Ngaba unesifo seswekile, okanye njengoko sonke sisazi, isifo seswekile? Okanye ngaba ilungu losapho okanye umhlobo wakho unesifo esinjalo? Ngoko mhlawumbi uyazi ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukubona ugqirha nokusela amayeza akho. Kodwa, ngaba yonke into ilungile emva kokusela amayeza anikwe ngugqirha ngexesha kwaye ujonge iswekile yakho? Enyanisweni, linyathelo elibalulekileyo kuhambo lokulawula isifo seswekile. Kubaluleke ngakumbi ukufumana unyango oluhambelana nobomi bakho kunye nemikhwa yakho. Namhlanje, masithethe ngesizathu sokuba oko kwenzeke.
Kutheni kungekho sisombululo "esifanela bonke" sesifo seswekile?
Cinga ngale ndlela. Bangaphi abantu abanesifo seswekile kwilizwe lethu? Ngaba ubomi bomntu wonke buyafana? Akunjalo konke konke, akunjalo?
Umzekelo, khawucinge ngomntu osebenza eofisini enkulu eColombo. Uhlala kwisitulo esinye ukususela kusasa kude kube sebusuku, esebenza phantsi koxinzelelo olukhulu. Kunzima kuye ukufumana ixesha lokuzilolonga. Kwakhona, unokuthenga ukutya ngokulula evenkileni.
Khawucinge ngomlimi wase-Anuradhapura. Usebenza nzima imini yonke elangeni. Umzimba wakhe ufumana umthambo owaneleyo. Kodwa utya kuphela oko kukhuliswe kwilali. Imeko yakhe yezoqoqosho kunye neendlela zokutya zahlukile kakhulu kuloo mntu waseColombo.
Masithi bobabini banesifo seswekile sohlobo lwesibini. Ukuba ugqirha ebebanike icebiso elifanayo bobabini: "Musani ukutya irayisi, hamba iyure yonke ngosuku," ngaba oko bekuya kusebenza? Mhlawumbi akunjalo. Kuba elo cebiso alihambelani nendlela abaphila ngayo.
Ngamafutshane, ubomi bakho buhlukile, ngoko ke isicwangciso sakho sokulawula isifo seswekile kufuneka senzelwe wena .
Oku sikubiza ngokuba "lunyango lomntu ngamnye." Oku kuthetha ukuba ugqirha akagcini nje ngokukunika amayeza, kodwa ukwakuqonda njengomntu ngamnye kwaye wenza isicwangciso sonyango esifanela ubomi bakho.
Yintoni kanye kanye "ukhathalelo lomntu ngamnye"?
Unyango lomntu ngamnye luthetha ukuba ugqirha wakho uza kuthetha nawe ngezi zinto aze akuncede ngokufanelekileyo.
- Umsebenzi wakho kunye nemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla: Izinto ezifana neeyure osebenza ngazo, uxinzelelo oluhlangabezana nalo ngelixa usebenza, kunye nokuzilolonga komzimba.
- Imikhwa yakho yokutya: Yintoni oyityayo ngokwenene? Zeziphi ukutya okunempilo okulula ukukufumana nokulula ukuzisebenzisa?
- Usapho lwakho kunye nemvelaphi yakho: Uxhaswa kangakanani ekhaya? Zeziphi ezinye iingxaki ojongene nazo ebomini bakho?
- Iinkolelo zakho nezimvo zakho: Uziva njani ngesi sifo? Zithini izinto oyoyikayo?
- Amathuba okuzilolonga: Ngaba unalo ixesha kunye nezixhobo zokuya ejimini, ukubaleka, okanye ukuhamba?
Wakuba ukuqondile konke oku, ugqirha angakunceda ngokwenene.Nceda ucebise ngendlela yokuyisebenzisa. Makhe sijonge le theyibhile ukuze sicacise oku ngakumbi.
| Icandelo | Ingcebiso Jikelele (Yobukhulu Obunye Ifanela Bonke) | Iingcebiso ezenzelwe wena |
|---|---|---|
| Ukutya | "Musa ukutya irayisi. Musa ukutya nantoni na eneswekile." | "Endaweni yerayisi emhlophe, zinike ikomityi enye yerayisi yengqolowa epheleleyo. Yongeza imifuno, imifuno, kunye nentlanzi epleyitini yakho. Kulungile ukutya iziqhamo, kodwa lumka ngobungakanani bazo." |
| Ukuzilolonga | "Baleka iyure yonke imihla." | "Ungangehla ebhasini xa umisa kwangethuba uze uhambe ngeenyawo? Makhe sijonge ezinye iindlela ezilula onokuzenza xa usebenza ekhaya? Ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza imizuzu engama-30, iintsuku ezi-5 ngeveki kwanele." |
| Amayeza | "Thatha eli yeza kathathu ngemini." | "Uthe uyalibala ukusela amayeza akho kusasa kuba kufuneka ukhawuleze uye emsebenzini, akunjalo? Makhe sibone ukuba singalitshintsha na ixesha losuku ukuze lihambelane nomsebenzi wakho, okanye sitshintshele kwipilisi esetyenziswa kanye ngosuku." |
Uyayiqonda umahluko? Kulula kuwe ukulandela imiyalelo ngendlela yesibini, akunjalo?
Ungumqhubi wempilo yakho: Masithethe nogqirha!
Ukuze ufumane olu hlobo lonyango lomntu ngamnye, kufuneka wenze umgudu omncinci. Oko kukuthi, thetha ngokukhululekileyo nogqirha wakho. Khumbula, ugqirha wakho akalotshaba lwakho, kodwa ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni kuhambo lwakho lwempilo.
Amanye amacebiso engxoxo ephumelelayo
1. Lungela ukuhamba:Ngaphambi kokuba uye kugqirha, bhala phantsi imibuzo yakho kunye nezinto ezikuxhalabisayo ephepheni elincinci. Umzekelo: "Gqirha, ndinengxaki yokulawula oku kutya, akukho ndlela yimbi?", "Ndiba nesisu esibuhlungu xa ndisela eli yeza, ndingenza ntoni ngalo?"
2. Xela inyani: Ukuba awukwazi ukulandela icebiso, musa ukulifihla. Endaweni yokuxoka uthi, "Ewe, gqirha, ndizilolongile," kungcono kakhulu ukuxelela isizathu sokwenyani, njengokuthi, "Gqirha, ukuba ndithetha inyani, andikwazanga ukuzilolonga kule veki kuba..." Emva koko ugqirha anokukunceda ngokwenene.
3. Buza imibuzo: Ukuba awuyiqondi into ethethwa ngugqirha, ungabi nazintloni zokuphinda ubuze. "Gqirha, ungayichaza loo nto ngokulula?"
4. Uliqabane: Ugqirha wakho akanguye yedwa omisela isicwangciso sakho sonyango. Ukwaliqabane elisebenzayo kuso. Iingcamango zakho, iinkxalabo zakho zibalulekile ekudaleni eso sicwangciso.
Isayensi yezonyango nayo iqhubela phambili imihla ngemihla. Namhlanje, uphando oluninzi, oko kukuthi, "Uvavanyo lweKlinikhi", lwenziwa kwizifo ezifana nesifo seswekile. Kungenxa yeziphumo zolu phando apho iindlela zonyango ezifanelekileyo nezinempumelelo ziya kuphuhliswa kwixesha elizayo kubantu belizwe lethu.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ulawulo lwesifo seswekile alupheleli nje ekuseleni amayeza, yinkqubo epheleleyo enxulumene nendlela ophila ngayo.
- Ubomi bomntu wonke bahlukile, ngoko ke akukho sicwangciso sonyango lwesifo seswekile esifanela bonke.
- Thetha ngokukhululekileyo nangokunyaniseka nogqirha wakho malunga nomsebenzi wakho, ukutya okutyayo, ubunzima ojongene nabo, kunye nezinye izinto ebomini.
- Uliqabane elikhutheleyo ekwenzeni izigqibo malunga nempilo yakho. Buza imibuzo, wabelane ngeengcinga zakho, kwaye wenze isicwangciso sonyango esikusebenzelayo.
- Ngokuqinisekileyo ungayilawula isifo sakho seswekile kwaye uphile ubomi obonwabisayo nobunempilo!
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