Ngaba umntwana wakho une-ADHD? Ngaba kusenokwenzeka ukuba sisiganeko esibuhlungu (ukwenzakala) esisisizathu?

Ngaba umntwana wakho akaphumli? Ngaba uhlala eshukuma? Ngaba ujikeleza? Okanye akakwazi ukugxila kwinto ethile? Ngaba kunzima ukugxila ngelixa efunda? Into yokuqala efika engqondweni yabazali abaninzi xa bebona ezi mpawu kukuba, "Owu, umntwana wam akazi nokuba une-ADHD." Nangona kunjalo, ayizizo zonke ezi mpawu ezibangelwa yi-ADHD ( Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). Ngamanye amaxesha, emva koku, kukho isiganeko esinzulu nesibuhlungu esichaphazele ingqondo yomntwana. Oko kukuthi, inokuba yintlungu yengqondo.

Yintoni enxulumene ne-ADHD kunye noxinzelelo?

Ngamafutshane, ukwenzakala kobuntwana, okanye oko sikubiza ngokuba yi-Childhood Traumatic Stress , yindlela umntwana asabela ngayo ngokwengqondo kwisiganeko esinzima nesoyikisayo esenzeke kuye okanye asibonileyo sisenzeka komnye umntu. Iziganeko ezinjalo, kanye njengokuba zichaphazela abantu abadala, zinokuba nefuthe elikhulu kwiingqondo zabantwana, iimvakalelo zabo, kunye nokuziphatha kwabo.

Eyona ngxaki inkulu apha kukuba iimpawu ze-ADHD nezomntwana onesifo sengqondo ziyafana kangangokuba ngamanye amaxesha noogqirha banobunzima bokwahlula phakathi kwezi meko zimbini.

Makhe sijonge ezinye zeempawu eziqhelekileyo ezinokubonwa kwezi meko zombini.

Uphando lufumanise ukuba abantwana abafunyaniswe bene-ADHD banamathuba amaninzi okufumana ingozi kunabantwana abangenayo le meko. Izazinzulu zifumanise nokuba zombini i-ADHD kunye nengozi zichaphazela iindawo ezifanayo zobuchopho bethu: i-prefrontal cortex kunye ne -temporal cortex, ezilawula iimvakalelo zethu, iminqweno, kunye nokwenza izigqibo.

Zeziphi iziganeko ezinokubangela 'ukwenzakala kwengqondo' emntwaneni?

Zininzi iziganeko ezinokuba nefuthe elikhulu engqondweni kubantu abadala nakubantwana. Ezinye zazo zicacile kuthi, ngelixa ezinye zisenokufihlwa engqondweni yomntwana.

• Iingozi okanye ukwenzakala okukhulu: Into efana nokuwa kakubi, ingozi yemoto.
• Iimeko zempilo ezisongela ubomi: Isifo esibi esichaphazela umntwana okanye ilungu losapho.
• Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwesondo: Le yenye yezona zinto zimbi umntwana anokuhlangabezana nazo.
• Ukuzibonela ubundlobongela: Iingxabano ezinobundlobongela ekhaya, ukuhlaselwa, okanye iziganeko zobundlobongela ezibonwa ngaphandle.
• Ukungahoywa okanye ukushiywa: Ukungafumani uthando olufunekayo kunye nenkathalo evela kubazali. (Umzekelo, umntwana uziva enesizungu kwaye elahliwe kuba abazali befudukele kwelinye ilizwe).
• Ukufa komntu omthandayo: Ukulahlekelwa ngumntu ofana nomama, utata, umntakwenu okanye utatomkhulu.
• Iintlekele zemvelo: Ukujongana nezinto ezifana nezikhukula kunye nokudilika komhlaba.
• Uqhawulo-mtshato okanye ukwahlukana kwabazali.
• Ubuhlwempu: Uxinzelelo lwengqondo olubangelwa ziingxaki zemali kusapho.

Uyazi njani ukuba le yingxaki ye-ADHD okanye yingxaki yempilo yengqondo?

Ngamanye amaxesha kuyacaca ukuba umntwana ukhe wehlelwa sisiganeko esibuhlungu. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana ukhe wenziwa utyando olukhulu okanye waba sengozini yemoto, uyazi ngaloo nto.

Kodwa akusoloko kucacile kangako. Mhlawumbi umntwana uxhatshazwa ngabanye abantwana esikolweni, okanye kukho umntu omxhaphaze ngokwesondo. Abantwana abathethi lula ngezi zinto.

Ugqirha wakho.Musa ukulindela ukuva yonke into uze ufumane impendulo. Ayingabo bonke oogqirha ababuza abantwana ngempilo yabo yengqondo okanye iinkcukacha zasekhaya. Ngoko ke, ukujonga kwakho nokungenelela kwakho njengomzali kubaluleke kakhulu.

Unganceda njani njengomzali?

Ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki yokwenzakala, uthando lwakho, inkxaso yakho kunye nenkathalo zezona ndlela zilungileyo anokuzifumana. Nazi ezinye zezinto onokuzenza.

Chonga izinto ezibangela ukuziphatha komntwana wakho.

Ngamanye amaxesha, nezinto eziqhelekileyo zinokubangela ukwenzakala komntwana. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana ubukele isiganeko sobundlobongela kumabonwakude aze asibukele kwakhona, usenokucaphuka aze aqale ukukhala. Chonga izinto ezibangela ukuba umntwana wakho aphazamiseke kwaye aphazamiseke , kwaye uzame ukumgcina kude naye.

Hlala nomntwana, mqonde.

Ubukho bakho ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo bubaluleke kakhulu kumntwana oxinezelekileyo. Banokwenza ngendlela ebahlukanisa nabanye. Kodwa yiba nomonde . Banike inkuthazo, intuthuzelo, kunye nengqalelo eyakhayo.

Hlala uzolile kwaye umhloniphe umntwana.

Xa umntwana wakho ecaphukile, musa ukucaphuka. Musa ukukhwaza. Hlala uzolile . Qonda iimvakalelo zakhe. Mthuthuzele ngokuthi, "Ndiyaqonda ukuba uyoyika," "Ndilapha ngenxa yakho." Musa ukwenza izithembiso zobuxoki. Ungaze usebenzise isohlwayo esingokomzimba. Endaweni yoko, beka imida ecacileyo kwaye uncome ukuziphatha okuhle.

Nceda umntwana aphumle.

Fundisa umntwana wakho indlela yokuphefumla ngokufanelekileyo. Mvumele amamele umculo othomalalisayo awuthandayo. Ziqhelise ukuthetha amazwi aqinisekisayo afana nokuthi "Ndikhuselekile," "Wonke umntu uyandithanda," amaxesha amaninzi ngemini.

Yenza inkqubo ehambelanayo

Abantwana baziva bekhuselekile ngakumbi xa besazi yonke into kwangaphambili. Misela iinkqubo ezifanayo zezinto ezifana namaxesha okutya kunye nexesha lokulala. Ukuba uza kutshintsha ezo nkqubo, mxelele umntwana wakho ngazo kwangaphambili.

Mnike umntwana ulawulo oluthile.

Kubalulekile ukuvumela umntwana wakho azive ngathi unolawulo oluthile ebomini bakhe. Mvumele enze izigqibo ezincinci, ezifanelekileyo ngokweminyaka yakhe. Mvumele akhethe izinto ezincinci ezifana nokuthi "Uza kutya ntoni kwisidlo sangokuhlwa ngokuhlwanje?" okanye "Uza kunxiba ilokhwe eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka okanye ilokhwe epinki namhlanje?"

Kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo lweengcali.

Nokuba wenza konke oku, ukuba iimpawu zomntwana wakho ziyaqhubeka kangangeeveki ezimbalwa, okanye ukuba ziya zisiba mandundu, kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha ngoko nangoko . Ukuze wenze oku, bonana nomcebisi okanye ugqirha wengqondo ogxile kwimpilo yengqondo yomntwana. Banokucebisa unyango lokuziphatha okanye, ukuba kuyimfuneko , amayeza.Ziqondise ngendlela efanelekileyo kwizinto ezinje. Khumbula, akukho nto inokubangela iintloni ngokucela uncedo kwimeko enje.

Ungalibali, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzikhathalela nawe!

Akulula kubazali ukunyamekela umntwana ojongene nexesha elinzima kangaka. Oku kungayichaphazela impilo yakho yengqondo. Uxinzelelo oluye lwafunyanwa ngumntwana wakho lunokukuchaphazela nawe. Oku sikubiza ngokuba yi -secondary trauma . Ezi ngcebiso ziya kukunceda uhlale uqinile.

• Zinike ixesha lokwenza izinto ozithandayo nezikuzisela uvuyo.
• Musa ukuyithatha njengento embi umntwana wakho ayiphathayo. Qonda ukuba yinxalenye yesifo sakhe.
• Ukuba ubona nokuba kukho inkqubela encinci kwindlela umntwana wakho aziphethe ngayo, yibhiyozele loo nto. Mdumise.
• Funa inkxaso kusapho, kubahlobo, okanye, ukuba kuyimfuneko, kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo.