Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha uziva uxinezelekile bubomi, ngokungathi akukho nto ihamba kakuhle? Awuwedwa ovakalelwa ngolu hlobo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, ezi ngcinga zinokude zibhekisele ekuzibulaleni. Le yingongoma enzima, edla ngokubekwa ibala, kodwa ukuyixoxa ngokukhululekileyo kubalulekile. Nceda wazi ukuba awuwedwa, kwaye uncedo luyafumaneka.
Kukuthini ukuzibulala?
Ngamafutshane, ukuzibulala sisenzo sokuzibangela ngabom ukufa komntu. Kunokuchaphazela abantu bayo nayiphi na iminyaka, imvelaphi, okanye imeko yakhe yentlalo. Ungabonakala uphilile ngaphandle ngelixa ulwa neengcinga ezinzulu zokuphelisa ubomi bakho ngaphakathi. Ungaziva ngathi ufikelele kwinqanaba eliphezulu. Nokuba imeko yakho injani na, ukufumana iingcinga eziphindaphindiweyo zokuzibulala luphawu lokuba usemngciphekweni.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ukuba ucinga ngokuzibulala , ukhe wazama, okanye wazi umntu oye wafa ngenxa yoko, nceda wazi ukuba uncedo luyafumaneka nokuba imeko yakho injani na.
Zithini Iimpawu Ezilumkiso Zokuzibulala?
Ukuzibulala akusoloko kuza neempawu ezicacileyo zesilumkiso; ngamanye amaxesha, kunokwenzeka ngequbuliso ngaphandle kwezinto ezibonakala ngathi zibalulekile. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iimpawu zesilumkiso eziqhelekileyo ekufuneka uziqaphele:
- Ingcinga Yokuzibulala : Ukuhlala ucinga ngokufuna ukuzibulala.
- Injongo yokunxibelelana: Ukuthetha iingcinga ezinje ngokuthi “Ndifuna ukufa.”
- Imfihlo: Ukufihla ezi ngcinga zinzima kubo bonke abantu.
- Ukulungiselela: Ukubhala incwadi yelifa, ukunika abantu izinto ezixabisekileyo, ukuvalelisa abantu obathandayo, ukucoca imicimbi yobuqu, okanye ukuphanda/ukufumana iindlela zokubulala.
- Ukuziphatha ngokungakhathali okanye okuyingozi: Ukubandakanyeka kwizenzo ezingxamisekileyo, ezifana nokuzilimaza .
- Ukurhoxa: Ukuzikhupha kubantu obathandayo nakwimibuthano yoluntu.
- Ukuziva ngathi uthwele umthwalo: Ukubonisa inkolelo yokuba abanye bangaphila ubomi obungcono ngaphandle kwakho, okanye ukuziva uvaleleke kwimeko engenakuphepheka.
- Ukutshintshatshintsha kweemvakalelo: Ukuphazamiseka ngequbuliso, ixhala, umsindo, ukudakumba , okanye intlungu enzulu yeemvakalelo .
- Ukuzola ngequbuliso: Umoya woxolo ubonakala ngequbuliso emva kwexesha elide lokuphazamiseka kweemvakalelo.
- Iimpawu zokudakumba eziya zisiba mandundu : Utshintsho kwiindlela zokulala (ukulala kakhulu okanye kancinci kakhulu) okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwimisebenzi oqhele ukuyonwabela.
Ukuba ubona ezi mpawu zilumkisayo, ungathandabuzi ukufuna uncedo. Kusenokuba nzima, kodwa ukuthatha elo nyathelo kunokusindisa ubomi bakho.
Zithini iiNombolo zoKhuseleko loKuzibulala?
E-United States, ungaqhagamshelana nabo ukuze ufumane inkxaso ngokukhawuleza ngokufowunela okanye uthumele umyalezo ku- 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) . Ungaqhagamshelana nabo ukuba:
- Ukuba neengcinga zokuzibulala, ukuzenzakalisa , okanye ukwenzakalisa abanye.
- Ukuziva uxinezelekile, ukhathazekile, okanye ukuba nosuku olunzima kakhulu.
- Ukujongana nengxaki ekhawulezileyo.
- Ukulwa nemiba enxulumene nobuni bakho besini , okanye ukuba ngumntu otshintshe isini okanye ongengomntu othanda izinto ezimbini.
- Ukuziva ucinezelwe kukungabikho kwemali, indawo yokuhlala, okanye ukutya.
- Ukufuna umntu onokuthetha naye, okanye ukuziva ungakwazi ukumelana wedwa.
- Ndixhalabele umntu endimthandayo kwaye ndifuna iingcebiso.
Xa ufowunela u-988 e-US, inethiwekhi yabacebisi abaqeqeshiweyo ikulungele ukukunceda ngayo nayiphi na ingxaki. Kwimeko kaxakeka esongela ubomi, banokusebenzisana neenkonzo zikaxakeka zasekuhlaleni ukuqinisekisa ukuba ufumana uncedo olufunayo.
Iinkonzo zenkxaso zikhona naseSri Lanka. Ungaqhagamshelana nemibutho efana neSumithrayo (Umnxeba: 0112692909, 011269666, 0112682535) okanye iCCCline 1333. Ezi nkonzo zifumaneka iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku, iintsuku ezisixhenxe ngeveki. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube kwimeko yengxaki ukuze uqhagamshelane nabantu.
Kuxhaphake kangakanani ukuzibulala?
Ukuzibulala sesona sizathu siphambili sokufa eMelika. Ngokusekelwe kumaqela eminyaka:
- Unobangela wesibini ophambili wokufa kwabantu abaneminyaka eli-10-14 kunye nama-25-34.
- Unobangela wesithathu ophambili wokufa kwabantu abaneminyaka eli-15-24 ubudala.
- Unobangela wesine ophambili wokufa kwabantu abaneminyaka engama-35-44 ubudala.
Ngowama-2021, bekukho abantu abangama-48,183 ababhubhayo ngokuzibulala eMelika, nto leyo ethetha ukufa komntu omnye rhoqo ngemizuzu eli-11. La manani abalulekile naseSri Lanka. Hlala ukhumbula ukuba emva kweenkcukacha-manani kukho umntu wokwenene kunye nosapho lwakhe.
Ngubani osengozini enkulu yokuzibulala?
Nabani na unokuba sengozini yokuzibulala. Ichaphazela abantu kwihlabathi liphela kungakhathaliseki uhlanga, unqulo, okanye ubudala. Akukho ndlela imiselweyo; inokuchaphazela umntu obonakala onwabile, umntu oxinezelekileyo, okanye nabani na ophakathi.
Nangona kunjalo, izifundo zibonisa ukuba amaqela athile anokuba semngciphekweni omkhulu, kuquka:
- Abemi bomthonyama, njengabaseAlaska.
- Abantu abavalelwe entolongweni.
- Amalungu oluntu lwe-LGBTQIA+.
- Abo bahlukanisiweyo kuluntu okanye kokusingqongileyo.
- Amaqela athile edemografi (umz., abantu abamhlophe abangengabo amaHispanic, ngokusekelwe kwidatha yaseMelika).
- Amadoda (ngokwezibalo amadoda asengozini enkulu yokufa ngokuzibulala, nangona abafazi bezama ukuzibulala rhoqo).
- Abafuduki okanye ababaleki.
- Abantu abangaphezu kweminyaka engama-65 ubudala.
- Amajoni asele emfazweni.
- Amaxhoba obundlobongela okanye okuxhatshazwa.
- Abo bachatshazelwe yimfazwe okanye iintlekele zemvelo.
Ngaba ukuthetha ngokuzibulala kuyayandisa ingozi?
Hayi, akunjalo konke konke. Ukuxoxa ngokuzibulala akuyongezi ingozi okanye kufake ingcamango engqondweni yomntu. Enyanisweni, ukubuza umntu, “Ngaba ucinga ngokuzibulala?” sisixhobo esisindisa ubomi esinokuvula ithuba lokufumana inkxaso kunye nonyango lobuchwephesha.
Kutheni abantu becinga ngokuzibulala?
Kunzima ukwazi ukuba kutheni umntu ecinga ngokuzibulala ngaphandle kokuba akuxelele. Nangona kunjalo, zininzi izinto ezibangela oku, kwaye usenokungakwazi ukuzichaza zonke. Rhoqo, ukuzibulala kwenzeka ngaphambi kokuba kwabelwane ngeenkcukacha.
Uphando lubonisa ukuba kukho izinto ezininzi eziqhelekileyo ezinokubangela ukuba umntu acinge ngokuzibulala:
- Imbali yamalinge okuzibulala ngaphambili.
- Iimeko zempilo yengqondo ezisisiseko. Imizekelo ibandakanya ukudakumba kunye neengxaki zokuxhalaba .
- Iimeko zempilo ezisisiseko ezibangela iimpawu ezibuhlungu okanye ezibangela ukuba umntu angakwazi ukuzibamba, okanye isifo esinganyangekiyo.
- Imingeni yezemali, yezomthetho, yezindlu, okanye yengqesho.
- Ukonzakala phakathi kwabantu, njengokuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokweemvakalelo, okanye ngokwesondo; okanye amava okungahoywa, ukwahlukana, okanye ukuxhaphazwa.
- Utshintsho kulwalamano lomntu ( uqhawulo-mtshato , ukwahlukana, okanye ukufa komntu omthandayo).
- Ukunqongophala kokufikelela kwiinkonzo zonyango okanye zonyango.
- Iingcamango zenkcubeko okanye zonqulo (kwiimeko ezithile).
- Uxinzelelo olugqithisileyo.
Olu luhlu lubonisa ezinye zezona zinto zixhaphakileyo, kodwa aluphelelanga apho.
Nangona ukuzibulala kungekuko ufuzo kuphela, ukuba umntu ozalana naye ngegazi usweleke ngokuzibulala, umngcipheko wakho wokuba neengcinga zokuzibulala unokuba phezulu.
Ziziphi iimeko zempilo yengqondo ezinxulunyaniswa nokuzibulala?
Ezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo zinokubangela iingcinga zokuzibulala. Ezi ziquka:
- Iingxaki zokuxhalaba
- Intlungu engapheliyo
- Uxinzelelo
- Iingxaki zeemvakalelo
- Ingxaki yoxinzelelo emva kwengozi (PTSD)
- I-Schizophrenia
- Ingxaki yokusebenzisa iziyobisi okanye ingxaki yokusebenzisa utywala
- Ukulimala kwengqondo okubuhlungu (TBI)
Ukuba ujamelene nengxaki engaphantsi kwesizathu echaphazela umnqweno wakho wokuphila, nceda ubone ugqirha okanye umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo ngokukhawuleza.
Ngaba ukuzibulala kungathintelwa?
Emva kokulahlekelwa ngumntu ozibuleleyo, ungazibuza, “Ngaba bendinokwenza into yokuthintela oku?” Nangona kukho amanyathelo amaninzi esinokuwathatha njengoluntu ukunceda, ukuzibulala akunakusoloko kuthintelwa , njengoko ekugqibeleni sisigqibo somntu ngamnye.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukholelwa ukuba umntu ucinga ngokuzibulala okanye ubona iimpawu ezilumkisayo, ukungenelela kwangoko kunokunciphisa kakhulu umngcipheko. Ungathatha la manyathelo alandelayo:
- Funda ngezinto ezinokubangela umngcipheko kunye neempawu ezilumkisayo zokuzibulala.
- Hlala ukhumbula iimfuno zeemvakalelo zabahlobo bakho kunye nabantu obathandayo.
- Xhasa abo bakungqongileyo kwaye ube lapho ukuze umamele.
- Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umntu ucinga ngokuzibulala, qala incoko evulekileyo nenobubele ngaloo nto.
- Khuthaza abo basokolayo ukuba bafune uncedo kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo.
- Ukuba wena okanye omnye umntu usengozini ekhawulezileyo, fowunela iinkonzo zongxamiseko zasekuhlaleni (umz., 911) okanye umnxeba we-hotline, kwaye ususe naziphi na izinto eziyingozi kwindawo ekufutshane.
Abantu abaziva bexhaswa ngabantu ababathandayo abanakukwazi ukwenza izinto ngokweminqweno yokuzibulala. Nangona kunjalo, xa uthetha ngokuzibulala, musa ukugweba. Usenokuvakalelwa kakubi ngale meko, kodwa ukuveza ezo mvakalelo kunokuba yingozi kumntu osele ecinga ngokuzibulala.
Yintoni uVavanyo loMngcipheko wokuzibulala?
Olu luhlu lwemibuzo ebuzwa ngugqirha okanye ngumcebisi wezempilo yengqondo ukuze abone ukuba usemngciphekweni wokuzenzakalisa na. Luqulathe amacandelo amathathu:
1. Uvavanyo: Uza kubuzwa imibuzo embalwa yokuqala malunga neengcinga zokuzibulala.
2. Uvavanyo lokhuseleko: Ukuba uvavanyo lubonisa ukuba usemngciphekweni, eli linyathelo elilandelayo. Ingcali iya kuba nencoko emfutshane nawe ukuze ivavanye umgangatho womngcipheko kwaye ibone ukuba usemngciphekweni okhawulezileyo na. Oku kudla ngokuthatha malunga nemizuzu eli-10.
3. Iziphumo kunye nonyango: Ngokusekelwe kwiziphumo zovavanyo kunye novavanyo, ugqirha wakho uya kugqiba amanyathelo alandelayo afanelekileyo okunyamekela kwakho.
Izifundo zibonisa ukuba abantu abaninzi abafa ngokuzibulala baye kugqirha kwiinyanga ezingaphambi kokufa kwabo. Ngovavanyo lomngcipheko , umniki-nkonzo wakho wezempilo unokuchonga iingozi kwangethuba aze anikezele ngonyango olusindisa ubomi. Le nkonzo ifumaneka kuye nabani na, nokuba uneminyaka emingaphi.
Ndingenza ntoni ukuba mna okanye umntu endimthandayo ucinga ngokuzibulala?
Ukuba nembono yokuzibulala okanye ukujongana neemeko ezikwenza uzive ngathi ufuna ukuzibulala kunokuba yinto ebangela usizi kakhulu kwaye yoyike. Ngokufanayo, ukuba umntu omthandayo uxela ukuba uziva ekuzibulala okanye ukhe wazama ukuzibulala, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ukhathazeke kakhulu ngokhuseleko lwakhe.
La manyathelo alandelayo anokunceda:
- Fowunela umnxeba woncedo: Nxibelelana neenkonzo ezifana neCCCline 1333. Ukuthetha nomntu kunokunceda, nokuba usengxakini okanye unemini enzima kakhulu. Khumbula, awuwedwa.
- Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo usengozini ekhawulezileyo, fowunela u-911 okanye inombolo yakho yeenkonzo zongxamiseko zasekuhlaleni ngoko nangoko.
- Yenza isicwangciso sokhuseleko:Isicwangciso sokhuseleko luluhlu lwamanyathelo okukunceda wena okanye umntu omthandayo ukuba ajongane nexesha lengxaki, kuquka xa ucinga ngokuzibulala. Olu luhlu lungabandakanya izinto onokuzenza wedwa kunye nezenzo onokuzenza nabanye.
- Thetha nomntu omthembayo: Lo usenokuba ngumhlobo, isalamane, utitshala, okanye ugqirha. Kukho abantu abakungqongileyo abanokunika inkxaso xa uyidinga kakhulu.
Kukho amanyathelo onokuwathatha kwindawo okuyo ukuze uzigcine ukhuselekile wena okanye umntu omthandayo. Kufuneka ususe okanye utshixe izinto ezinokusetyenziselwa ukwenzakalisa, ezinje:
- Amayeza abhalwe ngugqirha.
- Utywala okanye izinto ezingekho mthethweni.
- Izibhamu okanye ezinye izixhobo. Ukuba kukho umpu, yikhuphe uze ugcine ezo zibhamu kwindawo eyahlukileyo nekhuselekileyo.
Ukongeza, ukuhlala nomntu ocinga ngokuzibulala kuyanceda. Hlonipha indawo yakhe, kodwa ungamshiyi engahoywanga. Ukuba khona nje ukuze unike inkxaso nokuthetha kunokwenza umahluko omkhulu.
Yintoni ukuzama ukuzibulala?
Inzame yokuzibulala sisenzo sokuzilimaza ngenjongo yokuphelisa ubomi bomntu, nto leyo engayi kuphumela ekufeni.
Ukuzama ukuzibulala kunokuba nefuthe elikhulu kwimpilo yakho yomzimba neyengqondo, kuxhomekeke kwindlela esetyenzisiweyo. Umzekelo, ukutsiba usuka kwindawo ephakamileyo kunokukhokelela ekuphukeni kwamathambo okanye ukwenzakala ngaphakathi. Intlungu yomzimba neyeemvakalelo onokuyifumana emva kokuzama ukuzibulala idla ngokuba nzulu kakhulu kunentlungu owayiva ngaphambili.
Ngaphaya koko, kunokuba nzima ngokweemvakalelo ukwamkela ukusinda kwisilingo sobomi bakho. Ungaziva ulingeka ukuba ubize umzamo wakho ngokuthi “usilele.” Nangona kunjalo, ukuzibulala akuyonto ekufuneka itshatyalaliswe—akufuneki kubekwe kwinqanaba “lokuphumelela” okanye “lokungaphumeleli.” Ukusebenzisa la magama kunokuthintela inkqubo yakho yokuphiliswa. Endaweni yoko, ungazijonga njengomntu osindileyo kwisilingo sokuzibulala, kwaye uphathe olu kusinda njengendawo yokutshintsha ukuze ugxile kwimpilo yakho nokhuseleko ukuze kungabikho “xesha lizayo.”
Kusenokuba nzima kuwe okwangoku ukubona ithemba okanye ukukholelwa ukuba izinto zingaphucuka, kodwa kubantu abaninzi, ngexesha kunye nenkxaso efanelekileyo yobungcali, izinto ziyaphucuka.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuzibulala ngoncedo lukagqirha?
Njengoko kuchaziwe yi-American Medical Association, ukuzibulala ngoncedo logqirha yinkqubo apho ugqirha enika isigulana iindlela okanye ulwazi lokukhetha ukuzibulala. Kwimimandla apho oku kusemthethweni, abantu abanesifo esingapheliyo banokucela oku kugqirha. Oku akukho mthethweni eSri Lanka.
Ingcamango Yokuzibulala Inegalelo Njani Ekuzibulaleni?
Ingcinga yokuzibulala ibhekisa kwiingcinga, izinto ezicingelwayo, okanye ukwenziwa kwezicwangciso zokuphelisa ubomi bomntu. Ezi zinokuba ziingcinga ezidlulayo okanye uthotho lweengcinga eziqhubekayo neziyingozi. Nangona ingcinga ingafani nokuthatha inyathelo lokuphelisa ubomi bomntu, inokukhokelela kuloo ndlela. Nceda wazi ukuba uncedo luyafumaneka kwingcinga yokuzibulala.
Zithini iiNkathalo zokuzibulala?
Igama elithi “imikhwa yokuzibulala” ngokwesiko lalichaza ukwanda kwengcinga yokuzibulala okanye ukuzilimaza ngenjongo yokufa. Eli gama ngoku alisetyenziswa rhoqo ukuchaza ukuphindaphindeka kweendlela zokuziphatha zokuzibulala. Endaweni yoko, igama elichanekileyo lithi “umngcipheko wokuzibulala.”
Ukuzibulala yingxaki eyoyikisayo, ebuhlungu, neyinkimbinkimbi. Ichaphazela abantu kwihlabathi liphela kwaye, ngelishwa, ixhaphake kakhulu kunokuba sicinga. Kusenokuvakala ngathi akukho ndlela zimbi, kodwa kusoloko kukho ithemba, kwaye kukho iindlela zokufumana uncedo.
Ukuba ubona umntu omaziyo ebonisa iimpawu zokulumkisa, kulungile ukumbuza ukuba ucinga ngokuzibulala na. Mamela ngaphandle kokugweba. Mkhuthaze ukuba athethe nogqirha okanye nomcebisi wezempilo yengqondoUkuba wena okanye umntu omthandayo nisengozini ngoko nangoko, ungathandabuzi ukufowunela u-911 okanye undwendwele isebe likaxakeka elikufutshane nawe.
Umyalezo Obaluleke Kakhulu (Umyalezo Oya Nawo Ekhaya)
Cinga ngobomi obufana nolwandle. Ngamanye amaxesha, buzolile kwaye buhle. Ngamanye amaxesha, kukho amaza amakhulu kunye nezivuthuvuthu. Ngamaxesha anjalo, kunokuvakala ngathi awukwazi ukuphefumla. Kodwa khumbula, isivuthuvuthu asihlali ngonaphakade.
- Awuwedwa: Asinguwe wedwa ojamelene nezi mvakalelo.
- Thetha ngayo: Yabelana ngento ekucingayo nomntu omthembayo. Ingakunika isiqabu esikhulu.
- Ukucela uncedo luphawu lwamandla: Ukufuna inkxaso yobungcali akulophawu lobuthathaka; luphawu lokuba uzikhathalele. ESri Lanka, iinkonzo ezifana neSumithrayo kunye neCCCline (1333) ziyafumaneka.
- Lumka kwabanye: Ukuba ubona umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho lisokola, thetha nalo kwaye uliphulaphule.
- Likho ithemba: Nokuba izinto zinzima kangakanani na, zinokuba ngcono. Funa uncedo nenkxaso oyifunayo.
Ubomi buxabisekile. Ubomi bakho buxabisekile. Nceda, ucele uncedo. Zisiwe kuwe yiNirogi Lanka.
Amagama angundoqo: Ukuzibulala, impilo yengqondo, uncedo, uxinzelelo lwengqondo, ukudakumba, ukusindisa ubomi, imigca yokuxhasa
