Ngaba umhlobo wakho okanye ilungu losapho lwakho linxiba iimpahla ezinemikhono emide ngaphandle kwesizathu? Ngaba ukhe waphawula amanxeba okanye iziphene emzimbeni wakhe? Mhlawumbi loo mntu uyazilimaza. Le yingongoma ebucayi kakhulu kwaye kunzima ukuyithetha. Kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthetha ngayo kwaye uyiqaphele. Kuba eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokunceda umntu onengxaki yoku kukuqonda kakuhle imeko.
Yintoni kanye kanye "Ukuzilimaza"?
Ngamafutshane, ukuzenzakalisa kukwenzakalisa ngabom umzimba womntu . Oku kudla ngokubangela ukuba ulusu luqhekeke okanye lonakale. Umntu owenza oku udla ngokwenza oku eyedwa, ngasese kwabanye. Bazama konke okusemandleni abo ukufihla indlela abaziphatha ngayo kwabanye.
Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zinokuza ngeendlela ezininzi. Umzekelo:
- Ukusika ulusu ngento ebukhali.
- Ukutsha kwezinto ezishushu.
- Ukukrwela nokukhuhla amanxeba esikhumba ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukuze angapholi.
- Ukutsala iinwele (oku kukwabizwa ngokuba yi-"Trichotillomania" ngokwemigaqo yezonyango).
- Ukubetheka intloko yakho eludongeni okanye kwezinye izinto.
- Ukuhlasela wena.
- Izenzo zobundlobongela ezifana nokuphula amathambo.
Ngubani ochaphazeleka kakhulu yile meko?
Le meko inokwenzeka nakubani na wanoma yimuphi ubudala, isini, okanye uhlanga. Imfundo, imeko yoluntu, okanye unqulo azibalulekanga koku. Nangona kunjalo, kukho izinto eziqhelekileyo ezinokubonwa kubantu abathambekele kakhulu kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha. Makhe sibone ukuba ziyintoni na.
| Into Engumngcipheko | Ingcaciso elula |
|---|---|
| Amantombazana amancinci | Le meko ixhaphake kakhulu phakathi kwamantombazana aselula. |
| Abo baxhatshazwayo besengabantwana | Lo mngcipheko uphezulu kwabo babexhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwengqondo, okanye ngokwesondo besengabantwana. |
| Abantu abanezinye iingxaki zengqondo | Le meko inokwenzeka nakubantu abanezinye iingxaki ezifana nokusebenzisa kakubi iziyobisi, i-OCD, kunye neengxaki zokutya. |
| Abo babengavumelekanga ukuveza iimvakalelo zabo | Kwabo bakhulele kwiintsapho apho kwakufuneka bagcine iimvakalelo ezifana nomsindo kunye nosizi zifihliwe kwasebuntwaneni kwaye babengavunyelwa ukuba bazikhuphe. |
| Abantu abanonxibelelwano oluphantsi nabantu | Abo bangaziyo indlela yokuchaza iimvakalelo zabo ngamazwi, bazive ngathi akukho mntu unokubanceda, kwaye abanalo uthungelwano lwabahlobo abalungileyo. |
Kutheni umntu ezilimaza?
Le yinto enzima ukuyiqonda kumntu ojonge ngaphandle. Usenokucinga, "Kutheni uzilimaza?" Kodwa emva kwaloo ndlela yokuziphatha kukho intlungu yengqondo enzulu nenganyamezelekiyo. Cinga ngebhakethi egcwele amanzi. Xa iphuphuma kwaye ungakwazi ukufaka amanye amanzi, yiloo ndlela intlungu evakala ngayo. Abanye abantu benza oku njengendlela yokukhulula loo ntlungu iseleyo.
Kunokubakho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zoku:
- Njengendlela yokunciphisa okwethutyana iimvakalelo ezixinezelekileyo, uxinzelelo kunye nexhala .
- Qinisekisa ukuba 'uyaphila' kwaye 'uziva' into ethile.
- Lawula umnqweno wokulimaza omnye umntu, endaweni yoko uzilimaze.
- Ukukhetha ukuva intlungu yomzimba kunentlungu yeemvakalelo.
- Ukudala intlungu onokuyilawula (ngokuchaseneyo nentlungu engalawulekiyo, efana nokuxhatshazwa kwabantwana).
- Yaphula ukudinwa ngokweemvakalelo.
- Njengendlela engangqalanga yokucela uncedo . Fumana ingqalelo ofuna uncedo ngayo.
- Ngelinge lokukhohlisa abanye, ukubenza bazive benetyala, okanye ukubagcina kude nabo.
Abantu abaninzi bayayibhidanisa le nto nokuziphatha ngokuzibulala. Nangona kunjalo , ukuzenzakalisa akwenziwa ngenjongo yokuzibulala. Yindlela engalunganga yokujongana nentlungu yengqondo enganyamezelekiyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba le meko iba mandundu, amathuba okwenzakalisa ubomi akanakucinywa.
Zithini iimpawu ezilumkisayo?
Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umhlobo wakho usenokuba unesifo esinjalo, hlala ujonge ezi mpawu.
| Isilumkiso | Oko uza kukubona |
|---|---|
| Iimpawu eziphambili zokuziphatha nezomzimba | |
| Ukulimala okungachazwanga | Xa ebuzwa ngamanxeba kunye nokutsha emzimbeni wakhe, akaniki mpendulo icacileyo. |
| Ukugquma umzimba ngeempahla | Nokuba kushushu kakhulu, ndinxiba impahla enemikhono emide kunye neebhulukhwe ezinde (ukuze ndigqume amabala). |
| Ukuba nezinto ezingaqhelekanga | Izinto ezibukhali/ezishushu ezifana neeblade, iireyiza, kunye nezikhanyisi zifunyanwa ngokungalindelekanga phakathi kwezinto zaloo mntu. |
| Iimpawu zengqondo nezentlalo | |
| Ukuzijongela phantsi | Bathetha kakubi ngabo kwaye bacinga ukuba abafanelekanga. |
| Ubunzima bokulawula iimvakalelo | Kunzima ukujongana neemvakalelo, ucaphuka lula, kwaye uzive ulusizi. |
| Iingxaki kubudlelwane | Ubudlelwane nabahlobo kunye nosapho budla ngokuba yingxaki. |
| Ukuphazamiseka kwemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla | Awukwazi ukwenza imisebenzi yakho ngokufanelekileyo emsebenzini, esikolweni, okanye ekhaya. |
Iphathwa njani le nto?
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuqonda ukuba le asiyonto onokuyisombulula wedwa. Kubalulekile ukubona ugqirha, ingakumbi ugqirha wengqondo okanye umcebisi. Akukho sizathu sokuba neentloni okanye uloyiko.
Ugqirha uza kuqala athethe nawe ukuze afumanise ukuba yintoni ebangela le meko kwaye ingaba luphawu lwesinye isifo sengqondo. Umzekelo, isenokuba luphawu lwenye yezi meko zilandelayo:
- Iingxaki zobuntu (ingakumbi `iBorderline Personality Disorder`)
- Ukuxhuzula
- Uxinzelelo Olukhulu
- Iingxaki zokuxhalaba I-Schizophrenia-yeemvakalelo `(Schizophrenia)`
Ezi zilandelayo zisetyenziswa kakhulu njengonyango:
Iindlela eziphambili zonyango
- Unyango lwengqondo: Olu lolona hlobo luphambili lonyango. Uza kufundiswa indlela yokujongana neemvakalelo zakho ngendlela ephilileyo ngokuthetha ngento esengqondweni yakho, izizathu zokuziphatha kwakho, kunye nendlela yokujongana neemvakalelo zakho ngendlela ephilileyo.
- Iindlela zonyango ezithile: Unyango olufana ne-`CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)` lukunceda ukuba uqaphele ezi mvakalelo xa zivela kwaye ufunde ukuzisingatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo. I-`DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy)` ikwalunyango olusebenzayo kakhulu.
- Unyango lweQela: Ukuthetha nabanye abaneengxaki ezifanayo nezakho kunokunciphisa iintloni kunye nobulolo, kwaye kunike inkxaso kwabanye.
- Unyango Losapho: Ukubandakanya amalungu osapho, ukubanceda baqonde imeko kwaye banxibelelane ngcono.
- Amayeza: Ngamanye amaxesha, ugqirha wakho unokukunika amayeza okudakumba okanye amanye amayeza ukunceda ukulawula iimeko ezingaphantsi ezifana nokudakumba kunye nokuxhalaba. Uphando lukwafumanise ukuba amayeza afana neNaltrexone anokunceda abanye abantu.
- Ezinye iindlela: Iindlela zokuphumla ezifana ne-hypnosis zinokunceda ekunciphiseni uxinzelelo lwengqondo oluvela ngaphambi koku.
Ngonyango olufanelekileyo, ungaphila ngokupheleleyo kule meko. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukufumana unobangela wengqondo obangela le ndlela yokuziphatha uze uyinyange. Ke ngoko, inyathelo lokuqala nelibalulekileyo kukucela uncedo ngaphandle kokuba neentloni okanye ukoyika.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukuzilimaza asikokuzama ukuzibulala. Yindlela ephosakeleyo yokujongana nentlungu enganyamezelekiyo.
- Ukuba umntu uphethwe yile meko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukumphulaphula ngobubele nangokuqonda, ngaphandle kokumgweba.
- Lumka ngeempawu ezilumkisayo, njengokunxiba impahla ende nokuba kushushu kwaye ube namanxeba angachazekiyo emzimbeni wakho.
- Le asinto ingasonjululwa wedwa. Kubalulekile ukufuna iingcebiso kugqirha okanye kugqirha wengqondo ofanelekileyo ngoko nangoko.
- Ngonyango olufanelekileyo kunye nenkxaso, ungaphila ngokupheleleyo kule meko kwaye uphile ubomi obusempilweni.
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