamela ngaphezu kokubuza imibuzo. Zama ukucinga ngokwembono yomntwana wakho. Khumbula ukuba nokuba kubonakala ngathi akunangqiqo kuwe, loo mvakalelo yinto umntwana wakho ayivayo ngokwenene .
Yenza imikhwa esempilweni
- Busuku benzolo :Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ulala ngokwaneleyo. Siyacaphuka xa singalali ngokwaneleyo, kwaye kunjalo nangabantwana bethu.
- Ukutya okulungileyo: Nika ukutya okunesondlo. Kunzima kakhulu ukulawula iimvakalelo xa ulambile.
- Ukuzilolonga: Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba adlale aze enze umthambo ubuncinane iyure enye ngosuku. Amandla angaphezulu akhutshwa emzimbeni aya kuyizolisa ingqondo.
Ukuba uthetha nogqirha wakho ngale nto, angakuthumela kwiindlela ezifanelekileyo zonyango zomntwana wakho, ukuba kuyimfuneko. Ngamanye amaxesha iindlela ezifana neCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) okanye iDialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) zinokuba luncedo kakhulu.
Yenza uluhlu lweendlela zokuzola ingqondo yakho (Izakhono Zokujongana Neengxaki)
Xa uziva uxinezelekile okanye unomsindo, yenza uluhlu nomntwana wakho lweendlela zokuzola ngaphandle kokuzilimaza okanye ukwenzakalisa abanye. Ezinye zeendlela zingenziwa ekhaya, ngelixa ezinye zingenziwa ngaphandle, esikolweni.
Nazi izinto ezimbalwa onokuzizama:
- Ukuphefumla nzulu (indlela elula efana nokuphefumla ukubala kane, ukubamba umphefumlo wakho ukubala kasixhenxe, kunye nokuphefumla kancinci ukubala kasibhozo).
- Ukumamela ingoma.
- Ukuzoba into esengqondweni yakho ibe ngumfanekiso.
- Ukubhala phantsi into oyicingayo kwidayari.
- Ukubaleka nokudlala.
- Ukuthetha ngento ekucingayo nomntu omthembayo (umama, utata, umhlobo).
Cinga nangempilo yakho yengqondo.
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuze uncede umntwana wakho, kufuneka uphile kakuhle kuqala. Kunzima ukujongana neemvakalelo zomntwana wakho xa uxinezelekile kwaye unomsindo. Kufana nokuthi xa kukho imeko engxamisekileyo kwinqwelo-moya, "Ngaphambi kokuba uncede abanye, nxiba imaski yakho yeoksijini."
Yenza uluhlu lweendlela zokuzola xa uziva uxinezelekile. Cela uncedo kusapho nakubahlobo xa ulufuna. Ukuba ungajoyina amaqela enkxaso kubazali babantwana abane-ADHD, oko kuya kuba namandla amakhulu kuwe. Kwakhona, ungalibali ukuthetha nogqirha wakho ngale nto kwaye ufumane icebiso lakhe.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Abantwana abane-ADHD banengxaki yokulawula iimvakalelo zabo, kungengenxa yokuba beziphatha kakubi, kodwa ngenxa yokuba bayinxalenye yesifo ngokwaso. Abakwenzi oku ngabom.
- Hlonipha iimvakalelo zomntwana wakho. Mphulaphule ngaphandle kokuzityeshela uze ubuze, "Yintoni leyo?"
- Ukulala kakuhle, ukutya okunesondlo, kunye nokuzilolonga kubalulekile ukuze umntwana alungelelane engqondweni.
- Chonga kunye izakhono ezilula zokumelana neengxaki ezinokunceda umntwana wakho azole xa enomsindo okanye exinezelekile.
- Ukuze uncede umntwana wakho, kufuneka uqale ukhathalele impilo yakho yengqondo.
- Ukuba uneengxaki ngale nto, musa ukubandezeleka wedwa, kodwa qhagamshelana nogqirha wakho wosapho ukuze akunike icebiso.
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