Ngaba umhlobo wakho usebenzisa ifowuni yakhe ngelixa eqhuba? Iindlela ezi-5 zokuyeka oku ngaphandle kokwenzakala! (Masithethe ngokuthumela imiyalezo kunye nokuqhuba)

Kule mihla, sonke sine-'Smart Phone' ezandleni zethu. Ngoko ke, 'ukuncokola' nabahlobo nokujonga 'ii-social media' kuye kwaba yinto eqhelekileyo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, kukho abantu abenza ezi zinto nangona 'beqhuba'. Ayikoyikisi ngokwenene? ​​Ukuba ubona umhlobo wakho okanye isalamane sakho 'sisebenzisa' 'iifowuni' zaso ngelixa 'siqhuba', ungaziva usoyika. Kodwa ubaxelela njani ukuba bangakwenzi oko? Makhe sithethe ngaloo nto namhlanje.

Kutheni "ukuthumela imiyalezo nokuqhuba" kuyingozi kangaka?

Ngamafutshane, ukuthumela imiyalezo ngelixa uqhuba kufana nokuqhuba uvale amehlo. Cinga ngayo, kufuneka ingqalelo yakho epheleleyo ibe phi? Endleleni, kwiimoto eziphambi kwakho, ebantwini abasendleleni, akunjalo? Xa ujonga ifowuni yakho, loo ngqwalasela ilahlekile ngokupheleleyo. Nokuba ujonga ifowuni yakho imizuzwana embalwa, imoto yakho iya kube ihambe iimitha ezininzi phambili kuloo mizuzwana imbalwa. Nantoni na inokwenzeka okwangoku.

Ezinye izifundo zifumanise ukuba ukuthumela imiyalezo ngelixa uqhuba ngamanye amaxesha kuyingozi ngakumbi kunokuqhuba unxilile! Kuba ixesha lakho lokuphendula, elilixesha elithathayo ukuze ubone into kwaye uphendule ngokukhawuleza, linciphile kakhulu.

Khawucinge nje, ukuba nguwe oqhubayo kwaye 'uchwetheza' umyalezo 'kwifowuni' yakho kwaye ngequbuliso umntwana omncinci watsiba phambi kwakho, okanye inja yawela indlela, okanye imoto engaphambili yaqhawuka ngequbuliso... Owu, awunakukwazi nokuyicinga into enjalo, akunjalo? Yiyo loo nto sithatha oku nzulu kangaka. Le yinto ebeka ubomi bakho kuphela, kodwa nobomi babanye abantu esichengeni.

Singamxelela njani oku ngaphandle kokumenzakalisa?

Kulungile, ngoku siyazi ukuba oku kuyingozi kangakanani. Kodwa umntu oqhuba imoto unokuba ngumhlobo osenyongweni, isalamane, okanye umntu omhloniphayo. Kusenokuba nzima kancinci ukuxelela umntu onjalo. Usenokucinga, "Ngaba ebeya kuba nomsindo? Ngaba ebeya kundicinga ngendlela engafanelekanga?" Kodwa khumbula, ukhuseleko lwakho lolona nto ibalulekileyo. Ngoko makhe sibone indlela yokuthetha oku ngendlela enobuhlobo ayiqondayo. Nazi ezinye iindlela:

1. Ngaba singathetha ngqo? (Indlela Ethe Ngqo)

Ngamanye amaxesha, kungcono ukuthetha ngqo, kodwa ube nothando, kunokuba ube ngqwabalala. Ungathi into efana nale:

"Uxolo [igama lomhlobo/umnakwenu/udadewenu], kodwa ndiyoyika/ndiyacaphuka kakhulu xa uthumela umyalezo ngelixa uqhuba."

Mamela nje into ayithethayo. Uninzi lwexesha, nabani na oqondayo uya kuqonda, "Owu, ewe, le ayisiyonto ilungileyo." Okanye ubuncinane ubeke ifowuni ecaleni. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuthetha into esengqondweni yakho ngokunyaniseka, kodwa ungabi nomsindo, kwaye uzole. Menze aqonde ukuba uyayikhathalela into ayifunayo.

2. Masizame ukufumanisa ixabiso lemali? (Indlela Efihlakeleyo)

Ukuba kunzima kakhulu ukukutsho ngokuthe ngqo, okanye ukuba umqhubi unomsindo kancinci, ungakutsho ngendlela engathanga ngqo. Ezi ndlela zinokukunceda uqonde ingongoma ngaphandle kokulimaza iimvakalelo zabanye abantu:

• Cela ukunceda: "Ekubeni uqhuba imoto, ndingakubhala umyalezo?" Oku kuya kumnceda aqonde ukuba uthetha ngaye ngokuthumela imiyalezo.
• Zikhumbuze ngamapolisa: "Ndibone amapolisa amaninzi esitalatweni namhlanje. Akubonakali ngathi yingcamango elungileyo ukuthumela imiyalezo ngeli xesha, akunjalo?" Zama ukuthetha into efana naleyo. Akukho mntu uthanda ukufumana itikiti.
• Khomba izinto endleleni: Khomba izinto anokuthi azilibale (okanye aziphephe kancinci) kuba ekwifowuni yakhe ngelixa eqhuba. Mbuze into efana nale, "Owu, jonga le nja inqumla indlela! Awuyibonanga loo nto?" Okanye, "Uyibonile loo mbiza yeentyatyambo intle ecaleni kwevenkile?" Ngaleyo ndlela, uya kwazi ukuba ingqalelo yakhe yayikuphi.
• Thumela umyalezo kumntu othumela umyalezo: Ukuba umntu oqhubayo uthumela umyalezo kumntu omaziyo, cela ifowuni uze uthumele umyalezo ngokwakho, uthi, "Uyaqhuba, masithethe kamva."
• Thetha ngoloyiko lwakho (ukuba uyaqhula): Mhlawumbi umqhubi uza kukugculela ngokubuza into efana nale, "Kutheni usoyika kangaka?" Yisebenzise loo nto. Yithi, "Ewe, ndiyoyika kakhulu ukuthumela imiyalezo ngelixa uqhuba. Asazi nokuba umntu ophambi kwakho okanye umntu osemva kwakho uyakwenza oko."

3. Indlela ethi "Wow, khangela loo mqhubi ungalunganga!"

Oku kungaba mnandi kancinci, kwaye yindlela entle yokubuyisela ingqalelo yomqhubi wakho endleleni. Thetha ngokuqhuba kakubi kwabanye abantu endleleni.

• Abantu abatshintsha iindlela ngequbuliso.
• Abantu abahamba malunga nama-40 kwindlela enkulu.
• Abantu abangawunanziyo 'uphawu lokuma'.
• Abantu abamiswe kwisibane esiluhlaza.

Khomba abantu abanjalo uze uthi izinto ezifana nokuthi, "Owu Thixo wam, andazi ukuba bathumela bani imiyalezo." Emva koko umqhubi wakho kuya kufuneka anikele ingqalelo kwindawo emngqongileyo, endaweni yokujonga isikrini sefowuni yakhe.

4. Masiyithethe kunye njengeqela? (Indlela yeQela)

Ukuba akungowenu wedwa, kodwa wonke umntu osemotweni ucinga ukuba umsebenzi womqhubi uyingozi, wonke umntu makahlangane aze athethe ngawo.

• Thabatha izitshixo: Njengokuba uthatha izitshixo zemoto kumntu onxilileyo, ungakwenza nakule meko. Kuba, njengoko besitshilo ngaphambili, 'ukuthumela imiyalezo nokuqhuba' kuyingozi njengokuba 'uqhuba' unxilile, mhlawumbi nangaphezulu.
• Yenza isigqibo sokungahambi naye: Ukuba abantu abambalwa badibana baze bathi, "Asihambi nawe kuba 'usebenzisa ifowuni yakho' ngelixa 'uqhuba,'" uya kuqonda ubunzulu bayo. Nabani na obona abahlobo bakhe bemphazamisa ucinga kabini ngemikhwa emibi.

5. Indlela Yokusindisa Ubomi!

Kukho abantu abangayi kuyeka lo mkhwa uyingozi, nokuba ubaxelela kangakanani na. Kusenokuba kukho abaya kukuhleka xa uthi uyoyika. Ungaze uxabane nomntu onjalo. Kuyingozi nangakumbi ukukhwela imoto enomqhubi onomsindo kwaye 'ethumela imiyalezo'.

• Yeka ukuhamba nomntu onjalo kwaphela. Nokuba kunzima kuwe ukwenza njalo, ukhuseleko lwakho kufuneka luze kuqala.
• Ukuba kunokwenzeka, mxelele isizathu sokuba woyike ukuphuma naye. Kungcono ukuba uthethe ngqo uthi, "Ndiyoyika ukuphuma nawe kuba uthumela imiyalezo ngelixa uqhuba, ngoko ke andiyi kuphinda ndiphume nawe." Ngamanye amaxesha, intloni encinci inokwenza abantu bacinge kabini ngemikhwa emibi.
• Okanye ungathi, "Utata uthe akufanele ahambe nawe kuba uthumela imiyalezo ngelixa uqhuba."

Kubalulekile: Le ngxaki 'yokuthumela imiyalezo nokuqhuba' ayiyoyabantu abancinci kuphela. Ngamanye amaxesha nabantu abadala bayayenza le mpazamo. Ukuba uqhuba nomntu omdala kwaye 'esebenzisa' ifowuni yakhe, mxelele ukuba ayeke. Uninzi lwabantu abadala bayazi ukuba bahlala bexelela abantwana babo ukuba bangathumeli imiyalezo okanye baqhube. Ngoko ke xa benza impazamo efanayo, kufuneka bazive beneentloni baze bayibeke ecaleni 'ifowuni'.

Okokugqibela, khumbula: Ukuba umqhubi uqhubeka ekuthumelela imiyalezo ngaphandle kokukumamela, okanye ukuhleka xa uthi uyoyika, musa ukuphikisana naye. Phuma emotweni ngokukhawuleza. Ngexesha elizayo xa umqhubi ezama ukukunika ilifti, yala ngentlonelo ngokuthi "hayi, enkosi kakhulu." Ukhuseleko lwakho lubaluleke ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na enye into.

Umyalezo wokugqibela oya ekhaya

`Ukuthumela imiyalezo`, `i-imeyile`, `imidiya yoluntu` ngelixa `uqhuba` yinto eyingozi kakhulu kwaye engenaxanduva ukuyenza. Awunakukwazi nokuyicinga ingozi enokubangelwa yiyo. Ukuba ungumkhweli emotweni kwaye `umqhubi` wenza into efana nale, unelungelo lokuthetha ngayo. Cinga ngokhuseleko lwakho. Sebenzisa iindlela esizixubushileyo, kwaye uzame ukwenza `umqhubi` aqonde iingozi zoku ngendlela enothando, enobubele, kodwa eqinileyo. Mhlawumbi ukungenelela kwakho kunokusindisa ubomi. Ngoko ke, ungoyiki, thetha. Amazwi akho anokwenza umahluko omkhulu!

Ukhuseleko lwabaqhubi, iingozi zeemoto, ukusetyenziswa kweefowuni eziphathwayo, ukhuseleko lwabakhweli, ukuqhuba ngokukhuselekileyo, ukuthumela imiyalezo nokuqhuba, ukuqhuba okuphazamisekileyo