Ngaba umntwana wakho uyoyika ukuya esikolweni? Ngaba oku kubizwa ngokuba yiScolionophobia? Masithethe ngayo!

Ngaba umntwana wakho omncinci ubonakala engafuni ukuya esikolweni? Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha uyakhala athi, "Owu, Mama/Tata, andinakuya esikolweni namhlanje?" Ukungafuni okuncinci kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Kodwa oku akukokungathandi nje kuphela, kwabanye abantwana, ingcinga yokuya esikolweni ibangela uloyiko olukhulu kunye nexhala. Le meko ibizwa ngokuba yi-'Scolionophobia' okanye uloyiko olukhulu lwesikolo. Nangona ingesiso isifo esikwi-'DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders)', oogqirha bayijonga njengento ewela phantsi koluhlu lwe-'phobias' ezithile.

Kukho amaxesha amaninzi apho abantwana abancinci bengafuni ukuya esikolweni. Oku kuqhelekile. Kodwa kule meko ibizwa ngokuba yi-'Scolionophobia', umntwana uziva engakhuselekanga kwaye exhalabile nokuba ucinga ngokuya esikolweni. Ngamanye amaxesha ide ibe buhlungu emzimbeni. Umntwana onjalo usenokungayi esikolweni iintsuku ezininzi ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacileyo, okanye ngezizathu ezingaziwayo. Oku kukwabizwa ngokuba yi-'school phobia' okanye 'ukwala isikolo'. Elinye igama yi-'didaskaleinophobia'. Le meko inokunxulunyaniswa nezinye 'iingxaki zokuxhalaba'.

Ngoko ke, ngubani onokoyika ukuya kwesi sikolo?

Ngokwesiqhelo phakathi kweenyanga ezili-18 nezingama-24 ubudala, oko kukuthi, malunga nonyaka onesiqingatha ukuya kwiminyaka emibini, abantwana abancinci kakhulu baba "nexhala lokuhlukana." Oku kuthetha ukuba bayakhala, bayaphazamiseka, baze boyike xa behlukene nonina, utata, okanye umntu obanyamekelayo. Nangona kunjalo, le meko idla ngokunyamalala njengoko abantwana bekhula. Ukuba iyenzeka, banokuba ne-"scolionophobia."

Ukujonga phambili, olu hlobo lwabantwana lunokoyika ukuya esikolweni:

• Ukuba abazali bakhusela ngokugqithisileyo: Abanye abazali badla ngokubakhusela ngokugqithisileyo abantwana babo nakwizinto ezincinci. Oku kunokubangela le meko.
• Abanye abantwana bazalwa bexhalabile kancinci: yindalo yabo leyo.
• Ukuba nguwe wedwa umntwana kusapho.
• Ukuba ungumntwana omncinci kusapho.
• Ukuba unesifo esingapheliyo.

Khawucinge nje, unyana kaNimali, uSandun omncinci. Nguye kuphela umntwana kusapho. Bobabini umama noyise bayamthanda kakhulu kwaye bamnyamekela njengosana. USandan ebesoyika kancinci ukususela ebuntwaneni bakhe. Xa waqala ukuya esikolweni, wayekhala qho kusasa, esithi, "Isisu sam sibuhlungu, mama." Kuphela xa wayesibonisa ugqirha apho kwaqondakala ukuba uSandun wayenoloyiko lokuya esikolweni.

Ubona uloyiko olungakanani lokuya esikolweni?

Olu "loyiko lwasesikolweni" luchaphazela phakathi kwe -2% kunye ne-5% yabantwana. Oko kuthetha ukuba, ukuba kuthethwa nje, malunga nomnye kubantwana abangama-20 unokuba nale meko.

Oku kubonakala kakhulu:

• Phakathi kwabantwana abancinci, malunga neminyaka emi-5-6 ubudala.
• Phakathi kwabantwana abakwiminyaka yesikolo samabanga aphakathi, abaneminyaka eli-10-11 ubudala. (Oko kuthetha ukuba baneminyaka emihlanu okanye emithandathu ubudala)

Kwakhona, iimpawu zeScolionophobia zinokubonakala ngamaxesha otshintsho olukhulu ebomini bomntwana, njengaxa umntwana eqala isikolo samabanga aphakamileyo.

Kutheni olu loyiko lokuya esikolweni lukhula? Zithini izizathu?

Ngamanye amaxesha, kusenokungabikho sizathu sicacileyo sale meko, "i-Scolionophobia." Nangona kunjalo, iingxaki esikolweni okanye ekhaya zinokubangela umntwana ukuba azive exhalabile okanye esoyika isikolo.

Iziphumo zemeko-bume yasekhaya:

Abantwana abane-Scolionophobia banokujamelana neengxaki ezifana nezi ekhaya:

• Uloyiko lobundlobongela ekhaya okanye kwindawo abakuyo: Ngamanye amaxesha umntwana unokoyika xa ebona ukulwa ekhaya, okanye ngenxa yezinto ezimbi ezenzekayo kufutshane naye.
• Iingxaki zoqoqosho: Xa kukho iingxaki zemali ekhaya, nabantwana bayaziva.
• Ukunqongophala kokutya nokusela: Ukungafumani ukutya okwaneleyo nokusela nako kunokubangela uxinzelelo olukhulu.
• Ukungabikho kwendlu efanelekileyo okanye ukungabi namakhaya.
• Ukungahoywa ngokupheleleyo ngabazali okanye ngabanakekeli: Ukuba bobabini abazali basemsebenzini, akukho xesha lokuthetha nomntwana okanye ukumbuza imibuzo yakhe. Khawucinge nje, abazali bakaKasun basebenza ukususela kusasa kude kube sebusuku. UKasun akanamntu anokwabelana naye ngeentlungu zakhe.
• Utshintsho olukhulu kusapho: Izinto ezifana nokufuduka kwendlu, abazali abaqhawula umtshato, okanye umntu ofayo.

Iziphumo zemeko-bume yesikolo:

Abantwana banokuba ne-'Scolionophobia' emva kokufumana olu hlobo lwamava esikolweni:

• Ukuxhaphaza, ukugculelwa, okanye ukoyikiswa ngokwasemzimbeni ngabanye abantwana: Abanye abantwana bayabagculela, babasongele, okanye bazame ukubetha abanye. Oku kunokwenza umntwana oyike ukuya esikolweni.
• Uloyiko lokugxekwa, ukohlwaywa, okanye ukugculelwa ngootitshala okanye ngabasebenzi besikolo: Umntwana unokuba noloyiko olufana nokuthi "Utitshala uza kundithethisa," okanye "Utitshala uza kundibetha."
• Ubunzima bokufunda: Umzekelo, abantwana abaneengxaki ezifana ne-dyslexia (ubunzima bokufunda nolwimi) okanye i-dyscalculia (ubunzima bokuqonda amanani kunye nezibalo) banokuba nexhala ngenxa yobunzima ngomsebenzi wesikolo.
• Ukuxhalaba okanye ukoyika kakhulu iintlekele ezinkulu: Umzekelo, ukoyika into efana nokudutyulwa esikolweni. Nangona izinto ezinjalo zingaqhelekanga kwilizwe lethu, abantwana banokoyika ngenxa yezinto abazibonayo ezindabeni.

Ukuba uyoyika ukuya esikolweni, zithini iimpawu?

Kubantwana abaninzi abane-Scolionophobia, iimpawu eziphambili zezomzimba . Xa ecinga ngokuya esikolweni, umntwana unokufumana oku kulandelayo:

• Urhudo.
• Intloko ebuhlungu.
• Isicaphucaphu nokuhlanza.
• Isisu esibuhlungu.
• Ukungcangcazela okanye ukungcangcazela okungalawulekiyo.

Ezi mpawu zomzimba ziyinyani. Umntwana akenzi nto. Uloyiko olusentliziyweni yakhe lubangela ezi ngxaki zomzimba.

Abantwana banokuba neempawu zempilo yengqondo . Umzekelo:

• Ukubambelela: Ukoyika ukushiya abazali okanye abanakekeli. Ukusoloko uzama ukuba nabo.
• Uloyiko lobumnyama.
• Amaphupha amabi.
• Ukuhlala uxhalabele ukhuseleko lwakho okanye lwabanye abantu.
• Izinto ezinje ngokuzibhokoxa, ukukhwaza, nokuqengqeleka phantsi ('Tantrums').

Umzekelo, intombi ka-Amaya, uMihri. Yonke imihla xa eza kuya esikolweni, uthi, "Owu, isisu sam sibuhlungu," kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ude ahlanze. Xa efika ekhaya evela esikolweni, uphilile. Ezi ziimpawu zomzimba azikhankanyileyo.

Ugqirha uyibona njani le nto?

Akukho migaqo ithile yokuxilonga i-'Scolionophobia'. Oko kukuthi, akukho luhlu luchanekileyo lwe-"ukuba unale mpawu, unesi sifo."

Ukuze aqonde isizathu esiyintloko sokwala komntwana wakho ukuya esikolweni, ugqirha unokubuza wena okanye umntwana wakho izinto ezifana nezi:

• Zithini iimpawu zomntwana wakho?
• Ziqale nini ezi mpawu?
• Zingakanani ixesha ezi mpawu zikhona?
• Ingaba ezi mpawu ziyanda ngenxa yesiganeko esithile okanye into eyenzekileyo kumntu othile?
• Yintoni onokuyenza ukunciphisa ezi mpawu?

Ngokusekelwe kwiimpendulo zale mibuzo, ugqirha umisela ukuba umntwana unesifo esinjani.

Ngoko ke, uyiphatha njani le nto?

Abantwana abaneempawu ezincinci zeScolionophobia banokoyisa uloyiko lwabo lwesikolo, mhlawumbi ngoncedo lwabazali babo okanye utitshala.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba iimpawu zinzima , okanye ukuba zidibene nenye imeko yempilo yengqondo, abantwana banokungenelwa kunyango olufana nolu:

• Unyango lokuthetha:
• Unyango Lokuziphatha Oluqondayo (CBT): Oku kudla ngokubizwa ngokuba "lunyango lokuthetha." Kubandakanya ukunceda umntwana ukuba abone iingcinga ezingachanekanga nezingeluncedo. Emva koko, ingcali yezonyango ifundisa umntwana indlela yokutshintsha ezo ngcinga zingachanekanga ngeengcinga ezichanekileyo nezinengqondo. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana ucinga, "Utitshala wam uhlala endithethisa," ingcali yezonyango inceda umntwana ukuba ahlole ukuba oko kuyinyani na kwaye kutheni kunjalo.
• Unyango Lokuziphatha Kwe-Dialectical (DBT): Kolu nyango lwe-DBT, abantwana bafundiswa izakhono ezine zokubanceda bajongane neemvakalelo ezinzima. Ingcali yezonyango ifundisa umntwana izakhono ezibini ezigxile ekwamkeleni kunye nezakhono ezibini ezigxile kutshintsho. Injongo kukunceda umntwana aqonde indlela iingcinga zakhe ezichaphazela ngayo ukuziphatha kwakhe. Ngolu lwazi, banokulawula ngcono iimvakalelo zabo ezimbi kunye nolwalamano lwabo nabanye.

• Unyango lokubonakalisa umntwana ukuba unesifo: Oku kuquka ukumtyhila kancinci kancinci kwinto ayoyikayo. Okokuqala, ungaqala ngokumenza acinge ngento eza kwenzeka esikolweni. Kancinci kancinci, ujongene nolo loyiko. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana uyoyika ukuya esangweni lesikolo, qala ujonge esangweni ukude, uze ngosuku olulandelayo, usondele kancinci, kwaye ngale ndlela, uloyiko luya kuncipha kancinci kancinci.

• Amayeza: Amayeza anokunceda, ingakumbi ukuba umntwana wakho unenye ingxaki yempilo yengqondo. Umzekelo, abantwana banokunikwa amayeza okudakumba abizwa ngokuba yiSelective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs). Ii-SSRI, ezifana neSertraline (Zoloft®) okanye iFluoxetine (Prozac®), zinokunyanga isifo sokuxhalaba esingaphantsi. Kodwa khumbula, la mayeza kufuneka anikwe kuphela phantsi kweliso likagqirha.

Okubaluleke kakhulu: Zonke ezi ndlela zonyango maziqhutywe phantsi kolwalathiso logqirha ofanelekileyo okanye umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo . Musa ukwenza nantoni na ovakalelwa kukuba ufuna ukuyenza.

Ngaba kukho ezinye iimeko ezinxulumene nolu loyiko lokuya esikolweni?

Ewe. Abantwana abaneengxaki zokuxhalaba okanye ezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo banamathuba amaninzi okuba nale ndlela yokwala esikolweni. Abantwana abane-scolionophobia banokuba nenye okanye ngaphezulu kwezi zilandelayo:

• Uxinzelelo.
• Ingxaki Yokuxhalaba Okuqhelekileyo (i-GAD).
• Ingxaki Yokungaziphathi Kakubi (OCD). (Usenokukhumbula ukuba sithethe ngale nto kwinqaku elidlulileyo.)
• Ingxaki yokungavumi ukuchasana nemigaqo.
• Ingxaki Yoxinzelelo Emva Kwengozi (PTSD).
• Ingxaki Yokuxhalaba Kwentlalo.

Ngoko ke, ukuba umntwana uyoyika ukuya esikolweni, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphanda ukuba ingaba unobangela yenye imeko efana nale.

Umntwana wam angaloyisa njani uloyiko lwakhe lokuya kwesi sikolo?

Xa befumana unyango olufanelekileyo, abantwana abaninzi bayawoyisa uloyiko lwabo lwesikolo. Kwabanye, ixhala elinxulumene nesikolo alipheli ngokupheleleyo, kodwa bafunda ukuphila nalo.

Kunye nalo naluphi na unyango olusemthethweni, abantwana banokufunda iindlela zokujongana neengxaki zokunciphisa ixhala, ezifana nezi:

• Ukufunda iindlela zokucamngca okanye zokucamngca: Ezi zinokunceda ekunciphiseni uxinzelelo. Kukho iindlela ezilula zokucamngca kwiYouTube ezinokwenziwa ngabantwana abancinci.
• Ukuziqhelanisa nokwenza umthambo wokuphefumla: Ukuphefumla nzulu nokuphefumla kancinci kunokunceda ukuzola ingqondo.
• Ukuphinda amazwi aqinisekisayo (`izivumo`): Ukutsho izinto ezinje ngokuthi "Ndingakwazi", "Ndinamandla", "Ndiza kudlula kule nto".

Izinto onokuzenza njengabazali:

• Mamela umntwana wakho: Mamela ngomonde oko kuthethwa ngumntwana wakho. Musa ukuthetha izinto ezinje, "Yintoni leyo, musa ukuxoka."
• Mqonde umntwana: Yamkela ukuba uloyiko lwakhe luyinyani.
• Thetha nootitshala: Yazisa ootitshala esikolweni uze ufumane inkxaso yabo.
• Zibekele usukelo oluncinci nomntwana wakho: Musa ukulindela izinto ezinkulu ngaxeshanye. Zithathe inyathelo elinye ngexesha.
• Funa ingcebiso kagqirha: Ukuba unengxaki, qiniseka ukuba ubona ugqirha okanye umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo .

Ndingambuza ntoni ugqirha womntwana wam?

Ungabuza ugqirha womntwana wakho izinto ezifana nezi:

• Sesiphi isizathu esinokwenzeka sokuba umntwana wam angavumi ukuya esikolweni?
• Ngaba umntwana wam unesifo sengqondo esixhalabisayo?
• Ngaba umntwana wam angazuza ngokubona ingcali yezonyango?
• Ndingamnceda njani umntwana wam ukuba oyise olu loyiko lwesikolo?

Ngokubuza le mibuzo, uya kukwazi ukuqonda ngcono imeko kwaye ufumane eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokunceda umntwana wakho.

Uyoyika ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo?

Ewe. Abanye abantwana banoloyiko olukhulu lokwenza umsebenzi wesikolo, njengomsebenzi wesikolo wasekhaya. Olu loyiko lomsebenzi wesikolo lubizwa ngokuba yi -devwahrphobia . Xa abantwana abane-devwahrphobia benikwa umsebenzi omninzi esikolweni, banokufumana uloyiko okanye ezinye iimpawu zokuxhalaba okukhulu. Le yimeko efuna ingqalelo, njenge-scolionophobia.

Ngoko ke, zeziphi izinto esifanele sizikhumbule kweli bali?

I-Scolionophobia luloyiko olukhulu lwesikolo. Nangona ingelulo uxilongo olusemthethweni, iingcali ezininzi ziyijonga njengoloyiko oluthile. Abanye abantwana abane-Scolionophobia bafumana uloyiko olukhulu xa becinga ngokuya esikolweni. Basenokungayi esikolweni iintsuku ezininzi ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacileyo.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuqonda ukuba oku akuyongxaki yomntwana okanye yinto ayenzile ngabom.

Ukuba umntwana uneempawu ezingephi, ixhala elinxulumene nesikolo linokunciphisa ngoncedo lotitshala okanye umzali. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba iimpawu zinzima, aba bantwana banokuncedwa ngonyango kwaye, ukuba kuyimfuneko, amayeza anikwe ngugqirha.

Ukuba umntwana wakho unale ngxaki, ungaze umshiye yedwa. Funa ingcebiso kagqirha. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukunika umntwana wakho uthando, ukuqonda, kunye nenkxaso.

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